but this show is so disgusting to color it's like offensive to me

hair dye [ cm x r ]

fandom : Dear Evan Hansen

by : Summer

pairing : Connor Murphy x Reader

summary : in which you and Zoe are dying your hair and try to convince Connor to dye his. 

request : “Could you write some Connor Murphy imagine where he is a virgin and the reader isn’t and it’s some smut.”

word count : 7,007

warnings : boy oh boy is this gonna be a sMUT HNNGGGFFFF, y’all can’t have a smut w/o a hella lotta sexual innuendos, cursing, mentions blood?, ooc writing, rushed writing, terrible writing in general;;,,,,,

 a / n : Inspired by when I dyed my hair and was super lazy per usual and stained my pillowcase. i’m such a sinner… Is it just me or did my writing change completely like halfway through it? idk it’s bad, sorry. Thanks for reading though. Any sort of support is sincerely respected: liking, commenting, reblogging, following, anything! Constructive criticism is always appreciated :) Much love.

“What the alien cult shit is going on?” Connor asked with a very pissed and very confused expression.

He had just walked past the bathroom when he saw his sister sitting on a chair with strands of hair sectioned off into tubes of tin foil. Y/N, his girlfriend was standing beside Zoe with purple hands. Purple? Blue? Indigo.

“It’s the devil himself,” Zoe said sarcastically.

“You little bi-”

“Zoe,” You cut off Connor rapidly, “if anything he’s a handsome devil.

“…Fuck you,” Connor mumbled, crossing his arms, and leaning against the doorframe.

“Y/N, you’re gross,” Zoe groaned. You snapped your indigo stained gloves off.

“Grossly in love,” you sang, walking over to Connor and tapping him on the nose. His scowl softened just slightly. Zoe simply groaned.

“I literally cannot have a single day without sharing you,” Zoe slapped the bathroom counter with both hands, “Y/N, you’re supposed to be my best friend. If anything, you’re like my sister and that’d be super weird to think of my sister dating my brother.”

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Trigger Warning: Rape, Suicide and Depression

I haven’t finished the last two episodes of 13 reasons why. From what people have told me its extremely triggering. And as someone who has trauma from sexual violence, and history with suicide and depression I’m reluctant to put myself through hell. I’ll probably never finish it. Would appreciate it if people would stop hyping this series up. If people would stop posting pics of them watching the show. 

 If people would stop getting entertainment from peoples trauma. 

 It’s so gross how people have romanticized this show, and peoples pains, and lives is just entertainment to them.

Folks calling it “one of the hardest things” they’ve seen on TV.  That’s all they’ll ever experience. Being Uncomfortable. This was “hard” for them to watch. 


Originally posted by careyshakur

 The fact that folks needed to “bond” and “like” these women in order to see them as human enough to feel something when they were raped or committed suicide was unbelievable. 

How Jessica was portrayed and the way they developed her character is so problematic. It’s down right racist. 

 Poor little white girl, right. 

Hannah wanted to help the angry black girl who bullied her, but instead she went on a revenge campaign by forcing a rape survivor to face their trauma without their consent. By further traumatizing Jessica. By causing her to live in fear from those damn tapes which probably caused her PTSD to worsen. By causing her to lose everything she Knew and the activities she loved. 

Hannah tried to “help” Jessica by destroying her life and traumatizing her.    

The way Jessica was portrayed as this angry black girl who was bullying this poor little white girl was racist and perpetuated misogynoir. It perpetuates White Supremacy’s ideology of white women being fragile, and needing to be protected at all cost. Which is why White Women are just as violent as their men because they often use this fragility to cause violence against black people and people of color, but in particular black women and women of color. 

Misogynoir and the fetishization of black women was saturated in this series.

Clearly, the author of novel is problematic, but the series didn’t have to do this too. It’s obvious they didn’t have any black folks especially black women or people of color in the writing room nor did they hire people who are survivors of sexual violence or people with mental illnesses or mental health professionals. 

13 reasons why romanticizes suicide and shows brutally violent rape scenes all so viewers can sympathize with Jessica and Hannah and to give Hannah a “good” reason to commit suicide. This was very disturbing. 

In addition, it was so misogynistic to use rape to make sympathetic women characters.

The whole narrative is disgusting and offensive to rape survivors and for people who deal with suicide.


(Requested by Anon)

When you woke up from the excruciating burning, you were confused as to where you were. Everything was different. Clearer. You saw colors that you didn’t know existed. There were sounds and smells you shouldn’t have experienced, yet you did.

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The Roman and Jaida Series, Part 1 - We Are Fire

He’s not her most favorite person in the world, but she finds it in her heart to be there for him in his time of need. In return, he shows her just how much he appreciates it. Set around the events of the 2015 Royal Rumble and the Blizzard Raw. Part one of the Roman and Jaida Series. Roman Reigns/OC

“You’re a fuckin’ jerk, you know that?” she snarled, pointing her finger into the face of the man with whom she was so furious. “You should be glad I ain’t slapped the shit outta you!”

A smirk crossed Roman Reigns’ face as he stared down at her angry features. “What’s the matter, sweet pea? Mad ‘cause I called you out on the truth?”

“Ain’t no damn truth, Reigns. And my name’s Jaida. How about you call me by my fuckin’ given name?”

“I’ll call you whatever I want, sweet pea,” said Roman. He stepped closer to her, bringing them chest to chest. “I see the way you look at me. I don’t know why you keep acting like you don’t wanna hop on my dick. I sure as well won’t mind.” He lifted his hand to run a forefinger over her right jawline, hearing her breath catch, just like he expected. “Anytime, anyplace, sweet pea. You name it.”

