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anonymous asked:

No one thinks I am pretty :{

The name of this Tumblr comes from a conversation I had in 6th grade with one of the most popular girls in my middle school. I didn’t know her at all, but one day we were waiting for our parents to pick us up at the same time, just the two of us, and after staring at me for a long time, that is what she asked me:

Do you think you’re pretty?

It was a fucked up shitty popular girl thing to ask. She didn’t want the answer, she wanted to make me feel bad. I didn’t answer her, and it (along with a million other things) wrecked me for a while. But eventually it became my mantra- to go from caring WAY too much what that girl thought of my appearance, to not caring what the fuck anyone else thought, to actively wanting to be as ugly as possible, to coming to a peaceful and loving relationship with my own appearance. So to answer your non-question, who gives a fuck who thinks you’re pretty? What matters is you believing in your own worth, your own strength, your own prettiness, however you define it. 

I am grateful to that popular girl- she gave me a fucking battle cry. You need a battle cry. You are in battle until you can answer that for yourself. 

I still hate her though. 

I have noticed for a little while now that i’m feeling envious. Envious towards other artists, even my friends. I don’t like it at all i hate it, i don’t want to feel envious towards my own friends because there is no good reason to feel envious about. But other thing i have noticed… numbers. I have started to look number of notes on mine and others art posts, i have started to care too much about numbers. Maybe one of the reasons i feel envious and that is no good, i don’t want to cling to numbers. I just… want to enjoy and have fun. 

Other thing i have noticed that even i may speak more than usually to some of my friends i have noticed that i have become paranoid and that only causes unnecessary worrying, making me doubt some things and that is not good for me or to my friends. It only makes me doubt that do they really care about me what is just stupid thing to doubt without any god damn good reason. 

So these things are bothering me now, i try to change my thinking. Trying to get rid of this envious feeling and trying not to pay too much attention to numbers. Because this is something i don’t want.

stxdias asked:

HELP ME I STARTED WATCHING GMW AND I SHIP LUCAYA SO HARD OMG AND I THINK YOU DO TOO SO SORRY IF I'M WRONG BUT IF NOT HELP!

HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHHAHAHHAHAHHAHAHHAHAHHAHAHAHHAHHAHAHHAHHAHAHAHAHHAHAHHAHAHAHHAHAHHAHAHHAHAHHAHAHHAHA. 

YOU STARTED WATCHING GIRL MEETS WORLD. As for shipping, I don’t ship anybody except for Cory and Topanga but I do think Lucaya makes a cute pairing and same goes to the other pairings. I just care too much about Riley and Maya’s friendship to ship either of them with Lucas. I also care about Riley, Maya, Farkle, and Lucas’ friendship. The core 4 friendship. basically, i care about the friendship on the show. you can check my gmwedit tag because I always make alot of gifsets for that show. I also made one for lucaya for a friend one time with a song we’re so familiar from teen wolf. I hope this show have ruined your life like it did with mine and I hope rowanblanchardxx have ruined your life as well because she played Riley so beautifully. she’s also really really gorgeous in person. like really.

The Wayne building has been officially nominated for landmark status

…But it’s still got a long way to go.

We’ve written some about landmark designation in Seattle and the wonky process buildings must go through to be preserved, but unless you’re really into architecture, you probably haven’t cared too much.

Now is a good time to start caring, though, because a place that’s near and dear to everyone’s heart might have a shot in hell at being preserved.

When news broke earlier this week that the Wayne Apartments – which you probably know as the home to such essential establishments as Shorty’s and the Lava Lounge (the Wayne, which is 2224 2nd Ave, is technically the building BESIDE Shorty’s, which is 2222 2nd Ave, but the potential designation could impact a sale of multiple parcels*) – as well as several other buildings on the block were slated for redevelopment, people reacted swiftly and with justifiable unhappiness (and some hyperbole; the PI’s headline, “Ding-Dong, Belltown’s Dead,” seemed excessive). 

^^Seattle Redditors really, really love Shorty’s. Or they just love being the bearer of bad news. 

The changing face of Seattle has been hard to watch, especially in areas like Belltown, where other long-time establishments, like Mama’s, have been announcing their departure in favor of new development that no one can afford. As we alluded to a few weeks ago with the reopening of Bill’s Off Broadway, most of the time, it feels like the city is losing things we love and not really getting much to show for it. 

But all is not entirely lost for the Wayne, and last night, the building cleared the first of a few big hurdles in the race to keep some old structures standing.

Last month, the City of Seattle announced that the building was being considered for landmark preservation status. The details for the nomination are available here, but the important things to know are these:

There’s actually a pretty good case for preservation. The building – which is actually two buildings kind of piled on top of each other – isn’t necessarily in great shape, and it’s been altered a lot, but it’s still got a lot of historical significance and represents an older era of architecture. 

The storefront of the parcel was built in 1911 after the Denny regrade. The top part, the apartments, was built before the regrade (in 1890) and added storefront. 

Here’s a photo of it back in the day, from the preservation case file:

This makes it one of the oldest buildings left in Belltown. The building has only had 10 owners since its construction.

