care for your hair

anonymous asked:

how do i come out to my parents with wanting to cut my hair short, like a male?

Kai says:

we have a Coming Out Page (see link on our page) that you could look at. If you don’t want to fully come out to them, find pictures of celebrities/famous people who are women who have short hair in the style that you want and ask your parents to get that haircut for whatever reason (easier to take care of, less hot in the summer, keeping hair out of your face, sports/swimming/etc, looks cute/good) and see if they let you

One thing that no one ever really talks about with depression is how self care is practically nonexistent. I’m talking about showering, brushing your hair or your teeth, like normal everyday things that people do. I struggle with that aspect so bad and I feel like it’s more common than most people know.

So if you showered today, I am proud of you. If you brushed your hair or your teeth, or did anything to take care of yourself today, I’m so proud of you.

And even if today was not a day where you felt capable of caring for yourself, I am still proud of you for even being alive. If the most you did was wake up today, that is still enough.

5 Things I Wish I Knew Before I Went Natural

Just thought I’d share 5 tips for anyone who is new to natural hair or thinking about going natural.  Feel free to add your own. Xoxo

1.  Coconut oil is amazing, but it’s not a miracle worker..You still have to take care of your hair.

2. Just because someone’s hair looks the same as yours, that doesn’t mean that your hair will react well to the products they use.

3.  Don’t pay attention to what society says, all hair textures are beautiful.

4.  Hardly anyone believes in the phrase “dime sized amount” ..You’re not alone

5.  Enjoy each length you’re at, all lengths can be beautiful and stylish.

ok, this is my 2 cents and then i’m done lol: 

harry saying nothing rn is totally cool and fine IF he’s still on hiatus and not dropping an album in 10 weeks (or less). the registration of a touring company does show an intent, regardless of when it’s going to happen. so, i really hope he’s not putting out an album until after dunkirk. mainly because he’s so distanced from 1D fans right now and it makes him look like a person that i know he’s not. 

if he were to wait until after dunkirk, it would be perfect timing. he would have re-engaged his fans and also engaged new ones with dunkirk promo…awesome segue! 

and yes, i’ve been a total supporter of harry’s right to silence during this hiatus. which he DOES have and it’s totally copacetic IF he’s continuing hiatus until around when dunkirk promo starts. but to just not be engaged at all and then suddenly drop something out of NOWHERE and just expect everyone to buy it just because we’re here…seems arrogant and presumptuous and i don’t like it. 

so…in conclusion…i love harry TO DEATH, as if he were my own, but i don’t like this vibe right now. don’t get me wrong, i’mma still buy his album but…i don’t like the whole… situation (IF it is in fact, the real situation) and jeff should Do Better if this is happening Soon.

Stop comparing yourself to others; it’s toxic.

No one is thinking about what you’re wearing, the pimple on your chin, or how messy your hair is. No one cares.

Things happen at a different pace for everyone and that’s okay.

Stop looking at your old conversations with them. Stop checking their social media. Stop checking up on them. Stop.

Abstain from living by all these unspoken rules. Talk to that cute girl at the coffee shop. Ask more questions. Demand to be heard.

Have respect for yourself because you deserve it.

Ask for help if you need it, there is absolutely no shame in needing help.

Sometimes you’re not going to feel okay, sometimes you won’t feel okay for a long time, and that is okay.

You are more than all of this.

You shouldn’t be ashamed of the things that you enjoy. 

Not everyone is going to stay and you have to learn to be alright with this, grieve, and move on.

Learn to be kind with yourself. 

You shouldn’t waste time trying to live up to someone else’s ideal version of you. 

It’s normal to be scared, everyone’s scared sometimes, and that’s quite alright. 

Don’t let anybody else tell you how to live.

All that matters is that at the end of the day you feel accomplished. That you feel proud of who you are and how you’re living your life. What others are thinking does not and will not ever matter.

