cannot control feels

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Sometimes you cannot control how you feel or react. It’s okay. You’re okay.

Be careful when you allow your happiness to be affected by whether or not others are happy. One cannot control the thoughts and feelings of others, and so one can be put into a state of vulnerability. Be careful, and take care.
—  Nicole Addison @thepowerwithin

anonymous asked:

What Tarot arcana would you associate with certain mutuals or MBTI types?

I LOVE TAROT ASKS OK!!! Ok. As for mutuals if you’re interested it would be better if you replied to this post if you…. wanted my opinion

ESFJ
Primary: empress (compassion, beauty, love, maternal instinct, leading from behind the scenes, inner power and will, being connected to nature and those around you)

Secondary: emperor (leadership, paternal instinct, authority, power, knowledge from past experiences, ruling with a fair hand, you hold power over your own life)

ISFJ
Primary: temperance (moderation, life balance, everything in due time, reminder to stop and think, stay balanced but flexible, having your life under control)

Secondary: star (hope and healing, inspiration, have faith in where your life is leading, inner and outer renewal, things are working in your favour)

ESFP
Primary: lovers (focusing on love and affection, joining with others, harmony, re-examining values, being at a crossroads)

Secondary: devil (feeling out of control, material vices, finding options while feeling entrapped, surmounting your inner limitations, a feeling of being restrained)

ISFP
Primary: judgement (I am where I need to be, reviewing choices and actions, spiritual/nonmaterial law and morality, it’s never too late to change, feeling of completion)

Secondary: empress (compassion, beauty, love, maternal instinct, leading from behind the scenes, inner power and will, being connected to nature and those around you)

ESTJ
Primary: hierophant (inner guidance, tradition, faith in the self and in social structures, the morality of the law, the rules know best, lawful co-operation)

Secondary: emperor (leadership, paternal instinct, authority, power, knowledge from past experiences, ruling with a fair hand, you hold power over your own life)

ISTJ
Primary: hanged man (being in limbo, small sacrifices must be made to benefit the long term, not knowing where to begin, being afraid to make a move)

Secondary: temperance (moderation, life balance, everything in due time, reminder to stop and think, stay balanced but flexible, having your life under control)

ESTP
Primary: chariot (external strength, surmounting obstacles, drive and determination, unstoppable force)

Secondary: devil (feeling out of control, material vices, finding options while feeling entrapped, surmounting your inner limitations, a feeling of being restrained)

ISTP
Primary: chariot (external strength, surmounting obstacles, drive and determination, unstoppable force)

Secondary: death (cycles of endings and beginnings, life goes on, acceptance, realizing after every end is a new beginning)

ENFP
Primary: sun (happiness, joy, optimism, infinite potential, moving in the right direction, surrounding the self with positivity, most positive major arcana)

Secondary: magician (uniqueness, having special talents, overcoming adversity through creativity, moving forward)

INFP:
Primary: tower (things cannot be controlled, feeling of dread, life feels like it is crumbling, let go and let things fall to renew and gain a new perspective, tear down the old and replace with a sturdier foundation)

Secondary: moon (inner thoughts, mysticism, inner conflict, intensity of emotions, drawing thoughts and feelings to the surface, mystery, sensitivity, volatility, inner wisdom)

ENFJ
Primary: judgement (I am where I need to be, reviewing choices and actions, spiritual/nonmaterial law and morality, it’s never too late to change, feeling of completion)

Secondary: justice (law of cause and effect, you get what you deserve, material/worldly law such as the court system, logical but opinionated, finding truth vs lies)

INFJ
Primary: moon (inner thoughts, mysticism, inner conflict, intensity of emotions, drawing thoughts and feelings to the surface, mystery, sensitivity, volatility, inner wisdom)

Secondary: high priestess (deeply intuitive, awareness, the subconscious, listening to your inner voice, finding answers from internal rather than external experience)

ENTP
Primary: fool (potential, beginnings, creative force, embracing the future without worry)

Secondary: justice (law of cause and effect, you get what you deserve, material/worldly law such as the court system, logical but opinionated, finding truth vs lies)

INTP
Primary: wheel of fortune (order in chaos, unpredictability, lack of permanence)

Secondary: hermit (withdrawal to analyze, will from within, creating solitude)

ENTJ
Primary: strength (internal rather than external strength, resilience, courage, staying level headed and strong of heart)

Secondary: chariot (external strength, surmounting obstacles, drive and determination, unstoppable force)

INTJ
Primary: hermit (withdrawal to analyze, will from within, creating solitude)

Secondary: strength (internal rather than external strength, resilience, courage, staying level headed and strong of heart)

You cannot control your thoughts, and you cannot control your feelings, because there is no controller. You are your thoughts and your feelings, and they are running along, running along, running along.