The building’s historical significant is mostly architectural; it hearkens back to the days of rowhouses in Seattle, which is kind of a bygone era. Still, the construction of the building itself is very must rooted in the history of the City’s early days – which is one of the landmark board’s qualifications. 

As the report points out, other rowhouses have been designated for that reason, making the Wayne a good candidate. 

Interestingly, the landmark report was written not in spite of the current building owners, Rain City Properties, but at their behest. Wood Partners, an Atlanta-based development company, has eyes on the property – as well as the adjacent parcels – but they don’t own it yet. Rain City appears to be trying to see if they can designate it (and thus, either get the incentives that come from designation, or use the designation as a selling point if they do sell the property). 

At last night’s preservation board meeting, several dozen of the Shorty’s crowd turned out to voice their support of the nomination and designation. 

“We filled the room. They said it was the most public input they’d ever gotten at a meeting,” said Andy Burton, a bartender and long-time member of the Belltown pinball community, who noted that many of the attendees had just found out 24 hours prior to the meeting, including the owners of Shorty’s. 

Also at the meeting was the building’s current owner, who reportedly stated that he wanted to sell the building and retire, though he didn’t say whether he thought the building should be designated or not.

The nomination was unanimously accepted by the board, which is a very good sign – so good, in fact, there was a small, impromptu parade in Belltown to celebrate.

“There seems to be an anti-development sentiment shared among Belltowners,” Burton told me, explaining that it was nice to have a way to actually express that feeling.

However, there are several more steps the Wayne will have to go through if it is preserved, and even then, that doesn’t mean the building will stay exactly the same – or that Shorty’s will be safe.

The next step is for the board to establish whether or not the building meets the standards of a landmark, which are (per city code):

a) It is the location of, or is associated in a significant way with, a historic event with a significant effect upon the community, City, state, or nation; or

b) It is associated in a significant way with the life of a person important in the history of the City, state, or nation; or

c) It is associated in a significant way with a significant aspect of the cultural, political, or economic heritage of the community, City, state or nation; or

d) It embodies the distinctive visible characteristics of an architectural style, or period, or a method of construction; ore) It is an outstanding work of a designer or builder; or

f) Because of its prominence of spatial location, contrasts of siting, age, or scale, it is an easily identifiable visual feature of its neighborhood or the city and contributes to the distinctive quality or identity of such neighborhood or the City.

“In addition to meeting at least one of the above standards, the object, site, or improvement must also possess integrity or the ability to convey its significance. 

Then, at another public meeting (THIS IS WHERE YOU COME IN!!), “the Board will receive evidence and hear arguments as to whether the site, building or object meets the standards for designation.”

And you have to really, really hope that the building does, because “if the Board does not designate the property, the proceedings terminate and the property cannot be considered for designation for five years, except at the request of the owner.”

Oof. So. Passing that step is pretty critical.

However, it looks like the Wayne for sure the “spacial location” qualification, as well as “distinctive visible characteristics” part. The key, then, will to convince the board that a.) the building is in good enough shape or that it can be, and b.) it has a ton of community support.

If those considerations are met, the board will then need to talk to the building owners. Per the code:

If the Board designates a property, a Controls and Incentives Agreement for the landmark is negotiated by the Board staff with the property owner. Once an agreement is reached and signed, it is forwarded to the Landmarks Preservation Board for approval at a public meeting. Controls define those features of the landmark to be preserved and outline the Certificate of Approval process for changes to those features. Incentives may include, but are not limited to, zoning variances, building code exceptions, and financial incentives.

Then, assuming the building owner and the board can come to an agreement….they kind of continue to duke it out. Again, per the city code:

When an agreement on the Controls and Incentives has been reached with the property owner and approved by the Landmarks Preservation Board, a designating ordinance is forwarded to the Seattle City Council for approval. The property owner can appeal the Board’s recommendation on Controls and Incentives to the Hearing Examiner. The City’s Hearing Examiner may modify the Board’s recommendation and forward a decision to the City Council for consideration. Either party may appeal the Hearing Examiner’s recommendation to the City Council.The nomination, designation, and Controls and Incentives process and appeal procedures are described in detail in the Seattle Landmarks Preservation Ordinance.

The hope is that the City will be able to make a good enough deal with the current owners that preserving the building is a better choice than selling to a developer or redeveloping – or a good enough deal that they can still sell it, but ensure that the building can’t be redeveloped in way that’s too dramatic. 

Landmarks can be changed and developed upon (from the city: “There are fewer restrictions than you might think since the goal is to manage change, not to eliminate it”), but they can’t be fully demolished or altered too heavily, and they need approval to do so.

Though the building was last sold (in 2013) for $1.1 million, it’s probably worth a lot more now – which means, even as a landmark, it could still be a valuable piece of property for a developer looking to renovate (but not overhaul it). Plus, because preservation designation comes with a lot of incentives, including relief from some building and zoning codes, it could be an even MORE attractive property For example:

“The DPD Director may also waive or modify standards for open space, setbacks, width and depth limits for screening, and landscaping for designated landmark structures or within a landmark or special review district (SMC 23.47.027). In addition, parking exceptions for landmark structures are available on an application basis (SMC 23.54.020)”

…Which means a new developer could actually get some big advantages from buying the building, fixing it up (within reason), but not totally tearing it down. 

