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2nd survey statements!

Took awhile, but…here are the statements! Once again, they are organized by type for your convenience. Enjoy!

*Also, I just wanted to say thanks to everyone who participated in the survey. I was really happy with everyone’s responses, and it just goes to show how annoying MBTI stereotypes can be.

INFP

~Having intense emotions does not make us irrational crybabies. It does, however, make us highly analytical of everyone around us. Also, Fi is not necessarily selfish! Stop assuming we only care about our own feelings, because that is just so not true. In fact, Fi actually allows us to understand and analyze the emotions of others on a deep level since we’ve done it so many times to ourselves. We are not selfish - we just internalize our emotions!

~INFPs are always represented as really open minded and kind, but a lot of most of my INFP friends (and I have a lot) are some of the most judgemental people I know (I’m so sorry for being salty!!)

~We’re not really as soft and fluffy as many think we are

~I’m an INFP, and we’re often types as pathetic, whiney sad sacks. That may be true for some, but not all. I am a cheerful person, and people often say I’m quite funny! Enough with the puddle of tears already!

~INFPs are represented as creative types, but many INFPs find their strengths in the art of academics.

~I Ann an INFP and I wish people wouldn’t think we’re just selfish. Yes, staying true to our values is extremely important to us and we must frequently check in with ourselves but I also love to give and encourage self honesty and introspection with others. Also the weak stereotype thing upsets me sometimes don’t get me wrong I don’t enjoy fighting one bit but if it’s out of defense whether it’s someone I love or a barrier I have I’ll fight til the end.

~INFP-good at planning; can be pretty outgoing

~Infps don’t cry all the time! We are often consider weak but we are not. What makes infps so strong is their ability to be idealistic, focus on the brightside, no matter what traumatic things they have been through or selfish people they have seen. Also they have the ability to make logical decisions based off of moral codes.

~We aren’t doormats nor unable to be organised

~This emo/crybaby trope is getting old. Yes, we have emotions. No, we don’t cry every time we see a dead ladybug, nor do we moan about how lonely we are 24/7. 

ENFP

~I like making people happy because I can’t seem to make myself happy. I figure the best I can do is make others feel good so they don’t ever feel the emptiness I feel sometimes.

~I like making people happy because I can’t seem to make myself happy. I figure the best I can do is make others feel good so they don’t ever feel the emptiness I feel sometimes.

~Just because we act ‘childish’ doesn’t mean we’re 'stupid’ or 'naive’

~I think that enfp is often misrepresented as 'dumb but sweet’. I have many enfp friends who are very smart, and quick thinkers. The intp stereotype of being a robot is pretty easy to recognize as false, but we (and entps) aren’t ALWAYS making puns or ALWAYS forgetful and disorganized. Yes it is true we can be oftentimes but pretty much all types are just generalized.

~ENFP (my type): often displayed as lovey dovey cuddly types that are very scatterbrained and directionless. However, while we’re enthusiastic, vibrant, and have great people skills, we struggle revealing our own emotions and can be very private about things. In addition, we’re not always cheery- many can appear a little more cold and aloof but still retain that “magnetic” quality ENFPs have.

~I’m an ENFP and what I’d like others to understand about our type is that when we put out minds to something we are the most driven people you’ve ever seen! Also, were not dumb… that’s a common one, we just learn a little differently.

~I think ENFP are extremely empathetic to a fault, in danger often because of it, way more introverted then they are that to be obviously still extroverted though, and vastly more intuitive and intelligent, and absolute at inauthenticity of any kind

INFJ

~Every type has their own unique set of strengths and weaknesses, but INFJs tend to be broadcast as perfect.

~just because an infj doesn’t always easily let people in doesn’t mean they don’t want to with all their might

~I’m an infj, I think often my type is misrepresented as very openly emotional. While that can be on occasion, it is more characteristic of, say, the infp. Most infjs aren’t in tune with their own emotions and we can be emotionally immature because of this. Thanks for reading!

~In terms of INFJ I feel like people think we care so much and on some level we do but often I’m just exhausted and being nice for the sake of it/because I don’t know anything else, not because I enjoy it.

