can we just talk about chemistry

During dinner, my uncle revealed another weird autobiographical story. We were talking about the chemistry of bananas, and I brought up the fact that isoamyl acetate, responsible for the distinctive scent and flavor of banana, is the same chemical that’s found in honey bee attack pheromones.

My uncle explained that isoamyl acetate is used when testing the safety of gas masks. They make small glass vials in cardboard tubes that you can crush in an enclosed space, and if you smell banana while wearing a gas mask, there’s a leak. Apparently, he used to buy dozens of these little vials, and then go somewhere in public to covertly smash them, just to watch people try to figure out where the intense banana smell was coming from.

No reason. Just for the hell of it.

The 16 types as things people have told me.

ENTJ : I ate the largest slice of pizza to establish dominance.

INTP : [in a chemistry class] Is electroplating a sport ?

ENTP : if you think I talk too much, just tell me, we can talk about it sometime.

INTJ : I think emotions are mental garbage, *looks at a picture of a cat*, awwwww.

ENFP : I shit rainbows for fun.

INFP : I think you hurt that tree’s feelings.

INFJ : [someone drops a bowl, far away from INFJ] Omg!!!! that was my fault, I’m sooo sorry.

ENFJ : I know you better than you know yourself.

ESFJ : I bought you an iPhone cuz I heard you weren’t feeling well.

ESFP : What do you mean it’s disrespectful ? Its hilarious.

ESTP : [being asked if they’re a drug addict] Shit fam, that depends, is adrenaline a drug ?

ESTJ : Talk is cheap, SHOW ME THE MONEY!!!!

ISTJ : This is a clear violation of…(mentions the rule down to the page number).

ISTP : I don’t need a parachute, safety is for wimps. 

ISFP : My spirit animal is a guava.

ISFJ : I baked you some cookies for the journey (I was just going to get groceries)

can you believe isak and even say each other’s name even when it’s not necessary at all? when they’re by themselves and they’re for sure talking to the other?

good morning, even. did you sleep well, isak? how was english, even? how was chemistry, isak? even, listen to this song! isak, we have to watch this movie! come to bed, isak. even, let’s stay in bed a little more. you’re so beautiful like this, isak. i love you, even. i love you too, isak

they don’t have to say it, but there’s just something so incredibly intimate about saying the name of the person you love. it’s caring. it’s loving. it’s special and unique. it’s two souls in the middle of this universe speaking directly to each other, saying their favorite word

How to study while struggling with mental-health

Em Português

  So, I’m new to this studyblr thing, but I haven’t seen something like this before. Studying can be hard while you go on and off with with your illness, and I believe the most important is bending your way of thinking. It’s hard word. But recovery is such a gratifying hard work. 

   You just can’t study sometimes, and that doesn’t mean you’re not being productive. Treat yourself, your body needs rest, food, exercise, relaxing. Everytime you do one of this, you can congratulate yourself. Congratulate yourself, even if it seems so small. In my bad days, texting my best friend is hard. And I let myself feel good when I do it. When I think that only if I’m studying I’m being productive, I tend to loose motivation, and get into the vicious circle of feeling bad brcause I don’t study and not studying cause I feel bad. So I find other ways to feel productive, and increase them until I can put small studies - and them increase them! This might take a few days, or weeks. But remember that you’re trying and that already is remarkable, so do congratulate yourself and do be proud that you got out of bad to brush your teeth. 

 You can try: 

  • Taking care of yourself 
  • Watching a TV show. 
  • Baking something! I love this one 
  • Stretching and walking. It can be just around your room, but it will wake your body up. Cuddle and playing with a pet if you have one. 
  • Reading anything. It can be the dumbest fanfic ever, but it will help you concentrate, so nice one! 
  • Playing a game. 
  • Sketching drawings or random quotes. And this ain’t meant to look pretty, just to be fun. 
  • Coloring.
  • Making yourself some tea. 
  • Anything really!

  “But others are so productive”. You know what is AWSOME? Living when your mind is fighting against you. You’re already formidable for anything you can accomplish because of this. Remember that you’re not to blame on how your brain works, and allow yourself bad days. And every time you do study, don’t ever think “finally, I lost so many times already” but be SUPER proud of you. I am. You’re doing great if you’re searching so much to find helpful tips already.

   Planing is great, but breaking schedules is ok. This happens to everyone, I promise. You wouldn’t blame yourself if you got stuck in the rain, or had to help a friend, right? So why do if you can’t get out if bed? You can’t always control it. So what I do is planing, and instead of feeling bad about what I haven’t done, I feel good about what I have done. Sometimes, looking at lost dates is hard. So I close my agenda and just make a to-do list, crossing the items when I get to them, and never following orders. And remember to put small tasks in your list as well! 

  Have a routine before studying, and have a routine before studying when you’re not feeling good. This helps your brain associate that it needs to concentrate. 

 I have three routines, for example:
 In my normal days, I just stretch, drink cold water and put some music I like and get straight to studying hard.
 On my sad days, I take a cold shower, eat a snack and play some concentration games. Only then I get to studying, and I start with baby steps - I tend to watching videos or listening to poadcasts first. It takes a while, but anything you can do you need to feel proud about.
  On my hipomaniac days, I go for walks or even runs. I need to tire my body a bit or I can’t focus. Then I take two glasses of water and a shower. Only THEN I study, and usually start with reading, to remind myself that while I have a lot of energy and feel good, it won’t do anything without discipline. 

  Find out what works for you. On bad days it will take a while, but if it gets you going, it is more than worth it. 

  Exercise. And again, it is okay when you can’t - and not a privilege of us neuroatypicals. But exercises are good ways to control your body chemistry. I have three exercise routines - again, for normal days in which I have energy, for days when I have less energy and for days in which I have WAY too much energy. You also don’t need to do this everyday, this is me, but have a schedule. And never fear to break schedules. Also, eat healthy.

  Remember: mental illness is all about chemistry, which is frustrating, but also means you can hack it. And not just with medication. 

  Talk about your feelings, and not only when they’re bad. If you can afford a therapist, great. If you don’t, regularly talk to hotlines or trustworthy persons. Or just write about it. It really works to reduce your number of crises.

  Power posing. Talking about hacking brain chemistry! I learnt this from a lecture called Our Body Language Shapes Who We Are, from psychologist Amy Cuddy - you can find it at TED. And it changed my life. Posing like Wonder Woman or all star spread for two minutes gets your cortisol (stress hormone) levels down, and your testosterone levels up! Sounds silly, but it does work. Also, it does look kinda silly so you can laugh and have fun while at it.

