but sometimes you just need a break

anonymous asked:

How would undertale, underfell and dancetale sans react to an s/o with ptsd having a relapse in front of them???

(im so sorry if this isn’t good enough, im not too knowledgeable on PTSD i will totally re-write it if you want!! ~mod tati)


UT!Sans

By now all of the resets constantly haunt him so he’s no stranger to just breaking down sometimes. Even though he might freeze up at first and start to panic a bit, his main concern would be to get you somewhere quiet, get you some water, a snack and stay close. Not too close though, he doesn’t wanna trigger anything or make it worse. He’ll stay by your side as long as you need but he really has no idea what to say. It’s really not the time for a joke so he doesn’t know how to lighten the mood…

UF!Sans

Shitshitshitshit…what the fuck is he supposed to do? This poor skelly will go into nonstop sweat mode and will probably yell at you to stop being so weak more out of the need to yell something than to insult you. Since that just makes everything worse he does the only other thing he can think of. Picks you up, teleports somewhere where you can lay down and kinda just stays there. This is gonna help right?…..Right?

DT!Sans

Sweetheart you alright there? Whats goin’ on? This one is clueless for about two or three minutes before he goes into full oh fuck mode. He gets you as far away as monster-ly possible from whatever triggered your relapse and spends a few hours holding you. Only moving to get you anything you ask for, talking softly and slowly trying to get you back to him. He really hates seeing you hurting in anyway, even more so when all he can do is sit there, wait, and beg anything in the universe listening that you’ll be okay.

ADB Tidbit #1

“If I meddle more, he’ll just clam up. The fool boy needs to talk to you.

Belle sighed.  “I wish you wouldn’t call him that.”

“Oh, he deserves it.” Morgan rolled her eyes.  “But the moniker is entirely affectionate, I assure you.”

“I’m not sure his self-esteem is high enough to take that, to be honest,” Belle said after a moment’s hesitation.  “He’s so powerful…but so fragile.  Sometimes, I think words can break him when magic would just bounce away.”

things i love about Shiro
  • wears New York Black™
  • the dad friend
  • that fresh fade
  • literally so beautiful, inside and out
  • soft and delicate
  • but like also terrifyingly adept at fighting 
  • just wants to help  
  • he is also just, so damn beefy like hot damn 
  • will not let Lance make dirty jokes
  • is A Dork™
  • “let’s take a break” “let’s break for now” “let’s break”
    *everyone sits down for 2 minutes* 
    “wHAT ARE YOU DOING WE CAN’T TAKE A BREAK!?”
  • sometimes he just  ¯\_(ツ)_/¯
  • honestly probably needs a 5 hour hug
  • feels so responsible for everything all the time
  • the most bestest, most genuine person
  • when he smiles i am undone, my son
  • literally did nothing wrong
  • encourages everyone to do and be their best while struggling with his own self doubt 
  • *also side eyes people on the reg* 
  • this screenshot:  

Honestly, the best thing I’ve learned to do as an empath is setting boundaries. Learning when to say, “I don’t have the emotional capacity for this conversation right now, so I’m going to disengage. I will speak to you later” really changed my life and has made me a much better person. A lot of people like to use empaths as their own personal sounding board and while the majority of the time, we don’t mind being there for people, sometimes its just tew much. It’s okay to say no. It’s okay to tap out. The people that really care about your well being will understand and will love how much better/more balanced you are when you return.

outside v.s inside (the signs)
  • Aries: tough on the outside//really wants to let you know how much they care
  • Taurus: Easygoing on the outside//Internally dying and is trying their best to stay calm
  • Gemini: Friendly and popular on the outside//Wonders if their friends really care
  • Cancer: Shy on the outside//Wants to be friendly but is afraid of getting hurt
  • Leo: Proud on the outside//Sometimes worries that they are not good enough
  • Virgo: smart and clever on the outside//fears the day that their smarts will fail them and those they care about.
  • Libra: Level-headed and kind on the outside//Needs a break and just wants to sleep
  • Scorpio: Reserved on the outside//Just wants a friend that understands
  • Sagittarius: Adventurous and bold on the outside//Fears that their dreams will be struck down one day.
  • Capricorn: In control on the outside//They might snap at any second.
  • Aquarius: Unique and Rebellious on the outside//Wishes that one day they will find a place were they truly fit in
  • Pisces: Supportive on the outside//Wants a friend that will support them and give them shoulder to cry on
University Tips (non-conventional)

If these help anyone, great!