~I think infjs are given a bad wrap. Theyre talked about as if they are all unhealthy or completely negative and stuck in their ways and are portrayed to be unable to hold down a friendship. This is of course completely off and many/most infjs are some of the most kindhearted understanding people around.

~INFJ. I want people to understand that I just can’t live just for my self cause I care more about other people.

~I am an infj, and everything that I read and see about my type always mentions how much we care about other people and their feelings/problems. We are seen as one of the more empathetic types probably because of higher Fe. While this conclusion might make sense in theory, I think that Ni gets in the way of that pretty often. People need to remember that the cognitive functions work with each other, not independently meaning my Fe might not work the same way as someone with dominant Fe (enfj or esfj). Even if their Fe is auxiliary like mine, their dominant function might cause its manifestation to be quite different. Naturally, I have not met many other infjs in person, but I do have one really close friend who shares my type. He agrees with this statement that we are not all that overtly caring individuals. Rather, we have come to a conclusion that Fe tends to give our Ni some data to work with. It’s funny, the definition of empathy is that you can easily understand and feel what others are feeling, but this somehow happens in an extremely detatched manor. For example, I find it exceedingly easy to read people and know what they are feeling, how they will react, what’s bothering them, etc. However, I don’t actually care all that often. It’s a phenomenon that my infj friend and I constantly kind of joke about. I realize of course that this could simply be an isolated case where two infjs just happen to use their functions in this way, but I thought it was worth mentioning. What I said earlier about functions working together is very important though. Everything is relative, there is no isolation, there are no coincidences.

ENFJ

~I am an enfj and isrespect of myself and others is just something that poses my buttons as well as other enfjs i know. I would also like people o know that enfjs are cabab l e if being manipulative but at least for me in terrified of being manipulative as it would hurt people and be selfish. Which i think is an interesting contrast between the dark and light of an enfj

~my type is enfj, and the biggest stereotype for us is that we just don’t get nervous about publicly speaking or socializing at all. We’re just care free and social, which is true, but people don’t realize that we do in fact get nervous. Its human.

~This may just be me but as an ENFJ, I see a lot of 'motherly instinct’ posts despite having no interest in children or really any such instincts??

~ENFJ-usually only represented as a mom friend always trying to take care of people. ENFJs have huge dreams and personalities. No one seems to talk about that side of us. Maybe because if you’re not close enough to an ENFJ you may not realize this, but it seems like it should be represented more.

INTJ

~we are fun and we have emotions and we’re not just sarcastic little hermits! :)

~I’m an INTJ, and people always associate coldness and sassiness on this type. In fact, INTJs can be in touch with their feelings, since Fi is third in their cognitive functions stack. If an INTJ believe that it’s okay to be nice to other people (due to Fi) they can act as an INFJ in the eyes of others. I just want to conclude that not all INTJs are acting stereotypically, sometimes they just have another well-developed functions that makes them act differently based on their stereotypes.

~Please don’t think all INTJs are cringy ass edgelords who talk like Marvel villains.

~INTJs are said to be extreme neat-freaks, but most of the INTJs I know are actually pretty messy (but I don’t mind!)

~INTJs are extremely loyal, caring and committed towards those they love and respect. They don´t always know how to show it but their love runs deep and if you violate that love it hurts them like hell.

~INTJ - I’m not always shut off and reserved. i have my social and loud moments, even with strangers (just not on a deep level)

~Hey ! First of all, English isn’t my native language, so I apologize if I make some mistakes. So, let’s start. I’m an INTJ woman, and I praise everyday people to understand that before being an INTJ, I’m human… I have emotions ! I can cry, scream, love people around me… There is so many clichés about MBTI types, not only mine (cause ENTJ aren’t dictators, ESFp aren’t labradors, IFP aren’t crying babies…). Please, stop clichés ! (Preach!)

~INTJ-We actually have feelings! We’re not on a Vulcan level or even Spock, even though we don’t always show it (or choose to show it) we do actually feel very deeply.

~As an INTJ, I think people often forget our sensitive, creative side. INTJs are not cold robots! We love our friends and family, and often times are very interested in the arts.

