but you learn from your mistakes right

I want to be a better person and sometimes I get all stressed out and feel terrible for not doing everything right but you know what? I am human. I will learn from my mistakes and I will treat people better. I am learning and I can’t hate myself for learning. I can’t hate myself for messing up sometimes. It’s all about the things you take away at the end of each day. That’s where your day ends but hopefully that’s where tomorrow begins.

Be kind, resourceful, beautiful, friendly. Have initiative, have a sense of humor, tell right from wrong. Make mistakes, fall in love, enjoy strawberries and cream, make someone fall in love with you. Learn from experience, use words properly, be the subject of your own thoughts. Have as much diversity of behavior as any human being. Do something really new.
—  Alan Turing, “Computing Machinery and Intelligence”, p. 447. Turing proposed this list of behavior for theoretical artificial intelligence in 1950. Sounds like pretty solid life advice for people, too.
Helpful Tips for Handling Criticism

1. Try and understand the other person’s perspective. They may just be feeling down, or be having a bad day, or there may be some truth in what they have to say. Don’t write them off, and dismiss them right away - but listen and process what they have to say.

2. Don’t jump to being defensive. Try and learn what you can. But also weigh what they are saying – as they could have got it wrong!

3. Don’t accept criticism from those you don’t respect. They’re view’s not trustworthy – don’t take them seriously.

4. Work on delaying your immediate reaction. Don’t respond right away – work on feeling more detached. That will lessen the emotion so your mind stays in control!

5. Where appropriate … admit that you were wrong as we all make mistakes. It makes you seem more secure as well as more self-confident. Also, it removes the emotions and will calm the person down.

6. Be proud of yourself if you’ve taken a risk. Even if it went badly, it is good that you have tried!

If you voted for Trump, 3rd party, or didn’t vote at all, you do not have a right to complain about Trump and his actions. It’s as goddamn simple as that. Each and every single one of you knows that politics is a game and you didn’t play the way the nation needed you to so now people are suffering and will continue to suffer until the next election when you learn from your horrific mistake. Sure, you couldn’t live with yourself for voting for Hillary but guess fucking what? 43,000+ Americans will die every year because they will not have healthcare, there will be 2.2 million additional abortions performed and 2.1 of those abortions will be unsafe, a mosque was burned to the ground shortly after Trump issued the immigration ban, refugees are being detained and sent back to war torn countries, and you want to tell me about how unmoral it would’ve been to vote for Hillary? Go fuck yourselves and thank me and my fellow activists after we pick up the pieces of this goddamn country that you helped destroy.

Important Fire Safety Tips For Fellow Witches

Originally posted by the-autumn-queen

After an experience I hope to never have again where I left candles burning too long at a wake for my deceased pet and caught something on fire (luckily we were able to put it out in time), I felt the need to make this post. Learn from my mistakes.

1. Make sure all burnables are safely placed. You should make sure they have adequate spacing between each other and any objects. You would be shocked what can actually catch on fire. So it may feel right to put a candle close to an object, but trust your gut if it says “maybe this isn’t a good idea.” I ignored my gut and something caught fire and it caused panic in a day that should have been reverent and somber.

2. Don’t light more burnables than you can keep track of. I lit a ton of candles and because I did, I didn’t keep track of them causing the fire. Always be aware of how many candles are burning and where. A good rule of thumb is to only light candles in one area. If candles are burning on your altar, blow them out before burning candles elsewhere.

3. NEVER LEAVE BURNING THINGS UNATTENDED. Ever. You can always relight a candle or incense, you can never unburn your house down.

4. Use metal or glass for your incense. I have a wooden stick incense holder but I put it in a metal pan to contain any stray embers or sparks. If you’re not sure how to burn incense, ask the sales associate when you buy it or do research online. You don’t want to start a fire over not knowing how to safely burn an incense.

5. If you use tobacco or marijuana indoors, always use caution and an ashtray. No judgement here, everyone has their vices and it’s totally fine. But be sure to be smart about it.