  1. Wear sports bras/bralettes to lectures instead of the ones with a buckle at the back. They tend to poke and prod your back after a while if you’re leaning back. Sports bras don’t.
  2. Set your timetable as your phone background for the first few weeks. Use this method for no. 6 too if you can be bothered. 
  3. Lay a towel on your bed a few days before your period is due. If you leak on a towel you can just wash it or throw it away. Easier than washing and changing the sheets.
  4. When you’re in a lecture taking notes on a laptop remember to turn down the brightness on your screen, especially if the lecturer has dimmed the lights. Otherwise you’ll annoy others and drain your battery. 
  5. Save your recordings at every given break instead of making one continuous one through pausing. Sometimes files are too large to save and you don’t want to risk losing the entire lecture recording. Save as you go along.
  6. If you need to remember something (e.g. a library book, USB, locker key..) write it on a post-it note and stick it on your shoes before you sleep. Make sure they’re the shoes you intend to wear the next day!
  7. Don’t shoot me: if you have left an assignment really late, stay up as long as you can completing it (yes, that means an all-nighter may be needed). Sleep as soon as you’ve handed it in. 
  8. If you use tech in a lecture e.g. phone for recording or electronic notetaking on your laptop, then mess around with it before uni begins. Know what buttons to press and when, otherwise you’ll mess up your notes and annoy others, with your excessive clicking. 
  9. Always, always, ALWAYS carry a plastic bag/carrier bag. You might need to make a trip to the library, drink may spill in your bag so you’ll need an alternative or you may not be able to dispose of a pad/tampon until you get back home. Seriously, just carry one.  
  10. Find out where coursework/assignment are submitted within your first week on campus. Ask admin how the procedure works and make sure you know it inside out. 
  11. Spend a day wondering around campus (before timetabled lectures start). Find out where the library is, talk to the librarians and ask them how to borrow/return books and also how to reserve!
  12. When you get your timetable be sure to visit the lecture halls and seminar rooms a few days before the term starts so you know where to go. Find out where the toilets are in those buildings too. 
  13. Find out where your lecturers offices are. Know the building and floor that they’re on (they’re usually all in the same place). 
  14. Carry cereal bars and other non perishable foods that take up little room. Sometimes your tummy rumbles really loud in a lecture, give it some love.
  15. Volunteer in your first year of university, these is the least hectic year (usually!). You want something to put on that CV and those post grad applications! 
  16. In the UK the first year generally doesn’t count toward the final degree classification but those grades WILL show up on your transcript. Make sure they look decent. When you apply for post grad courses, if you don’t have the certificate yet (because you’re still completing the course) the university/institution will ask for your grade transcript. First year grades come up first! 
  17. A huge part of your degree classification/GPA comes from the final year thesis. Talk to as many older students as you can and ask them what topics they picked and how they went about it. A great thesis/dissertation will literally move you from a 2:1 to a 1st. 

I’ll update this list as things come to me. I hope it helps, this is all my opinion, sorry. 

It’s getting bad again– I was doing okay for a little while, going out, meeting new people, working and distracting myself in any way. But when I’m struggling and find myself in difficult situations and need to feel like there’s somebody behind me, somebody there for me when I’m overwhelmed and scared, I turn around and remember you aren’t there anymore.