—  Things I’ve Learned Since Graduating High School

Come lay in bed with me. Show me what it feels like to be loved by another person. Let me run my fingers through your hair, kiss up your neck and onto to your face. Let’s just cuddle until we fall asleep. 🙈💤

♡little things♡
  • bath bombs!!
  • big fluffy pillows!!
  • planets!! out there!! in the sky!!
  • sparkly rose blush!! on cheeks!!
  • fairly lights!! blink blink!!
  • cats!!!!!!!
  • stretch marks!! lightning!! on your body!?!!
  • messy hair don’t care days!! loving yourself!!
  • curl and straighten and spray that hair days!! slaying!!
  • oceans!! cold sand at night!! waves!! the sound!!
  • sparklers!! sizzle!!
  • pasta!!!!!!
  • knee-high socks!!
  • perfume!!
  • feeling happy about your sexuality/gender!! pride!!
  • hydro flasks!!
  • classic nicknames!! baby!! dear!! honey!! sweetie!!
  • bonbons! 
  • sunlight through a bedroom window!!
  • succulents!!
  • bright moons!!
  • sweaters!!
  • giant cozy sweatshirts!!
  • facial glitter!!
  • platform shoes!!
  • kissing!!
  • smiling!!
    • everything is little when you think about it!! ♡
    • please add more!! ♡

JAEHYUN AS YOUR BF

• jaehyun? no.
• baehyun.
• honestly he’s really sweet and knows how to take care of you
• he’s always concerned about your health
• he shares everything with you
• from food to secrets
• he’s the type to give you his shirts and not care if he ever gets them back
• he loves it when you wear them
• he loves it when you wear your bonnet to bed
• he thinks it’s cute that you care about your hair so much
• he buys you anything you want when he’s able
• soft kisses
• playing with his dimples
• sitting on his lap while he sings
• you’re always staring at his pretty fayc
• “baby you’re so cute”
• ^ he loves saying this to you
• he doesn’t care who’s around, if he wants to show you love, then he’s gonna show you love
• thigh rubs
• he stares at your butt all di time
• but fr tho
• he’s a lip biter
• he bites your lips just as much as he bites his own ㅋ
• he gets jealous a lot when you give the members more attention but never shows it
• picking out clothes for him cause he likes it when you dress him
• y'all fall asleep in the strangest places/positions
• weird couple that nobody gets
• he’s always so bubbly when he’s around you
• you can change his whole mood
• going out on lunch dates
• walks in the park
• y'all can never stay needs at eachother
• *argued for an hour straight, he goes to sleep on the couch*
• *wakes up in eachother’s arms the next morning*
• lowkey a bipolar relationship
• “y/n why are you staring at the food truck? if you want something ask.”
• he’s your daddy/he spoils you
• all you gotta do is give him that look and it’s a wrap
• 🌚
• hmm, sex with jaehyun..
• he’s soft and slow majority of the time
• unless you dirty talk him (especially directly in his ear)
• then you’re getting drilled tbh
• that’s just that baeb
• you don’t really have to worry about limping, unless you want to
• he actually doesn’t try to hold in groans or moans
• he WANTS you to know that you got that good ting
• 💀
• alright so..
• he’s really in love with you and he loves tickling you/feeding you/making you laugh/cuddling etc.
• aside from family and friends
• you’re all that he has
• so he cherishes tf out of you
• seriously you’re lucky

Alright so ever since the end of middle school and all throughout high school I’ve been straightening my hair which is naturally curly because of the way people would comment on how “big and poofy my hair was” which would make me feel super insecure. I wouldn’t go to school without straightening it but I wasn’t even that good at doing my hair so I’d put always tie it up in a tight braid. Even when I put it in a pony tail my friends (who I’m thank god no longer friends with) would make fun of how big my hair was and that they’ve never seen an Indian with such curly big hair. Now I’m going to graduate soon from high school. Recently I met with a hairdresser, a guy from Lebanon who was so nice but also told me to back tf off with the straightener because my curls would be damaged and that curly hair is really beautiful. First off that really touched me because I’ve never, not once received a comment like that. I haven’t touched the straighter since and I’ve been trying products to protect my curls. Today was the first day I wore my hair down, natural curls and with a product that helped. And I am so happy. I love my hair and thank god I finally saw the beauty of my natural curls otherwise I would’ve damaged it. I’m just really happy with myself. I would’ve never imagined myself doing this. Please, if you have curly hair, do not straighten it, embrace it. Curly hair is so beautiful, natural hair is so beautiful.