  Have safety plans for every bad emotion you feel. I make lists I can look at when an emotion is overwhelming and pick something to do. Things like anxiety crises, sadness, anger, apathy and self destructive thoughts. This will help you reduce the times of this bad emotions and refrain it from growing into worse things, such as episodes. 

  Motivation. Motivation is important to anyone. I love lists - especially because I can hide them if they’re making me feel bad - so I have one for this as well. Things such as: 

  •  I love learning 
  •  Studying is a way of having control over my brain 
  • I want to be a teacher that makes a difference

  I also love listening to Sia’s The Greatest, it’s kinda of my fighting song. If you have one, blast it and perform it ridiculously around your room until your dog is staring at you like you bring dishonor to the family - or is it just my life. 

  Find your motivation and keep it to your chest. ]

  Try out different study methods in different states. Look at posts at studying tips - always remembering that some might not work for you, and that’s not (just) because of your illness, and that’s ok, that’s why they are so many - and use them to build your study routines. Routines are great because they bring safety and help you when you’re lost. 

 Sometimes you can’t control your sleep. It is important to try, however, don’t blame yourself if your brain just make it impossible some days. This is to the folks that are on the bipolar spectrum and like me can go 5 days straight with a maximum of 4 hours of daily sleep. If you know you can’t control it, don’t force it. It will make you feel anxious and you get MORE enrgy and impulsiveness. Tiring your body and brain helps. 

  There are days when it is three a.m. and I just can’t sleep but am not feeling bad. On those days, I work for a maximum of two hours. It is a nice moment for putting your reading in day. But never do this for many consecutive days, you’ll feel like a zombie later. However, it can help with getting something done. And it is especially calming for unrest. 

  Remember that bad days happen and you’re allowed to feel, to cry and rest. And that you’re never a burden when you need help or talk about your feelings. You are only human. Have routines, break routines. Do crazy wishes like decorating a Christmas tree in the middle of June. Pamper yourself. And just never give up. 

Hope some of this helped.

The Truth About Learning Japanese

(I’m going to start with a random side note: If I ever get a book deal to write Japanese primer, I’m going to call it I Eat Cake Everyday: A Complete Guide to Japanese with Stupid Sentences.)

It’s been a while since we’ve just talked, so I wanted to just take a moment to do that.

I think every Japanese platform at one point write an article about “the deep truth” of learning Japanese, claiming to give you the golden key that you need to become fluent in only 6 months or 1 year or whatever. 

The argument for those kinds of posts isn’t hard to understand: People are fundamentally similar. If people are fundamentally similar, it is very likely that works for me will will work for you. Thus, if this works for me, it will work for you. This does work for me. Therefore, it will work for you (most likely.)

This is why all articles start with something like, “I guarantee you that I’m no genius. [Insert daily task that the writer struggles with on a daily basis.] I’m just a regular person that tried out a few things until I found a winning formula.”

I, personally, want to do my own take on this kind of article. I won’t offer a golden key, but I’ll talk about learning Japanese.

1. Japanese is Coded in the Most Inefficient Writing System in the World

Kanji, the logographs that are the bane of all Japanese-learner’s existence, comes from China. Kanji itself, 漢字, means “Chinese characters.” Kanji were invented to suit the needs of the Chinese language (from way back when, before Mandarin/Standard Chinese was a thing.) Japanese, on the other hand, is a language isolate, and it is not related to Chinese. So the use of these Chinese characters has over time been used in different ways for different words and with different readings- for Kanji tend to have multiple readings, sometimes being just 2 and at other times 8. 

In Eastern Asia, the use of Chinese characters was widespread. It was used in Korea, in Vietnam, in Japan, to some varying extent in Malaysia, and the territories these nations conquered.

Korea developed an ingenious writing system called Hangeul, which now has all but totally substituted Chinese characters. Vietnam adopted the Roman alphabet with many diacritics. Japanese, well, Japanese developed two writing systems based on morae. These two writing systems could be used to write out the entirety of Japanese. Kanji is not really necessary. Further, there is no evidence to suggest that there are so many homophones such that even with context one could not make head or tails out of what was being said. 

So, Japanese does have a potential unique writing system that is easy to learn (it’s easier than Hangeul in my opinion), but it does not use it exclusively because of cultural reasons. Kanji is just hardwired into the culture.

But here’s where my personal opinion and advice come in: If you have to choose between loving Kanji and hating it, hate it. Don’t romanticize it. Don’t go “above and beyond” what you have to know because of your love for Kanji. Just learn what you have to learn, and leave it at that.

“How many Kanji must someone learn?” The official common use Kanji list (the Jōyō Kanji) lists 2,136 Kanji. How many readings are among these Kanji? Somewhere around 3,869. There are also some variations on Kanji that one should keep in mind and some Kanji that one sees only in names, so add around 400 Kanji to the official list and about 400 new readings.

“How many Kanji must I learn for my first year of Japanese?” All of them. That’s my honest advice. Don’t aim to learn only a few Kanji. If you’re going to learn Kanji, learn them all. Think in that mindset. As soon as you decide you want to learn Japanese, work on Kanji. Before you enter a classroom and learn your first few greetings and whatnot, make sure you know all the common use Kanji, or at least that you’re well on your way to knowing all the Kanji.

2. Language Learning is an Intensive Process

Learning a language is a process that scientists haven’t quite been able to describe accurately. We do know, nevertheless, that it’s a heck of a lot different from learning chemistry or carpentry or bicycling. 

In the Western world, there is this idea that one can learn a language in a classroom, normally as a subject period, with periods lasting somewhere from 50 to 70 minutes. Here’s the truth: it doesn’t work very well. (There are historic reasons for this way of learning a language, but we can talk about that some other time.) The success rates of language acquisition in classrooms is ridiculously low. This does not mean that language classes are bad: but it means that it just isn’t enough.

There are many reasons why learning a language in and of itself may be hard. It’d take forever to talk about all of them. 

But let’s talk a bit about lexicons. A lexicon, here, refers to the dictionary in your brain where you store the words you know. If you’re monolingual- you have a standard dictionary in your brain with a word and definitions. If you were raised bilingual, then you have one lexicon with two words and definitions. That is to say, if you’re an English-Spanish speaker, then you have “cat” and “gato” in the same space in your brain and you know that what applies to one applies to the other. Then, depending on your fluency and use, you may have two supplementary dictionaries where you store all the information about words that don’t exist in the other language and idioms and expressions and things like that. 