Sometimes I feel like I’m going to break, but I’m strong and I know I’ll get through it. It’s not a matter of being dependent on another person to feel secure, but I miss knowing you were that person who knew how to talk me down when my anxiety and panic attacks got out of control, held me and calmed me down when I needed it. How you always knew when to cheer me up or when to just listen to me be upset or sad or however I felt.

I’m trying really hard to let it go and move on, some days are easier than others. Nights can be rough. But how does someone just let go of that? How do you forget about somebody you allowed in your life, opened up to and let yourself become completely vulnerable with without fear?

Now it’s just me and I’ll do just fine. But you were my person. I don’t know how much longer it’ll take for me to be okay with the fact that you’re not there anymore.

—  aftertheam, Things I’ll never say to you

When Will I Stop Feeling Blue: An alternate version of What’s the Use of Feeling, Blue

(I am fully aware of the double meaning of the title and main line but I just wanted to get this out of my head. I didn’t spend a very long time on it afraid.)
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I often miss you and not in the way I used to. You were my first love, my first sight of what I wanted in my future and so much more. I fell so in love with you so extremely fast and I often wish that wasn’t the case. You were only in my life for a few years, but somehow your presence still lingers here. I wish that you would just go. Take all of your lies, your false promises and your excuses and just leave my life. I’m not good enough and I never was good enough for you. I know you aren’t the man I need in my life to make me a better woman. But sometimes I wish you would’ve stayed just a little longer so I could’ve figured that out on my own. Because sitting here, missing you, wondering why you chose her has made me a person I never wanted to be. In love with someone who never loved me, and unable to let anyone break down the walls I have built to keep the memories of you out. So please, if there ever comes a day you decide you miss me, please just stay the hell away from me. I was never good enough. I was too young, too naive, too in love. Whatever you want to say, just know I would’ve done anything for you and I wake up every day trying to kill off the memory of you.
Thank you for breaking me in a way I didn’t know was possible.
But more importantly, thank you for making me who I am today.
Without you walking out and completely breaking me, I wouldn’t stand as tall as I do.
Thank you. Now get out of my head.

If someone tells you they have an illness that requires them to rest a lot because they have very limited energy reserves and will suffer hugely and become very sick if they push themselves and what comes out of your mouth is, “I wish I could stay in bed all day!!! You’re so lucky!” then you… just… what?

Why would you want to be stuck in bed most of the day in horrible unending pain that causes vomiting, insomnia, depression, fatigue, weakness, and many other complications???? Does that sound fun to you?

Also you are probably quite lazy if that’s what you want. Look, I know the value of some good chillaxing downtime. I am all about taking breaks, decompressing, destressing. I think every once in awhile everyone, spoonie or not, needs “do nothing” days. Everyone has to chill sometime.

But I don’t want to be in bed all day. I have things to do and I am a very hard-working and driven person who grabs life by the horns. If you wish you were sick so you could have an “excuse” to not do anything all day, then Idunno what, dude. I bet my left tit you would fall apart after enduring one day of what I’m stuck with for the rest of my life.

Don’t say dumb stuff like that, please. You may have meant well but I’m not “lucky” to be so sick and have to work multiple jobs for tiny min. wage paychecks that mostly go straight to medical expenses. Why would that ever be considered a pleasant thing?

I make the most of it because I have no choice but to keep moving forward and because I am ambitious and mostly crazy, just absolutely bananas, and sometimes I push myself too hard. Probably harder than you ever have in your life. My body is my friend that takes me where I need to go in life and I must take care of it. It’s hard work, especially emotionally, to be alive every day feeling this way.

Spoonies are strong people. Badasses. Tougher than you. We are not lucky to get to be “lazy” in bed. We are just doing our very best.

Cheap Socials

(or a short brainstorm of easy things to do with friends that don’t cost a bunch of $$)

Since we’re always focused on studying & sometimes you just need an easy break.

