Rationalist Tumblr is eager to remind me at every opportunity that people are allowed to choose not to date me because I’m trans, but for some reason never finds it necessary to say that people are allowed to choose not to date me because I’m bi, even though the latter is a preference that many people evidently have and are pressured not to have. Kind of makes it seem like you guys see the one preference as more rational or justifiable than the other.
…which I could maybe agree with, with some significant caveats. But I can’t even make those caveats because people don’t admit that that’s what they’re actually saying.
And you understand, right, how it could kind of grate to be surrounded by people talking about how reasonable it is for people to find you undesirable and being able to say nothing in response, in the context of a broader culture that’s constantly telling you the same thing a lot less subtly.