It’s ugly as hell. It’s a sign of weakness. It hurts, and it can make you hurt others.
Every sign gets jealous, but fixed signs experience jealousy to the extreme.
Fixed signs are used to being ‘the best’ without trying their best. When someone shows them up, the emotional turmoil can be devastating.
Fixed signs are stubborn, but not averse to changing themselves. Scorpio and Aquarius, especially, undergo frequent, drastic transformations.
However, for fixed signs, change is internally motivated.
Jealousy is challenging because it’s an external motivation for change; you see someone ‘better’ than you and you want to be more like them- but you’re a leader, not a follower. You want others to follow your example.
Reversing the natural order as you perceive it means that you have to set aside your pride.
Pride is the root of jealousy. Fixed signs have an abundance of pride masquerading as confidence.
To deal with jealousy, you have to set aside pride and admit that you actually have something to learn from other people; just because someone is better at something doesn’t make them better than you. (And vice-versa.)
Admit that you’re jealous. Compliment the person you’re jealous of. Learn from their example. This transforms pride -the true root of insecurity- into real confidence.
Lord, beer me the strength to have grace with teachers today. Trying to find the balance between being understanding and sympathetic when they miss deadlines is all well and good because I’ve been there, but having to hold people accountable and get my own work done that’s affected by theirs is going to be the death of me.
Here are the
answers to my cute alphabet for Billy Russo! This thing is just so awful for
this psychopath hahaha!! This one was pretty complicated… Hope you like it
anyway, and thank you for requesting it :)
List all the things you’re currently working on in as much or little detail as you’d like, then tag some friends to see what they’re working on. This can be writing, art, vids, gifsets, whatever.
thank you to @femkinkharry for tagging me!! (and indulging my love of rambling about my wips ahaha)
disclaimer: some of these are merely ideas that have graduated from the “fic ideas” do to their own doc but are just notes and loose ideas atm but i’m counting them because i’m only actively working on two and i can’t properly talk about one of them because it’s for an anonymous challenge :p
1. my big bang fic!! affectionately known as tacom because i hate doing title reveals this far in advance ahaha basically it’s a single dad harry au which was 100% inspired by this picture and it’s weird because i normally can’t stand parent fics but i’m really excited for this one!! and even though it’s an au i’m having fun playing around with the dynamics of the band and “what if louis hadn’t auditioned for the xfactor?” (i mean here it’s because he’s younger than harry but ygm) it’s also got headband louis!! and beanie louis!! and footie louis!! (wrapped up in one louis obviously this isn’t one of those triplet fics lmao)
2. this damn fic already has a planned sequel and time stamp save me
3. i can’t actually reveal too much about this one because it’s for the @moodboardprompts challenge but it’s unlike anything i’ve ever written before and a really fun chance to test my storytelling abilities!!
4. untitled youtuber au based on this fanart that i’m having a lot of fun with and has to potential to become a series ^__^
5. 7,000 words of a royal/chosen one au that was intended for my fandomtrumpshate prompt fill but i abandoned it and wrote“the skies above us” (cheeky #spon)instead and now i’m considering changing it to larry
6. fake dating/uni au based on this post that i abandoned and plan to pick back up soon (and also change to larry :p)
other less fleshed out ideas include: a teen wolf au, a ziam carry on crossover, a fic where i can finally use this title i’ve wanted to use forever that may or may not involve kidnapping, a royalty!au very very very loosely based on “the prince and me” and a lot more that i won’t list because this would get way too long haha
I so agree with you on the test not being accurate or conclusive. Like you said therapy horses can show signs of pain or discomfort for many reasons (I have first-hand experience as I have worked at a therapy riding barn for 4+ years) If Raliegh was to show a study done on MANY horses that are being competitively ridden or being ridden by an experienced rider I would believe her a bit more
It’s honestly a shame that we don’t have more studies, I really wish we did. I hope soon someone will do a super comprehensive one with all different types of bits, bitless bridles and different levels of riders and horses.
