Okay but what if they canonize it like this:
Simmons is in trouble, and Grif saves him. Pushes him out of the way, but gets mortally wounded in the process. He’s lying on the ground dying and Simmons is demanding to know why he did it.
“Because,” Grif says weakly. “I’m way too young to be a widow.”
Simmons just sobs as the light fades from Grif’s eyes. “I’m even younger than you, you asshole.”