Now, if you’re an English speaker and, say, you want to learn German, part of what you’ll learn to do is to process your English lexicon entries into German. What that means is that you learn to engineer English words into German. “Father” turns into “Vater,” “to drink” turns into “trinken,” “Love” turns into “Liebe,” etc. So the words that have no relation with English (the non-cognates), turn into a supplementary lexicon and everything else is put through a mental processor. 

Because the brain can do this is the reason why many people in Europe can speak many languages. The fact that someone can speak Spanish, Portuguese, Catalan, Italian, and French is not terribly impressive. The overlap in words (and in grammar) is so immense that what you’re doing is processing one language into another and you’re guaranteed an astonishing success rate.

Japanese, however, is different because it’s a language isolate. You can’t process one language into another. You have to learn words one by one. That takes time. It takes repetition. Memorization is as much an active process as it is a subconscious process. When people talk about the benefits of “immersion,” what they’re talking about most of the time is putting your brain into survival mode, i.e. either you learn all these words (and grammar stuff) or else you will not be able to survive and thus you will die. That is one way of doing it, and if you do not choose this path you have to commit some serious time to this. I believe that if one knows around 5,000 of the most frequently used words in any given language, one is guaranteed to know at least 95% of all the words one will hear/read in a day (given that one doesn’t go read a super technical manual on how to calibrate a nuclear reactor or something like that.) So, the question becomes how will you memorize 5,000 words? How long will that take? If one learns 10 a day, then it’s 500 days, and if one learns 50 a day, it’s 100 days. 

The tradeoff when it comes to speed is that the faster you learn something, the faster you forget. (When you relearn something, it should be faster nevertheless.) So how much time will you commit to learning a language? How will you follow that up? These are important questions.

3. Japanese Media is Considerably Insular

Japan isn’t like the United States. The United States wants every nation to know what music it likes, what fashion it wears, what it believes ideologically and socially, etc. The U.S. is everywhere.

South Korea, recently, is everywhere. K-Pop, K-Dramas, K-SNL, K-Beauty. If you want to know what Korea is up to, it’s pretty easy to find out. They want you know! 

Japan… eh. Japan is pretty good at making anime available globally. People know about Dragon Ball and Sailor Moon and the Mighty Atom and all that. When it comes to dramas and movies and tv shows, they’re not quite interested in that. Ages ago I wrote a post on the misconception of “Whacky Japanese Game Shows,” where I basically explained that most of those shows aren’t game shows but segments on variety shows, the only person in my mind having totally insane game shows being Beat Takeshi.

Okay, fine, what does this mean? This means two important things. First, one’s expose to the language outside of going to Japan or talking to Japanese people will be based highly on anime, which is fine but there are other styles of expressing oneself. One needs a bit of variety. If one goes the information/news route, then one is exposing oneself to something very formal and literary, but dull. Second, it means that when people teach Japanese, they’re going to assume that one wants to speak Japanese for business purposes. This sounds strange to say, but let me put it like this: Japanese is an important part of the world economy and STEM and anime, on the other hand, is not a sufficiently large part of Japanese culture so that the Japanese can figure you want to learn Japanese for that sole purpose. If you want to speak Japanese, then it must be for business purposes (and we’ll consider academics to be within business.) So you learn Japanese through the perspective of honorific and respectful language. This isn’t a bad thing either, but the desire to make you sound nice will often lead to lies about how Japanese actually works at a grammatical level.

(On the other hand, in South Korea the K-Pop/K-Drama boom is such a big deal that people around the world start learning Korean in hopes of auditioning for the big production companies in hopes of becoming actors, singers, dancers, and hosts.)

So here’s my advice: Once you have your feet wet with Japanese, once you know your Kanji and you know how to analyze a sentence (even if the lexicon isn’t all there yet), look at something that isn’t anime. I recommend movies, a lot of which are quite nice. Okuribito (Departures) was a great movie. An (Red Bean Paste) is a more recent film that was wonderful. Look up some movies. Sit down, and watch them. Watch it with subtitles, so you know what the movie’s about. But watch it a second time and a third time without subtitles. Try to see if you can make out a few sentences, read a few signs that appear in the background, take note of expressions or words you keep hearing. No, you won’t be able to understand the whole film all of a sudden, but it’s something new and something good and the more Japanese you learn, the more you will be able to return to the film and make out. Eventually, you will be able to listen to a sentence, pause the film, and look up the words you don’t know.

4. Learning Japanese Doesn’t Happen with One Method Alone

This is rather obvious, but it’s worth finishing this off with. There is an abundance of book series, CDs, cassettes, and even online resources (our own included.)

A language is greater than any method, than any curriculum, than any teacher. No one source has all the answers. One has to be encouraged from day one to look at many resources.

A library is a language learner’s best friend. Why? Because books can be expensive, and you will probably not need all the resources you dabble into for a long time. So, when you begin learning Japanese, look at the entire Japanese section, order a few famous books through InterLibrary Loan, if you have access to that, and sit down and just read the books, as if they were novels. Don’t memorize a thing. Don’t do the exercises. Just figure out their style, their aims, their perspective. Do read the footnotes! The more footnotes a book has, the more useful it tends to be in the long run. Information that isn’t relevant in Lesson 1 may be absolutely vital in Lesson 10. 

Check out some old books if you can. The way people learn a language today is not the same way they learned it 50 or 100 years ago. The most useful Italian grammar book I ever read was written in the 1800′s. Japanese books published before World War II may have some slightly outdated things, such as the /we/ and /wi/ morae, but they will be good for most of everything else. I’m personally dying to get library privileges again somewhere to be able to look into these, so if I find some good book titles I’ll let you know.

Because a lot of language instruction was, until recently, modeled after the way Greek and Latin was taught, reading some of our own material gets you familiar with the lingo, should you heed my advice. So people like to talk about cases and declensions and conjugations and moods and all that. The works of William George Aston are some of the most important books on Japanese historically. So, if you can find originals of those, please do read them.

So yeah, food for thought

Mandatory bughead post #2: My thoughts on Bughead and why it is important.

I’m aware that the words ‘bughead’ & ‘important’ in the same sentence seem like a misfit but there is a good reason why I’ve chosen to write it so. This thought came to my mind whilst trawling through the morass of ‘ships’ & ‘ship-wrecks’ on tumblr & twitter about Riverdale. 

Now, I’m not someone who watches a lot of TV shows ,however, Riverdale was a serendipitous discovery that happened to me two weeks ago. 

I have been a fan of Archie comics since I was little & my two favourite characters were Jughead & Betty, in that order. Watching Riverdale was a revelation as it brought me back to the Archie’s world and I saw it in a new light. I went into it without expectations.