ENTJ

~I’m an ENTJ,and most of the times people find me extremely arrogant and rude. They feel scared of talking to me and feel like I’m an asshole. I’m just as good as any other person.ENTJ people are not always rude and arrogant unless and until you irritate them with your lethargy

~ENTJs are often represented as emotionless. This is untrue. Everyone has emotions; it’s the way we handle them that matters. As an ENTJ, it is most important to me to be able to discern when revealing my emotion works to my advantage or disadvantage. So yes, if I see it as useful, I do reveal what I’m feeling.

~Not all ENTJs are overly aggressive, inconsiderate of others’ feelings, and immoral.

~Everyone assumes we are cold hearted, money-making-maniacs, with no feelings. On the contrary we do have feelings, lots of the, we just are bad at showing them! We also are very bad at taking emotional clues and can be very upfront. Sorry if we offend you!!

INTP

~I feel like most people think INTP’s enjoy math and science. It’s a common pattern with our type, but quite honestly, I’m awful at math.

~I’m an INTP and I want people to understand that an important part of an INTPs personality is creativity. We’re always represented as academic, logical people with no room for creative self-expression, but this stereotype just isn’t true!

~INTP here. Much of my “intelligence” is falsified, in the sense that sometimes I’m making projected leaps without having even considered the conclusion.

~INTP: I have fairly developed Fe even though I’m an INTP. I can read people and situations and decrease stress within a group of people with a joke. I just don’t know how to respond in normal conversation or if someone needs to be comforted.

~That we are not always cold and that even though we sometimes hate people we do like to be around people we consider likeable ~INTP

~I am an INTP. I have this weird theory in my head that INTPs feel emotion as strongly as other types, if not more strongly, but we don’t know what to do with all of that non-logic business. So we do the classic INTP “bottle it up, robot” sorta thing. So then we just feel everything inwardly and don’t express it to anyone, and that’s why we give off the impression that we’re cold and impassive robots.

~INTPs so are definitely not always passive-aggressive. I get revenge swiftly.

ENTP

~I think ENTPs are misrepresented when people say they have no empathy skills, all the ENTPs I know have a very good capability of understanding others’ feelings, they just often choose to ignore this ability slightly.

~ENTP is my type. One of the only problems I have with the stereotypes of it is that we can be super great in making friends. I make maybe future friends but they are never fully my friends though it could be depending on my enneagram (6w5) but my Fe is weak and so is my Fi and Si/Se.

~ENTPs aren´t necessarily loud, annoying or always out to get people. They can be intensive when it comes to their dearest interest but in general most ENTPs are more easygoing and calm than people give them credit for.

~ENTP female : I have write this with a very heart that the dynamics of entps set tardiness responsibility organisational skills are exhausting to us; the inferior si fucks us up; and our ne might make us look chaotic but you can trust us 1000% ;we might not set in your box now and probably ever dont expect us to act maturely or be responsible and as whole dont lose hope on us

~I’m an ENTP, and I feel like Fe is either not shown at all or shown to much when describing our type.

~ENTPs are often perceived as inconsiderate and cunning. Let me tell you that they are the sweetest shits ever (wow that came out weird). They would sit by you all day as you rant about whatever and they just say some deep stuff off the top of their heads that somehow actually calms you down. it’s great :)

ISFJ

~there’s a sort of misconception that we’re pushovers/weak since we like to make decisions that will benefit others but my isfj grandmother (and me too I guess!) was one of the stubbornest, most headstrong people I’ve ever known when it came to her morals and her loved ones.

ESFJ

~ESFJ are often represented as shallow and petty. As an ESFJ, I say that this is far from the truth.

ISFP

~ISFP seems to be a type that is often very heavily stereotyped. As with every stereotype, there are always some cases in which they hold true, however there are a few key stereotypes that I’d like to point out that aren’t universal. 

1) Not all ISFPs are artists. Due to their dominant Fi and auxiliary Se functions, they often express a strong appreciations for aesthetics as well as emotional depth. Because of this it’s true that art can be a great medium of self-expression for this type, allowing an aesthetic emotional outlet. However it is not the only career/hobby that can be enjoyable to this type. Feeling a strong connection to nature, they can often be found doing outdoor- or animal-related work. Surprisingly enough to some, many science-related jobs are often taken up by this type as well, such as various type of therapy, medical work, and more. It all depends on the individual and their unique interests. 

