here’s the thing: reylo is abusive. there is no way around it. there is no excuse you can pull out of your ass that will ever change this.
you cannot have a relationship that is based in one person purposefully hurting the other and not call it abusive. there is no excuse for what kylo did to rey and there is nothing romantic or sexual about it. this isn’t about interpretation, this isn’t about ship wars, this is about people like me who have experienced abuse, who are abuse victims, watching people (whether they are abuse victims or not) take our trauma and romanticize it.