hey turns out i was an accident and my abusive mom never wanted to have me in the first place. how am i supposed to feel about her now?? i dont know much i can reasonably hold my neglect and abuse against her. she already had two kids seven years before me though, who i think were planned. i just dont know how to process this.
still yet, though, she had nine months to prepare for you. she could’ve set you up with a home that would’ve been more welcoming. instead she has decided to abuse you and hold you accountable for her own choices
she is responsible for her own actions. you as her child should be able to expect positive treatment and non-abusive behaviors from your own mother. you can hold her accountable. you do not owe her anything for having been born
[just btw, i’m very glad you were born]