2) Not all ISFPs are rebellious. Being an introverted type, it’s not uncommon for them to be seen as lone wolves. Additionally, they are often seen as “different” and ones to separate themselves from the crowd due to an often-high sense of individualism. However, a very common trait demonstrated by this type that may contradict said stereotype is a strong desire to avoid conflict. If the desire to rebel against “the system” or someone important to them creates too much upset, it may be overridden by their will to keep the peace. Again, it depends on the individual. 

3) Not all ISFPs are obsessed with their appearance. Referring back to their aesthetic appreciation, looking their best can be an appealing and/or satisfying means of self-expression for this type. Being perceivers, however, they tend to live in the moment and prefer to do what “feels right” at the time, so if they don’t feel like putting in the extra effort to give their appearance that refined edge, they simply won’t do it. Not feeling the need to blend in with the crowd, they may not place a whole lot of emphasis on what others think of them and their appearance, knowing their opinion of themselves matters more, as does their rich inner life (which is not simply exclusive to intuitives, another common stereotype/misunderstanding). *These are solely my own observations and opinions, and are not by any means fact. Additionally, they are all variable and dependent on the individual, NOT universal to all ISFPs. That’s all, and sorry this was so long!

~I feel ISFPs are grossly misrepresented and confined to a more limited stereotypes than the other types. Too often they are confused with ISFJs or INFPs. For example, the typical “artist” trope got old a long time ago, I wish people would expand their perspective of what art really is and how an ISFP expresses it. Also, there is a common generalized notion that ISFPs are some hopeless romantics which I believe is false. The idea of spending our time dreaming of an “other half” to find is so counter intuitive to how fiercely independent ISFPs are. I could go on more but this submission format is weird on my phone.

~I’m an ISFP, and just because I have Fi as my dominant function, that doesn’t mean I go wild everytime someone supposedly tramples on my morals. It depends on the individual, since no Fi user probably thinks the same. (Fi, right?!) We actually are capable of sympathizing with what others have to say, to take time and listen to other’s point of view, and not impose ours on them. Meanwhile in the case of an ISFP’s emotional intensity, the very term doesn’t necessarily mean that all we do is make art and cry. We actually use them to be in tune with the world. It is a function we are very comfortable with, just like how an INTP uses his Ti to form theories and an INTJ uses her Ni to plan ahead.

ESFP

~Im an esfp and i cant tolerate the bad words to me.I could be rly shy in some situation or some groups.Im very sensitive.

~Se-heavy types aren’t the brawn to intuitives’ brains - it’s a really harmful stereotype. Most people drawn to MBTI are academic types and to imply that sensors’ value does not lie in their intellect isn’t just harmful but stupid. Se and Si are both important parts of cognition.

~I’m an ENFP and while I’m incredibly independent I really do need help sometimes. Just don’t push us. But we do love help, just not when it’s being implied as 'We can’t do it’

ISTJ

~An ISTJ I know is one of the most goofy and easygoing person I´ve ever met. They´re a pleasure to be around, they can maintain an intelligent conversation about any subject and they´re extremely handy too.

ESTJ

~as an ESTJ I understand that I an close minded and very sensible but I don’t like it when people expect me to be that way. I like to have fun and talk about weird situations too but there is a time and a place

ESTP

~ESTPs are probably the most street smart people but there are also ESTPs who are extremely smart and knowledgable academically speaking. They seem to know how to succeed and get ahead, and most importantly, how to do so while living life to the fullest.

~ESTPs are much more intelligent than stereotypes imply

~Se-heavy types aren’t the brawn to intuitives’ brains - it’s a really harmful stereotype. Most people drawn to MBTI are academic types and to imply that sensors’ value does not lie in their intellect isn’t just harmful but stupid. Se and Si are both important parts of cognition.

