Honestly one of the hardest things for me to do is give people space after a disagreement/fight/misunderstanding. I go through the full cycle of anger, hurt, guilt, shame, sadness, self-loathing (whether I’m guilty OR innocent) in the space of a few hours usually, sometimes overnight, & on the rare occasion, a full day.
So when it’s over, *I* am ready to just move on & be friends again. I get antsy when the other person takes longer to forgive or needs more time to process.
The best thing to do is give the other person space b/c almost always when I try to force the issue, I make things worse, but MAN, it is HARD.
Oh, and then there’s the AGONY!! The silence eats me ALIVE. I start thinking all sorts of horrible things about myself, often b/c I manage to upset the super nice, patient, generous people you never thought could cut someone off or want out of their life long-term. (I hate that I have such a super skill for this.) I mean, the degree depends on how close I am to the person &/or how much I admire them on a personal or professional level. But GEEZ. It’s enough to make me question making close friends at all.
But then…oh. I NEED IT. Lol.