men only "look ridiculous in female clothes" because we've been trained to think that way. because of gender roles and stereotypes. it's literally just fabric on someones body it shouldn't matter what the person's gender is if they want to wear something that they like
Believe it or not, I can have an opinion about something without society training me into it. I can assure you its not because of gender roles because I think men look great in “dresses” that are actually made for male body types.
Now compare it to a man wearing a womans dress:
Doesn’t quite look as good, does it? This is MY opinion. I don’t need society to train me into anything. If I did, I wouldn’t think that Till Lindemann, Brian Molko and Pete Wentz look hot as fuck with black eyeliner - because most of society doesn’t like men wearing makeup.
I haven’t said that men CAN’T wear dresses so there was no need for you to tell me that someone’s gender isn’t important if they want to wear something.
"Ten was never interested in girls." LISTEN that was my favorite moment probably of that whole nct life. The way ten widens his eyes and looks at the rest of nct after she says it. Then his ears get red. Then when she says "he was interested in dance." His whole body literally relaxes and he's like "that's right" WHAT A MOMENT.
THIS IS TRUE OMG THANKS FOR THIS HOW COULD I EVEN FORGET BC THIS WAS LIKE A SHINING MOMENT IN THE BIBLE OF JOHNTEN
DH and DD are doing a great job of changing out my dressing each day. I worked up the courage yesterday to see what my injury looked like. I still haven’t felt brave enough to look at the “before” photo.
This injury has been a little traumatic. I’ve never been really hurt in my married life before. I broke bones when I was a kid (one arm in first grade, another in middle school, and a leg in high school). Getting hurt and then imagining all of the different scenarios that could have been still has me thinking.
One of the words that has been said often is “trauma.” As in, “You’re body has been through trauma.” As a foster parent, it has made me really think about how we use that term when it comes to our kids. I was involved in a freak accident and it has been, to a degree, traumatic. It was scary and I’m still reeling from it in different ways. How much worse it must be as a child to undergo trauma that is potentially done to you intentionally, and potentially by the ones closest to you.
I think about some of the kids who have been through my home who have been severely physically or sexually or emotionally abused. Generally by the people closest to them that should have been protecting them. Then we rip kids out of their environments and put them in a new home and the move itself could be considered traumatic. I’m still processing it all, but I realize I don’t feel okay right now, and I’m realizing how much worse it must be for kids who are too young to process what’s happening to them, and how difficult it must be to move forward after living through what they’ve been through. I realize I’m not explaining myself very well, but I’m turning around some big stuff in my head this week.
do you have tattoos? what kind of tattoos you'd like to get?
I only have one:
But I’d like to get a lot! I have always loved how tattoos look like but I’ve never felt I am worthy of them… That my body is not good enough of a canvas. Well, now if my body changes to what I want it to be, I can finally get tattoos! That tiny triangle I made was like the first symbol of the fact that my body is worthy of being decorated. I don’t have clear ideas of what I’d want but here’s something:
I’d like to get like a TON of tattoos and the theme could be like skulls, dead flowers, feathers, bones, teeth… my aesthetic… Also I kinda want to probably see if my top surgery scars will be possible to cover but that’ll depend on how things will go. I could start on the sleeves already though!
The sleeves of my shirt are soft under my fingers
As I tuck on them in a nervous fidget
While struggling to meet the eyes watching me
They can’t see what’s inside of me
But they judge every single movement I make
Deciding if I’m this or that without hearing my voice
They don’t care about the stories that I have built
Inside of my mind
What matters to them is how I present
What my body looks like
And how their rules can be applied, making me smaller
I am not their idea of perfection and I will never fit the cast they used to produce the perfect army
Because while their creations are seeds buried deep underground
I am a spirit painting the sky with my mind
Though they don’t understand what I say
And their eyes burn holes on my skin
I won’t ever abandon who I am
So I am talking to this guy on Snapchat we just casually talking nothing too serious then he ask me send him a picture of myself cuz he wanna know what I look like so I did only send him my face only then he text back oh u look cute then he ask me if I have a nice body/ do I have boobs or butt this is when I lost interest in him for a sec so I only told him I have breast then he told he a ass guy but he say don't worry should I keep talking to him
I have three alters that I've been wondering about for a while. One is deaf, one is blind, and one is colorblind, but they aren't my only alters. Do you have any idea what might have caused them to be like this? Thanks
I’d look into the particular traumas that caused their formation. An alter who is blind might have been formed through a manipulative trauma or might have been formed in the dark/with eyes covered, they might have been formed to “not see” the trauma and therefore protect the body from the trauma. If you can figure out when these alters formed you might get a better idea of how these traits served you.