Bonus: Enneagram Type 7

~Enneagram 7 is not a permanently happy dumb party animal who wouldn’t know what to do with a book. Firstly, 7 is a thinking type (567). Although 7s are undeniably the least stereotypically intellectual head type, we’re still thinkers! Some 7s (784s in particular) are often negative and introspective, competing with 584s for the darkest type (7s have a dark inner world). I think Naranjo was close: the 7 is a bullshit artist, not a party animal (more sx/so 8w7-6w7-2w3). 7s are very strong extroverts, but theoretical and often ENxP, rather than ESxP (more often 8w7).

a brief history of the men in my life

there was the one who’s native tongue was deprecation 

there was the shitty artist who used my body as his canvas 

there was a thief  - he probably keeps my innocence in a jar; I’m sure he wasn’t happy to find out that he couldn’t pawn it

there was the one whom i was meant to be like

and the one who i was actually like 

there was the gardener who tried to plant a rosebush inside me but just got thorns

there was the one who got away; thank god

and the one who couldn’t handle me at my worst, but then again, neither can i 

there was the first one; and the last one

— i couldn’t tell you which was more unfortunate 

there was the one that gave me some hope

and the one that took it all away

there have always been men making camp grounds of out of my bones — 

but tonight i’m lighting a bonfire 

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Oh my gosh, guys, you are so gooblegabbly sweet i just want to hug you all! *w* 

Thank you so much for reading this comic, it was such a fun thing to do. I’m happy i decided to draw it, it was an exercise, provin that i can do long stories and actually finish them <tho that is a bullshite ending right there>

I am not done with the subject tho! This fanfic was so amazing, and many things didn’t get resolved, so i may do few one-shots focused on missed thingies ^^

(and answering an Anon there - Papyrus said “well, of course!” in response to his brother. He’s going to share his greatness with the world ^^)

anonymous asked:

tbh i think mutsuki just looked like that bc he knows its not real haise so he doesn't care i dont think he was sad or something i mean in ch 114 mutsuki did way worse things to fake kaneki why would he be disturbed now?

I will never try to defend Mutsuki for what happened in 114 it was horrible, but there is a major difference between Mutsuki there and Mutsuki having to watch the execution of the Haise double. Mutsuki wasn’t in the right state of mind, he in many ways wasn’t there, but at the execution he was. There was a major difference between how him and Aura were acting in that moment

Aura was smiling and looking happy about it much like Mutsuki was during 114, but Mutsuki is looking away here. I’m not saying that he is sad or anything I’m just saying that he looked away. Mutsuki even as twisted as it was had feeling for Haise, and if he had any desire to kill Haise it would be so that he can’t leave again. He’s not disturbed or really sad he just can’t watch someone else kill him, and it could also be the guilt of what he realized what he has done in ch 114 which is why he can’t watch the scene as well.

anonymous asked:

sherlock repeatedly begging jim to sit down but jim just ignores him and continues to talk then at one point he just casually strolls down to sherlock and sits in his lap. 'happy now?'

sherlock doesn’t say anything. jim did sit down and at this point he can’t ask him to stand up again. or better, he doesn’t really want to.

jim rolls his eyes. he adjusts himself on sherlock’s lap, then moves forward, lips just brushing the shell of sherlock’s ear. “i’m sorry, i didn’t get your answer” he says, gently and mocking at the same time. he rolls his hips. 

sherlock is in hell 

anonymous asked:

Justin letting Selena to be with Abel because he doesn't wanna hurt her anymore. But someone should open his eyes and show him Abel will make her worse and she'll get sad more. Im just sayin

Justin isn’t letting her be with Abel…. he is realizing everything he did… he wants her to be happy… and I think he hope one day he can be the one to do that again….

rochellenorlund1990  asked:

Hi, Mikey. :-) How are you & your brothers doing? Anything new going on? I'm just checking on you guys. If you don't mind me asking, what are your thoughts about Mona Lisa & Sal Commander coming to Earth one of these days? I'm sorry if I asked before, because repeating stuff on what I said is part of my disabilities & it's something that I can't control of.

It would be awesome to see them again! They were so cool. 

And I think it would make Raph super happy.

anonymous asked:

can i ask if the set spoiler made you happy or not?

You can ask but I’m going to just say again that I can’t even give you a sliver of a hint about it and again say I’m so sorry. I don’t want anyone to read into what I’m saying and I think my likes and dislikes on the show are pretty obvious on my blog and even answering this would give away something that people are going to analyze!.

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I got my first anniversary in XIV recently, so I decided to post some screenshots of my journey so far.

