K yo I headcanon that for one of Victor’s exhibitions post-canon, he skates to Rick Astley (y'all know which song lol) and dedicates the performance to Yuuri because the lyrics so perfectly describe how he feels. However, Victor doesn't know the song is a meme, so he has no idea he just Rickroll'd everyone in the audience.
Everyone knows Victor and Yuuri dancing around the apartment to terrible music is basically canon, but they also skate around on their hardwood floor in socks. Victor would be listening to a song before wordlessly dragging Yuuri up to skate an idea for a show.
Victor has notebooks upon notebooks upon notebooks. Most of it is in cramped cyrillic that only him and Yakov (barely) can read. Some of it is grocery lists, music notes for a song he wants commissioned, routines, costume designs, and god knows what else. Yuuri finds one open on the couch and stops reading after he sees “Victor Katsuki” scrawled over and over and over again in the margins in English.
Yuuri doesn’t mention how all his notebooks from the age of 10 until post grad have “Yuuri Nikiforov” in them somewhere. Victor somehow knows.
Yuuri loves cuddling. He loves the feeling of himself in Victor’s arm or Victor in his arms. It’s hard concrete proof that “This is real. He loves you. You love him.” and he’ll never get tired of it.
The worst part of Victor being gone (For work, visiting, general life) to Yuuri is sleeping alone. They usually end up skyping before bed to make it a little easier, and Victor leaves him Makkachin to cuddle instead. (Makkachin does not mind and loves being cuddled so win win)
¿quién puede hablar del amor y defenderlo? ¡que levante la mano, por favor!
The first time, they’re not even together yet.
Yuri is in Almaty for a visit, a change of pace. After the exhibition skate fiasco and ahead of Worlds, Lilia has become much stricter about his choreography, while Yuri has become more stubborn about he wants to do for himself. Viktor was the one who’d convinced Yakov to let Yuri take a short break, cool his head.
Yuri doesn’t like being indebted to Viktor, but he’s grateful, however reluctantly. Getting to visit Otabek is a very welcome bonus.
Otabek is accommodating, happy to have Yuri in his home city. He’s lightened his training schedule as much as he can (although with both Four Continents and Worlds coming up, it’s not all that much lighter), takes Yuri around the city at night. Otabek’s family takes to Yuri immediately, showering him in extra food and affection. Yuri even gets to skate in Otabek’s rink, working on his quad flip.
It makes Yuri feel worse about the agitation that gnaws at his ribs, his lungs.
He doesn’t even know why. He’s here in Almaty, he’s with Otabek; he’s away from Lilia and Yakov and their nagging, away from Viktor’s overbearing concern and Yuuri’s overly sincere consideration. But whenever he and Otabek go out, Yuri is anxious and self-conscious; whenever Otabek smiles at him, asks him how he feels, if he’s okay, Yuri gets flustered. There’s a lump in his throat that refuses to go away. It’s driving him crazy.
It’s when they come across some friends of Otabek that Yuri snaps. It’s Otabek’s day off, they’re meandering through a commercial area near Otabek’s home. An unfamiliar voice rings over the chatter of the city, drawing their attention.
“Beshka!” Otabek reacts first, turning around with a big smile; Yuri feels a flash of irritation in his chest. There’s a group of boys, four of them, weaving through the crowd towards them. They arrive and start chatting in – Yuri’s not sure, it sounds like an odd mix of Russian and Kazakh, but he can’t understand a thing and it’s pissing him off.
It’s a while before they notice Yuri standing there, glaring. One of them breaks off with a surprised look and smiles apologetically, says something to Yuri. Otabek puts a hand on Yuri’s shoulder, gives him a quick smile, then turns back to his friend.
“Russian, please, Maxim,” he says with a laugh.
“Oh, sorry, sorry!” The boy - Maxim - beams at Yuri. The others are looking at him curiously, shooting each other unreadable glances that only vex Yuri even more. Maxim throws an arm around Yuri’s shoulder and smirks. “And you are?”
Yuri shrugs the arm off with no gentleness and huffs. “Leaving,” he snaps, storming off the way they came.
“Hey, what–” Yuri doesn’t want to hear. He takes off running, missing the way Otabek calls after him, the way the boys exchange concerned looks.
Otabek still catches up with him a few blocks away.
“Yura,” he says sharply, grabbing Yuri’s wrist to stop him from heading off again. Yuri twists his arm petulantly and stomps his foot.
“Let me go.”
“No.” Otabek is searching his face, frowning. The way he holds Yuri’s wrist, his expression, it makes Yuri feel like some problem child who’s being patronized and scolded. He hates it. “Yuri, what happened?”
“I’m pissed off, okay!” he yells. Startled, Otabek lets go of his hand; Yuri hugs his arms to his chest and stares at the ground.
“Why?” Otabek asks. “They’re my friends, Yura, of course they want to talk to me.”
The resentment is climbing up Yuri’s throat and he hates it. “I know,” he mutters, hunching up further. This, whatever it is, it frustrates him. He can’t explain why.