Aries: ~ shy but extremly excited ~ talks to you 26/9 ~ isn’t as stubborn with you ~ lame pick up lines and random compliments ~ want to do things and go places with you
Taurus: ~ shy aF ~ lots of eye contact ~ laughs at your jokes ~ more touchy with you ~ shares EVERYTHING with you
Gemini: ~ will talk to you like a.l.w.a.y.s ~ and if not to you then ABOUT you ~ becomes more touchy ~ makes fun of you, but in a good way ~ always joking around and tries to make you laugh
Cancer: ~ asks you for advice and help (because they trust you that much) ~ shy flirter ~ always makes sure that you’re happy and nothing’s bothering you ~ isn’t afraid to talk about their emotions in front of you ~ caring mom
Leo: ~ acts to you as if you were their best friend ~ wants you to pay attention to them 24/7 ~ caring and loving even at their worst ~ buys you cute gifts and food ~ always wants to look good around you (tells you what they’ve acomplished and stuff)
Virgo: ~ always willing to help you with ANYTHING ~ tired but never of you ~ moves out of their comfort zone just to spend time with you ~ more goofy and talkative around you ~ will do cute little things for you to show you they like you
Libra: ~ wants to take you everywhere with them ~ often reminds you of how amazing you are ~ flirty and romantic, but not too much ~ always seems happy around you ~ makes you laugh
Scorpio: ~ talks with you about deep stuff ~ shy aS HECKLESS ~ much more talkative around you then they usually are ~ maybe the strongest flirting out of all the signs ~ on and off towards you
Sagittarius: ~ wants to do everything with you (not everything but like… you know what i mean) ~ random (but really nice) compliments ~ bullies you in one minute, cuddles you in second ~ pays more attention to you then they do to others (in public for example) ~ honestly you will most likely KNOW because they won’t really try to hide it
Capricorn: ~ lets you in their world (= is more openminded about their emotions) ~ more goofy, excited an talkative around you ~ romantic (!) ~ talks to you about your passions ~ shares their favourite music with you
Aquarius: ~ talks about you with literally EVERYONE except you ~ talks to you a lot and pays a lot of attention to you ~ bullies you ~ lip flirting (smiling, biting their lips,…) ~ isn’t that afraid to talk about more deep stuff with you
Pisces: ~ stares at you a lot and can also be touchy ~ wants to know everything about you ~ shy shy shy ~ always super protective ~ want to help you with whatever you’re doing
Before I get going, I’m 75% deaf, as some of you know, semi-reliant on hearing aids and lip reading. My first languages were Makaton sign and then BSL. I now use spoken English. This is part one of two. People are People covers characterization and toxic tropes.
There are a lot of issues I find with how deaf people are represented in books, when represented at all. I would love to see more deaf and hard of hearing characters in the books I read- without having to read books specifically about deaf/HoH people- but when I find them, they’re grossly undercharacterized or stereotyped. Authors write them in a way that sets signing language characters apart from speaking characters as if they are inferior, and this makes my blood boil.
I’ll keep this brief.
You may have heard that “deaf” is a slur and you should use “hearing impaired”. Don’t. I’ve never met a deaf or hard of hearing person who believed that. Use deaf for people who are deaf, and Hard of Hearing (HoH) for people who lack hearing. These can be interchangeable depending on the person. This is why sensitivity readers are a useful part of the beta process.
Sign language is incredibly varied. It developes in the same way as spoken language. Fun fact: in BSL there are at least half a dozen ways to say bullshit, my favourite of which is laying your arms across one another with one hand making a bull’s head sign and the other hand going flat, like a cowpat. It’s beautifully crude, and the face makes the exclamation mark. Wonderful.
There are different sign languages. Knowing more than one would make a character multi or bi-lingual, even if they are non-speaking.
Makaton is basic sign language used by children, and it mirrors the very simple language used by toddlers.
Yes, we swear and talk shit about people around us in sign language sometimes, and no, it isn’t disrespectful to have signing characters do this. Just remember that we also say nice things, and random things, and talk about fandoms and TV shows and what we’re having for dinner, too.
Each signed language is different from another. ASL and BSL? Nothing alike. Just google the two different signs for horse.
Remember that sign language is a language, equal to the spoken word
Therefore, treat it as such. Use quotation speech marks and dialogue
tags. You only need to explicitly state that this character uses signed language once, and then let your modifiers and description do the rest.
It isn’t a form of “sub-speech" or “making hand actions”- sign language is a language all on its own: it has its own grammar rules, syntactical structures, punctuation, patterns, idioms and colloquialisms. For example, “what is your name?” becomes “Your name what?” with the facial expression forming punctuation in the same way that spoken English uses alterations of prosodic tone (inflections). There is even pidgin sign; a language phenomenon usually associated with spoken language.
In the same way that you would describe a spoken-English character’s tone of voice, you would describe a signed-English speaker’s facial expressions and the way that they sign- keeping in mind that these things are our language’s equivalent of verbal inflection.
So please, none of that use of “special speech marks” or italicised
speech for sign. If your viewpoint character doesn’t understand signed
speech, then you take the same approach that would be used for any other
language they don’t understand, like French or Thai. E.g “He said something
in rapid sign language, face wrinkling in obvious disgust.” is a good
way of conveying this. The proof that you’ve done this well is in whether or not you can switch “sign language” for French or something else, and it would read the same.
Don’t be afraid to describe how things are said, either.
Sign language is such a beautiful and expressive way of talking, and to
see a writer do it justice would be truly fabulous. Putting this into practise:
“Oh, I love maths!” She said, fingers sharp and wide with sarcasm. She raised her eyebrows.
“I’m sorry.” He replied and made his face small, but could not keep the grin forming. She was starting to laugh, too.
For the sake of readibility, I’m putting the rest of the information in part two.
This is part of my weekly advice theme. Each week I look at what you’ve asked me to help with, and write a post or series of posts for it. Next week: settings and character development (including heroes, anti-heroes, villains, and every other kind of character).