❥ jongdae, ‘good boy’, sub!chen is my muse bye, smuttish warning
his hand is quickly slapped away from your body when he tries to touch you. poor boy. he isn’t used to situations like this and you feel a bit bad for him that you’ll have to punish him for doing something wrong which he really didn’t know was wrong.
well, you did tell him it was wrong to try and touch you without your permission. so it is effectively his fault.
‘what did i say, jongdae?’ you ask him. he looks to you with wide eyes that show he knows he’s done something wrong. 'before we got here, i told you something. what was it?’
his hand is retracted from near your body and he looks down at his lap with regret. you think he might not remember anything. you think that maybe, he wasn’t even listening. 'you said… that…’
'can you not recall?’ you question.
'you told me not to touch you,’ jongdae says softly. he looks up to you for the approval that he seeks constantly and when you smile there’s a look of relief on his face. 'i didn’t mean to. i’m sorry. i won’t do it again.’
'good boy,’ you answer him with. nothing else can truly summarise how you feel about his slight apology that makes your heart flip a little.
so now you’ll give him what he wants and he’ll enjoy it.
you bring a hand to his face and with your thumb caress the side of his cheek, softly skimming his cheeks affectionately. he almost purrs into your touch and you’re left with a shiver to run down your spine. he’s everything that you want. he’s everything that you need.
and with his dull gaze that eyes you up and down with all of your touches, his breath falling short when you graze over his thigh and his lips quivering when you near him, you know that he is what you want.
so you repeat it over and over in your mind until it leaves your lips again. jongdae is your own. jongdae is all. “good boy.”
OKAY I SAW THAT POST ABT IWA-CHAN WITH FRECKLES AND I FELT THE NEED TO SHARE THIS: IWACHAN WITH FRECKLES AND ACNE SCARRING AND A SCAR ABOVE HIS RIGHT BROW AND ON HIS CHIN, WITH ROUGH CALLOUSED HANDS AND PALE STRETCH MARKS THAT STICK OUT AGAINST HIS HIPS. IWACHAN WITH BITTEN NAILS, IWACHAN WITH ONE CROOKED TOOTH THAT BRACES NEVER SEEMED TO QUITE FIX. thats all
*pounding hands on the table* YES YES YES YES YEEESSSSSS ohh my god yes to all of these #MakeImperfectionsVisibleOnAnimeCharacters2k17 this is why I started drawing people with blemishes and body hair and stretch marks and stuff bc like!! That’s what people look like!! Yknow!! So glad I’m not the only one who appreciates it
🌸 To all my fat friends who are contemplating wearing a crop top or bikini this summer, this is your sign to GO FOR IT! You’re gonna look 100% flawless honey don’t let anything stop you from wearing what you like 🌸
I looked at him with so much admiration, I swear you could see the love pouring out of my eyes like waterfalls.
I could also swear to you that he looked at me like all of the other girls, just another body, just another face. I could swear to you that when he kissed me so hungrily like I was his last meal, I could swear to you I was not what he was craving.
I could swear to you that he means so much more to me than I will ever mean to him; and I could swear to you there is no substance in the entire world to numb that pain.
(Ive seen one of these already and I’ve been dying to have a take at it)
They are both in the nurses office, Evan just having his head flushed down a toilet and Connor being just beaten up. They don’t talk to each other at first but make a lot of eye contact, wondering what happen to the other boy.