What I was not prepared for was how Bughead would gently creep up on me and reign over my entire existence in such a short span of time. 

You see, I have had a few ships, some fleeting and some enduring,some canon and some fantasy, however nothing as rabid or as intense that’d induce an “I’m SHOOK” moment. Until bughead happened.

When I used to read the comic books, I had wanted Archie to one day wake up & realize that Betty was the one for her, because I could so relate to her as a kind & sweet girl, being taken for granted every time and with a history of unrequited love. I’m 30 now and life-experiences, especially of the bitter kind has certainly changed my perspective about these things, especially about romantic relationships. No more suffering fairy-tale princesses for me. 

In the comics, although Jughead and Betty were my favourites and they always were good to each other, the thought of them as a potential match had never crossed my mind. I was intrigued and amused by Jughead’s woman-hating stance and had imagined that one day an extraordinary woman worthy of him would come and sweep him off his feet.I had no concept of sexuality and its associated complications that we see today, it was only a pure and innocent fantasy in my mind. 

I had only been familiar with the ‘classic’ and humorous golden age Archie comic digests and was unaware of the modern reboots and the various universes. Therefore, when I started watching Riverdale, I was immediately hooked to its modern,quirky & dark narrative and had my assumptions broken down bit by bit with each episode. When I started with the show, five episodes were already in so I binge watched them in a single night, which left me with little time to process the minute details and subtleties, which is why I missed noticing the growing chemistry Betty and Jughead. 

It was only when I began exploring the show on the internet and understood the whole narrative and tone of the show,re-watched the episodes, saw the interviews, trawled Tumblr & youtube and accidentally saw the leaked bughead kiss is when it hit me like slap on the face and a swift kick in the ovaries. It nearly felt like enlightenment!

Once I had seen and felt it, there was no going back. It was a like a virus firmly implanted in my psyche. I resurrected my dormant and inactive tumblr and twitter accounts only to ship bughead. I’m sure fellow bughead fans know the drill of our coming undone so I won’t go into much detail. 

Coming to the next part. Riverdale or rather Bughead has come into my life as a breath of fresh air when I am going through a very dark and stressful phase. I have been going through a very difficult divorce from a man, who caused mental abuse and cheated my family of money & absconded and left me to deal with the consequences and legal battles, triggering my anxiety,fear and depression. A man whom I had trusted with my everything and was completely vulnerable to, used me and left me with a deep fear and mistrust of relationships, trauma and some very hard learnt lessons. I’m an eternal romantic but a part of me has become cynical about it. 

Riverdale is a unique show as is evident in its excellent writing,for those who care to notice the nuances and characterisations. The symbolism, fore-shadowing, word-play, subtle body-language cues of the characters, parallelism and of course, a quality mystery is the gold-standard of writing. Can we also talk about the wonderful and talented cast who have given life to the characters? The show is a slow burn and not for those with a shallow mind who are looking for popcorn entertainment with a lot of mindless drama and illogical  and unstable romantic pairings based on lust and superficial chemistry,

Bughead is not just a run of the mill ship that people are fangirling over. It is beautiful union which tells you the story of two woefully young and tender yet jaded individuals, thrown together by a tragic fate, who are battling the darkness within and without, fighting for something that’s bigger than them and their personal problems. They are fighting for justice, light and hope. In spite of their struggle with their personal demons. Can you imagine what they are going through? For any child, parents are the safe space when the world around them crumbles, but both Betty and Jughead’s parents let them down with lies, manipulation and broken promises and the possibility that their families could be the perpetrators of murder. Under such horrible circumstances, they find the safe space with each other.  

They both are mature beyond their years, insightful, righteous, kind, compassionate, supportive and caring and there for each other without being asked. They communicate with their heart and eyes (sometimes with heart eyes too ;) ) It is not a connection based on lust and hormonal surges. Something very old-fashioned and real in the era of hook-ups. An oasis in a desert.

People who keep harping on about how there is no chemistry at all between Jughead and Betty and that it was rushed and illogical, then I’m sorry that you’re oblivious to everything that is going on in the show. They have been friends since childhood.

I think we do not give the writers enough credit for writing something so profound and refreshing in spite of it being a teen drama. A homeless, abandoned, rudderless boy, an outcast who is bullied, selflessly helps a  girl find her sister and uncover the truth, not because he wants to get into her pants. A stifled, lonely yet nurturing and loving girl giving strength, support and courage to a lost and scared boy failed by his father and society. They are each other’s guardian angels.

So I ask this to all the haters..can’t you see this? Are you so blinded by your superficial hate and violent desire to stuff your ship down everyone’s throats because it gives you some sort of false sense of control over others that you have lost the ability to objectively see what the show is striving for through this beautiful narrative within the confines of what is ostensibly a teen drama? Can we not rise above our pettiness of mindless and hostile shipping to learn from it? Everyone is free to ship whomever and whatever they want but it is another thing to be so vitriolic and spiteful towards the others to have your way. Isn’t shipping supposed to be all about love anyway? Bughead is so much above all this petty drama, it is transcendental.  

There’s so much that all of us, teens and even adults can learn from this ideal of a super healthy relationship that both television and our lives need. We need to move away from toxicity both in entertainment and our lives. Can we not be inspired to work on ourselves and build supportive, organic and nurturing relationships? This should give so much inspiration to the teens of today. With Betty & Veronica, the show strives to re-build the idea of strong, female friendships which seems to have become an alien concept in the world of ‘frenemy’ culture. Why can’t two girls be healthy best friends without the assumption that there is something sexual between them? People are hating on Bughead also for a fact that they are a heterosexual couple. As I see it, love is love in any shape or form.

Also, I do agree that all sorts of representation must have a place in popular culture and thankfully it is happening. However, those who are unhappy with Bughead saying that it erases Jughead’s asexuality, I disagree. Are you saying that Asexual people can’t fall in love? That they don’t deserve an intimate bond with another?

Now, in the larger Archie comicverse, Jughead was never portrayed as being an asexual, he simply was smarter and wiser and had other priorities compared to his hormone crazed pals. He was always the voice of reason. I’m sure that there are people like that, not everyone who doesn’t choose to be a crazy, horned dog is asexual. Besides, Jughead is shown to be asexual in only one version of the comics. There can be multiple variations of characteristics in the larger universe. Riverdale chooses its own narrative and characters as it sees fit for the context of the show. Therefore, in this version, Jughead isn’t asexual or aromantic. There is no erasure of any kind. Even if he were asexual, I’m sure that Bughead still can have a loving and healthy relationship.