  • Driving somewhere for a day trip (or a night trip)
  • Book share! Grab books from the library & just kick it. 
  • Baking! (a lil more expensive but there’s something about getting some brownie mix and baking it that brings bonding)
  • Studying together!
  • Window shopping. 
  • Just walks in the park/hikes. 
  • If you’re walking, pick some dandelions with the fluffy tops and make a wish! (if you want, make it competitive and see who can make the most wishes)
  • Sleepovers! Just bring yourself and your body wash. 
  • Go to the city pool and have a nice swim depending on your mood/the season. 
  • Go to some high school’s sports game and have a good laugh.
  • Buy some seeds and start growing them. 
  • Go on a photo walk! Pick a subject (i.e. trees or dogs or weird signs) and just take photos of that thing for an hour.
  • Attend a city/government forum and just observe. 
  • Go people watching at a park or the mall!
  • Go to a drugstore/neighborhood marker and buy a few things you actually need, like garbage bags and toothpaste, and then a couple cheap, fun things, like different flavours of bubble gum.
  • Goof off with Snapchat filters!
  • Go stargazing in a local park/clearing/your roof. 
  • Roam at night with a milkshake and fries from a fast food joint. 
  • Go to a dog park and pet all the puppers.

Note that none of these activities have to be done with anyone else. If you’re not feelin’ other people, that’s okay! Go and have fun on your own!! 

All the love, darlings!

~ elle (@etudesthetics)

(ALSO IF YOU WANT TO ADD TO THIS PLEASE FEEL FREE BECAUSE I NEED MORE IDEAS SINCE I’M USING THIS FOR PERSONAL REFERENCE IN MY NONEXISTENT SOCIAL LIFE)

My other posts: Pre-College Masterpost, College: A (Terrifying) Learning Experience

Safe Word

Paramount to any successful cg/l relationship is the use of safety along with respect, trust, and communication.

And perhaps one of the most important elements to put into place during play is the use of your safe word

In simple terms, this is your escape word. This is the word that you use when things become too much and they need to stop immediately to take a break, to end the play or as we sometimes call it the scene, or to simply make your caregiver cease doing whatever it is that are trying to do.

Safe word for littles:
Let me make this very clear to you… This word is yours and cannot be taken away or revoked for any reason whatsoever.

This is your word to get out of a situation that you don’t want to be in. Now, that doesn’t mean that you should just go using it whenever you don’t want to do something… Because it’s good for you to push your limits and your boundaries. What I’m talking about is when it gets to be overwhelming and too much to the point of trauma, pain, or something that’s going to damage you in some way physically, emotionally, or mentally.

And if you are in a relationship where you are not allowed to use it then you need to get out and run away as fast as possible from the person that you are with. Because this is abuse. You are being abused if you follow the rule that you are not allowed to use your safe word.

And you should never ever ever ever ever allow it to be taken from you for any reason including punishment. Taking your safe word away for a punishment is abuse. Taking it away for the pleasure of your caregiver is abuse. Taking it away for the furthering of whatever they think they’re doing that is good for you… Is abuse.

and please… Please please please… Don’t think you are going to impress them by taking more than you can handle and not using your safe word. You are just going to damage yourself.

caregivers listen up

Do you love your little? Do you want them to stay around? Do you want to cherish your little and respect them and treat them like the princess/prince they are?

Then establish and use the safe word…. And if you’re not using it, stop everything you’re doing and implement it NOW.

What kind of safe word should I use?

I recommend that your safe word be at least two syllables, preferably 3. Short one syllable words are too close to words like no or stop, and can be misinterpreted, misheard, or not easily decipherable when in the heat of play or an impact situation.

I also recommend that if possible you make it something that you hate or a place that you dread being the most in the world. This will trigger ill feelings and break the mood.

