can't say i'm mad about it though

anonymous asked:

do you have suggestions for boys who can't buy boxers/masculine clothing?? sorry if I'm a bother!!

I guess you could try and fine clothing that’s labeled as “unisex” so that if your parents ask then they won’t get mad (I assume that’s why you can’t buy masc clothes) or if you want some masc t shirts just say that you like the pattern/print on it! I’m not sure about how to get boxers though :/
~Alexavier

anonymous asked:

ZUTARA SUCKS!!!!!! -yeah it's me Attackfish attacking you on anon because I can and I'm freaking tired of your bullcrap posts about Maiko and Kataang being abusive yet Zutara is perfect without any flaws even though Katara would be STRIPPED of her culture, and her only role would be to have heirs and be a figure head. HMMM WHATCHA SAY sounds familiar?? Oh yeah it's the SAME EXACT situation that she would be if she was with Aang. But no Zutara can't be abusive because Katara is your SELF INSERT!!

Ok first of all calm down. Breathe in. It’s all right, turn your caps lock off, you’re safe here

Also, I think you’re mad at the wrong person. I don’t think I ever wrote of any ship being “abusive” on this blog because I can’t stand the way people use this word in general, since it’s not really appropriate most of the times (look up this old post if you need proof), also I never thought either Maiko or Kataang are abusive.

I’m not sure if you’re just trolling but I believe many people seriously think like this so I want to break down some myths about Zutarians

I think both Maiko and Kataang (especially Maiko) have aspects that I don’t mind. I just like Zutara more and I think that, for the way I feel, Zutara would have been a more interesting romance storyline. That’s all. Just my opinion. I respect other ships and I can see what’s appealing to them; I just find Zutara more appealing.

Never said Zutara is perfect without any flaws, but the political issue would have been interesting in a possible romance between them. Either way, Katara was not “stripped” of her culture being with Aang, and I think with Zuko it would have been the same thing. She’s not someone to just get rid of her identity once she gets married, whether she is with the Avatar or the Fire Lord or whatever. It’s Katara we’re talking about. I am sure she would have found a way to just be both the wife of the Fire Lord and a key figure in her Tribe, just like she did with Aang (we all know the issues, but I don’t think her depiction in Korra is as bad as they make it). 

DISCLAIMER: this anon is actually some crazy weirdo who apparently spends their time sending messages like this to Zutara bloggers randomly claiming they’re @attackfish on anon (who, of course, has nothing to do with it.)

anonymous asked:

About being non verbal. How does that manifest itself? Because while I'm not diagnosed, I feel that I have a lot of non verbal issues. People will talk to me and ask me things and I know in my head what it is but I can't say it or I say the big thing or the black thing or just 'thing' and people get so mad. Or just "fine" or "no" and I feel like I'm just messed up or have no reason to not be able to talk but w/things I like, I can blab forever, sometimes I stumble though.

You might want to look into expressive dysphasia, my friend has it and it causes her severe word-finding difficulties even when she’s verbal.  She has a lot of strategies for hiding it, like repeating certain phrases a lot to buy time to find the real words she needs.  But if she’s rushed, all she can do is scream or say one word over and over.  And people have trouble seeing that about her, because to them she seems “so talkative and eloquent”.  They can’t see the cracks in her mask.

About being nonverbal… most autistic people are what I’d call part-time verbal.  Like, maybe 90% of the time they can talk, but 10% of the time they either can’t talk at all or have serious difficulty talking.  Or it may be 50/50.  Or really any combination.  But it’s rare that an autistic person can talk 100% of the time, or 0%.  Most of us can talk some of the time.

And it’s not just whether you can talk, it’s also whether you have all kinds of communication problems when you do talk.  These can range from mild things like being literal, to major things like not being able to find words for things, or knowing the exact words but being unable to get them to come out of your mouth.  Or they can be things like saying all the right words, but they don’t match the thoughts in your head so you’re not really communicating.

So even when a person seems 100% verbal they may be only 50% communicative and the rest is non-communicative speech, that just happens to sound communicative.