6. Learn to use a fire extinguisher and if you don’t have one, get one! All fire extinguishers are slightly different so familiarize yourself with the one in your home. If you don’t have one and you’re renting, ask your landlord for one. Make sure you have one and know how to use it!

7. Check smoke alarms frequently. If our smoke alarm didn’t work we would have probably not noticed the fire until too late. Make sure your smoke alarm is in proper working order at all times.

8. LED or fake candles are a legitimate substitute for real candles. It may not feel “witchy enough” to use LED candles but especially if you’re a young witch, LEDs are a totally viable substitute and work just as well in spellwork as real candles. Consider LEDs if you’re working with dried herbs, cloth and other flammable objects. I also recommend using white christmas or fairy lights, it gives a lot of soft pretty light and has the same impact as multiple tapers (and be sure to unplug them when you’re done). If you get the battery powered ones you can also place them wherever whenever!

9. Always plan ahead. When working with fire make sure to plan for anything to go wrong. Have a large pitcher of water or a fire extinguisher nearby, go outside if you can and work on a non-flammable surface like dirt, concrete, asphalt or brick. When passing something through candle flame, make sure it’s not flammable. If burning a sigil or another piece of paper, always burn it in an amply-sized glass or metal container with a lid so you can quickly suffocate the flames if things get out of hand. I always recommend putting a stone on top of the paper so it doesn’t go flying when it starts burning. Read spells thoroughly and if it seems “off” or unsafe, don’t do it. Don’t ever put yourself in danger from the craft.

Remember, it can take mere SECONDS for a simple fire rite to become an emergency. I hope everyone learns from this and stays safe. Blessings and stay safe, everyone. <3 <3 <3

Originally posted by xmas-wonderland

Where’s That Melanin?

To all of you artists out there creating fan content of persons of color, it’s imperative that you avoid whitewashing as much as possible. And I say “as much as possible” because hey, sometimes it’s something you miss or gloss over without thinking about it. Your mind becomes mush after putting in many hours of work on a piece, I get it. I’m right there with you. And then sometimes you’ll have people who don’t give a flying fuck and will do it anyway. 

Before posting your work, give your eyes a rest, open up some references of the character, run it by a few folks you’re comfortable with (who obviously know what it is). I’m positive someone will mention that perhaps their skin should be a bit darker; maybe someone will do a quick color correction for you even!

We make mistakes and it’s alright as long as we learn from those mistakes, yeah? Take breaks, use references always, and ask for helpful feedback and criticism. That’s what it takes to improve your work. If it’s something you’ve spent hours on, may as well?

Love you fam, and take care.

Recap of the Medici

- fucking robb stark is now king of florence, but has learned from past mistakes and now marries walder frey’s daughter
- Donatello is gay
- brunelleschi and cosimo de medici are otp
- the fucking cupola THE FUCKING CUPOLA
- bless cgi for classic florence
- when you finally get something right there comes THE PLAGUE, sorry your life sucks
- gay donatello
- have I mentioned that donatello likes dick
- donatello likes dick prime time in italy just to be precise
- bless
- watch this show

7 Tips for Leading a Fulfilling Life

1. Beware of indecision – Better to do something than to always hesitate.

2. Simplify your life – It’s less frustrating and confusing.

3. Learn the secret of being satisfied – You can still go for those goals, but just enjoy the journey NOW.

4. Let go of the need to always have the last word, or to prove that you are right, or to get your point across.

5. Take a break from people who’re defensive, or suspicious, or are super-sensitive and, therefore, easy to offend.

6. Accept that adversity and challenges will come – and they can teach us useful lessons, so we’re stronger in the end.

7. Stop beating yourself up and learn to tolerate mistakes – and focus on your growth, and the ways that you have changed.

I Hope

I hope you realize what you lost
The person that loved you the most
The one that listened to all your problems
The one who would do anything for you
I hope you realize not everyone will put up with your shit
That not everyone will listen to your problems
That not everyone was as patient with you as I was
I hope you learn from your mistakes
That you need to treat people better in order to make them stay
To not push them away
By lying to them
By deceiving them
By ignoring them
I hope in the future this will all hit you
Because I know it hasn’t yet
By the way you lie about me
By the way you deceive those around you
By the way you would do anything
To make me look bad
Because I’m the bad guy
Right?
I hope you realize what you lost

- D.B.

roleplayiing-memes:

character development asks.