After you have established an agreed upon the word you should both practice saying it out loud. Say it at normal tones and at louder tones and let your caregiver get used to hearing you say it out loud. Practice makes perfect… And will make your experience better in the future.

nonverbal safe words

There may come times during play where the use of your verbal language is not possible. You can use your imagination as to what the situation may be… But that does not mean that you cannot have a nonverbal safe word and it is something that I highly recommend you establish.

In movies and other things you will see the use of blinking as a form of communication. I do not recommend that you use this method simply for the fact that impact and trauma play can induce you to squint or blink profusely and could confuse your caregiver and ruin your good time.

Rather I prefer the squeeze method. If you are in a situation where you are pleasing your caregiver and they are becoming rough simply holding them by the wrist and squeezing as hard as you can can signal that you are in trouble and need them to stop. Keep your hand around their wrist at all times during play when you are not able to speak and do not let go for any reason. Practice this method ahead of time squeezing as hard as you can so that they recognize the sensation if it needs to come and be used. You may even find this practice to be somewhat surprisingly intimate.

Likewise discussing and agreeing upon a place on their body where you can touch them and perhaps dig your nails into them or cause them some type of discomfort or pain is a good idea. Use a physical trigger in order to communicate your need for what is happening to stop. Again, practice your agreed upon method ahead of time so that they get used to feeling it and knowing that that is the signal to stop what they are doing immediately.

alternatively the use of red light green light is a possibility… Which simply you have a large card that has green on one side and red on the other. When you are in play and everything is good the green side should be flipped up. When things get too bad and they need to stop, you flip over to the red side to signal that you need things to end. This card should be kept in a highly visible spot that is also easily accessible and within reach. However this method can be at fault sometimes because if the play is very physical your little may not be able to have full function of their hands or appendages in order to signal. This is where your skills of concentration come into play, and you must be continuously reading their visual cues and “listening” to their body to determine how they are enjoying your time together…

triggers can occur… And they may become non verbal, but also non-physical. Meaning that they might just simply lock up and stop responding in any kind of way whatsoever. You must concentrate on them and how they are reacting at all times… because there may come a point where you have to use your own discretion if they are not responding properly.

Caregivers: THE USE OF A SAFE WORD IS NON NEGOTIABLE.

Their submission to you is a gift. It is not your right, it is not your privilege, it is not yours to destroy. Do not be a selfish jerk and ruin their good time by revoking them of their rights and treating them like garbage.

They are allowed to use it whenever they feel that it is needed. And they will use it in order to save the both of you some problems in the future. Respect yourself by respecting them.

and as for the long distance relationship, this all applies as well… Whatever you are doing on skype or whatever you try to make them do on kik… Or any other platform in which you communicate, if they use their safe word you had best respect it.

don’t abuse the glorious gift that they have given you.

So many people talk about getting their heart broken.

Tear-stained sheets of paper and smudged ink; those who watched their dreams disappear and their soul become torn in two.

But what about those who break hearts?

Why doesn’t anyone write about what it is to crush someone knowingly, to be the heartbreaker, to feel a different kind of pain?

Why don’t they speak of the turmoil they face, knowing they couldn’t be what the other person needed, or simply didn’t feel the same way?

The heartbreakers are always painted as cruel, evil.

But why sacrifice your own happiness for the sake of another? If you don’t love them, yet still try to, both members of this unreal love face a different kind of destruction.

Sometimes we have no choice but to break another’s heart…

… Knowing it will hurt us just as much.

important reminder

If a disabled person needs to take a day off of work/school/whatever it may be and you think its because theyre lazy, or theyre just not trying hard enough or theyre just overreacting to their illness and they need to get over it.

You. Are. Wrong.

they have an illness that takes so much out of them that they can break and and crack under all the pressure comes with living with that illness. so much so that they NEED to take a day off to give their physical/ mental being a rest.

sometimes that day might turn into a week, sometimes a month and even a year.

but If you think that them having to take that time off due to their illness is a choice, a lie or an overreaction.

You. Are. Wrong.