When Connor does say something, he asks why the hell is he in here? He doesn’t seem beaten up.. Was he faking a head injury or something?
Evan doesn’t respond, but nods because he kind of just wanted to go home.
Connor wishes he could go home too, but he knows a black eye and a bloody nose isn’t even enough for anyone in his family to even notice him.
Evan wishes he was tough like Connor, he wished he wasn’t such a baby and had to fake injury to get out of school.
A silent agreement happens that they wish they had each others lives, Then they switch
Connor just feels really short, his head hurts a bit but he feels great.. Evan however…
Evan feels like he going to throw up, he’s never felt this much pain in his life, his face stings his hands sting. He feels like he’s deep thrown in a garbage disposal.
“Connor what the heck!”
“I dont know!? I guess we switched or something.. Come to think of it this isn’t half bad..”
“what? My life sucks! Personally i won’t mind staying like this..”
Connor and Evan have to meet up after school to get to know everything about each other.
Evan tells him about his mom, how she’s the best person in the whole world and if Connor throws a printer at her he won’t hesitate to shave Connors head
Connor agrees because he loves his floof
Connor is totally fine with Evan in his body, But he makes one rule clear..
“Dont talk to Zoe… Don’t even look at her Hansen.. You hear me?”
(He knows about the note)
P R O T E C T I V E C O N N E R
They get sent on their own ways, Connor heading home with Mrs Hansen, and Evan attending a few more classes before having a panic attack in the bathroom because ‘Jesus christ Connor murphy is a horrible person what is his life at home going to be like’
Evan starts to look around the parking lot for something that says “Im edgy! Connor Murphy’s car!” Or something like that..
Z O E A L E R T
She goes up to Evan and there is never a more awkward conversation
“Connor! Where the hell are you going?”
“Im giving you a ride you idiot.. Or are you too high to remember that mom and dad took your car?”
“Uh… Right.. Um.. thanks the.”
“How high are you?”
“High…like.. drugs high? Oh shoot i do drugs right”
Zoe thinks “Connor” is just reeeally high so she tries not to talk to him on the car ride home.
She almost crashes when Evan tries to starts up a friendly conversation about her day.
Evan listens to Connor and immediately goes to his room, only to be disgusted when he realizes theres gotta be a dead thing in here because Damn it reeks
Evan cants take it any longer and he goes downstairs to request frebreze from Cynthia to spray around the room.
FAMILY DINNER TIME
Evan is so shook he has no idea what the hell he’s supposed to say/do because he’s never eaten dinner at a table with a group of people before.
He actually ends up talking at the table because someone asked him how his day went, he talks about His day (Evan) and Cynthia is just so surprised that he answered.
Zoe is so confused “What the hell is wrong with my brother..”
Of course Larry thinks he’s high and sends him away to him room.
Evan has a fit in the room and ends up falling asleep and missing a planned call from Connor to talk about the next day.
Connor on the other hand…
Connorwaits for Evans mom but starts to get seriously hungry, he makes pasta and waits for Evans mom still… She never shows up..
Connor gives up waiting and goes outside to smoke, Then stops..
He can’t hurt Evans body like that.. Evan wouldn’t want it.. So he doesn’t smoke.
Connor calls Evan like 8 times and Zoe ends up finally picking up the phone.
“Evan? Why are you calling my brother?”
“Zoe! shi-.. Give Connor the phone i need to talk to him..”
“Um.. He’s asleep.. Why are you calling him?”
“I um.. We um.. I just need to..”
Reaaaal smooth Connor
The next day, Evan and Connor meet up before school to trade schedules and go to each others classes, its doesn’t go well..
Evan ends up getting lost (How? idk) And just panics in the bathroom once more.
Connor just skips like.. all of the classes, Only to find Jared skipping as well..
A BO RT A B OR T JA RE D IS APP ROA C HIN G
Jared is just a concerned boi for his family friend.. Evan never misses classes unless he’s having a panic attack.. But if he is he’s usually not walking around the school…
He goes up to Connor (as Evan) and asks if he’s okay.
