Many people come to me asking for advice. I’m generally pretty taken aback, so a lot of the time my answers are some version of “I was lucky” and “I honestly have no idea what I’m doing.” These are my own ANTs (Automatic Negative Thoughts). I’m trying to examine where they come from. Is it because someone will inevitably tell me I’m wrong? That’s probably a good place to start. The ANT exterminator (see what I did there?) then says, “Well no shit. You’re on a public forum here. And so what if they do? You’re also here to learn! No one ever stops learning. Constructive criticism is good.”
Am I just being modest to a fault?
“Also likely. You need to learn to own your success.”
But now I feel like I’ve fallen behind. How was I ever successful in the first place? I’m obviously a fraud then, so my past success means nothing.
“Life happens. You’re back on track now. Detours and setbacks aren’t always personal failures, and they certainly don’t negate past success.”