can we just address a few things

3 Easy Steps to be a better Trans Ally

We all want to be the best allies we possibly can be–but sometimes this means addressing hard truths and making accommodations appropriately. 

Whether you’re a member of the trans community or just a supporter, here are a few things to take into account with your activism/involvement with the community as a whole in order to create the safest and most inclusive space. 

1.) Recognize and address racism in the transgender/LGBTQ+ community
Racism is very much alive and the LGBTQ+ community is not an exception. Although a members of the trans/LGBTQ+ community are minorities themselves, white members often disregard/dismiss racism.

Standing with the trans community means standing with people who have to experience transphobia/transmisogyny as well as racism. Being aware, outspoken, and invested in trans/queer POC(people of color)’s lives is necessary to create an environment that is safe for all. 

2.) Understand the difference between transphobia and transmisogyny. 
While all members of the trans community experience transphobia, trans women/feminine people experience a form of misogyny that can be and often is much more violent than transphobia. Trans women are often not heard, pushed to the back, or forces to desperately defend the oppression that they face. 

A few things to understand about trans feminine people: AMAB people are not “socialized as male.” They are, instead, socialized as trans women and because of that are placed in a very scary place where they have to reject all forms of femininity otherwise they may potentially face physical violence. Trans women have just as much of a right to feminist spaces as any other woman. Trans women are not more represented than trans men or other trans demographics. 

3.) When creating trans safe spaces, remember these two demographics! 
Whether you’re starting a trans project, creating a blog, or writing/reading trans stories–paying special attention to TPOC(Trans People of Color) as well as trans women will create more welcoming and intersectional spaces. 

As members of such a marginalized demographic, it is in the best interest of our community and our humanity to pay attention to these narratives and to validate them with more than understanding. Acknowledging the struggles of those around us, opening up our spaces to people with these experiences, and being willing to work harder to support TPOC and trans women are things that anyone, anywhere can do. 

Thank you for reading and keeping your mind open. Feel free to add to this list. 

List of Thedosian pet names for writing and roleplaying, brought to you by Bella

We can skip trade tongue and go right into the big three: Antivan, Orlesian, and Tevene.

I’m going to start with Tevene, cos it’s my fave. The main thing to remember is that female pet names end in -a, and others end in -us. The famous amatus actually is amata if you are addressing a woman. Here’s a few more from Latin. It’s not a language with a lot of pet names. I did my best.

  • mellitus/mellita: honeyed one, aka honey (this one is my fave)
  • carissimus/carissima: dearest one, aka dear
  • deliciae: darling
  • venustus/venusta: sweet
  • lepidus/lepida: cute

Orlesian is easy. French is brimming with pet names and terms of endearment. Here are my faves.

  • mon cœur: my heart, my love
  • mon chaton: my kitten
  • mignon: cute
  • doudou: tricky to translate!! i had trouble putting this in english with my cajun ass lmao. basically it’s a security blanket or snuggle buddy. trust me on this one. it’s cuter in french. it’s also my fave.
  • ma moitié: my other half
  • mon loulou: another weird one. doesn’t really MEAN anything. it’s just cutesy.
  • ma chèrie: my darling (f)
  • ma chère: my dear (f)
  • bichette: little doe (f)
  • colombe: dove (f)
  • ma lutine: my elf or pixie (f)

Antivan is tricky. I prefer it as Italian, but most seem to prefer Spanish. Here’s a few of Italian anyway. Some of them are the same in both languages, which makes it easier. I admit i had help with this one, as I don’t speak Italian fluently.