Autistic people are prone to so many different speech and communication problems that it would probably take an entire book to list them all and go into detail.  But I pretty much guarantee that whatever you’re dealing with has been seen before and may even be fairly common among autistic people.

You wouldn’t know it from my typing but I’m around 5% verbal at my best, and that 5% isn’t communicative, so I’m basically functionally nonverbal.  I used to be more like 70% verbal maybe, that’s just a rough estimate, but I lost that due to a combination of autistic catatonia and my other speech and language problems closing in all at once.  Autistic catatonia can even cause someone who never had a speech delay in early childhood, to totally or near-totally lose their speech as they get older.  (I know people this has happened to.)

Also even when you’re nonverbal, there’s degrees of problems like… I can type some of the time, and be very eloquent in my typing, but other times I can’t type at all, so typing isn’t the universal solution to speech problems.  sometimes I need picture symbols, sometimes nothing works at all.

So there’s so many different ways that speech and language can be messed up that I feel inadequate to cover them all.  LOTS of ways.  But being partially nonverbal is incredibly incredibly common, and often takes the form of being able to speak sometimes but not others.  

Sometimes those times you can’t speak are because of stress or overload.  Sometimes they just seem to happen.  Some people have them at times when we are relaxed and our brain feels like it doesn’t need to waste energy on speech or something.  So it’s not always a bad thing, but sometimes it is.

anonymous asked:

You're my go-to person for DA questions, so here goes! I'm on my second play through and I just encountered Mihris again. Solas was in my party (I can't help myself) and they had some words that seemed to make her pretty mad. I have a bug that doesn't let any of the subtitles come up though. What is he saying? They seem to know each other. Am I missing something about Mihris from another game? Thanks for your time.

This answer is a bit of a long one. First - their dialogue:

Inquisitor: How did you come to be here?
Mihris: I was - Am - First of Clan Virnehn. I left in service of my clan and saw that great tear in the Veil on my journey. I know more of magic and the Veil than any shemlen, so I hoped to help.
Solas: Ma harel, da’len.
Mihris: (shaken) I… we should keep moving.

Later, after activating the Elven Artifact:

Mihris: Well, that should prove useful. And it seems the ancestors left something for me as well. Interesting. I believe our alliance is concluded. Go in peace, stranger. 
Solas: Ma halani, ma glandival. Vir enasalin.
Mihris: I… perhaps you’re right. Here. Take it. 

Translation time. This will get into some spoiler territory for the novel Masked Empire.

Ma harel, da’len.

There is a popular translation that is floating around saying that this means “fear me, child”. Honestly, I don’t know why. It makes no sense in this context. To her, he’s nothing more than a flat ear who she literally JUST met. There is no reason for him to threaten her, nor does she have any reason to respond fearfully. 

The wiki says that harel means something that causes fear, but when you check the cited source within World of Thedas vol 1, “harel” is translated as “to trick or deceive”. I think the confusion is over the translation of Fen’Harel into Dread Wolf… which, realistically should be more like “Trickster Wolf” or “Deceiving Wolf”…. and if you take it back to it’s root word, it should be “Rebel Wolf”… but that’s another whole can of worms. I’ll stick with the canon translation - harel means to deceive.

Ma can mean “you/your” or “me/my” depending on the context. (ex. Ma nuvenin - your wish/as you wish; Ma vhenan - my heart; Ma halani - help me). 

He’s not saying “fear me”. He’s saying “you’re lying”.

She is no longer the First of Clan Virnehn and she did not leave them freely. Her clan was massacred. Solas either knows this or can sense that she is not telling the truth (more on that later). She is shaken because she was just caught in a lie and is redirecting the conversation away from the subject.

Ma halani, ma glandival. Vir enasalin.

This one is less straightforward. Glandival only appears here as well as in the ancient Elvhen poem in WoT vol 2 (pg 201):

Ir tel’ena glandival, vir amin tel’hanin.
When we could no longer believe, we lost glory to war.

Ir (very/more/I/I am) tel’ena (no longer appear/emerge/show the way to)… so perhaps glandival means belief/faith.

“Ma halani, ma glandival” could be something like “help me, your faith/belief”. Phrased differently, it could mean either “help me, in good faith” or “help me, believe me.” Vir means “way or path”. Enasalin means “victory”.