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  • Anontisemite: Whether or not you're willing to admit it, whether or not you even realize it, you are oppressed. I mean look at the ridiculous dress code, being forced to cover everything from toes to hair, just put on some pants already and don't wear long sleeves when it's too hot, it's not healthy! Being forced to be a housewife and bear children, you're living like it's 1950. You are supporting patriarchy and holding back feminism by adhering to a patriarchal religion.
  • Gentileproblems: I’m being oppressed by dressing how I want you guuuyyyzzzzz…. :( I don’t know how I stand it.
  • Also, literally nobody is making me get married? I’ll get married and have children because that’s what I want out of life, but those aren’t the only things I want, for crying down the sink! My ambitions won’t end the moment I get engaged, because I’m an actual human being, not a weird cause for you to champion without my say-so. Get lost, I’m not interested.
  • Anontisemite: Look honey, it's not your fault that you don't recognize your own oppression but you and other women like you need help. Religion is merely a farce created by men to control women. The feminist cause wants to help you, that's what we're here for. Of course you think you're husband will let you chase your ambitions once your married but that's not how religious marriage works. You'll be nothing but a trussed slave and that's a tragedy.
  • Gentileproblems: Can someone please tell Jacob he is oppressing me he still hasn’t messaged me back and I’m thinking this is to do with our horrible patriarchal religion.
  • Arothejew: Jacob! Young man, what do you have to say for yourself
  • Jacob-the-pianist: I'm sorry I'm male, I'm sorry I'm white, I'm sorry I'm male, I'm sorry I'm white
  • Anontisemite: Oh you poor girl. I hope one day you'll realizing how vile and silly the Jewish religion is because you need help. You could have such a full, happy life but instead you've confined yourself to misery and you don't even know it.
  • Gentileproblems: 1/10 trolling try harder next time
  • Anontisemite: I assure you I am not trolling, I want to help you and women like you. I have no problems with Jews but I do have a problem with Judaism and organized religions that inherently oppress women.
  • Gentileproblems: Kay sure… how about you help by listening to us, rather than fighting for us? I’m not feeling particularly oppressed, here. Are you?
  • Gentileproblems (general): did anon seriously think sending me anonymous messages telling me my entire culture was Wrong would make me want to convert? Oh, goyim…
  • Satirenon 1: breaking news an anti semitic anon has caused jews everywhere to decide to be atheists OH NO IT'S HAPPENING TO MEEE *all memory of anything relating to judaism in my life is suddenly gone and i am now a free un oppressed woman*
  • Gentileproblems: oh, teach me your ways, un-oppressed one! is there hope for one such as me, comfortable in her religion and proud of her people? or will i have to moulder in the cave of deluded yidden… only time will tell.
  • Anontisemite: Oh honey, I don't want you to convert. I want you to be a secular, free independent woman who doesn't rely on a misogynistic culture of lies and rules designed to keep you oppressed. Surely deep down you realize organized religion is a farce created by men? It's so obvious. If you weren't tied to a backwards culture that didn't allow women education you'd be able to comprehend better. I'm so sorry, please learn to accept help when it's extended. That is what feminism is here for.
  • Gentileproblems: white feminism has reached its zenith
  • Anontisemite: I am not certainly not antisemitic, I do not hate Jews, I want to help their women. What I hate Judaism, Islam and any organized religion. They are forms of misogynistic, systematic oppression.
  • Gentileproblems: 'I'm not raaaaaacist, I just hate these two heavily racialised religions…'
  • Anontisemite: though i too was once proud of my religion and my people i have seen the light and become a truely liberated woman 100% of anti semitic feminists agree that it is the right course of action so let go of the misogynistic tethers of religion and truely free yourself from your harmful self oppression like i did
  • Gentileproblems: assimilate and let go of your culture i a random anon know far more about it than you do
  • Gentileproblems: at the third stage, you ascend to a higher plane of existence, like on the original Stargate show.
  • Commentanon 1: i hate judaism but im teeeechiiincally not anti semitic right? -actual quote from the anon
  • Gentileproblems: i know, like how do you even rationalise that what even
  • Anontisemite: I am not antisemitic, I am antireligion. All I want is to end the systematic oppression of women inherent to Judaism and Islam. It is my life's mission and one day I hope to save all of the women like you, women who trapped and hurting and don't even know it.
  • Gentileproblems: Did you know Judaism and Islam are the only perpetrators of misogyny ever? GREYFACE TELLS ALL!
  • Commentanon 2: oh g-d of course anon doesnt include christianity just islam and judaism yet somehow aren't anti semitic or islamaphobic right? anti religion yet only against the two religions with the most hate and violence directed towards them? totally just looking out for women right?
  • Gentileproblems: i know, right? noooo bias there, no siree….
  • Anontisemite: You can still be a Jew, you can eat bagels and gettlefish and all of that, but you should be able to wear regular clothes without having rocks thrown at you, have intercourse without needing to do it through a cloth with a hole, not be forced to live separately from other people once a month. It's barbaric. Help me help you. Help me help women like you. This is going to be my career, rescuing the downtrodden women of archaic religious cults.
  • Gentileproblems: Okay, this is actually genuinely offensive. Where on Earth did you learn about Judaism, Stormfront? For G-d’s sake, choose another career at the very least- nobody will want to be rescued by you.
  • Commentanon 3: These anons today are even more ludicrous than last week's neo-nazis. Seriously talk about being so "open-minded" that your brains fall out and your mind closes again behind them.
  • Gentileproblems: Tell me about it, I have a permanent look of disgust etched onto my face by now.
  • Commentanon 4: Don't let them bother you. That one is literally a xtian-atheist religious missionary. Just treat them like you would any other xtian missionary.
  • Gentileproblems: 'Nope, I don't want your holy book… I've already got one…. it's vintage…'
  • Commentanon 5: wtf anon and ur stiiiiill not anti semitic? i'm waiting for what exactly anons definition of anti semitism is or does it even exist since how can you oppress someone who wants to oppressed or whatever they are trying to say jewish women are doing
  • Gentileproblems: it’s a horrible, horrible journey of ‘not antisemitic i swear’ and i can’t get off
  • Satirenon 2: I want to be offended but all I can focus on now is gettlefish. Seriously. GETTLEFISH
  • Gentileproblems: It’s like kettle crisps mixed with gefilte fish, I assume.
  • Commentanon 6: anon is just jealous of the way i work this super cute skirt with my bright colorful tights and that my marriage will be more emotionally fulfilling because it's not about sex all the time (it's also been proven that because a husband and wife can't have each other sexually all the time they appreciate it more when they do)
  • Gentileproblems: Oh my gosh, talk frum fashion to me! And I’ve never heard of that second point- I shall Google at once!
  • Commentanon 7: is gettlefish like non kosher gefilte fish?
  • Gentileproblems: I think this is one of those things that ‘everyone knows’ about Jews except for Jews
  • Commentanon 7: oh like hanukkah trees? (always spelled that way because fuck the original hebrew spellings lets at 2 k's for the hell of it because goyim)
  • Gentileproblems: yep, that’s totally A Thing, because judaism is christianity in a funny hat.
  • Anontisemite: I don't know what Stormfront, I'm a New Age nondenominational culturally Christian atheist Buddhist. As I've already explained to you I am not antisemitic or islamaphobic, I am anti-Judaism and anti-Islam. Goodness, I wish you were allowed an education where they teach you these things. I don't have a problem with the secular women and I want to help the poor souls who are 'religious' (rapped). It's the men I take issue with, for forcing girls with potential into little more than slaves.
  • Gentileproblems: Rapped? Did Tupac put you up to this or something? And good grief, that first sentence is the most white-goy line I have ever read.
  • Satirenon 3: help i think i actually got second hand white goy from that first sentence im dying
  • Gentileproblems: do you have a weird urge to get a backwards hebrew tattoo? we’ll find a cure, i swear
  • Satirenon 4: Before your anon I was living my life as a poor, oppressed woman, trapped by the men in my life forcing me to observe archaic rules. This, despite the fact I am a baalat teshuva who was inspired by women and doesn't actually have any men in my life. Not married and absent non-Jewish dad, but they're both oppressing me quite a lot. Thanks to the anon I've realized I can again be free. I will give up my meaningful and beautiful culture that I love. I shall eat gettlefish and run wild.
  • Gentileproblems: The sarky responses to my anons are the actual best thing. And seriously, someone needs to come up with a recipe for gettlefish, pronto.
  • Satirenon 5: for gettlefish you should first go to your local store and pick up a few things, gefilte fish, matzo ball mix, latke mix, bagels, lox, chopped liver and cream cheese (just to make sure it isn't kosher). Now go home, and get out a very large mixing bowl and put all of the ingredients into it and mix thoroughly. Place in a large casserole dish and bake until crispy and then eat because it is the single most jewish food in the world according to goyim, add some bacon if you really want to
  • Gentileproblems: That’s so disgusting I dare someone to make it
  • Satirenon 5: make it and send to the anon
  • Gentileproblems: Where do I send it? The Castle of Denial?
  • Commentanon 8: I literally can't stop laughing. They probably mean to write trapped but I prefer to think they put 'rapped' in parentheses because they want everything in that sentence to be rapped out loud as you read. Break it down now, rap about helping the poor souls.
  • Gentileproblems: lay me some tasty beats, jumblr. “I don’t like your people but I’m not racist, I swear…”
  • Satirenon 6: I think your anon is magic. I was a happily oppressed religious women but then I read everything she wrote and
  • suddenly the world is new, suddenly I am new. My curly hair became straight! My skirt disappeared and was replaced by skinny jeans! I don't know if I can handle all of this freedom yet though, not without a man to guide me. Change me back, oh powerful saviour anon! I'm not ready!
  • Gentileproblems: Please, we need you to be our white saviour! Oh, whatever shall we do?
  • Commentanon 9: What the actual fuck is a "New Age nondenominational culturally Christian atheist Buddhist"? Is that a thing?
  • Gentileproblems: Apparently so… oy.
  • Satirenon 7: HELP! I chose to practice modesty by covering my hair on holy days and I think I've oppressed myself! Already men are making me little more than a slave although I have an education and so much potential. Damn my religious choices!
  • Gentileproblems: Gosh darn it straight to heck! Deciding for yourself how you want to be seen, how dare you! That’s for the New Age Christian Buddhist whateveritwas to do!
  • Anontisemite: I'm sorry to see that you and your friends have resorted to making fun of good intentions. You may not think you need my help but me and other feminists will continue fighting for you nonetheless. I promise that one day we will create a world where you can be free from the bonds of oppressive misogynist religious law and archaic cultural traditions. You are only using negativity to lash out because you fear change, as your religion has taught you. But change is good and it will free you.
  • Gentileproblems: ngl i laughed
  • Commentanon 10: I feel like calling you honey just makes the whole thing so patronizing like stop listening to that religion that tells you what to do, I'm going to tell you what to do instead.
  • Gentileproblems: i knooow! like they don’t even know me! it’s gross as heck frankly- but i’m glad my followers are finding it funny.
  • Satirenon 8: help though im a lesbian my religion is compelling me to marry a man and become his subservient wife saaavee meeeeee
  • Gentileproblems: Must…. resist….. anon’s interpretation…. of my religion!
  • Satirenon 9: Oh..oh my goodness, my magen david necklace was sooo tight and it was choking me but that anon magically broke it and now i can breathe thank g-d or wait am i not supposed to do that anymore
  • Gentileproblems: Thank Richard Dawkins, probably.
  • Satirenon 10: anon nooo even though my religion teaches to question our laws and to change with the times it is suddenly morphing into everything you say it iiisss
  • Gentileproblems: Anon is, in fact, Haruhi Suzumiya
  • Anontisemite: Laughing is only a defense mechanism but one day you will be grateful for our movement :). There is an ever growling movement of feminist women against organized religion like yours whose mission is to save women like you. We are very well educated about Judaism and your culture and we will help you to adjust to the modern world. Misogyny and systematic oppression of women through forced dress codes and throwing rocks won't happen to you, no one will hurt you. You don't have to fear change.
  • Gentileproblems: Seriously, who keeps spreading the idea that religious women can’t be feminists? This is frankly depressing, and why we need to educate goyim to free them from their horrible, misogynistic, blinkered ideologies :(
  • Commentanon 11: It's hard to be convincing when they're sending asks on Anon. Like that's the least personal thing you could do.
  • Gentileproblems: I know, eh? When it started, I was actually pretty sure they were that ‘women don’t need feminism’ blog from a couple of hours ago, but now I’m not so sure…
  • Satirenon 11: white feminist goy barbie, she talks! you pull her string and she spouts nonsense!! (idk if anon is actually a she but like you get my point)
  • Gentileproblems: I kind of hope so, actually, because think of how much more creepy and paternalistic it would be if anon was male.
  • Commentanon 12: As opposed to cultural Christian atheist Buddhism, which is entirely disorganized.
  • Gentileproblems: *sniggering* Anyway, correct me if I’m wrong but isn’t the Dalai Lama very much against converts to Buddhism?
  • Satirenon 12: I somehow seem to have put on a long skirt. Someone please send a secular white "feminist" to help me.
  • Gentileproblems: I keep thinking of that Monty Python skit, you know, with the peasant shouting ‘Help! Help! I’m being oppressed!’
  • Anontisemite: Honey, you're being silly! I already have an education because in out free feminist culture women are allowed to learn. You can do it too! And of course a religious women can't be a feminist, it's the exact opposite of feminist. Religion, especially Judaism and Islam, is the source of all misogyny in the world.
  • Gentileproblems: To be honest there are so many people mocking you in my inbox I thought this was a parody. I am still not quite sure. And.. so do I? Dad’s a university professor, and I got early admission to his uni- had my first class yesterday, actually- where I’m reading Sociology and History. Also, pretty sure a good definition of feminism is that women can do as they please, whatever that means to them.
  • Satirenon 13: It's all a lie! You've been taught lies your entire life! White goyishé feminists know more than you do about the tradition you were raised in again and again for the past 3326 years. Definitely.
  • Gentileproblems: No, what are you talking about, they skim-read a Rationalwiki article once! They’re totally qualified to tell me how to live my life!
  • Satirenon 14: I'm wearing a kippah and a mini skirt at the same time. I'm only have oppressed on my mothers side.
  • Gentileproblems: :D but oppression is passed down through the mother, donchaknow
  • Satirenon 11: yeah for all you know anon is a really creepy guy looking to harass jewish feminists and give feminists a bad name
  • Gentileproblems: yeah p much
  • Commentanon 13: thats religious misogyny at work, the only true feminist religion is spiritual christian influenced combined with a bastardized eastern """"spiritual"""" religion entirely divorced from from it's actual source and rules and replaced with new ageyness and a hint of racism :)
  • Gentileproblems: 'Hey, mum and dad! I'm rebelling against you by converting to a watered-down version of a religion I barely understand!'
  • Satirenon 15: *sighs* Now I have to go tell the three female Rabbis I know personally that none of them should have received an education, because a got on the intertextuality knows Judaism better than us
  • Gentileproblems: It’s such a drag being oppressed like this, no?
  • Commentanon 14: Wtf the fuck is "free feminist culture"? I'm laughing so hard. Also kinda offended that anon is equating education with knowledge. Like a lot of people can't afford college or have learning disabilities but they're their own people, fuck off.
  • Gentileproblems: anon is patronising as heck- go ask them, I don’t know.
  • Anontisemite: Yes, I see you and the many people mocking me on your blog but I really don't mind because I know that you don't know better. I'm not a man or looking to undermine feminism - why would you even think that? You're a bit paranoid aren't you? Feminism is about female freedom and my life is dedicated to helping women achieve that. Judaism inherently undermines female freedom and that is want to eradicate it and rescue women from it. It's not antisemitism.
  • Gentileproblems: Alongside Jews, there are atheists, Muslims, and Christians mocking you. Quit while you’re… well, I can’t actually say ‘ahead’, really.
  • Anontisemite: I don't mind the mockery. I have my cause my cause is you and your fellow oppressed females or Judaism. It doesn't matter if you think you don't need it, a feminist fights for the freedom of all women no matter what. You haven't been taught this but you are woman who has value. You deserve a life without men who shame you for existing and think you have no worth except that which comes forth from your womb.
  • Gentileproblems: but… you are the only one saying this… can you save me from *you*, please?
  • Satirenon 16: for $8000 a month i will stop oppressing myself anon
  • Gentileproblems: yes please anon pay my uni fees
  • Satirenon 17: I am a Jewish feminist am I causing global warming
  • Gentileproblems: I want to make a joke about Moses and rising sea levels here….
  • Anontisemite: Oh honey, let feminism help you be truly free from the bonds of patriarchal religion.
  • Gentileproblems: we’ve been around a few thousand years, your patronising wheedling isn’t gonna stop that.
  • Commentanon 15: In all seriousness, what I find most fascinating about the anon is that for someone who claims to want to free me from those telling me what to do etc., she/he is telling me exactly what to do! For someone who claims to want everyone to be free, she/he is not allowing me the freedom to do what I want. In other words, hypocrites will be hypocrites.
  • Gentileproblems: Goyim gonna goy
  • Commentanon 16: Anon does know that Judaism is a matriarchal religion, correct? That women are revered and are incredibly valued by Jewish society?
  • Gentileproblems: what are you talking about religion is BAD forever
  • Commentanon 17: For all who are trying to say that she is not free while being Jewish is the worst thing you could say. Being free means she can choose what religion she follows. Also the Jewish faith is not oppressive I actually know a female cantor/rabbi who is amazing at what she does. You are being oppressive by telling her she can't be what she wants and saying that you are not being racist even though all your support is stereotypes and from the 1900's get with the time! Take this as a warning
  • Gentileproblems: Thanks so much, anon! I mean I’m opinionated as all heck, if I didn’t think i was being respected I’d leave, believe me.
Thoughts on the Whomping Willow incident

