My cousin just came out as a trans woman. I fully support her decision, and was wondering what to do to make her comfortable as possible? I barely make money at the moment, so should I give her my secondhand clothes? What do you think?
You can certainly offer, but she may just want to get clothes for herself. You could suggest that you both go shopping and take her to some of your favorite places.
I think the most important part is to really respect her pronouns. I drop lots of “dude"s and "man"s in my every day conversation, so this is something I try to keep a handle on when talking to my trans friends. Even though I’m using "dude/man” as a general term for everyone, it’s not a polite pronoun to use around them.
I would also recommend letting her take the lead in discussing being trans. She may feel very overwhelmed by being asked lots of questions already by other friends and family. Allow her to talk about it with you when she’s ready. Focus on spending time with her as you normally would a female cousin or friend, she will love that!
Any of my trans followers want to weigh in? 💖