Just sit and watch them. There they go. You are still breathing, aren’t you? Still growing your hair; still seeing and hearing. Are YOU doing that? Is breathing something that YOU do? Do you see? Do you organize the operations of your eyes, and know exactly how to work those rods and cones in the retina? Do you do that?

It happens, and it is a happening. Your breathing is happening. Your thinking is happening. Your feeling is happening. Your hearing, your seeing, the clouds are happening across the sky. The sky is happening blue; the sun is happening shining. There it is: all this happening. May I introduce you? This is yourself. This is a vision of who you really are, and the way you really function. You function by happening, that is to say, by spontaneous occurrence.

This is not a state of affairs that you should realize. I cannot possibly preach about it to you, because the minute you start thinking, ‘I should understand that,’ the stupid notion that ‘I’ should bring it about arises again, when there is no ‘you’ to bring it about. That is why I am not preaching. You can only preach to egos. All I can do is talk about what is.

Once you have seen this you can return to the world of practical affairs with a new spirit. You have seen that the universe is at root a magical illusion and a fabulous game, and that there is no separate ‘you’ to get something out of it, as if life were a bank to be robbed.

The only real ‘you’ is the one that comes and goes, manifests and withdraws itself eternally in and as every conscious being. For ‘you’ is the universe looking at itself from billions of points of view, points that come and go so that the vision is forever new.

You do not ask what is the value, or what is the use, of this feeling. Of what use is the universe? What is the practical application of a million galaxies?
—  Alan Watts
FATHER IS STRANGE EP41

1. THAT OPENING SCENE WAS SEXY AF WHEN HE STARTED STEPPING CLOSER TO HER AND ASKED AGAIN IF SHE SAID THAT SHE LIKED HIM 🔥😍
2. THAT NG SCENE WHEN HE ACCIDENTALLY SAID HER NAME DURING FILMING 💕
3. THAT SCENE WHEN HE STARTS TOWARDS HER BUT IS BLOCKED BY FANS AND THEN DISCOVERS HER HIDING BEHIND A CAR AND *GUH* HIS VOICE SOUNDING SO TENDER TOWARDS HER WHEN HE SPOKE TO HER 💕😍
4. WHEN SHE TRIPS AND LOSES HER SHOE AND RUNS OFF ANYWAY AND HE WATCHES HELPLESSLY 😭💕
5. WHEN MY CRIES SO MUCH IN THIS EPISODE HUHU 😭😭😭
6. WHEN HE FINALLY TELLS HER THE TRUTH YAAAAAAASSSSSSSSSSSS 💕

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Dating El Diablo would include:

Originally posted by fuck-svpreme

Requested by Anon. 

Request: Hiya! I’ve just seen your last imagine with digger and I love it.. Could you do the Same with Chato Santaba? “imagine dating el Diablo, and what would that entail” thanks! ^-^

Warning: Fluff and a bit Smut

A/N: Aww thank you! Of course, I’ll do Chato headcanons. He’s my sweet baby and he deserves everything good in the world. 


In public:

  • Holding hands when going out for a walk.
  • People staring at Chato because of his tattoos.
    • You glaring back at them when they murmur something under their breath.
  • Him kissing your cheek every now and then. 
  • Him keeping you warm during cold winter walks.
  • Going on dates and never going to the same place (excluding the cinema) again because he doesn’t want you to have a boring date with him. 
    • Him always wanting to pay for you.
    • Him being very stubborn about it.  
  • Him introducing you to the squad when they see Chato with you walking around the city at night.
    • Captain Boomerang asking you if you need a new, better boyfriend. 
    • Chato threatening calmly to set Pinky on fire if he doesn’t get lost.
    • Harley Quinn cooing and telling you how cute you both are.
      • Her telling you in secret to be careful.  

In private:

  • Sweet kisses. 
  • Him calling you cute nicknames. 
    • You not understanding every nickname. 
  • Watching your favourite movies and tv shows together.
    • Lots of cuddling. 
    • Falling asleep during the movie. 
  • Him slapping your ass and laughing when you squeal.
  • Having awesome sex.
    • He knows how to make you feel good with only his touches.
    • Trying out rough sex and you being surprised when Chato’s being very dominant.  
  • Chato revealing his past and you comforting him, telling him it was an accident. 
  • Fighting. 
    • About the dangerous mission with the squad. 
    • Him always running away when he has the feeling he cannot control himself. 
    • You feeling bad for making him run away.
    • You both apologizing.
      • Sometimes make-up sex with lots of cuddling afterwards.
  • Chato being very careful with his powers around you.
    • Too careful.
  • Chato showing you his true form after two years into your relationship. 
    • You being shocked, but not afraid.
    • You calling him a God amongs human.
    • “I’m no God, [Y/N]. They call me Devil.”
    • “Bullshit, you’re pretty awesome. Oh, stop sulking and kiss me already.”   