So, in total:

“Help me, in good faith. This is the path to victory.”
“Help me, believe me. This is the path to victory.”

Mihris comes from the novel The Masked Empire. Whether or not Solas and Mihris know each other, though, is a harder question to answer. 

There is a theory that Solas is actually an elf named Felassan (also from Masked Empire) who is serving as the vessel for Fen’Harel. If that were the case, they would know each other quite well. Felassan had a long-standing relationship with her Keeper and she was First of her clan. The idea that she would not recognize him is part of the reason I do not believe in this theory. I only mention it because, if it is true, they know each other quite well.

There is also a strong possibility that Felassan was an agent of Fen’Harel (in much the way Abelas served Mythal). If this is true, then it’s quite possible Solas is familiar with who Mihris is and/or the fate of her clan, though he would not know her personally.

Fun fact: if you tell her to leave, she angrily says “then may the Dread Wolf take you, fool!” 

anonymous asked:

I know people say you can't lose your salvation. but what if my salvation wasn't real? I thought it was, for a long time I really felt like I loved God with my whole heart. but now I don't feel anything except confusion and exhaustion. My faith is just about gone. it makes me mad that I've never felt 100% sure of the afterlife even though I truly did my best to love God. but I don't want to keep being a christian just to make sure I go to heaven. idk what i'm supposed to do with that.

Well your salvation doesn’t even depend on how much you love God. That is the lie of charismatic evangelicalism… that if you don’t feel it, it’s not real. I haven’t “felt the presence of God” (whatever that means) in years. But what I have is something better, assurance from God’s Word (that is, from God himself) that his Spirit has indwelt me and has applied to me the salvation that Christ purchased for me. I have the still small voice of the Lord found in Scripture. 

Typically those who aren’t Christians don’t really care about things like this. That statement that you don’t want to be a Christian just to make sure you go to heaven is spot on. You shouldn’t be a Christian for that reason. That’s another lie that evangelicalism has told us… that eternal life starts when we die. It doesn’t, eternal life starts today. We need to worship God because he is, in himself, worthy of worship… because he has done great things for us. He has provided for us, he has been gracious to us, he humbled himself to the point of death, death on a cross, for us, etc. We don’t worship God out of fear of Hell, but out of admiration of his character. 

Just keep trusting him. Pray and seek his voice in his Scriptures.

anonymous asked:

I could not care less what 1d might think of me, tbh they should be more concerned about what /i/ think of /them/ since I'm the one with the money they're after. This whole "you're not a real fan unless!!!!" thing is mindboggling. The fuck kinda business is this?

it’s such a strange, twisted situation how it is now.  I’m not saying that the band should be totally beholden to us just because we have the $$ – there are definitely issues with fan entitlement – but it’s sickening the way 1dhq is encouraging fans to bully and police each other.    

I know a lot of people have been saying this, but it’s really frustrating how the fandom seems to be putting Liam’s hypothetical feelings before the feelings of their fellow fans.  I think that a certain part of the fandom was undeniably the target of a lot of negativity last night and that a lot of it stemmed from his comments in the Attitude article.  That makes me really upset.  Larry or no Larry, what was said hurt a lot of people, and they are allowed to expressed that hurt without having to be immediately reminded that Liam is a human too.  We know that.       