It is my personal opinion and I am not trying to belittle anyone or trivialising the serious issue of representation in anyway. However, I do feel that in today’s world where there is so much hate and strife, showing love and companionship in its true and purest form is the most important issue here, first and foremost. It doesn’t really matter whatever is the sexuality or orientation of the characters in question. So, let us all keep our differences aside and show our love and support to something is for the greater good. Love is universal and not restricted to a specific type or form. Besides, it is fiction,let’s remember that. 

I also think that we must avoid pressuring or attacking the creative team, actors and show runners into bullying them to change their vision for the show. That truly doesn’t serve any purpose other than being detrimental to the quality of the show and making the team de-motivated. Let’s all appreciate the hard work and love everyone has put in to present to us something that is so beloved and cherished by all.

Why is showing a healthy, supportive, wholesome and stable relationship necessary? I can tell you why, because I have suffered greatly in an unsupportive, toxic and abusive relationship that was all about selfishness and greed with no regard or love for the feelings of the other person. Where one person only gave and gave and the other only took everything. I was left drained and battered and I’m still bearing the burden of its ruins.

So, when Bughead came along, it was catharsis and relief. It was about having the hope of bright sunshine in the pitch black darkness. It was about selflessness and having high standards and working for the greater good, something that is bigger than us. It was about women not wallowing and pining after some boy who had little value or regard for them and not allowing a man decide the course of their lives .It was about unconditional love and support without labels. It was pure beauty and art, like a perfect symphony.

Bughead isn’t merely escapism. It is the light of goodness that illuminates our hearts and fills us with compassion and hope for something beautiful. It is the delicate flower that grows in the parched desert of hopelessness and deceit.

Let us protect it all costs.

renae9000  asked:

Damon says he will always choose Elena first... But that statement isnt about Elena or his love for her.. Its about Him because he has put all his Happiness, his life, his everything in having her.. He cant Let Go.. Just like he did with Katherine until she Hurt him.... Love Requires Sacrifice Always... DE's love is Selfish.. They had a real chance with Bamon but chose not to go down that road...

Yeah, the whole “I will always choose you” promise died a looooong time ago. It died in 6x22 when Damon chose to save Bonnie and live without Elena for 70+ years and it’s died every single time Damon has saved Bonnie’s life since. It doesn’t matter how anyone tries to spin that, Damon is choosing someone else above Elena and it’s not for Elena’s benefit, because how can it be? If Damon let Bonnie die in 6x22, yeah, Elena would’ve lost her best friend, but she’d also have got to spend the rest of her life with her brother, Matt, Tyler, Alaric and his twins, which is something she wouldn’t have been able to do under the coma (if the writers weren’t gonna find some loophole) since they’d have been dead by the time she awoke. When Damon saves Bonnie, it’s for Bonnie and it’s for him. No one can convince me otherwise. 

I agree about Damon putting all of his eggs in one basket where love is concerned. Honestly, I put it down purely to the fact that Damon doesn’t know what real, healthy love is, because when has he ever experienced it? He grew up with a mother and father that clearly didn’t love each other, his mother didn’t love him enough to stay and raise him and his father was cruel and somewhat abusive. When he met Katherine in 1864 she was (I assume) the first and only person to show him love and the first person he felt love for. Katherine said it herself - she taught Damon how to love. But if there’s anyone on the planet that shouldn’t be allowed to teach someone how to love it’s Katherine Pierce, because let’s be honest, she doesn’t know what true love is either. She spent practically her entire life on the run, lying, manipulating, using people for her benefit and discarding them when they no longer had any use. And even with the people she did love, she struggled to be selfless because she was so used to putting herself first. This is the person from whom Damon learned to love, so is it any surprise that he developed such an unhealthy obsession and love for Elena? Everything about Damon’s feelings for Elena stems from the damage that’s been done to him from his past experiences. He began to obsess over Elena in the early seasons because she looked like Katherine, he had an inferiority complex with Stefan and wanted to exact revenge on Stefan for turning him. When Damon actually started to fall in love with Elena it was because she saw the good in him and made him feel as though he was actually cared for, which was something he’d lacked throughout his life. Once he was in a relationship with her he loved her because he perceived her to be his humanity, that she made him a better person, which again something he’s always struggled with. I could go on, but the point is that everything about Damon’s love for Elena comes from the sad, lonely, damaged, insecure little boy that he still is deep inside. It’s not about Elena, it’s about Damon. It’s about what she does for him, how she makes him a better person, how she makes him happy, how she makes him feel loved, how she’s the best thing to ever happen to him. So yes, you’re right Delena’s love is selfish. 

As for Bamon…don’t even get me started. I could go on forever about why they should’ve become canon, but I won’t since I have other posts where I talk about it. But all I will say, is that you’re completely right. All of the foundations for a Bamon romance have already been laid and there’s been so many opportunities for the writers to make them canon. Their first “I love you” scene had been building for a hell of a long time, and there’s absolutely no reason why they had to add the, “Like Elena loves you” part. It was honestly just a cop out. And watching the scene in 8x10 where Damon reads Bonnie the letter he wrote to her before he chose to desiccate just confirms to me that there is 100% something between them. The emotion in that scene, the chemistry…everything about it is just proof that there is so much potential for Bamon. Even the endless references to Elena in that scene don’t diminish the fact that what Damon’s saying proves just how much he completely loves Bonnie. Everything about that scene, from the setting, to the music, the expressions on their faces, emotion in their voices, the words they say, the way they look at each other - it’s the definition of romantic. How anyone can perceive that in any other way, I have no idea. It also proves further, what we were talking about earlier that Damon has broken his promise to always choose Elena, because in this speech he makes a new promise to Bonnie and ironically, it’s one he made to Elena back in season 3. And that is, “I’m so sorry I left. It won’t happen again.” So not only has Damon chose Bonnie over Elena, repeatedly, now he’s vowing that he will never leave her. That’s a pretty hefty promise for a friend to make to another friend, don’t you think? 

In conclusion, Bamon not becoming canon is the biggest mistake the writers have made, and they’ve made A LOT of them haha. 

Notes || Jughead Jones

Prompt: I have an idea! A fic where Juggie used you to find info on Jason and you find out cause he made like a log about it and you get super upset because you love him but Juggie says it was a mistake cause he fell in love with you and kissssssessssss

Requested By: Anon

Warnings: Angst, fluff

A/N: Ok so since we know nothing about Jason I’m just going to make stuff up about him based off of what Cheryl says about him.

“So what was Jason like?” the raven haired boy sitting in front of you asked.