They stand there for a moment, in a side alley that smells vaguely of lamb and smoke, Yuri looking at his shoes and Otabek looking at Yuri.
Yuri cuts him off. “I’m done,” he says quickly, spinning on his heel and walking back in the direction of Otabek’s home. “I’m going back to Russia on the earliest flight, I can’t do this anymore.”
“What–” Otabek catches up with him again and this time actually blocks his way, standing in front of him (and fuck this, Yuri may be getting taller but Otabek is still bigger and in his way). He takes Yuri by the shoulders, trying to get Yuri to look at him, but Yuri won’t meet his eyes.
“Yura,” Otabek says softly, in a voice that makes something twist in Yuri’s chest. “Are you–” He hesitates. Yuri scrunches his face up. Otabek seems to be weighing his words carefully, uncertainly. He purses his lips, then looks at Yuri with an oddly tight expression. “Are you… jealous?”
Yuri’s eyes widen; his next inhale is sharp and painful. He jerks away from Otabek even as he feels the heat in his cheeks, the chill in his lungs. “No,” he says breathlessly, adamantly, but the lie is obvious. “No–”
Otabek takes Yuri’s hands in his, holds tight despite Yuri’s protests and – Yuri’s breath catches as Otabek presses Yuri’s palms to his chest, over a quick and nervous heartbeat. One hand moves to card through Yuri’s hair, gentle as every other thing Otabek does with Yuri.
“Kotyonok,” Otabek says, and there’s a laugh lurking in the word. Yuri is still looking down. “There was never a need for you to be.”
Yuri’s hands close into fists, scrunching the front of Otabek’s shirt. He leans forward, pressing his forehead into Otabek’s shoulder. His friend just stands there and lets him, still stroking Yuri’s hair.
Idea that Craig takes Tweek to a Roller-skating rink to help with his balance. At first Tweek is really wobbly and almost falls over whenever he moves but little by little he becomes great at it, he even becomes better then Craig. To help Craig improve Tweek holds his hand the entire time and says “don’t worry, let’s do this together”. No matter how much they improve they only skate together holding hands :)
Do you think Yuuri has high emotional intelligence, that sometimes being fucked up by his anxiety?
This is a really interesting question that I’m not sure I’m fully capable of answering properly, but I’ll do my best.
Ok looking at the most common model for emotional intelligence, you can measure it in 5 traits. So let’s look at how Yuuri does in each. By the way I’m kinda ignoring episode 12 for this.
Self-awareness in the context of emotional intelligence is the ability to recognize your own emotions as they happen and being in tune with your true feelings. Also the recognition of your own self-worth and skills.
Yeah, Yuuri “I don’t really have a name for this feeling” Katsuki has some trouble with this one. With the self-confidence and recognition of his own merit as well, as we know. Here though, I do believe anxiety plays a huge factor. Yuuri is very prideful, and stubborn and he’s not completely lacking in awareness. He has his moments.
Also, I think Yuuri’s problem is mostly that he’s extremely self-absorbed and hyper aware of himself. Which you know, comes with his anxiety. He is very aware of what his failings, to the extreme where he can’t see his assets a lot of times.
He has difficulty identifying his own feelings a lot, particularly when it comes to Victor, but he seems to be very aware of how his anxiety works from how we see him react to it in episodes 1, 7 and 9. A good example is this little piece of dialogue in episode 7
I know. As in, he’s aware that his fear is unfounded, he’s aware that his feelings are irrational but he can’t help feeling them.
He certainly lacks in accurate self-assessment with how he’s constantly devaluating himself, but the anxiety is clearly playing a role in that. So the jury’s out on this one. He doesn’t excel at this, but it’s not where he lacks the most out of the five.
This is the ability to have self-control and managing your emotions, being adaptable and open to new things and ideas.
I actually think Yuuri does a lot better here than what it may seem at first.
Of course, the entire series happened because Yuuri was not able to deal with his emotions during the Grand Prix Final. But let’s look at what those emotions were. Yuuri was grieving. He had just learned that Vicchan died, so that on top of the pressure of being at the GPF, of wanting to meet Victor as an equal, plus his usual insecurity, it’s no wonder the whole thing spiraled out of control. Can you really blame him for not keeping his emotions in check and underperforming in that situation?
Besides, Yuuri does a really good job at holding it together. He only allows himself to cry when he’s by himself.
But what about episode 7? Well, episode 7 shows us once again Yuuri doing his hardest to keep it together. The difference here is that, for the first time, he’s not doing it for his own sake, but for Victor’s as well, which is why the whole thing blows up once Victor pulls the “I’ll quit” card. Even with all that though, after being given an outlet for his emotions, Yuuri is able to regulate them well enough that he skates one of his best performers, completely relaxed, and while suffering from sever lack of sleep and having just come out of an anxiety attack.
He also regulates his anxiety through skating and going on runs. We seem him do both often throughout the series and Minako even spells it out for us that whenever Yuuri is nervous or troubled he skates it out. So he’s very aware of what methods work for him to calm down.
