Dear Future Wife...#662
I’ve wanted kids most of my life. But as my romantic journey progressed into adulthood, I became skeptical. Not because I changed in my desire to have children necessarily…but because my potential partner choices didn’t feel like proper fits for a co-parent. So eventually I decided that if the partnership wasn’t going to work, it wouldn’t be fair to future kids…so I let that dream go.
Then we met.
We started off as many new couples do…getting to know each other with long deep conversations. We talked and we laughed and we cried a little bit…then we talked some more. There was something silly about you. You were so fun. At the same time, you were so real and serious and I got the sense that you genuinely loved your family. Then we spent more time together, I got to see how you reacted to many situations and people in your life…and we talked about kids. I don’t know exactly what made me feel this…but at some point, you gave me my dream back. I found a partner that would be a great fit, that would be a good parent, that would make me the kind of person I’d want to be in order to also be a good parent. Meeting you was only a tiny part of our beginning. Now every day we grown and learn more about each other. I become more and more sure that you’re the one for me.
I can imagine us going down that path together. I can see us picking out baby clothes and baby furniture and baby everything. I can see myself talking to your bellybutton when you’re not even showing. I can see poopy diapers and mashed pea covered work shirts. I see the first day of kindergarten and seeing our kid up at the altar. It’s not a dream…it’s our future.
You and me? We make a great team. I’m not missing anything in life when I’m with you. But you gave me my dream back. With you, I can have kids…not only because I want them, but because we want them together and we are strong together. I say this to you constantly, but I truly cannot wait. I’m so excited.