“He was cool, he really loved his sister. He would do anything for her,” you reply. A pang of sadness arises in your chest.

You are friends with Cheryl, mostly because your families are super close. Of course being a River Vixen also makes you close to her, since you are close to Cheryl it meant that you were close to Jason. When Jason was murdered you were the only one there for Cheryl, her parents were upset but they spent no time trying to comfort her. 

You met Jughead by chance really, you were partnered up with him for a chemistry assignment, which meant you had to get to know him. It turned out he wasn’t as weird as Reggie made him out to be. Hence you started to attempt to be friends with him. It took months but Jughead finally let you into his little circle. But recently your feelings towards the writer started to change, he is sweet, his humor is rather dark and dry but it’s funny.

“I mean could he of done anything to get murdered?” Jughead asks.

“No. And can we not talk about this please it’s just really depressing,” you sigh.

“Fine, whatever I have to help Betty with the Blue and Gold anyway,” he grabs his things and walks off.

A couple of papers fall out of his things, when you notice though he’s already to far gone for you to catch up, so you decide to hang on to them until tomorrow. The papers look like notes so knowing that he’s ahead in his classes you decide to take a read of them. 

Y/N is super close to Blossoms, some info should be there. Apparently the families are close. Y/N and Jason were best friends that makes my life easier.

The list continued with little bits of information your “friend” worked out of you. He was so subtle you didn’t even realize Jughead was doing that. You find a sticky note and write:

Really Jughead I thought we were friends, but I guess not. Also to think I had a crush on you.

You put the sticky note on the papers and slip them into his locker. 

Time skip to the next day

You go to lounge like usual and hear Reggie Mantles musings about how Sheriff Keller thinks he did it. It does get a little tiring hearing him complain each day but you’ve learned to block it out.

Cheryl enters the room and pulls you out because you are late for cheer practice. On your way to the locker room to change an arm grabs you and pulls you over. Your beanie clad friend pulls you into an empty classroom.

“What Jughead,” you snap.

“Y/N, look I’m sorry. What I did was an honest mistake. I never should of done that. I never thought I’d say this but, I’m in love with you. I hope you can forgive me,” Jughead blurts.

“Aww Juggie. I do agree what you did was wrong but I guess I can forgive you.”

Jughead pulls you close to him and puts his lips on yours. You pull apart as you hear Cheryl calling for you. You quickly exit the classroom with a smile plastered on your face.

“What’s got you so happy?” Cheryl asks.

“Nothing,” you reply, butterflies flittering in your stomach.

“Sure,” Cheryl rolls her eyes.

Your phone beeps in your bag. You pull it out and read:

Pop’s at 5? - Jughead

Are you asking me out on a date???

Yes, in-fact I am

I would love to

anonymous asked:

i just wanna talk about jikook 25/8 because they're so in love it makes me want to sob? like they just drop so many hints and i just think jungkook has just grown to love jimin so much? in 2013-2014 he was scared shitless of him, like of how much jimin showed his affection. and then he just gave in. he has a soft spot for jimin for sure. jungkook is dominant af but goes soft for jimin when he needs to. that spank was so much more than just for the skit tbh. u don't just do that to your hyung.

I feel like Jungkook has always appreciated and been fond of Jimin, but definitely back in the day he struggled. He was a bit shy, a little introverted and he said himself that he struggled with expressing his emotions and saying what he feels. He was really upset about his inability to be open about his feelings back in the day, if you’ll remember, when talking to/about ARMYs. I’m sure that carried to all of his relationships. As much as he struggled with interacting to and talking to ARMYs, it was probably that way with Jimin too.

That’s why he ended up just kind of freezing up or running away or teasing Jimin when Jimin was cute @ him. But ya know, he doesn’t struggle nearly as much now. Barely at all actually.

Jeongguk has really grown into himself. He’s a confident, affectionate, respectful and loving man these days. He still doesn’t speak his emotions much, because he’s a very action oriented man. That means he tends to speak through glances, through attention and touches. He’s a physically grounded man and I think more than anything, you can tell that Jeongguk is affectionate towards Jimin.

To me it seems like, over time Jeongguk learned that if he isn’t good at speaking his thoughts very much, he would just show them. And I think around that time he started growing up, stopped being quite so shy, learned how to express himself better, was the time you can see a difference in the way he responds to Jimin.

It was never about Jeongguk not liking Jimin back, it was always about him not knowing how to deal with their relationship, and how to express himself well about it either.

He definitely has no issue now. Between touches, stares, unspoken things literally EVERYWHERE, and even occasionally voicing his thoughts, or at least, expressing his fondness through teasing, he clearly has gotten used to both Jimin’s presence and their dynamic, as well as expressing himself to Jimin .

Jikook has the best dynamic in BTS when it comes to unspoken agreements and understanding each other.

ALSO, abt the a$$ slap that changed the world, Jeongguk took the MOST enjoyment out of that it was fkn WILD. I will nEVER be over it. It was 100% more than just a skit slap, anyone with EYES should be able to see that tbh.

Also can we talk about Jikook’s chemistry because???? 👀👀👀

anonymous asked:

i don't know if i'm the only one, but i think henrik and tarjei make each other so much better than they already are? like yeah they are such good actors on their own, but when they act together, it's something i can't explain with words like they are so good together???? i don't know how and where julie found henrik but i'm just so grateful bc he is the perfect choice. i don't think tarjei or henrik will ever have this much chemistry with someone else again. it's just WOW.

They’re really something special, aren’t they?? I don’t know if I’d say better because we saw a lot of Tarjei acting in a room by himself and he had me in tearssssss with just that but! I think the two of them have really amazing chemistry and trust.

With chemistry, there’s a reason that we talk about their eye contact a lot? Like at the end 2:10, they completely establish the “but there’s no turning back now” in their relationship just by the eye contact they’re making? They realize what this is going to be and we realize what this is going to be just by the looks they’re giving each other. You don’t need more than them talking and laughing and looking in a room together once.

Then as @toneelspeler said, “Look, you can have chemistry with another actor right away, but trust needs to be built. If I’m doing this, can I count on you to give me your best shot and vice versa? This is important to do, because if the trust’s not there it is noticeable.” It’s going to be even more important when you’re portraying such an intimate relationship. Isak and Even were both vulnerable in front of each other in a number of ways we didn’t see with other characters. And I think a lot of people got hooked on this show because they were so good at all the little details that said “this person is intimate with me”? They’d reach for each other and touch each other in all these different ways and just trust that they could do that. That it was okay, that the other party would follow along. In a relationship, your boundaries are so much different than with other people and when you watch them, you see that. And I think it can be a tricky thing to get right with someone because it’s such a base part of you. And you’re acting it out in front a roomful of people with cameras and mics in your face, heh. We see intimacy but it can’t be an intimate setting by necessity. 