  • 1: Which is worse, failing or never trying?
  • 2: Are you doing what you believe in, or are you settling for what you are doing?
  • 3: If happiness was the national currency, what kind of work would make you rich?
  • 4: Are you more worried about doing things right, or doing the right things?
  • 5: If you could offer a newborn child only one piece of advice, what would it be?
  • 6: Would you break the law to save a loved one?
  • 7: Are you holding onto something you need to let go of?
  • 8: Do you push the elevator button more than once?  Do you really believe it makes the elevator faster?
  • 9: Have you been the kind of friend you want as a friend?
  • 10: If you just won a million dollars, would you quit your job?
  • 11: If we learn from our mistakes, why are we always so afraid to make a mistake?
  • 12: What would you do differently if you knew nobody would judge you?
  • 13: What do you love?  Have any of your recent actions openly expressed this love?
  • 14: If you were stranded on a desert island, what three items would you want to have with you?
  • 15: If you had a time machine that would work only once, what point in the future or in history would you visit? Why?
How to Like Yourself

1. Cultivate self-acceptance. That means you accept yourself for who you are right now. It means you don’t say things like “I would accept myself if … or … I’ll accept myself when.”

2. Stop going over all things you’ve done wrong, the mistakes you’ve made, and your (perceived) inadequacies.

3. Where there’s something in your past that you feel bad about say: “This is what I learned from that situation … And that was THEN and this is NOW.”

4. Don’t compare yourself to others. Instead notice the areas where you’ve grown and changed. Deliberately praise and focus on those positive changes.

5. Don’t fall into the trap of judging others – as that will often lead to being self-critical.

1. nothing, i mean nothing is as important as you think it is. don’t stress too much, it’s all going to work out how it’s meant to. 
2. that boy doesn’t love you, he just wants you to take your clothes off, learn the difference.
3. making mistakes is okay. i’ve grown far more from mistakes than i have from doing things right.
4. don’t cut corners. you may think no one notices, but they do. people respect effort.
5. listen to your teachers and do your work. i promise you’ll regret it if you don’t.
6. find something you’re passionate about and chase it tirelessly.
7. not caring is not cool. hating everything is not cool. learn to love.
8. learn to break rules. living inside the box won’t help you grow. 
9. stop judging everyone and everything. putting others down won’t make you feel any better about yourself. 
10. popularity is unimportant. integrity is beyond important. don’t jeopardize your integrity to be cool for the night.
11. only you can choose what to do with your body. don’t let anyone tell you what you should or shouldn’t do. don’t let the opinion of others impact that decision. 
12. if you have a problem with someone, take it up with them directly. talking about them behind their back or having someone talk to them for you is immature and won’t solve the problem.
13. learn to make your own decisions and trust yourself.
14. loving yourself is the best decision you can make. confidence is always attractive.
15. don’t let others define you or control your happiness. it’s not a healthy way to live.
16. it’s okay to feel all sorts of emotions. you don’t have to be happy all the time. find a way to deal with each of those emotions
17. your life is so much bigger than high school. look forward to what’s to come
—  17 things i’ve learned (and i’m still trying to figure out) at 17

The attitude the Crewniverse has is starting to piss me off.

They can’t take criticism and don’t seem to understand why people are complaining. Like instead of listening to actual criticism, they want to play the victim. Are you kidding me? You guys are adults yet you’re acting like a two year old having a tantrum! Like are you being serious right now? You cannot grow as an artist or a writer unless you learn from your mistakes! That is what being a creator is about. Learning so you can improve your craft!

@rivetblack

Past:

The Wheel of Fortune

What goes up must come down. Did you pass up on an opportunity recently? Or did a lucky streak come to an end? Not sure if you believe in karma, but if you do, there could be something you did that made a negative impact in you life.