  • You telling him you’re pregnant.
    • “Chato? I think I’m pregnant.”
    • Him being afraid at first and you assuring him that he’ll be a great dad.
    • Him being very happy about the child. 
  • Him being super careful around you during the prenancy. 
    • Chato doing almost everything for you.
    • You being very moody.
  • Having twins. 
  • Him buying you too many roses after you gave birth to them.
  • Harley Quinn coming over because she loves babies. 
    • You suspecting that she wants to have children with the Joker.
  • Deadshot congratulating both of you.
  • Digger coming over and giving the twins their own ‘Pinkies’ and him apologizing about the rude remarks he made.


  • Him proposing to you during a candle light dinner in Mexico.
  • You crying and squealing ten times ‘yes’.
  • You telling Chato to invite the squad to the wedding because they’re his only family. 
  • Chato and you being on a three week honeymoon in Mexico. 
  • Deadshot looking after the twins.
    • Turns out the twins are metahumans (Pyrokinesis/Cryokinesis).
  • Chato being worried but you assure him that everything will be fine.
    • You’re right. Everything turns out to be okay. 



(Requests for Imagines and Headcanons are open.) 

Hold Me Tight | two

Originally posted by kyungsuhos

genre: fluff/angst

word count: 12.5k

preview, one

this is narrated in third person


Kyungsoo was happy to finally be home, have some time with his wife. He knew that she wasn’t doing very well in the past few days. She had been keeping more and more to herself lately, barely saying a word most days, never looking in his eyes for longer than one second.

He also knew that he was lacking in many ways, knew that he was messing up lately. Ever since Eun Suk had showed up again she made sure that she was the only thing Kyungsoo could see. He felt tired just by looking at her, having to be around her, having to play along with her jokes. It’s true that they had some kind of affair many year before, before he even dreamed of meeting Eun Byul, but it ended just as fast as it had begun. Kyungsoo soon realized that the two of them had very different views of the world. But as soon as Eun Suk showed up again it seemed that she wanted to revive the past, even though she already knew Kyungsoo was married.

Even his close friend, Baekhyun, told him that Eun Byul had been acting off, in a way she never truly did. His friend noticed how his wife seemed that much more tense quieter. “She won’t even laugh at my stupid jokes anymore”, Baekhyun had said.

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Be careful when you allow your happiness to be affected by whether or not others are happy. One cannot control the thoughts and feelings of others, and so one can be put into a state of vulnerability. Be careful, and take care.
—  Nicole Addison

anonymous asked:

Hey, I've really really been struggling tonight. I just keep getting like sadder and sadder and just cant stop thinking about just everything. I really just like don't think anything can fix it right now. I'm not one to hurt myself or anything I never have, but the mental pain feels way worse than any physical damage I could ever give myself. I don't know if there's anything you know that could help but I really need something right now

Honey it’s okay to feel sad and down sometimes take the time for yourself. Give yourself time and peace, life gets hard sometimes and that’s okay. Just know that things are going to get better someone will always love you and care about you. But you need to be kind to yourself and let yourself relax and accept that feeling that you have right now. Understand your feelings and respect them for what they are because you cannot control your feelings.

“You are afraid,” Qui-Gon stated plainly.

A look of shame came over Obi-Wan’s face, but he did not deny it.

“My heart is full of dread,” he admitted. “I wish we were on another

mission - any other mission. I am not sure I have the courage to face the

Holocron… ”

Qui-Gon leaned toward his apprentice. “You have every right to be

afraid,” he said quietly. “Allow yourself to feel the fear - really feel

it - and then let the emotion go. If it comes back, feel it again and let

it go again. There should be no shame in one’s emotions.”

“I am not at fault if it comes back?” Obi-Wan asked, looking up.

“No, Padawan,” Qui-Gon replied. “We cannot control how we feel.

Only how we choose to handle our feelings.”

— 

The Followers, Jude Watson 

(for all the haters lately who keep saying the Jedi were emotionally stunted or encouraged to deal with their feelings in an unhealthy way)

anonymous asked:

What's misophonia?

misophonia is a condition where you are extremely sensitive to certain sounds, such as eating/chewing sounds and breathing sounds. there are so so many different sounds, and it depends on the person themselves what causes them the Bad Feelings.
these sounds, depending on the person themself, can trigger things like anger, panic, nausea, and severe need for self harm or even suicide attempts in worst cases. 
there’s much more than that but that’s what i go through mostly.
for more symptoms you can check from here!

misophonia comes in levels, ranging from 0 to 10 (mine goes around 7-10 which is BAD)
 but despite the level, it is always awful for the person.
you can see the scale from here!

we cannot control how we feel! the feeling we get is both physical and emotional and it is strong and agonizing.