Here’s a thing that bothers me from Deathly Hallows (in fact, maybe the thing that bothered me the most in the entire overall series):

The Whomping Willow incident, built up so well through the early Harry Potter books (the ones of my childhood to which I have the strongest attachment, so integral in particular to Prisoner of Azkaban which remains my favorite), being rendered entirely moot to all parties involved.

It’s made explicitly clear it’s before the lake scene, first when Lily says:

“You went sneaking down that tunnel by the Whomping Willow, and James Potter saved you from whatever’s down there-”

And, then, of course, when Harry’s next chronological step through Snape’s memories is to the same lake incident he observed in his fifth year.

First: wait, since when does the entire school know there’s a tunnel under the Willow? Because this is supposed to be a closely-guarded secret, set up to conceal Lupin’s werewolf-dom, and students at the time played a game trying to touch the trunk (Davy Gudgeon nearly lost an eye!) not trying to get in the tunnel. It certainly doesn’t travel down the grapevine of time: or the Weasley twins would have found their way into that tunnel long before.

But most importantly is how this switch affects characterization (and for the poorer).

Putting it before the lake scene? 



Because when there is one other person in the school who knows your friend is a werewolf – and who, as an adult, proves he is not above letting this information drop “accidentally” as revenge– you’re really going to hang that person upside down in the air and show his underwear to the school?

Just because you’re- or more specifically, Sirius is–  bored? After the last time he was bored, or something like, led to Snape nearly getting eaten by Remus, James risking his own life, Dumbledore definitely becoming involved, and everything nearly being ruined? 

And Remus isn’t going to say so much as “hey, Padfoot, remember last time you were bored, when you nearly got me expelled, and worse, discovered/possibly locked away by the Ministry/stuck with permanent indigestion from Snape’s greasy hair? Maybe think back for a sec.”

Instead, the only reference to a recent full moon is Sirius’ comment "Wish it was a full moon" and Remus’ reply “You would,” which, while nuanced enough to remind us that the transformation isn’t a fun adventure for Remus as it is for them, is not nuanced enough to suggest on a recent full moon an incident happened that they will still be harping on when they are thirty-three-year-old men

Which, if you remember, is exactly what they do.

“So that’s why Snape doesn’t like you… because he thought you were in on the joke?” (Harry).

“That’s right.” (Snape’s entrance line.)

Later, from Lupin: “Is a schoolboy grudge worth putting an innocent man back in Azkaban?”

Since Snape’s reply is to silence Lupin, the implied answer is yes.  

The thing about the Willow incident, and its importance, is that we get it back in Book One. It’s there from the beginning at the end of the first book, as part of that book’s reveal (just as Sirius Black and his motorbike are, right in the first chapter, and man oh man do I love when the pieces are there all along).