Random lyrics sentence starters
  • "They make it easy."
  • "You give in to everything."
  • "There's no need to disappear. i've got room for you in here."
  • "I've been longing after you since the start."
  • "All you have to do is stop by."
  • "So shut the bedroom door and shut out the world some more."
  • "Take it easy."
  • "I'm building an empire."
  • "So little time and so much to do."
  • "This is as good as it gets."
  • "Why are you wasting your blood, your sweat, your tears?"
  • "I'm never gonna look back."
  • "Think twice, you might not like it."
  • "Only I know the ugly."
  • "I paint pretty on my face."
  • "I'll fight, I scream, I'll misbehave."
  • "Got secrets you won't see on stage."
  • "All we do is drive."
  • "All we do is think about the feelings that we hide."
  • "All we do is sit in silence waiting for a sign."
  • "Sick and full of pride."
  • "California never felt like home to me."
  • "His laugh echoes down the hallway."
  • "It's so simple, but we can't stay."
  • "Over analyze again."
  • "Would it really kill you if we kissed?"
  • "It's so funny to be seeing you after so long, girl."
  • "I understand that you are not impressed."
  • "I heard you let that little friend of mine take off your party dress."
  • "I'm not going to get too sentimental."
  • "I don't know if you've been loving somebody, I only know it isn't mine."
  • "I know this world is killing you."
  • "My aim is true."
  • "Sometimes I wish that I could stop you from talking when I hear the silly things that you say."
  • "I can't stand to see you this way."
  • "There’s nothing you can do."
  • "Boy, she’s taking over you."
  • "Let’s misbehave."
  • "You should've been there."
  • "I would've been so happy."
  • "That was the moment I knew."
  • "I just wanna be alone."
  • "Your close friends always seem to know When there's something really wrong."
  • "He said he'd be here."
  • "What do you say when tears are streaming down your face In front of everyone you know?"
  • "What do you do when the one who means the most to you Is the one who didn't show"
  • "I'm sorry I didn't make it."
  • "I don't mind where you come from as long as you come to me."
  • "You've shown me eventually what you'll do."
  • "I don't mind, I don't care, as long as you're here."
  • "Go ahead and tell me you'll leave again. You'll just come back running."
  • "And I'll take you for who you are if you take me for everything."
  • "I have the skill, yeah I have the will, to breath you in while I can."
  • "Does your heart ache when you get around me?"
  • "Does your heart break when you think about me?"
  • "I did what they thought would be good for me."
  • "Now you wanna cry call me a cheater, left you to die, though I did neither."
  • "Do your worst."
  • "I couldn't be your friend, even if I tried again."
  • "You had me all wrong."
  • "It's never enough to say I'm sorry."
  • "No matter what I do, you're always mad."
  • "I can't give you what you want and it's killing me."
  • "I'm starting to see maybe we're not meant to be."
  • "There's no way out for you and me."
  • "How I wish that we could meet again."
  • "Don't you break my heart again."
  • "I still believe that change can happen, though it's hard and it happens slowly."
  • "I still believe forgiveness comes with love."
  • "We all have our secrets."
  • "I'll never catch up with you."
  • "Shit gets dark when you lose it all."
  • "You were like home to me."
  • "Please don't close your eyes. Don't know where to look without them."
  • "I know you care."
  • "There's trouble ahead, I can feel it."
  • "You are just saving yourself when you hide it."
  • "I know you care. I see it in the way you stare."
  • "I'll be saving myself from the ruin."
  • "It wasn't always wrong."
  • "Now I don't warm my hands in your coat, but I still hope."
  • "Why can't I dream?"
  • "I can't say that I'm sorry for loving you and hating myself."
  • "It's killing me to walk away."
  • "How come you don't want me now?"
  • "How come you always lead me on?"
  • "Why don't you want to show me off?"
  • "Tell me why you couldn't try and keep me here."
  • "I see you by my house walking with a different girl."
  • "Someday soon, I won't be the one who waits for you."
  • "Have you lost the same things I have lost?"
  • "Do you know that panic I know?"
  • "I wish time was still. We'd stay right here with time to kill."
  • "You left everything behind except yourself."
  • "All I see is question marks and nothing else."
  • "You must have landed in New York by now."
  • "Please don't bring this love down."
  • "You told me you loved me, so why did you go away?"
  • "I don't know how to be something you miss."
  • "I never thought we'd have a last kiss. Never imagined we'd end like this."
  • "You're showing off again."
  • "I'm not much for dancing."
