cut the fuck out the first sentence and i can fully agree with you
#when will you stop generalising people? #this is still sexism #also men get raped too #and they even more need support from the society #because no one even considers them the victims #every sexist is disgusting #even more when it’s im defence of the other sex
See, I totally agree that generalisations don’t help and I’m the first to say “not all men”. I didn’t say or mean “every men” though. I said men. The part afterwards made it absolutely clear which men (and kinds of men) I meant. This also means that everyone else is excluded of this generalisation and I think that is something we shouldn’t forget in these kind of conversations either.
I wouldn’t ever put down men as the victims of abuse. I’m the first one to remind everyone that women are often not seen as sexual predators, because people don’t expect women to commit these hideous crimes. This was about one case though. Not a debate in general, but it shows what happened to many young women (and young men) in the movie business. A business where at that time, and in big parts today, women don’t hold the power to be perpetrators of this SPECIFIC kind of abuse.
The kind of abuse Maria Schneider had to suffer though is ONLY possible in a society where men that are perpetrators are in power. This is not a crime that happened while abused and abuser were in any way in a similar position. Two men in power decided to abuse their power to violate a person who depended on them. Maria Schneider spoke for the rest of her life how this couldn’t have happened in a work place where men and women were seen as equals. This is a situation that comes from men being in power and as a collective, as a group, decide that in the set of rules where they hold the power it is okay to abuse, use, and rape women, because they are not even considered as humans.
If men as the group that holds the power decide that they don’t tolerate single persons of their group to violate others, then is the moment I don’t have to say “men are disgusting”. It’s not the 70s anymore. And some things have changed for the better and I wouldn’t forget that there always have been great and rightful men. There are many great men. Many great feminists. None of them should feel attacked if in a moment of outrage someone spews a generalisation that is not a generalisation, but an accusation against people who commit and people who tolerate these crimes happening.
If we look around the movie business today we see that they as a group tolerate abuse. They don’t even question allegations of abuse and this kind of things have no effect whatsoever. Just google Casey Affleck.