Unfortunately, this could still be not-especially-great for the neighborhood; the housing above the storefront (the “Belltown Funky Studios”) have long been a below-market-rate housing option, and if a developer does buy and renovate the building, it’s likely that people could be priced out.

All of that is kind of out of the hands of citizens, though – so the real challenge will be getting over the next big hurdle, which we can help with. 

The next public board meeting, which anyone who’s interested in this issue is encouraged to attend, is on October 7 at 3:30pm in Room 4060 (40th Floor) of the Seattle Municipal Tower, 700 5th Avenue. Burton says that the Belltown crowd is already planning to pack the room again.

“I imagine with more than 24 hours of advanced notice, a lot more people will attend,” he said.

There are so many reasons to kvetch about the death of Seattle, especially as we watch more and more cranes go up and more and more places we like come down. It’s hard. And it feels like we’re helpless.

But we’re not! We’re only helpless if we don’t bother to actually learn about what the fuck is going on! If we wring our hands and declare the end of the city because things are happening!

So show up. Tell the board how much you want to preserve at least some modicum of Belltown. Landmark preservation board doesn’t completely keep a neighborhood from changing, but it does help keep it from changing entirely. 

*At present, multiple buildings – specifically, 2222, 2224, and 2228  –  in this row are on the chopping block, as developers have designs to demolish several and build a whole new thing. However, a landmark designation of the Wayne, which sits smack in the middle, could definitely slow developer interest or make it harder to fully capitalize on the parcels. Currently, none of the other buildings are vying for designation, but it’s not outside of the realm of possibility for 2222, the actual Shorty’s address, to apply for nomination, as well, in the future. 

The post has been corrected and we’re updating it as we get more information. 

and i think one of the reasons i’m thinking so much of dave today is because of the diagnosis i got today and i just want to think about things i like and one of them is this fictional character who acts cool but isn’t, is too clingy for his own good and rambles like there’s no tomorrow, who cares too much and will do anything for his friends and suffered through so much just like i have and it helps, it helps to think of dave when i literally feels like my life is falling apart 

Dan Howell/danisnotonfire [ISFJ]

Si: Many of his videos are centered around recounting his experiences and what he has learnt from them, like in A Message to My Younger Self and The Time I Got Sunstroke, and pretty much every video he makes, Dan uses his experiences to justify his message. In Internet Support Group videos, he gives advice by sharing a similar experience and offers a solution that would work for someone, assuming that they are in the same position as he had been.

Fe: Extroverted Feeling is extremely evident, especially in the video I Care Too Much. Dan is highly sensitive to others emotions and pays special attention to what others feel. He is willing to give up his personal feelings for the good of others, and tends to get into “socially awkward” moments, where he knows what the other person is feeling but does not know how to ease the situation.

The combination of Si and Fe results in Dan giving advice based on how others feel, and trying to tap on his own experiences to figure out how he solved the issue, and therefore, how others may be able to solve theirs too.

Ti: Introverted Thinking allows Dan to over think things, analyzing them in such detail that he often falls into what he calls an “existential crisis”. It is the combination of Si and Ti that results in “cringe attacks” as old memories appear and Ti helpfully tears them down.

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Ne: Extroverted Intuition as an inferior function is what appears when Dan is under stress, and we can see this from the fact that, under stress, he goes on this circle of endless ways that he could fail, and this usually results in yet another existential crisis. He also likes to wonder about the consequences of things, and this sometimes gets him into trouble, like in THE PANIC ALARM. It is also the source of his creativity, for when he needs to come up with rhymes on the spot or do a 7-second challenge.

No, you know what, I change my mind about the layout; when it’s only text based it looks alright to me, but when there are pictures strewn about, it looks horrendous and I am so confused about who posted what.

I’m usually the type to not care about layout changes too much, but I just tried reading a long post and I was so confused.

anonymous asked:

I don't know if I love my ex or if I was just used to him. We were together for 7 years. He broke up with me because I love too much and I cared too much. I feel like he is over me and I'm not. I hope he doesn't regret his decision when it's too late

That’s his loss and you don’t ever have to apologize for loving or caring too much.

anonymous asked:

The thing about the AoA retcon is that it doesn't matter. None of it is canon. None of the Secret Wars tie in books count. I don't know why people are so upset. I get that people love the original as do I but its not like they took it away.

You’re right, it doesn’t matter.  Honestly, when I first started to read the newest AoA series, I didn’t care too much.  My issue is with Fabian Nicieza’s dismissive comments about the original series, in which he somehow insinuated that he was just a reader of the original AoA (he was one of the writers) and derided the work of his former co-workers, namely Scott Lobdell.  I found it very unprofessional, which is a shame, because I generally like his work.