  • "How you kissed me when I was in the middle of saying something... There's not a day I don't miss those rude interruptions."
  • "I feel you forget me like I used to feel you breathe."
  • "I keep up with our old friends just to ask them how you are."
  • "I hope something reminds you wish you had stayed."
  • "I never planned on you changing your mind."
  • "What did you expect from me?"
  • "I know how it's going to end."
  • "I kept my word when I swore that I would let you down."
  • "You knew all along."
  • "Try to forget me and just move on."
  • "Oh, my dear, what have I gone and done now?"
  • "I ruined the evening again."
  • "I don't have love left inside."
  • "Are you desperate for an answer?"
  • "I don't have an ounce of good left in me now, that's why I walked out."
  • "I am not the one that you should blame."
  • "Do your best to forget my name."
  • "Can you place yourself in a moment's notice, in my situation?"
  • "You've made me cold and afraid."
  • "If you gave me a chance to love you, could I come back and love you?"
  • "I gave you everything, but I couldn't give enough."
  • "You threw stones at me and said that they were thrown in love."
  • "Turns out that I don't really love you at all, 'cause love would find forgiveness."
  • "Nothing's good, nothing's right, but I love you."
  • "Turns out that I don't really love you at all."
  • "Love would find forgiveness."
  • "I felt you in my legs before I even met you."
  • "I feel you in my heart, and I don't even know you."
  • "You were all I had."
  • "I was yours, right?"
  • "The crowds in stands went wild."
  • "One day, we will be remembered."
  • "For a moment a band of thieves in ripped up jeans got to rule the world."
  • "I had the time of my life fighting dragons with you."
  • "If you have children some day, when they point to the pictures, please tell them my name."
  • "I've never been so ashamed."
  • "It really felt like you and me were getting better."
  • "I hope that you still want me."
  • "Don't walk away and leave me without a reason."
  • "There's too much to say that hasn't been said."
  • "I know I was wrong and I'm sorry for making the same mistakes."
  • "I know I make it hard."
  • "I know you want to want me."
  • "Wish I could take it back, but you know I can't."
  • "I hope one day you understand."
  • "This can't be the end."
  • "This is the end."
  • "Don't walk away."
Preference #18: You Tell Him You're Pregnant
  • Michael: You groaned as you read the tiny +. "Yep," you said to yourself. This was the 3rd test you had taken. You were definitely pregnant. "Y/n?" you heard your boyfriend, Michael call. You quickly threw all evidence in the trash and left the bathroom. "Hey babe," you smiled. You went about your day as normal, trying to forget that there was a tiny baby living inside of you. You knew you ought to tell Michael, but you had no idea how he would react. You and Michael agreed discussing starting a family before, but both agreed you were far from ready. Through out the day he kept asking you were you okay, when you kept dying when playing video games, when you got lost in a day dream involving diapers and crying babies, when you didn't eat much at dinner, and you lied and said yes. But the next morning, he knew that something was wrong. You were sitting in front of the toilet, puking up all the food you didn't eat, and it never seemed to stop. Michael held your hair back and rubbed your back. When you finally stopped, you could barely hold your head up so he carried you back to bed. "I'm sorry," you mumbled into his muscular chest. "Why baby? You can't help this. It will pass soon," he said, playing with your hair. "No it wont!" you whined. "What?" he said, confused. "Is there something wrong?? Are you like...sick-sick?.....you don't have cancer do you?" You looked up at his face and you could almost hear the 1000s of worries dancing through his mind. "No!!" you told him. "I'm fine. I'm just um....I'm pregnant Michael," you said, worried about his reaction. He looked at you before saying, "Oh thank fuck!" He kissed you slowly, even though you knew you tasted like vomit. "You're not mad?" you asked when you pulled away. "No. I thought there was something wrong. How could I be mad baby?" he said. You sighed with relief. "And we're gonna have a baby," he smiled. "That's crazy," you said, barely able to believe it. "I know. But we're gonna do just fine, don't you worry."