“EVAN” CURSES HIM OUT AND HE ALMOST THROWS UP IN THE HALLWAY BECAUSE WHO KNEW LITTLE EVAN COULD SAY SUCH THINGS.
Evan finds Connor and Jared and asks whats wrong, Connor says what happened.
Evan starts to cry because his only friend will never want to talk to him again.
Connor starts to freak out and tell Evan to “Shut the hell up” But Jared is watching at this point.
CONFUSED B O I
Jared doesn’t believe them at first after they tell him but then he gives in as Connor (Evan) Starts talking about how they met in preschool and there is no way he told that to Connor Murphy
Jared starts to research how to fix it while Evan and Connor go over some ground rules for each other
“Don't talk to anyone in the family, and if you absolutely have, talk in one word sentences and responses.”
“Don't you dare ever come to school wearing a dorky blue color without having the hoodie over it.”
“Just… Avoid Zoe…”
“If Larry asks if your high say yes because its an easy excuse.”
“Be careful around my mom… shell know something is up..”
“If she asks you about refills.. say you’re fine.. um, they’re for my anxiety.. Im not sure if you need them but-”
“I don’t want you to.. um, yknow..”
“Jesus christ Evan I won’t look..”
“Just don’t do it ok-”
4.” I have therapy this weekend.. So.. Don’t like, be super open to questions and stuff.. he’ll know something is w-wrong..”
5. “P-please don’t smoke.. i just.. i don’t-”
And off they go, Evan riding home with Zoe once more and Connor walking to Evans house. praying that they’ll switch back..
Jared ends up telling Alana what happened, she just rolls with it because who knows maybe Jared is right?
Connor has almost fallen asleep when Evan comes bursting into his room.
He doesn’t have his hoodie on…. so he can see the scars…
Connor spends the next hour or so trying to explain why he did it and confirming over and over that he won’t do it again anytime soon.
Evan just ends up staying the night there as they have a-lot to talk about..
Connor explains to Evan why he’s so mad and angry all the time.. And he wouldn’t be surprised if Evan started to act like the because he’s hanging out with his family..
Evan explains why he broke his arm.. Connor then immediately feels bad for pushing him over..
As the night goes on… They come closer and closer.. revealing things to each other that they never shared with anyone..
Connor kisses Evan and Evan is just straight up shocked
“Don’t think of it as a personal thing.. I just.. is it weird that I’ve always wanted to make out with myself?”
“Y-ye-s? No? i dont kn-…”
They hang out a lot more after that.. Not because of the kiss.. no.. right?
Zoe thinks they’re dating, and starts to question Evan (as Connor) about it.
“Have you kissed yet?”
“Wha- I um…”
“Omg you have! I never thought id see the day.. You have seemed different now that you started to date him..”
“We’re not dating..!”
Cynthia starts to like her new acting son.. He’s a little anxious but something about that Evan boy is definitely changing him.
Larry is super suspicious, but Zoe protects her brother and says he hasn’t done drugs in like.. months.
LA RRY GETS CONNOR TO PLAY BASEBALL WITH HIM SO HES HAPPY
Connor loves mrs Hansen… Enough said.
They have movie nights, late night eating junk food, He takes her out on a walk one day.. Its just So pure
One time, Connor and Evan are hanging out in Evans house and Mrs Hansen shows up to ask if they want something to eat And Evan starts to C RY
HE MISSES HIS MOM SO MUCH AH
Zoe shows up to pick up Evan… and Connor realizes he Misses her
They both just… miss their lives so much… Its been a month.. Like,, bring the bois home.
JARED BURSTS IN AND HE H A S A C U R E
They switch back, both sobbing with happiness as Jared stands in the back kinda awkwardly..
Of course they thank Jared what kind of monster do you think i am
Finally, they go back to their homes, Connor literally hugs Zoe which is new.. But she rolls with it.
Evan is just sobbing in his mothers arm saying how much he missed her
They both agree that they should date because they know each other better then anyone else.
SO MA NY INSI DE J OK ES
Evan is just so comfortable around the Murphy’s, same thing with Connor and Mrs Hansen.