And then it’s a two-book wait to figure out HOW James Potter saved Snape’s life, and it is an excellent reveal, involving his friends, at a key moment of tension; after seeing so many harmless pranks from the Weasley twins it’s the ultimate Prank Gone Wrong that almost cost them everything and which, again, they are still talking about at thirty-three.

In fact, it has forever colored how Snape sees Sirius; he considers it important enough as an adult that he is still reminding Dumbledore about the whole prank:

“Sirius Black showed he was capable of murder at the age of sixteen. You haven’t forgotten that, Headmaster? You haven’t forgotten that he once tried to kill me?”

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PC and Feminism has turned us into crybabies

I’ve been a feminist for decades. Before reddit, before tumblr, before Facebook, before the internet was in widespread use even. I have always held the view that all people, regardless of gender, race, or sexual orientation should be treated equally and with respect. Now though, I am completely disgusted with and ashamed of feminism and the modern social justice movement as a whole.

What used to be an extreme section of the equal rights movements that nobody took seriously, now proclaimed themselves the leaders and claim to speak for me and my supposed victimhood that I didn’t know existed until these feminists rammed it down my throat. There is no room left for discussion. Either you’re with them in the belief that every minority is a victim of widespread oppression or you’re against them. If we disagree it’s only because we don’t have the intellectual capacity to understand how we’re being oppressed.

We used to fight against labels. Our labels were unimportant because we were all human. Now social justice types ravenously search for labels. If they don’t have any, they create them. It seems every day there are a dozen new genders created so that these people who obviously haven’t had to struggle a day in their lives can feel special. They seem to forget that gender isn’t something you can change at a whim.

With rare exceptions, you’re born either male or female. Transgenders used to want to be recognized as their preferred gender, male or female (and many still do), now we have genderqueer, flapjackgender, astrogender, and so on. If you point out how ridiculous they’re being and frankly how offensive they’re being to transgenders, you’re oppressing them.

People proclaim themselves cats, unicorns, remote controls (admittedly this seems to be a small group so far). You can’t point out that they are in fact human or you’re an oppressor. “Who are you to tell me what I am?!” I’m someone with a brain.

Then there’s mental illness. People are self diagnosing themselves with everything from ADD and OCD to schizophrenia and PTSD. Anything to show the world how “special” they are and how they’ve been victimized. If you point out they’re wrong, you’re oppressing them and victimizing those with mental illnesses. They don’t realize themselves how offensive they’re being to people with real mental illnesses.

They are spending their whole lives being offended and feeling victimized. There’s no discussion. Either agree that anyone who isn’t a white cis male is a lifelong victim, or get out.

You have websites like buzzfeed and gawker that post articles encouraging this victim mentality. Women are victims of an oppressive society. LGBT people are victims, racial minorities are victims. It doesn’t matter whether we see ourselves as victims or not, that’s what we are and we better like it otherwise we’re oppressors ourselves.

Anyone who states a opinion, no matter how respectfully, that goes against social justice is subject to widespread witch hunts. Say someone is against feminism. There’s very few who ask “why do you feel that way,” there’s no discussion, no attempt to change their mind. It’s screaming matches and vilification. How is this helping any cause?

There’s no room left for humor. Someone like Joan Rivers, who made off color jokes for a living and who herself advanced feminist causes way more than anyone sitting behind a computer screen monitoring people’s speech, was harshly vilified for the JOKES that she makes.

You have campaigns like yesallwomen which used a mass murder where more men were killed than women to turn it into a feminist issue. If you disagree or point out how horribly offensive it is to the victims and their families, you’re an oppressor.

When we run out of things to be offended by, we create terms like “microaggressions” to widen the scope. God forbid we should make it through a day without finding some way to be victimized.

Things like “trigger warnings” give the impression that it’s the worlds responsibility to never upset you. Personal responsibility for your own feelings and how you handle them is unimportant. It’s somehow healthier to think that the entire population will use their psychic abilities to know what “triggers” you, and monitor its speech just so you won’t get upset.

It used to only be little pockets of social justice movements who held these views and they still like to convince us it’s only still a handful but it’s not, it’s spreading like wildfire. These “real feminists” have become the handful while the rest have overtaken.

We used to fight for equal rights for all, now we fight for special rights for some. We used to find our own strength and refuse to see ourselves as victims, now we encourage weakness and victim mentality. We used to fight labels, now we glorify them. We used to encourage personal responsibility, now we expect the world to change itself for every individual.

I can’t help but think we’re encouraging an entire generation to be completely helpless and shun any form of critical thinking in favor of allowing our lives and thought process to be ruled by irrational emotions.

Face Down

Pairing: Lavender Brown x Astoria Greengrass

Setting: Modern, non-magical, prep school zombie apocalypse AU

Word Count: 1,229

Written For: @borginburks [#payback2k15]

Lavender Brown gets her heart broken by Ron Weasley in the spring.

She spends an entire weekend re-watching all the depressing parts of Love, Actually and crying into Parvati’s mint green Kate Spade pillowcase and it’s cathartic, mostly, because by Monday morning she’s back to using her own bronze-blonde bobby pins and spot-blending her under-eye concealer and bickering with Daphne Greengrass about leaving slimy salon-grade conditioner residue on their tiled shower floor—and if Lavender still feels a little like the world is ending when she thinks about how many of her Firsts she hadn’t even hesitated to give to Ron Weasley—


Two days before prom, the world actually ends.

It’s like The Walking Dead without rednecks.

The two hundred year-old graveyard out by the lacrosse field turns into a warzone—mostly-rotted corpses punch through the summer-softened earth and storm the locker rooms and it’s so horrifying and so utterly ludicrous that Lavender can’t help but unleash a torrent of hysterical giggles when Daphne’s little sister makes a Hocus Pocus joke by asking when Bette Midler is going to be by to collect her boyfriends.

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Since I wrote my post about white and non black POC “allies” at Mike Brown rallies in DC last night, my inbox has been flooded by white people especially. Many of these white folks have called me “racist” and “as bad as the KKK,” and they have demanded that I be “grateful” that white people show up at all, even when they are engaging in behavior which is harmful and disrespectful to the black activists there. On the other end of the spectrum have been the people demanding that I not critique these white (and non black POC) folks engaging in abusive behavior at Mike Brown rallies because there are “good intentions” behind what they’re doing. “Damned if they do, damned if they don’t” they say.

All of this is just absolutely exhausting. Why is the fact that some white (and non black POC) people have “good intentions” worth more than the pain of actual black people and the fact that power systems like gentrification and white supremacy literally destroy our lives and communities? Like how sick is our society that those intentions mean so much more than black lives? When we lord up things like the “intentions” of white allies over black life we are again reinforcing antiblackness and white supremacy. It is offensive, wrong and disgusting.

The funny thing is that my original post laid out clearly what the “good intentions” of many white allies in DC looked like last night. They marched through gentrified neighborhoods shouting “whose streets? OUR streets” as homeless and poor black people looked on. They purposefully changed chants of “black lives matter” to “ALL lives matter” so they could be included, as if white life isn’t already worshipped and sanctified in this country. They grabbed mics and led chants, making the moment all about them, literally minutes after a black female activist friend of mine told them all to step back and center black activists in the space. They donned Guy Fawkes masks and swarmed around with signs saying “we all bleed the same color”. They threw up their hands during chants of “hands up don’t shoot” as if white life is also threatened by police violence. And even white frat boys high off their asses got in on the action, galavanting through the crowd posing for selfies and making a mockery of the event. The disrespect was rampant and if this is what your “good intentions” look like, then I would personally rather you keep you and your “intentions” at home during these rallies.

And to all of the angry, defensive and blatantly racist responses I got from white people saying that they were doing all of this “in solidarity.” I’m sorry but firstly, solidarity is never about defensiveness. Solidarity is never won on the backs of more black bodies. Solidarity at its center is about respect, and if you are not black it requires taking that half second of thinking in the midst of a rally to ask yourself- what is the content of this chant and how may or may not be it inappropriate for me to engage due to my privilege. That takes literally two seconds, and is a real show of solidarity, not all of this talk of “intentions.” Because I’m sure white people have “good intentions” when they shout “We are all Trayvon/Mike Brown” etc in “solidarity” with black people but that doesn’t change how incredibly damaging and harmful that is considering that they are white and will NEVER face antiblackness. It doesn’t change the fact that you are erasing antiblackness in a way that perpetuates real violence against black people that gets us KILLED. But somehow it is “your intentions” that still matter when in actuality it is us black people and our communities which will suffer real violence as a result?

When your “intentions” don’t require even a few seconds of self reflection, that is not solidarity at all and is more harmful than anything. The myth of “good intentions” is a harmful lie, and anyone doing real solidarity work knows this.