  • Calum: "Babe?" You called to Calum. "Yeah?" he asked running up the stairs. "You okay?" You nodded. "What date is it?" you asked him. "27th, why?" he said. "Oh," you replied. You had missed your period for the second month in a row and were beginning to get worried, before you realised that you could be pregnant. "I think I'm pregnant Cal!" you told him. His eyes widened in surprised. "Take a test!" he urged. "I need to go to an interview, but call me okay?" he said, kissing you sweetly before he left. You took the test, which came out as a big fat positive. You were so worried, mainly because you would have to take care of a little baby, but you didn't know if Calum wanted a baby or not. Well you knew he did, but you weren't sure if he was ready yet. "Y/n?" he called, 3 hours later running through the door. "So?" he asked eagerly. "I took the test.." you said. "Is it good news or bad news?" said impatiently. "I don't know," you mumbled before handing him the positive test. You watched his scan the screen. "It's great news!" he grinned. You giggled. He picked you up and spun you around. "We're gonna have a baby!" he said, his eyes lit up like a little boy on Christmas morning. "Yeah we are!" you smiled. "My mom is gonna be soo happy! What about the boys when can I tell them? Can I get him or her a guitar?? I can't wait to show him to the fans! What should we name it??" he rambled on and on. You were just so happy that he wanted to start a family with you.
  • Luke: You stared at the little blue plus wondering how this could happen to you. You were a good kid. You did well in school, you listened to your parents and you had a cute boyfriend who you loved dearly and wanted to be with forever. But you were both too young. To young to have a baby. You were still in school. You could not believe it. You and Luke were being "safe". How could this of happened to you. What would you're parents say? You heard the bell go, just then remembering you were sat in a cubicle of your high school's bathroom. You quickly got up, checked yourself out of the office and ran to the only place you could think of going; Luke's house. "Y/n?" he said, confused when you showed up at his house, mascara running down your face. "Oh baby what's wrong?" he sat you in his lap and gently stroked you're hair. "Tell me what's wrong princess," he said trying to calm you. "I can't Lukey. You'll break up with me if I do," you cried. "Did...did you cheat?" he asked, suddenly shocked. You shook your head. "No, never," you assured him. "Then what? It can't be that bad!" he said. You shook your head again. "Luke...I'm..I'm pregnant!" you blurted out. He stared at you in utter astonishment. "Oh baby," he said and held me close as I sobbed into his chest. He just sat there rubbing my back, unable to say anything. "What are we gonna do?" you asked between sobs. "You can't get rid of it. It's a real baby?" he said, amazed. "I know. I'm just.. I'm so scared," you said, crying harder. "It's okay," he repeated over and over. "We can do this. It can't be that hard right?" he asked helplessly. It just made you cry more. "Don't worry. One thing's for sure, you're gonna be a great Mommy!" he smiled. "At the child is gonna be so spoiled!" he said. You giggled. Maybe you could do it after all.
  • Ashton: You and Ashton had being trying for a baby for a few weeks when you found out you were pregnant. You were so excited. You imagined the little baby shoes, showing him/her off to your friends, endless sleepless nights that would be totally worth it, a cute baby bump, teddy bears, pink or blue everything but mostly you couldn't wait to see the look on Ashton's face when he held your child for the first time. You smiled all day and everyone noticed. "You look extra-great today," your mom smiled. You wanted to tell her but didn't. "You look so happy? What's up?" Your bestie asked you. You just laughed and winked. "You seem kinda different. But kinda in a good way?" Ashton looked confusedly at you. "We'll I feel different but In a good way! I'm just so happy!" you giggled. "Why?" he said, still confused. You smirked and drummed your fingers on your non-existent bump. Suddenly, he got it, a huge smile appearing on his face. "We're pregnant?" he asked. You nodded, smiling. "I'M GONNA BE A DAD!" he yelled, laughing. "I know!" you said. He kissed you, the kiss filled with passion and excitement. "I'm so happy you're gonna be the mother of my baby," he giggled again. "Hi baby!" he said talking to your bump now. "I'm Ashton, I'm your daddy!" He looked up at you smiling. "I love you so so much already," he told your baby. "I just can't wait to see you. I'll sing to you all the time, I promise. Even though I'm not that good at singing," he laughed again. "Do you think he can hear me?" Ashton asked. "Oh yeah, even though his tiny ears aren't formed yet," you said. He laughed but continued talking. "I'm gonna spoil you to bits. I'll teach you how to play the drums. And you better love Vegemite. And I promise, I'll never, ever, ever leave you," he placed a kiss on your belly. You knew Ashton was gonna be the best dad in the entire world.
  • A/n: Request preferences and imagines pretty please.