It was a quite fruitful year! I reached Lv.60 and had my first Lux Anima SCH weapon Anabasis, now working on getting BRD’s.

Besides from the achievements in game, I’m glad I can be able to feel happy to play games again. That I can really have things to do and enjoy doing them with my friends.

Here I have to especially thank @tawa-tawa for bringing me into Eorzea and being with me all along the journey, it’s all amazing and wonderful! Also with Tawa’s help, we had our first house in Mist now!

It’s just a small house, but we’ll make it cozy!

I enjoy my time in XIV, I’m looking forward how much more will be in Stormblood!

anonymous asked:

I just had a talk with my mom about how I am gender neutral because I was trying to explain why I like to dress masculine (I'm AFAB) and she kind of seemed confused about it and proceeded to ask me about my sexuality which I'm still trying to figure out if I'm bi or gay.. Basically I came out twice to my mom today and it's kind of overwhelming. It was awkward but she was okay with it although not sure she got the gender part fully. I'm so happy it's over. Now I just need to tell my dad somehow..

Hello!

I’m glad you came out, and that your mom was supportive. Gender is confusing, so just help her out on understanding it a little more, and I’m sure everything will turn out good in the end.

As for your dad, you’ve come out once (twice), you can do it again!! You’re unstoppable, invincible, you’re our newest super-hero. You totally got this.

Good Luck!!

ifellforfandoms  asked:

The recent tarjei x henrik pics literally killed me. Mikki, what do you think is happening? WHAT ARE THEY FILMING? This makes waiting so much harder but also the fact that we're going to see some evak makes me so happy and excited. ♡

OMG I can’t deal at all Nitsa! I am dying. I just want to see them again waaaahhhhh. Like it has to be close now. March is nearly over! and they’ve been filming for a week now that we know of. Come to us Skam! Pleaaseeee. I don’t even have any clue who the main is anymore 😭

Save the last dance for me darling, I want to be the last person you hold tonight

pose referenced from this wonderful shot i always see on tumblr

Phichit Appreciaton Post

The title says it all, Phichit has got to be one of the most jolliest character i have ever met in any series. 

Just look at this cutie from Bangkok, his adorable smile and that cute fringe

I have to say I love his complexion 

AND WHEN HE GETS SERIOUS HE JUST LOOKS LIKE A PRINCE I MEAN HOW CAN YOU LOOK LIKE A HOT SERIOUS THAI PRINCE ON THE OTHER HAND A CUTE SWEET LIL CHILD 

JUST LOOK AT HIM

Or his worried faceeeee

And how he loves to take selfie and that phone caseeee

Awwww

OR WHEN HE SUPER MEGA SHIPS VIKTUURI 

I MEAN LOOK AT HIM HE’S SO HAPPY 

LOOK AT CUTE TINY PHICHIT when he first got discovered 

When he really wanted to skate “Shall we Dance” 

AND HAMSTERS 

Just look at how precious he is I can’t even 

His world is just fluff and filled with cuteness 

HOW CAN ONE BE THIS PURE 

One day we will all make his dream come true 

and he did one again captured our hearts 

LOOK HOW PRECIOUS HE IS

bless when he finished his skate 

Can you not see his joy and happiness 

You did it! Really! Well done! 

Thank you lord for blessing us this child 

We must protect him 

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[30/01/2017]

🌱Hello everyone🌱

29th was the Lunar New Years day so Happy New Year again!!! :)

I read all your comments & asks. It seems like you guys are having a good time with your favorite tea atm haha 🍵

I wanted to make this spread look like a cute newspaper page so there it is📰

And this is super cringy but a lot of fangirling is going on there lol but hey, I can’t help it you know👼

Thank you for 5K!!!!!!!!
Are you guys serious like OMG 😱😱😱
I’m dying no im already dead
Thankyousoooooooomuch♡♡♡

+)sorry for reposting this just realized how bad the photo looked lol

I’m feeling soft again and I’m realizing that I’m the one in control and I’m the one that can determine the extent of my happiness. I will not put myself in situations that make me regret my softness. it is okay to love people and it is okay to want love back and some people cannot give that to you and you just gotta move on and find it in yourself again.

So we can take the world back from a heart attack
One maniac at a time we will take it back (x)