So again, this entire conversation and all of the white people in my inbox right now are not only exhausting for me personally but it’s also triggering after the last 2 days. Come to a rally, sure, but if your “solidarity” looks anything like the above then I’m simply not having it. These are black spaces and black voices are centered here. And all this talk sanctifying the “intentions” of white people who aren’t even taking 2 seconds to check their privilege in the midst of a rally while black people are literally getting beaten, gassed, pepper sprayed and killed across the country as we speak is simply not up for debate on my blog, Facebook wall, personal life you name it. Because at the end of the day it’s white supremacy that has us centering the “good intentions” of white (and non black POC) “allies” even as they (knowingly or not) engage in behavior which is directly harmful and hurtful to black people.

Worth fighting for -,lh

I dont really know what’s going on. I showed up at this party and the next thing I know I feel dizzy. I try to walk straight but it is really hard. I don’t get it though I only had one drink and I am know for handling my drinks. Luke hemmings the president of his fraternity the one that is throwing the party sees me walks to me. “ hey y/-” be fore he could finish my name I fall straight into his arms luckily. “Whoa y/N are you alright?” I take a deep breath. “No I feel funny and dizzy and I can’t walk and I need to get home.” I slowly explain. He looks around then narrows his eyes at one guy “did Dylan get you a drink?” I look at the guy named Dylan “maybe it is hard to remember.” He picks me up bridal style and takes me to his car. And that is when everything got fuzzy. -next morning- I wake up in my bed and look around. All I remember is drinking then falling on luke. Did I fuck Luke? Did I drive? Shit what the happened? I get up and head to the living room where I see Luke’s leather jacket but no Luke. I see and hear the door opening them luke walks in with some Starbucks. “Oh thank god you are awake.” Luke sighs then sets the cups down and motions me to sit with him. I awkwardly sit and give him a funny look “hey Luke no offense but why are you here and what happened did we-’ He shakes his head no really fast ” we didn’t fuck. Not that I wouldn’t want to but shit let me restart. I think Dylan Sage put something in your drink. Sometimes he puts really hard liquor but this time I think he put pills or something. I saw you stumbling so I went to check you fell I caught you and then I got you in my car and you passed out. Your keys are hanging out of your pocket so I grabbed them and got you in to bed. I didn’t think you liked coffee so I got you hot chocolate from star bucks.“ He reached out the cup and smiled. I took the cup and got a sip. Warm hot chocolate on a fall day this shit is my favorite. ” how do you know I don’t like hot chocolate? Or where I live? Also thanks most guys would have took advantage of me.“ He face grew red and he stated rubbing the back of his neck. "Well. Ashton told me where you live and he also told me you didn’t like coffee.” Ashton is like my best friend I use to baby sit for them and we became friends. And we happened to go to the same college which was awesome. “He tried to fight me on who got to take you home but you were already in my car so I won.” I let out a small giggle “yeah sounds like him.” I smiled and him and he smiled back shyly. He eyes wondered to me lips. He slowly leaned in but then he snapped out of it and grabbed his jacket. I awkwardly shifted and took a sip of my drink. ,“well I think I should go… The guys are probably wondering where I am and start thinking things ” he ran out the door. Then walked back in. “Hey y/N do me and you a favor and stay away from Dylan he is a bad guy.” I nodded my head and he walked out. -about a week later- “Y/NNNNNN!” Ashtin yells from outside me door. I ran and open the door pulling a giggling Ashton in. “What the hell is wrong with you Irwin?! I have neighbors!” I whisper yelled. “Get dressed.” I look around then back at him “why?” He draggs me to my room and closes the door on my ad holds it from the other side. “I am not letting you out till you are dress in something pretty and ready to go have fun.” I gave up for two reasons. 1 he is hella lot stronger than me and 2 hanging out with him or his friends is really really fun. I put on a skeleton ribcage print sweater that was a midi type sweater the barely covered my belly button and showed off my collar bones and had long enough sleeves for sweater paws (most important). And a pair of light colored high waist jeans with ripped knees and a pair of rose vans. I let my hair do its own thing and wore small cat liner and a nude lip. I banged on the door. “Ashy let me out!” He was silent “are you in sweats?” “No” He opened the door and tossed me my keys. “Why am I driving?” He laughed and got in my car. “Funny story my car broke down and the general store so I walked here. Well you needed to be our anyway. You barely left and Luke is asking about you.” I drove.“why is he asking about me?”. Ashton shrugged and rolled down the window. “I have no clue he pulls me to the side and ask if you are alright.” I small smile went down my face then turned to anger. “Roll up your window it is the middle of freaking October and it is cold!” We pull into this “abandoned” building but a couple years ago some of the university kids turned it into a cool hang out. During fall and winter it doesn’t get used much it is mainly for summer parties and spring because the school has no idea it is here. Ashton walks in and there are about 10 people including Calum, Michael and Luke. I have never really spoke to cal or Michael but since we both hang out with Ashton we meet. Same with Luke but something is different this time. Luke gets up off the couch and walks toward me then turns away awkwardly stumbling over his long legs as he does. I sit on the couch next to cal who offers me a drink but since my last experience I said no. And watch people mingle and smoke their cigarettes. After a while of dull Michael jumps up with his newly empty beer bottle “lets play 7 minutes in heaven!” There is an even mix of yays and nays. “Oh come on that’s a kids game.” One girls says. “Well I am a kid at heart and it is an excuse to makeout with you lovely ladies.” All the girls laugh. “You do realize there are more girls then guys right?” I point out. “Yeah we need another guy!” Another girl whose name I don’t care to know says. “I’ll play” Dylan sage says walking in. I look at Luke who tenses up and walks over to me. “Yay now it is all good!” Michael yelled then sets us up Luke is across from me and Sage is two people over. After a couple rounds it is Dylan’s turn to spin. Luke tenses and stares at me as Dylan takes his turn. The bottle barely misses me and goes to the girl on my left. As they get up to go sage whispers. “I was really hoping it would be you.” In my ear. I shoot him a disgusted look the look at Luke ant smile. Once he sees I am okay he loosens up. I wait and wait and now it is Luke s turn. He spins and this time it points at me. As we get up Sage puffs “not fair Luke is getting my girl.” Luke moves to him and Dylan stands so they are eye to eye “just because you drug her drink doesn’t mean she is yours.” Dylan laughs “just because you played the hero doesn’t mean she yours either hemmings.” I squeeze in between them my chest to Luke. “Hey hey I am no ones but my own now stop it.” Dylan smacks my ass" what ever you say baby.“ Luke looses it and punches Dylan in the face. Dylan turns and swings right back getting the corner of Luke’s left cheek. The boys jump in and stop it before it is gets worse and I take Luke to my car. "Sit” I say as I open the passenger door. He quietly sits and I go and get the first aid out of my trunk. “This might sting alittle might wanna grab something so you don’t move.” I say move to where I was in between his legs. He looks me in the eye and grabs my hips. “Does this work?” He smirks. I nodded and start to put on the disinfectant. He hisses the first time then gets use to it. “Why did you hit him?” He looks at me “I don’t like to see assholes taking advantage of pretty girls.” I smile the place a band aid on his cut. “He is right Luke I am not yours and you are right I am not his. You dont have to fight for me.” Luke’s smile fades then he stands up still holding my hips the leans in and whispers “you are worth fighting for and I am going to prove it.” He sits back in the seat and just the door. I walk over to the driver side and open it. “Luke what the hell are you doing?” “It is only 8 and the sun just set it is perfect time for night time shenanigans. Come on take me somewhere fun.” I reluctantly get it and start the car. It was a short drive to a playground no one uses that has toddler swings. Those swings are like giant car seats. I can fit into them and for some reason are fucking awesome. I get out and jump on possible on of the last merry go rounds (in case you didn’t know they are banned now) “push me” I tell Luke. He smiles and spins me around then jumps on and holds me and the rail. I feel like time is slowly. We are going fast but it just feels like me and him. I sme then kiss him on the cheek and run and climb up the play set and slides down the slide and Luke is right there at the end. He picks me up over his should and spins me around. He places me in the toddler swing and pushes me. “Luke stop!” I laugh “I am going to fall out!” He stops and lets me out. “So Y/Ns idea of fun is being at a playground at night.” He states ad he follows me to the regular swings. I laugh “yeah it is. I came here last year during finals to unwind and he is always empty and I like it.” He faces me and grabs my swing and lightly pushes. “Surprise it isn’t gone yet.” I look at him and smile “me too. But that’s the fun part. Every time I come here I get to act like an idiot because I never know if it will be gone tomorrow.” He leans down and kisses me. He sits in the swing next to me and we spend hours talking about anything and everything. I check my phone and it is 12. “Hey we should go I got work tomorrow.” He frowns then gets up and walks me to the car. I drive him to his house and park little bit away. “I had a really fun time actually” he jokes. “Me too.” He leans in an kisses for the second time tonight. He gets out and closes the door and motions for me to roll down the window “i ll see you tomorrow night.” And walks away before I can say anything.

anonymous asked:

When I say Poc I mean ALL POC, I dont give a fuck about blacks specifically, don't put words in my mouth. &There's nothing wrong with the term "colored"? We should show appreciation for Poc, and white people benefit & are affected from the decisions of their ancestors and poc are also affected but usually not in a positive way. A race's relations and ties to its past will always affect the current standing of that race. It could be the reason for racial profiling

There is nothing wrong with the term colored?… Oh boy, you never heard of Rosa Parks, huh?