Present:

The Fool Omega (reversed)

This may indicate that you somehow feel that you have lost touch in a grounded existence. Something is not quite right, and you want to turn something around in your life for a new start and a new journey.

Future:

The Tower

If you avoid changes in your life it will continue to push you down. But if you take the right precautions, you’ll avoid disaster and you have a great opportunity to learn from mistakes that will be helpful later in life!  

How to Kill Feelings of Inadequacy

1. Choose to like, love, value, and believe in yourself. Choose to be your greatest allay – and the best friend you could have.

2. Ask a good friend if they’ll tell you what they like about you most. Then believe what they are saying – don’t just push their words aside.

3. Commit to discovering what you’re good at and enjoy, then invest time and energy on developing those traits.

4. Don’t exalt others’ gifts as if they matter more than yours. Every talent is important. Don’t right off your personal strengths.

5. Learn to show yourself compassion when you struggle or you fail. And remember “you are human” - so you’re going to make mistakes.

6. Notice ways that you are growing … ways you’re changing over time. Give yourself some credit for this – you are different from before.

Chasing the Past

There isn’t a rule
That says you
Have to clean up
Your past
Walking away from
Mistakes
People you wronged
Loves you untied
Nobody will know
But
But if you try
To right some wrongs
To understand
Other sides
To learn
What you did
To hear the hard
Truths
To unpack
Your own heart
To let
Yourself grow
Then next time
Perhaps
You won’t have
A past
To chase down
At all

to my favorite fictional characters
  • Me: YOURE SUCH AN IDIOT
  • Me: but youre my idiot and ily
  • Me: STOP MAKING STUPID DECISIONS
  • Me: its ok you can learn from mistakes
  • Me: YOURE EMBARRASSING ME
  • Me: proud parent right here
  • Me: I hate you but I care about you so much. your happiness is my happiness and I wouldnt trade you for the world!!!
How to like yourself

1. Cultivate self-acceptance. That means you accept yourself for who you are right now. It means you don’t say things like “I would accept myself if … or … I’ll accept myself when.”

2. Stop going over all things you’ve done wrong, the mistakes you’ve made, and your (perceived) inadequacies.

3. Where there’s something in your past that you feel bad about say: “This is what I learned from that situation … And that was THEN and this is NOW.”

4. Don’t compare yourself to others . Instead notice the areas where you’ve grown and changed. Deliberately praise and focus on those positive changes.

5. Don’t fall into the trap of judging others – as that will often lead to being self-critical.

Advice For People Our Age

-If you can’t go to a party, tell the host

-You don’t have to be an underdog. You can want things and go after them because you know you deserve them. You can be proud and confident of your accomplishments.

-Now’s not the time to be embarrassed about the music you like, or literally anything you like. 

-Stop comparing yourself to other people. You are your own barometer of success, and you know damn well when you’re not trying hard enough.

-Apologize when you’ve done something wrong. Talk it out. Tell people how you are feeling

-Don’t stay stagnant, but be patient. Change takes a long time. If you don’t love your job, keep looking for a new one, but understand things won’t change right away.

-Keep up with your friends, and let them know you are there.

-You’re old enough to know better now, and sometimes sorry won’t cut it anymore. Learn from your mistakes, and admit them to yourself.

-The things you need out of people is not always the things people will need from you. If you don’t know what someone needs, ask.

-Keep a blank set of cute notecards for thank you’s, birthdays, and congratulations

-To hard boil an egg, put the eggs in the pot with cold water (and some vinegar), let it come up to a boil, then cover the pot, turn the heat off, and let it sit for 10-12 minutes.

-You do not have to keep people in your life that make you feel bad. 

-Have an outfit for a wedding, a job interview, and a funeral

-Be on time

-If you have insurance, know the closest hospital nearby that takes it

-You don’t know everything

-Throw out your junk. If it doesn’t fit, give it away. If you haven’t worn it in a year, give it away. if you don’t use it, toss it.

-Put your phone away when you are drunk.

-Wash your bath mats

-If you don’t go, you probably won’t miss out on much

-Try to keep your fridge clean, okay?

-Be able to name five things you really love about yourself

-Be grateful and hungry, always