I really would love to hear more about how they found and cast Henrik too because it was a bit different than their usual casting, as I understand it? He’s one of the only people in the cast who was already established as an actor? So I’d love to hear about if this chemistry just came from the first time he was reading opposite Tarjei? If that’s what won him the part over others? Because what I really get from them is that they feed into each other so beautifully, they give each other a lot. Just… I’m so thankful that the stars aligned and they both were in these roles in this production.

college boyfriend!hyungwon

Originally posted by wonhontology

  • somehow, someway… the frog prince has become a new lowkey bias of mine,,,, totally on accident
  • no accidents here we stan like men
  • so this post is for this request!! i feel like all i ever do is college boyfriend aus but they’re like… so much fun
  • now, hyungwon… no one knows what he does in college

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Notes from a Scorpio to each sign about past relationships with them

Aries: We are constantly fighting and making up. I find it hard to please you in conversation. Everything I tell you is either shut down or the start of a war. You don’t meet me half way. We have so much passionate and amazing sex, but I just don’t feel like I am enough for you, but for some reason I keep trying to be. I love you, just love me back.

Taurus: We totally get each other but you’re always talking to so many other people and your feelings change weekly it seems like. One week you like me and the next you like somebody else, it’s hard to keep up. In some ways we are like twins but I can never tell what you actually want from me.

Gemini: We laugh at little things and we are always trying to do something fun together! We get kinda bad about having sex, because we do it so frequently. We agree about a lot of things but the small disagreements we do have seem to get the best of us.

Cancer: We started out great. You were my best friend, and then at one point you became my other half. To this day, even though we didn’t work out, I’m glad we were together. I learned a lot from you. You were there when I was scared and yet also, you were there to make my good days even better. The only flaw that got the best of us was that I couldn’t be controlled by you anymore, I couldn’t take it anymore. I needed space, and all you would do was smother me even more. You tried your best to understand where I was coming from but in the end, you were more scared of losing me than you wanted me to be happy.

Leo: You were different than anybody else, and for that you will always stand out. You didn’t want to leave me, but I made you. Like Cancer, you didn’t know how to give me space. Although you tried your best, you needed more of me than I was willing to give you. I don’t know if it was because you caught me at a bad time in life or if we just weren’t meant to be, but we needed to end. You were a great friend and you always tried to help me with everything, but something just wasn’t there. At first, you were a great listener, but after a while I felt like you didn’t like hearing about everything that was on my mind anymore, and I guess when you made me feel that way just one time, that feeling stuck with me. I’m truly sorry.

Virgo: Gosh you’re amazing. Nobody understands me the way you do, and in that aspect, you really are my best friend. We can talk about anything and eventually it will turn out being deep. I find myself telling you things that I don’t tell anybody else. We have this unspoken connection that allows us to just click so well together. I think at first everybody knew we liked each other besides each other. We are cute together, and all of our friends are secretly rooting for us. I hope some day we let each other in all the way and explore all the chemistry between us.

Libra: We are always goofing around. We have similar sense of humor that brings us close. You’re a great friend, but you’re like a one way street that I’m trying to go the other way down. It doesn’t work. We get each other, but you don’t ever see things the same way as I do. I’m glad we mutually decided to be friends, because you are one of the most influential friends I have in my life.

Scorpio: We were perfect. If any past relationship I have been in would be considered “goals” it would have been the relationship I had with you. We clicked. We became best friends instantly. We talked about everything and nothing all at once. We told each other we liked each other once, just once, and that was enough for both of us. You gave me space when I needed it, but never failed to spend as much of your free time with me as you could. I’m always going to be cheering you on in everything you do. Still to this day you mean the world to me. You showed me how I should be loved. You were the only person who knew how to love me, and that’s why on some level I will always consider us soul mates.

Sagittarius: We never dated, but we definitely should have. So much untouched  chemistry between us. We are great friends. We laugh and joke around all the time. We both were just a little too awkward to start anything to be more than friends. With you it’s more of a “what could have been” because we never tried. We never gave it a go. Then slowly we just kind of decided to go for different people. A part of me will always wonder what could have happened between us.

Capricorn: I was in a difficult position when you liked me. I was with somebody, and I don’t cheat. You kind of started liking me really fast. I never tried to make it a competition, but you made it one, and then you decided you didn’t want to wait for me. Understandable. You were one of a kind honestly, and had such great intentions. I really hope that someday somebody makes you happy. You have so much love to give and that’s what makes you stand out.

Aquarius: We were always kind of difficult together. Hot n cold. On and off. With you I never got stability. You cheated. I cried. We would make up and then suddenly all the same issues would come up again and you made me feel like everything was always my fault, but you couldn’t ever let me leave you. For whatever reason, whenever we would leave each other, we would always come back. It became kind of weird that we actually did end, and I’ll always have a sense that we were unfinished.

Pisces: We are great friends. I have so many great memories and laughs with you that I think about all the time. We can talk about so much together and it’s all great. I’m not sure if I could ever really see us together, but I know without a doubt that I would be happy if we were together. Part of me is always going to want to keep you in the friend zone just because you make such a great friend that I can rely on

anonymous asked:

Hi can I request soulmate au with college professor Oikawa and Kuroo (separately) where the reader finds out they have the same tattoo but since a lot students claim to be their soulmate she waits until graduation to tell them ?Thank you

Hope you enjoy it :)

Oikawa Tooru

You were tired of listening to the girls in your class gush about your young professor. It was always the same conversation: they were all sure that Oikawa was their soulmate, they just needed to see his tattoo. Their tattoos, a mix of wrists and ankles and some shoulders with various patterns, were constantly on display in an attempt to catch his eye.

You sighed, having heard these same conversations all year. But you had to smile a little, knowing the secret that only you knew.

A few months ago, you had went to a study session for Oikawa’s class, and his sleeves had been rolled up to the elbow, exposing the inside of his left forearm. A tattoo made of curving lines that looked like it was missing its other half was inked on his skin. And the other half was inked on your forearm.

You had nearly fainted when you noticed. How could your soulmate be your teacher? Thankfully, he was only in his first year teaching, and you were in your final year of college, so there wasn’t a huge age gap, but it still felt strange. You hadn’t expected your soulmate to be quite so…popular.