That is the past of “colored”, and you wanna tell me its not offensive? It turned everything into “White” and “Non-white” you know, just like PoC does.

There isn’t just white and PoC, there are Scandinavians, Irish people (Who, was infact, made into slaves in the past if my memory serves me right.) and more! There aren’t just Asians, Africans, Americans, Europeans, there are Koreans, Chinese, Japanese, Taiwanese (no clue if this is the right term for them…), Egyptians, People from Niger, People from Kenya, People from Guinea, Scandinavians, British people, The French, and people from Greece.

There is no white culture.

There is no black culture.

There is no race culture.

Cultures are something you grow up with and learn, based on what country you are from, the culture you grow up with will be your culture, whatever your skin color is, or whatever your etchnicity is, your country is the one you are born in, and the same goes for culture.

Tell me, is a white people saying “niggah” offensive to you? And if it is, why? Is it because of its use in the past? Why is colored not offensive then?

Its funny, you seem to be a white person talking for your precious oppressed PoC, because its clear they simply can not defend themselves!

Oh and…. Wanna judge people for their ancestors? Why only white people then?

From here:


”former slave who achieved considerable success in business before the American Civil War. He eventually became a major


and one of the medium property owners, and certainly the wealthiest “black” property owner, in the state. He held 40 slaves at his death”

Interesting, isn’t it? A black person who used to be a slave held 30 slaves and turned very wealthy! Well time to find out whos ancestor this is and hold that disgusting black person accountable for their ancestors crime! Who cares if they didn’t own slaves themself?


Interesting read…

“Blacks were never close to a majority in America, so it’s mathematically impossible for most whites to have owned black slaves. At the peak of black slavery in the South, only 6 percent of Southern whites owned slaves. If you include the white people in the North, it means that only 1.4 percent of white Americans owned black slaves at the HEIGHT of slavery.”

“An estimated 3,000 blacks owned a total of 20,000 black slaves in the year 1860. One study concluded that 28 percent of free blacks owned slaves, which is a far higher percentage than that of free whites who owned slaves.”

So not only did only 1.4 percent whites own slaves in America, but blacks owned far more!


I am from Norway, my mother is from Norway, and you know what? I am pretty sure we had no slaves, not to mention we weren’t always Norway since yknow, we were passed between Denmark and Sweden, hell even Germany decided to visit us for a while, oh well, you do not care, do you? My  skin is white and thus I cannot be oppressed despite what my ancestors may have gone through.

My father is from Bosnia (A pretty good country, although a bit too many bugs for my taste…), doesn’t seem like that place had a lot of good times either…

Oh my god I am so weak! My ancestors must have had it so horrible! oooo~!

If you wanna play the oppression game, then play it, but a lot of BLACKS owned slaves, infact, if I am not wrong the first slave owner was black, and blacks got taken from their tribes and such and turned into slaves and sold to “whites” in exchange for other stuff, unfortunantly I do not have too much info on a lot of things, so anyone is free to butt in.

I am tired as shit, so I am just gonna call this reply done for now, hit us up on IM sometime anon, wanna protect your precious Pee o Cee, how about showing bravery through not disguising through an anon face?

All races faced shit, even “white” races.

-mod punny

How to be a Cis Het White Male Intersectional Feminist

(OCHWM = Objective Cis Het White Male)

Most people would assume I am a walking oxymoron. At least, they would assume the latter part of that word. However, I am here today to give you a glimpse of how it is possible to be a cissexual heterosexual white male intersectional feminist and how I’m living proof.

Many think that Intersectional Feminism is at odds with cis het white men. This stems from the fact that the patriarchy was built by and for such people. While I personally may not have created it, I certainly see how I am privileged by it and retroactively contribute to it. However, I take a lot of steps to minimize my bond to such a toxic power structure and slowly dismantle it.

(I have boldened some of the sentences in an attempt to provide a TLDR)

 light tw: patriarcy, street harassment, assault, fat-shaming, pornography

My Appearance:

At its core, the patriarchy is all about men and their overarching power. I am reluctantly part of that system, but that doesn’t mean I can’t attempt to break my ties with it. I feel that the first step is to deny my body to the patriarchy. This system relies on men looking threatening as one way to ensure they benefit the most from it. It is my duty as an intersectional feminist to go completely against that.

I make sure not to wear any bright or highly contrasting clothing. I stick to neutral tones with a lot of grey. A very light salmon pink is probably my favorite color to wear. I don’t wear anything that includes sharp objects or features on it. My duty is to minimize anything that might be threatening to others.

Facial hair is too violent. As a result, I have my entire head shaved. Men with facial hair are often seen as alphas/leaders, and such positions are those of power and ultimately oppression. I don’t want to emulate such a male ideal. It is a power fantasy that is dangerous to society as whole.

I am also very thin. The patriarchy expects me to be a big burly man to soak up all the privilege I can. However, I find that the thinner you are as a male, the more willing people are to interact with you because you are not so threatening. As I get thinner, the patriarchy has a harder time keeping a hold on me because I can slip through its fingers more easily. This is metaphorical, of course, but I like to put my fight in poetic terms.

My Public Demeanor:

I am a ghost. I make sure that I leave as little an impact on my surroundings as possible. If I am walking in a crowd, I will bend myself into two dimensional space before I ever touch another person. Unsolicited physical contact is a form of violence; it is assault.

I take up as little space as possible. If I am sitting on a bus, I am scrunched up in a ball to maximize room for the people around me. You will never find me manspreading under any circumstances. The patriarchy teaches men that it is ok for them to have anything they want. If they feel like taking up tons of room, no one has ever stopped them. I, however, understand how problematic that is so I avoid it.

When I see cases of manspreading from others, I take my phone out and document it. I tag the location and put it under the appropriate hashtag. I don’t confront these tyrants because I don’t want the people around me to be triggered by any conflict. I quietly document the case and let karma do the rest. This really extends to any problematic behavior I witness. I record cat-callers, micro-aggressors, and homophobes all the same. The patriarchy seems huge and abstract to us at times, but putting faces on it materializes and quantizes it to something all of us can manage.

My visual interactions are at a mandatory minimum. My gaze is focused on the floor, away from anyone, and especially away from women. This ensures that they do not feel victimized in any way. The Male Gaze is a crux of patriarchy that actually promotes men to give into their animalistic desires and mentally orgasm over how they objectify women. This is a disgusting practice that I take no part in. I simply avoid looking at anyone and mind my own business.

If I need to socially interact with someone, I have a few guidelines that I follow to ensure the other party is not threatened in any way. Once again, I keep eye contact to a minimum. I also lower my voice as to show submission and I only reply with (at most) three word answers. This prevents me from enacting any type of micro-aggressions. The privileged class usually don’t know how ACTUALLY offensive they can be when they mindlessly address characteristics and stereotypes. I do my best to avoid this altogether.

Lastly, I try my best to go to minority-owned establishments when I spend money. However, if the circumstances are such that I need to tip a white waiter, well, I think you already know my stance on that.

My Interpersonal Relationships:

I’m not some kind of loner weirdo. I have a group of friends that I have been with since college. They are typical white cis het males as well but they don’t take intersectional feminism seriously at all. As a result, I find myself educating them constantly when I hear them state something problematic. I do this with everyone that I know personally because I feel the patriarchy can be dismantled if more people are aware of it.

I am in a relationship with a woman. I am, remember, heterosexual after all. I met her online 3 years ago and I fell in love with the way she could make me laugh. We felt that we clicked on a really deep emotional level. She was actually the person that got me into social justice. I could always count on her educating me on how pervasive the patriarchy really was. She opened my eyes to a world that was much darker than I had ever known.

One year ago, we both moved to the same city and started living together. I think the most beautiful part of the relationship is the fact that I got to know her soul before I knew what she looked like. Honestly, it wouldn’t have mattered what she actually looked like because I loved her personality so much. However, she is a bright, joyful, and very healthy individual. I have a lot of fun waking up every morning and seeing what her hair and lip color are. I love giving her big hugs and playing with her cat ears that she wears around the house. There’s just a lot of her to love.

I am personally monogamous but she is polyamorous. I only have room from one love in my life but I admire her ability to have room for more. I don’t care that she dates other people because I know she loves me as much as I love her. Besides, I have no right to tell her what she can and can’t do. I don’t subscribe to the toxic patriarchal idea that men are the owners of women.