PLEASE REMEMBER that when a misophonic person (or even someone who doesnt suffer from it!) asks you to stop doing a certain sound, NEVER IN YOUR LIFE START MAKING THE SOUND MORE TO BE ANNOYING.
N E V E R it is so shitty and can be potentially dangerous for the person, or even you yourself.

so its super important to think twice before you decide to chew your gum mouth open, or rustling your bags of chips in class or anywhere.
you never know who suffers from misophonia, and who you can cause severe harmful reactions with your actions that could be easily toned down.

especially in quiet places its good to think if you’re being too loud and if you can do anything about it.

because for me, i’ve had to run out of class in full panic hitting myself against the walls and scratching my hands just from hearing someone chew gum mouth open in a quiet classroom. i wanted to throw up, i wanted to die. i wanted to rip my head off because i couldn’t get the sound out of my head AND I STILL can hear it as im typing. 

misophonic people get no credit like ever. people barely even know we exist, and when we speak out, we usually are made fun of.
“it cant be that bad, its just normal every day sounds!! how can you even leave from the house lol!!” well uh i can leave the house, and most of my days go just fine without a reaction! and honestly i dont even have to leave my house to have a reaction, as my own damn eating sounds hurt me every day! though im more used to them now.
“u really should get help loll that is so stupid and not normal” every time i’ve mentioned it to my nurses or doctors, it gets brushed off. they don’t care. nobody cares. how can i get help when nobody responds to my call for help.

so yeah. this is a long ass rant but hey! i really want people to know more!
hope this is good and google is a good place to go through, there’s multiple sites just for misophonia that tells whats up and what its about as i linked twice already! <3

OMFG!!! FUCKING FUCK!!! SHIT!!! I’VE BEEN WAITING FOR THIS EPISODE. DAMN. GDI. I LITERALLY WANT TO JUMP FROM THE ROOFTOP. THE FEELS!!! KYAAAHHH!!! ^3^ *THROWS PILLOWS ZENxSHIRAYUKI SHIP HAS FINALLY SET SAIL!!! OTL I’M CRYING REAL HARD RN, I’M SO HAPPY FOR THEM *I READ THE MANGA, BUT FUCK THAT I’LL STILL CRY TO THE ANIME, TOO.

anonymous asked:

Hey, so my bff recently dumped me. She said that I am toxic and make her depressed. I asked a lot of people and not one of them, including me and my therapist, think that that's the case. I still blame myself and feel bad, as if I deserved to be hurt by here like this and that she's better off without me. Idk how to deal with this. What's your opinion? Do you have some tips?

I can’t tell you exactly how to deal with this, but it sounds like you have already sought other opinions from your friends and therapist, which is good. I’m glad you have people to talk to about this since that is a very upsetting thing for someone to say and it may take some time for you to sort through your emotions.

From this message, it sounds to me like your friend is dealing with depression (and/or possibly other issues in their life) and for whatever reason, not necessarily your fault, they felt that removing you from their life would fix their problems. Unfortunately, this isn’t really something you can fight them on. If they have it in their head that they don’t want you in their life anymore, then the only thing you can do is accept it, and maybe try to be supportive. One option could be expressing to your friend (via text, maybe, if you’re not going to see each other face to face) that you never intended to hurt them and you still want to be a part of their life, if they are okay with that. If they don’t respond or if they respond negatively, I would give them space and time. There aren’t really a lot of other options here.

Feeling guilty when you can’t do anything to fix the problem is one of the worst feelings ever, so I hope you are able to come to terms with the fact that you cannot control how your friend feels or thinks or what they do. At the end of the day, this comes down to the fact that you can’t control other peoples’ behavior (which can be frustrating). My best suggestion is to contact them in a patient, supportive way and give them space if they need it. Hopefully, this will help your friend to realize that you do care about them and respect them.

Hope this helps, and sorry that you ended up in this situation. x

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I WILL BE FOREVER CRYING TO MY GRAVE

This picture means everything to me and I can’t believe that I have it in my hands. The amazing @sara-plutonium has made me this beautiful photo of my boys & I and I cannot control my feelings. Since I was 6 years old I’ve always dreamed of hugging my cute little ducklings  & she has made it reality. I will be forever be thankful for her magical talent.

You can bet this is going as my tumblr banner.