He was definitely attractive, no doubt about that. Wavy brown hair and chocolate brown were only the beginning, though. He was extremely smart, his knowledge of astronomy was amazing, but he seemed very much like a goofball. He liked to joke around with the students in his class, and everyone loved him.

You had known for a few months that you had identical tattoos, but it seemed impossible to tell him. With the girls constantly surrounding him, and the fact that you were still a student in his class, you couldn’t just walk up and say that you were his soulmate. He would probably laugh it off before he even thought about looking at his tattoo.

But after your graduation ceremony, you knew it was time. You spotted him talking to another girl who had just graduated, and he was laughing. His wide smile cut across his face, his eyes bright behind his glasses.

You excused yourself from your family and walked over to him. The girl glared slightly at you as you walked up but you ignores her and tapped his arm. “Oikawa-sensei, can I speak to you for a minute?”

“Sure, but I’m not your teacher anymore, _______. Just Oikawa is fine.” He smiled at you, and suddenly you felt a bit more nervous than before.

“Um, I noticed a while ago…the tattoo on your arm.”

“Oh, yeah, the soulmate thing. I’ve had it for a long time, I forget about it a lot.” He said, absently running a hand over the outside of his sleeve.

“I have the same one.” His smile fell slightly as you rolled up your dress sleeve. You thought he looked disappointed, and you blushed. You hurried to excuse yourself and pretend like this had never happened, but he had already caught your wrist and pushed your sleeve the rest of the way up. “I’m sorry, I shouldn’t have told you.”

“No, it’s…I’ve had this tattoo for nearly ten years and I never really thought I would find the match to it.” He said, the same strange look on his face.

“You look upset.”

“Oh! Oh my God, I’m sorry, _____. Seriously, I’m just surprised. And we don’t know anything about each other. But we can fix that.” He smiled again. “I’m really sorry if I made you feel bad. I’m really happy that you told me, _____-chan.”

You talked for a while more before exchanging phone numbers and making plans to meet up for coffee later in the week. And despite the glares from some of the other girls in the vicinity, you were glad that you told him, too.

Kuroo Tetsurou

You were a little bit in love with your chemistry professor.

But honestly, what girl in your class wasn’t? He was young, only a few years older than you, with messy black hair and eyes that always made him look like he was up to something. The girls in your class were always trying to find out one specific thing about his appearance, though: what his soulmate tattoo looked like.

It wasn’t on his wrist, which disappointed a few girls on the very first day of class as they looked down at the patterns on their wrist. It didn’t seem to be anywhere visible on his body (which led to more than a few rumors and more than a few girls picturing what he looked like without a shirt on), but then he wore a short sleeve button up shirt to class one day, revealing the pattern tattooed on his bicep.

When you noticed that the pattern looked like the missing half of your own tattoo, you had paled and leaned over to your friend who hadn’t taken noticed yet. “Does his tattoo look like mine?”

“Who? Kuroo-sensei?” Your friend answered, finally noticing it.

You pushed your sleeve up and showed your tattoo. Your friend studied it and confirmed your suspicion. You sighed. “Of course it’s a professor. And of course it has to be this professor.”

Months came and went before your graduation was upon you. The girls in your class had long since given up on Kuroo, since his tattoo had been revealed, but none of them knew that you had the match.

“You’ve got to tell him. I’m pretty sure that’s a requirement of the whole soulmate thing, ______.” Your friend told you at graduation. He was across the aisle and you knew that you had to tell him. You hadn’t had his class since the previous semester, he probably wouldn’t even remember you as a student.

You stood up and confidently strode over to him. “Excuse me?” You sajd when you approached him. He looked up at you, eyes half covered by his messy hair. “Can I sit here?”

“Sure, go ahead.”

You took your seat, trying to figure out how to go about telling him, and finally you decided that straightforward seemed like the best way to tell a guy like him. “I think we have the same tattoo.”

He looked surprised, but his trademark smirk showed up on his face. “You wouldn’t believe how many times I’ve heard that since I started teaching.”

You shrugged off your jacket and pushed up the sleeve of your dress. “It looks like this, doesn’t it?”

His eyes drifted to your arm and widened as he took in the lines and curves that weaved into a pattern identical to his. He cleared his throat. “Um…what’s your name?”

“________.” You answered.

“I’m Kuroo Tetsurou. I guess we should get dinner or something? I’m sorry, I have no clue how to do this whole soulmate thing.”

You laughed. “I don’t have much experience in the matter myself. But dinner sounds like a pretty good place to start.”

anonymous asked:

Why do you think melissa gets so little credit from the fandom for her acting and impact in Supergirl? I've been around this fandom for a bit and it seems like it's primarily girls/women here for Chris or gay women her for supercorp/katie. Of course, I'm generalizing the stats here, but that seems to be the majority in the tags. I think that's also why she doesn't talk about ships when asked in media. Continued...

pt. 2 It seems like that was the trend for her character in Glee too, reduced to a love triangle and ships. And I mean, I get it, it seems like she could have chemistry with a pile of sticks, and is really gorgeous which makes her easy to ship with anyone. But my goodness, can we go to the kara danvers and melissa benoist tag and just see her?? Not likely. I just want her to get some credit for what she does acting-wise on this show, because she kills it every week and is talked about the least.

I agree there’s a lot of people for Katie but I think the next biggest group would be the Chyler/Floriana stans lol. A huge portion of the fandom could not care less about Chris as a result of disliking Mon-El.

I do agree that Melissa probably doesn’t get enough credit from the fandom, especially this season. I think part of it is that as supporting characters have developed this season, so has their fandoms, and Melissa has maybe been neglected a little. And I’m with you in that I’d love to be able to go to her tag and just see her! It’s such a mess all the time.

bloodyzombie25  asked:

You don't have a lot of friends anymore?!?! I...I'll be your friend! I don't live close but we can still just talk about random shit and!

Ngl the quickest way to my heart is Sheith. I love Sheith and if you love Sheith and screaming about fictional characters as much as I do than our potential friendship chemistry just got a +200 exp boost. 

anonymous asked:

Can you talk about the physical attraction between Clace because I feel like it's often ignored

Actually one of my favorite things is how the show choose to portray their physical attraction. 

We got moments like these where you can see the chemistry & sexual tension between them. We see these intense looks between them where they are checking each other out or just one being simply amazing by the other.

Then we get the physical touch aspect of their attraction. Jace from the moment he met Clary could not keep his hands to himself. He always touching her face, arms or back. That to me is a sign of not only attraction but that for Jace its more then that. He cares but doesn’t exactly know how to vocalize it.