We also don’t subscribe to the idea of having sex with each other. In the patriarchy, sex is the only interaction that a man and woman should have. And in that context, the man is using the woman and disposing of her afterwards. We don’t need either validation nor gratification of our relationship through such a crude tool. By default, sex places the female in a vulnerable position and the man in a domineering position. It is oppression in its most naked form. There is no reason for me to put my girlfriend in such a role because it is violent and I try my best to avoid violence at all times.

It is always up to the woman to give consent because she is the one who will be losing the most from the exchange. If my girlfriend decides to give her consent to her other partners, that is because she is making an informed and empowering choice to do so and I would never hold her back from that. But for our relationship, we have mutually agreed that sex is not something our relationship will ever benefit from.

As for my parents, we are no longer on speaking terms. They categorically disagree with almost everything I have to say. I could not keep living in such a toxic environment. They are racist, homophobic, transphobic, ableist, sexist, pro-life, and capitalist. After my mother’s 200th attempt to fat-shame my girlfriend, I had enough.

My Sexuality:

Sexual contact of any kind, even auto-erotic, makes me uneasy. Sexual ideas and acts are vulgar and violent to me. At its core it is exploitative and humiliating. I don’t like to think about sex very often but I do get animalistic urges from time to time. I don’t like the idea of masturbation but I do it reluctantly.

All pornography that features women, even if they are in a position of dominance, is wrong. I don’t watch any pornography that contains women in it. Once again, I refuse to enable this society which loves to exploit women in such a disgusting fashion. Pornography is the final frontier of the patriarchy’s attempts at oppressing women. It is nearly boundless in the situations that it will put women in and humiliate them. Men are allowed free reign over how they want to manifest their hatred towards women in the context of pornography. The ones producing it are evil and the ones watching it are evil.

As a result, I watch pornography that only contains men if I ever (very rarely) feel like I need to ‘get off’ somehow. It’s a poetic way of seeing the patriarchy fuck itself. I find all pornography with women morally reprehensible so male pornography is the only thing I have left.  

In Summation:

There exists an archetype for being a cissexual heterosexual white male intersectional feminist and I am living proof. As I said, the world needs allies now more than ever and if more people like me followed my example, the patriarchy would be crushed once and for all. 

Leave some feedback on what you like and what you think I could probably do better. Thanks for reading!

Alright my lovelies I’ve finally gotten fed up with all the ignorance on this blog and people shouting over each other without listening to each other’s arguments, so I’m making this ranty post. I understand this is a DOLL community but we’re people and a lot time with these dolls being so human-like, we inevitably bring in real world problems into the community and onto our blogs whether it be via our doll’s characters or backstories or how we choose to represent said characters in their doll form. I’m afraid confession blogs have become a competition for who can say the most offensive thing or get the most people riled up. It’s time for me to shout My two cents on this.

As a bisexual cis gendered woman “of color” (which of course automatically makes my opinion more valid than any white persons……jk  jk tumblr logic can go fuck itself) I would like all of you sjws/white knights/self proclaimed POCs to stop attempting to talk on my behalf. I would like you to stop assuming what will or will not offend me. Before i go any further, I’d like to make very clear that I am only speaking for myself. And what I am against is the aforementioned, ready to be offended at the drop of a hat anons lumping me in together with them.I am not part of a group, I think and act for myself. Just because I share the same skin color as someone else does not mean I share the same views as them. And I know this post is a little ranty but bear with me.

“White” is not a race. “White” is German, English, Irish, Swedish, Russian, American, Spanish, Welsh, Canadian, Mexican etc etc. So when you say “white is racist you’re just showing me how ignorant you really are. “White” is just as diverse as “brown/not white/POC” And as long as I’m in rant mode I would like to state how much I DESPISE the term POC. I don’t want the first thing people notice about me to be my skin color, or my race, or my ethnicity. Sure those things are a part of me but they do not define me. I am my own person. Judge me by my actions. Judge me by my personality. Judge me by the things I can choose for myself. What I want is to be judged on equal terms as everybody else. Only on tumblr and other SJW-y sites like this has this not that not been possible. Believe it or not in the real world my skin color has never been an issue, has never held me back, and i have never been harrassed because of it. The term POC, in my opinion, only serves to further isolate people. It makes white and brown an us vs them kind of thing. It takes us further and further from the true equality you folks claim you’re aiming for. Just treat me like any other fucking human being and we’re good. I don’t need any god damn special treatment. I am capable of speaking up for myself. Stop trying to be my white knights. Its disgusting.

Bringing things back to dolls, being “white” does not mean you are a racist. Being “white” and owning a doll that is not white does not make you a racist. Owning only “white” dolls does not make you a racist. wheeeeeeeeeeew I hate this so much. All of you anon POCs demanding other hobbyists with only white dolls (beloved OCs most of the time, with deeply developed characters and personalities in fact) to change their doll to a darker skin tone for “diversity’s” sake. Um how about no? These dolls are already pretty expensive, expensive enough that no reasonable person will change their collection to please some whiny brat on the internet. Or have you thought that maybe like you they identify more with dolls of their skin color? OOoooo nuance. OOoo maybe life isn’t black and white. No one is required to change or add to their collection for your satisfaction. If you want diversity why not make the effort of creating it yourself instead of demanding that the people you are berating do it for you?? So in short stop being such whiny brats and let people have the dolls that make them happy. If all white doll collections offend you so much that’s just too bad. I’ll let you in on a little secret, the block button is a thing that exists. Amazing right? There are ways to block things that offend you without you having to harass and run people off their own blogs!

(Oh yeah almost forgot, just for context I live in the US),


Reviews - Story of Brenda Q (Family Guy)

I was thinking of doing an atrocity notepage on it, but like many of Family Guy’s “OMFG, look at us we’re SUPER SRIOUS. We can tackle IMPORTANT issues” episodes likeQuagmire’s Dad or Brian’s a Bad Father, I don’t think I could explain myself enough in such a short space. And so, we’ve got a plain old full review to talk about this. And speaking of Quagmire’s Dad, it would be nice to get some opinions on that episode from actual trans people. But for now, this episode. Something that I know more about.

Problems in Format
Let’s start with some problems that… make me question this episode’s intentions. First of all, it comes right after Seahorse Seashell Party, where the “moral” was that abuse victims should stay in abusive relationships for the abuser’s benefit. Whether or not this was a coincidence, it seems… hypocritical, and like a dodge. I think most people seem to get this, so I won’t go into it too much.

But there’s another problem with the format. Did you watch that Channel Awesome anniversary series of videos? It started with Dragonbored, and the first four of them were comedies. After that, you were given a super serious documentary entitled “The Dark Side of the Internet.” Considering the four videos that came before it, it’s almost certainly that your expectation going in is that it’s going to be a comedy. It takes awhile for the actual message to sink in, and it softens what it was trying to say. It’s kind of the same problem here, except that Family Guy has ALWAYS portrayed domestic violence as a laughing matter. The only time they treat it serious is to subvert your expectations and make them treating it seriously a joke. For the love of God, Peter blew up a fucking orphanage. This is the wrong show to tackle this kind of issue.

Problems in Character
There are a couple of main problems with this. Those are Jeff and Brenda. Jeff’s character is abuser. Brenda’s character is abuse victim. That is the entire extent of their personality. It makes the whole thing seem… very one-note. Jeff and Brenda are not real people. And if you’re going to tell a real story, you need to make them seem like real people. And there was plenty of opportunity to do this. During Quagmire’s intervention speech (which I’ll get to), she just says that Brenda is his sister and gives no actual details about who she is. Brenda meeting Lois at the restaurant could have been used for talk about Brenda’s interests, and during the camping trip Jeff could have talked about things he likes to do. Speaking of Jeff, where is abusive attitudes come from is either a joke, or just a one-liner that means nothing. It confuses the tone when you’re wondering “is this supposed to be funny?”

Jeff is a one-noted asshole. Brenda is… oh boy… let’s talk about her. There is not a single way you could portray an abuse victim worse. Well, let’s start off by saying what they got right. Brenda has clearly been psychologically damaged, and they do kinda make it clear that it was Jeff doing it. Okay… what did she ever see in Jeff in the first place? Most adults don’t just magically appear in domestic abuse situations. Now it’s true that Jeff could have gotten worse over time and Brenda just didn’t notice. You know, if Jeff wasn’t so fucking one note. I mean it’s possible that Brenda already had psychological problems before meeting Jeff. But… try listening to Quagmire’s speech with THAT interpretation of events. And yes, I’m going to say right now that Quagmire’s speech may actually be the most disgusting part of the episode.