As for adaptability and innovation, he’s constantly showing heaps of both throughout the series. Since Victor’s arrival, he is forcefully thrown into new situations and his comfort zone is pushed to the limits and he always adapts. Eros is the best example. He both adapted and innovated there.
Yuuri’s entire style of skating require a lot of self-regulation. It’s canon that Yuuri’s skating is immensely emotionally driven. He can’t skate what he doesn’t feel. So for him to be able to perform he must be able to control his emotions. And again, any time he fails to do so, it’s his anxiety overtaking him.
The ability to motive oneself, having clear goals and the drive to achieve them, having initative, being able to commit and keeping a positive outlook in the pursuit of one’s goals despite obstacles.
Ok so maybe Yuuri is lacking a bit on the last part of keeping a positive outlook. Otherwise though? Yuuri is extremely driven. He has worked his entire skating career with the very clear goal of meeting Victor as an equal. He needed time to work through the setback that was his first GPF, but he still actively tries to get out of it on his own
I’ve talked about this before in my analysis of his character arc. Yuuri is very much driven by his desire to win the GPF and his wish of becoming an equal to Victor and keep him by his side. Even though all his lows in the series, his goals are ever present and he is capable of motivating himself to get back up again and pursuit them. He experiences a lot of physical and mental strain and he still pushes forward. His initiative, while lacking at first, is one of the things that grow in him as he goes through character development.
The optimism needs to be worked on though.
This involves a lot of things, from good communication, ability to be persuasive, conflict management, nurturing bonds with others and being able to cooperate and work with others as a team.
Here’s where Yuuri is probably lacking the most. But he gets better.
Communication is not Yuuri’s strongest asset, not by a long shot. I mean the boy has a very hard time expressing his feelings for Victor without using skating metaphors. He has a lot of trouble communicating with almost everyone in the rest of the cast, as we see from his inner monologues. He’s better with Phichit and gets better with Victor, but still terribly lacking by the end of the series.
We’re told he didn’t really have friends growing up aside from Yuko (and later Takashi as they grew), and in present day, aside from them, the only person Yuuri considers a friend is Phichit. Despite the fact that, as we see, other characters express interest in being Yuuri’s friend.
Both Yuuri and Victor have poor social skills in entirely different ways, and that’s what makes their relationship difficult, especially at first. But they do manage to reach a balance, work together and develop. They meet each other half-way.
So yes, not bit on the EQ here.
Recognizing other people’s feelings and understanding them.
Yuuri is not completely hopeless here but he’s still got a long way to go. He has a hard time reaching that awareness of other people’s feelings. He didn’t recognize the love of his family and friends as such as instead saw it as pity (that’s the anxiety), he didn’t recognize Minami’s admiration for him, he wrongly assumed that he was holding Victor back and that Victor would be happier not being his coach, he didn’t seem to notice at all that Victor had feelings for him before the kiss.
Thing is, as soon as he’s aware of people’s feelings, he’s very understanding. He’s so grateful for the love of the people surrounding him the makes it his theme, he accepts Minami’s feelings and cheers him on. Even the whole issue of “I’m holding Victor back”, that’s empathy. That’s Yuuri being so concerned over someone else’s feelings he is willing to sacrifice himself for them.
Anxiety does probably play a role here in the way he’s lacking.
So overall, I would say Yuuri has an average level of emotional intelligence. His anxiety certainly screws it over a lot, but he has many moments where he shows a surprisingly high EQ. He really needs to work on his social skills and self-awareness though. Could do with more empathy as well. Here’s hoping for more development on that in s2.
Also I thought it would be nice for my 100th post ^_^
“What are we doing here Craig?” Tweek looked at the sign for the 10th time. He was still confused as to why Craig would bring them to a Roller-skating rink, Craig wasn’t a fan of this kind of thing. “Look Clyde begged me to go and I though you should come too so we can work on your balance.” Craig said whilst holding Tweek’s hand. “But how will this help me with gahh my balance, it will only make it harder.” “If you can balance on roller-skates even just a little bit then your normal balance will improve, don’t worry, I’ll keep holding your hand the entire time so if you fall I’ll catch you.” Tweek smiled warmly at Craig, he knew he could trust his boyfriend. “Okay, lets find Clyde while Token and Jimmy find a parking spot.”
“So is this date night or something?” Clyde said wiggling his eyebrows at Craig. Craig flipped him off. “Shut it Clyde.” “To think that Craig has replaced me again so he can smooch with his boy friend.” “Clyde I will kick you if you don’t stop.” Clyde just gave his best friend a wide smile. “Dude I’m just kidding with you.” Clyde looked behind the couple. “Do you guys know where Token and Jimmy are? They’re meant to meet us here, heck Token is paying for us.“ Craig looked at his phone and saw he had a message from Token. “Looks like him and Jimmy are running a little late, Token says finding a spot is being a pain.” “Oh god, what if they’re in an accident or something! That is way to much pressure!” “Tweek, its fine, Token said he should be here in a few minutes and not to worry.” Craig hugged Tweek and patted his hair to calm him down.