  • caro/cara: dear
  • carino/carina: cute
  • gattino/gattina: kitten
  • cucciolo/cucciola: puppy
  • dolcezza: sweetheart
  • grillo/grilla: cricket
  • bambola/bambolina: doll, little doll
  • ciccia/cicci: sweet, tasty
  • streghetta mia: my little witch. personal fave
  • bonus: add -ino or -ina to a name to make it ‘little.’ example: Zevranino = little Zevran

These are just a FEW but I hope they are helpful, feel free to use.

idont want to sound greedy and annoying unable to work right now (commissions are my only way to earn money) and my mental health is getting worse and worse. im in a bad place rn and having a nice christmas would be lovely, so! i set up an amazon wishlist! -> here

some things are more important than others (the tablet pen nibs) and some are just things ive wanted for so long and never had the money for.. i actually havent set up my address there yet because im living unstable atm, just msg me if you want to buy something for me and we’ll talk about it! (thank you in advance!)

i would happily draw anything for anyone who bought me something from this list! OR you can just directly commission me as a gift! commission info is here

i might rb this a few times if thats ok!

Little thing worth a mention: if you make a new account you might run into this new sign-up screen that’s rolling out to a few people. We’re testing out a new account manager with Yahoo.

Use your regular email to create an account—just like you normally would. The only difference is that you can use that same login on Flickr, Mail, News, Answers, Sports, Finance…all your Yahoo things.

Cool bonus: When you’re in the Tumblr app, go to Settings then tap “Manage accounts.” From there you can create another primary Tumblr using a different email address, and flip between them without logging out. Neat!

What not to do when calling a call center

AKA: how to make a call center rep your worst enemy

9 times out of 10, we’re wearing headsets so if you talk very loudly, it’s gonna hurt our ears. Of we can’t hear you, we will tell you. Don’t assume.

If you’re ordering, don’t just start listing off what you want. This isn’t Burger King and there are a few things we need first, like your name and shipping address.

Seriously, it’s just rude and your mother taught you better. Interrupt us when were literally in the middle of a sentence and you automatically become the douchnozzle of the day.

I don’t care how mad you are, we are not going to let you talk to the head honcho about your trivial issue. That’s what we have customer care for. You don’t really expect to talk to Bill Gates when you Microsoft, do you?

PS: the line “Does (insert owner here) know how his company is being run?” is seriously overrated and we’ll hate you more for asking it.

We package the order, we give the shipping company the address to send it to, and we pay them to do so. From then out, it’s out of our hands. Their policies now. If they want to leave it on your doorstep, or won’t deliver it til someone signs for it, that’s their choice. We cant tell them what to do. So don’t get mad at us because you weren’t home to be there to greet the UPS driver.

We do not need to be asked “Are you going to heaven or hell?” and we don’t need a ten minute preaching about Jesus or God. It’s especially annoying when we’re not even Christian. (And if I tell you so, do not try to fucking convert me) You have your religion and we have ours, let’s not bring it into business.

Not everyone shares your opinion and it’s the last thing we want to talk about at work.

It’s not our fault if we don’t have an answer for your asinine question, and there is absolutely no reason to call us stupid.

It might work the first 2 times, but then we’ll put a note in your account/name so everyone will know NOT to give in to your demands. And the line “But I always get…” will do you jack shit.

If we said it’s not free shipping, it’s fucking not free shipping.

11. ALSO…
There is no 5 or 10 percent discount just because you’re “a good customer” If you want a membership discount, go shop at Sam’s Club

It’s disgusting and I didn’t think I’d need to put it on this list until it actually happened. (I was gagging in disgust throughout the call and had to finally tell her to “stop chewing her food and talking at the same time”)

If you stay the call off by immediately saying “I’ve been a customer for years and know how things are done there” we already know you’re calling to complain about something. And no, you don’t “know how things are done here”, you’re not an employee.

Don’t call customer care to place an order, or call order dept to file a complaint or ask questions.

Okay, I know everyone’s still stuck on the whole ‘Tumbleweed’ thing, but… can we just address the fact that Wander isn’t even from this current galaxy???

I mean, I know the WoY universe runs on cartoon logic and that traveling to different planets is the equivalent of traveling to a different state/city, and it only takes you a few hours to a few days to get to a new planet. BUT STILL! The fact that Wander’s apparently been traveling long enough to explore not just multiple planets, but multiple GALAXIES, is pretty amazing.