Because Family Guy loves to be over-the-top, Brenda doesn’t just seem blind to Jeff’s faults, she seems like she’s blind to reality. Once again, if you want to treat a realistic situation realistically, then do it. Also, this episode makes it PAINFULLY clear that Brenda, without counselling, is just going to find another Jeff and the cycle will repeat all over again. Honestly, half of the time, Brenda being oblivious to Jeff seems to be played off as a joke (“he hits me a lot softer at home”). A lot of the abuse seems to be played for comedy, like Jeff painting Brenda outside naked for… some reason. I shouldn’t have to explain that is episode isn’t funny in the slightest, right?

Problems in Displaying the Issue
Joe: “I can’t do anything unless [Brenda] files a formal complaint”

That would be an absolutely valid excuse, if this was only happening behind closed doors and not in plain view of EVERYONE. Yeah, it makes it a lot harder to get someone convicted when you don’t have the victim’s testimony, but that’s not usually a requirement for the exact scenario presented in the episode. Goddamnit, this keeps happening in Quagmire’s house. He keeps sex tape cameras everywhere and he wants to get the guy convicted.

Also, this episode… extensively blames Brenda for being abused, and then it says that her problem is solved when the abuser goes away. Guys… it can’t be both. If Brenda has been so damaged that she’s blind to reality to stay in an abusive relationship, then I cannot state this enough, she is going to find another Jeff. The episode doesn’t provide any tangible reasons why Brenda ever decided to be with Jeff. And there are numerous things they could have done… like explain actual reasons that people stay in abusive relationships. Like… I don’t know, Jeff has shattered her self-esteem so much that she doesn’t think she can get a job and she’s forced to rely on him for food and home. Oh, but then you wouldn’t be able to make a joke about him asking for money for a bandanna. Showing real reasons this happens makes the issue more real, which is what this episode tried and failed to do.

On top of that, this episode plays a lot like an 80’s or 90’s drug PSA. In order to bring awareness to an issue they show the absolute worst case scenario, and again, show the issue very one note. All domestic abuse is bad obviously, not not all drugs are bad. But not all domestic abuse is this bad, or gets this bad. And when you color people’s perception that THIS is what domestic abuse is, people who don’t quite hit that mark tend to be ignored because they don’t hit this fantastical mark. “I can do this to you, because I’m not hitting you like Jeff, and therefore I am not abusive.” Now here’s the kicker. If all abusers are like this episode portrays them, then that’s the logic that they’d actually follow.

I can understand showing “how bad it could be,” but that excuse doesn’t work here. It might have worked if, once again, they talked about how Jeff USED to be. How it only started with petty little actions that build up to this monster. That might have its own problems, but it would be a step in the right direction.

Quagmire’s Speech
“Brenda, the fact that you are being abused "has affected my life in the following ways: The sister that I knew and loved growing up "no longer exists. The person I see before me now is just a punching bag. And I call you ‘person’ and not 'woman’ "because a woman is a strong, beautiful, vibrant creature. A woman embraces life. A woman makes choices to make her life better. Sadly, the fact that you are with Jeff, proves to me that you have made a choice to make your life worse. I-I want the girl I grew up with back. I want I want my sister back. Brenda, I love you. Please make the right decision.”

Quite honestly, this is one of the most disgusting moments on the show. It’s not disgusting in the Fresh Heir way, it’s disgusting in a way that only real effort can get you to. First of all, like I said before, it says absolutely nothing about who Brenda was before she met Jeff. It’s all buzz words. But first of all, let’s talk about who this is coming from. And I don’t mean “brother of an abuse victim.” It’s coming from Quagmire, the sex fiend. The person who only sees women for their bodies. On the basic level, it’s completely out of character or else he’s got some of his own psychosis.

This implies that staying in an abusive relationship is the abuse victim’s choice. According to Quagmire, it’s Brenda’s choice to be absolutely delusional. It GROSSLY simplifies the issue. And yeah, it completely goes against the show’s belief in Seahorse Seashell Party. Unless both of these episodes are supposed to be comical and 22 minutes of a woman being viciously abused is supposed to be a joke. This episode spend half of its run-time thoroughly convincing me that being in this relationship is in no Brenda’s choice because she had been too psychologically damaged by Jeff. It’s not always as simple as just walking away. For starters, a lot of abuse victims are scared to leave their relationship because they are afraid that they’re abusers will KILL them. And they don’t always tell this.

Try watching the episode with this interpretation: Jeff has threatened to kill Brenda if she blames him in the slightest for anything, or tries to leave. Considering the ending of the episode, this seems to be within the realm of plausibility. And with that interpretation, you can see how absolutely vile and disgusting Quagmire’s speech can be. Like… this is one of the most offensive moments is any cartoon that I have ever seen. I really, really hope that that the writer does not believe this about abuse victims. When I review this episode, I am warning you now that I am absolutely going to fly off the handle. And I don’t think anyone would blame me. This is the kind of pig shit that deserves it.

Also, let’s touch on the little minor fact here that according to Quagmire… if you are an abuse victim, you don’t deserve to be called a woman. Like… what the hell was even going through your mind? “I want my sister back. I want the girl I grew up with back.” Hmmm… okay… tell me how leaving Jeff will improve HER life you fucking selfish prick. I’m sorry Quagmire, but you’re a sex offender at this point and no one gives a damn about what YOU want. You only killed Jeff AFTER making this speech, and like I said before, in this situation that wouldn’t be the end of the problem

Final Thoughts
It’s episodes like this why I won’t leave Family Guy alone. I only reviewed Adult Party Cartoon and Mr. Pickles once. Why? Because they at least had some awareness of what they were. Family Guy thinks it’s some tour de force of lampooning important issues. It’s not, because every time it tries to, we get some of the most mal-informed, one-sided, or flat out wrong takes on them that I have ever seen. And this may be one of the most disgusting of them. Give them credit for trying? No. First of all, that’s like giving a chef credit for trying to fly a plane… and having it crash. This was out of Family Guy’s skill level and expertise by a wide margin. I will argue that this PSA did more damage to the cause of domestic violence awareness than it helped. Misinformation is far, far worse than no information.

If Family Guy only stuck to comedy like its defenders claim it does, then I would be happy to leave it alone. But it doesn’t. It tries tiresome publicity stunts like Life of Brian or Stewie is Encinte, it tries to delve super deep into boring joke characters likeBrian & Stewie and worst of all it tries to “spread awareness” for things it doesn’t know about. All of them done without any hint of irony. The only Family Guy episode I’ve reviewed that had “being funny” its prime objective was Fresh Heir. And if its only crime was being painfully unfunny that would be one thing, which is largely why I’ve been easing out of Spongebob and towards cartoons that do worse things… like TTG continually insulting the audience.

“Family Guy is only comedy” is by far the most common defense I get for the show. And if you like its comedy, fine, I’m not going to stop you. But claiming that episodes likeStory of Brenda Q, Life of Brian, or Quagmire’s Dad are there simply for the sake of comedy? What the fuck am I supposed to think about this show?

Arrow 5x07 “Vigilante” Review: It Really Was Full Of A Whole Lot of Suck

This episode was so bad. It was messy. The dialogue was awful—not even talking about the cut and paste crap referenced in the review title. The hope that I came into this season with diminishes each week. I came into S5 with an open mind even though the PR did nothing to persuade me to watch. Each week feels worse than the last, both in insult and injury. My beloved characters are not recognizable, the looks of the show has changed, and not for the better, even though we have recycled plots and dialogue.

What we have is stagnation.

What we have is audience apathy—which honestly feels like a reaction to the apathy behind the scenes.


Evelyn Sharpe

The big a-ha moment of the episode was her last second meet-up with Prometheus. This kind of shock value wasn’t enough to raise the episode up. It was just that bad. I might have also cared about the twist more if I cared more for her. I don’t. And last week when she was all “Serial Killer” to Oliver, she burned that bridge with me.

I will say it certainly puts a new light on that fight scene between Evelyn and Prometheus last week. I couldn’t understand why he didn’t snap her like a twig. I figured she’d just been LL’d with skills. Maybe not now? But I’m not entirely sold on her being a mole in Team Arrow. Maybe she’s double-crossing Prometheus (or at the very least beginning to regret joining forces with him). What I do know is they have given us zero insight into her character. So we’ll see where this goes. But even if she isn’t Oliver’s double agent then they made the only new girl on the team evil.

Not exactly the most female positive move to make in a show that is truly suffering in its treatment of females. And 5x07 had more to add to that particular pyre.

Last week I commented how entirely idiotic it was that Evelyn is fine for dropping out of school and playing vigilante but they drew the line at drinking at 17. This week they double-downed on the double standard and spiced it up with some disgusting sexism. A 17-year-old girl was dressed up like a hooker and used as bait in an episode that talked about teenage trafficking. A. Seventeen. Year. Old. Girl. Was. Dressed. Up. As. A. Hooker. When last week she couldn’t drink.

She can’t fight crime with a buzz but her boobs and ass are okay.

Why am I not surprised? This is the same show that had Felicity treat her vagina like a credit card with the boyfriend she still refuses to name.

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