What i think of the signs (virgo)

I havent done astrology posts since i started this blog so heres one just for fun~

*this is just based off an astrological point of view. Not intended as truths or generalizations of anyone that falls under any of these signs. Everyones different~ *this is a virgo astrological view on other signs by personal experience. So if you are so easily triggered and take astrology serious in your life then go the other direction. Its only intended to be for fun.*

Aries- you are too stubborn when you need to listen. Stop thinking everything needs to go your way everytime..

Taurus- youre very adventurous and creative when you wanna be but sometimes you can also be way too gluttonous. Chill out a bit..

Gemini- seriously…you overwhelm me. Its time to use your head more than your mouth. not every one will always care about your egoistic opinions…sometimes you gotta know when to stop and take a break. From experience..i can see why they call you two-faced..

Cancer- you got an amazing humor and good at making people laugh but i can also tell you have very vulnerable emotions and can easily be affected by the negative vibes around you. Youre most happy when youre around a small group of friends that you can really relate to.

Leo- i can tell you have large group of friends and its easy to make friends too. But quit relying on someone to help fix your problems for you. You gotta do things on your own sometimes.

Virgo- youre very secretive not to mention sneaky. You dont really like to share too much of your life with others cause you feel not many would understand you. You might look innocent but you some crazy bitch inside and i know you wanna bring that side out of you some more but you just lack the courage.

Libra- too laid back but also a person that never likes to admit their faults and theyre usually always proven wrong due to too much ego…you might be in a good mood all the time but that doesnt mean those around you always are so you gotta consider that and not make things worse.

Scorpio- ok if you wanna talk thats great. If you need someone to comfort you thats ok. But dont do stupid things to get peoples attention. The whole overly emotional thing doesnt work with me. We can communicate well but you are too easily triggered and im the complete opposite ✋👉🚪 one good thing i can say is you are very creative and imaginative but you just need a boost in confidence.

Sagittarius- ambitious and very opiniated. Hard worker in school but lazy to take care of yourself. Up to date with trends and likes being around large circle of friends. In a personal perspective me and Sagittarius people are the complete opposites 😞✋

Capricorn- i dont remember meeting any capricorns yet but apparently we are compatible so 👌

Aquarius- i feel like the only time i like you is from afar..you have a mysterious vibe and youre like in between introvert and extrovert. Youre a very hard worker and responsible. But sometimes you also have very cold opinions and are very comfortable with saying them and no one would be brave enough to tell you otherwise. One moment you may act like the coolest mature nice person and the other second theres a sassy or cold comment you gotta throw in there 💁

Pisces- youre chill and its easy for me to talk and get along with you except we are both a little bit of the awkward type so awkward silences are common… we can start very interesting conversations. Youre not egoistic or prideful but despite the innocent or quite vibes its funny when you express cold opinions out of nowhere since you got alot of them bundled up inside. You express them more when youre around someone who relates them with you.

Mum

Mum, I’m really struggling and sometimes I want to die
Darling, it’s just in your head why don’t you spend more time outside?
Mum, I can’t get up and the days
are just so dark
Sweetheart, I know you’re sad but you’re breaking my heart
Mum, It’s like I’m drowning and I’m trying but I can’t breathe
Precious, can’t you see what you’re doing to me?
Mum, I need you to listen I don’t know if I can stay here
Baby, I’m busy but there’s really nothing to fear
Mum, I’m begging you, please I feel so scared
Sweetie, all this stress you’re creating just isn’t fair
Mum, I’m sorry but at least now you’ll be okay-

Oh god, I didn’t know- why didn’t she just say?

Mexico here I come!

Just an FYI, and not to brag, but I am headed to Playa del Carmen tomorrow for the week for a little birthday vaca with my gals! I am going to attempt a Tumblr break (I think we all need one sometimes) so I won’t be posting much or around to answer my inbox. I trust you all to message me with any major Tom news or hot pics, but other than that I’m going to go live in the real world on a beach for a little while 🏖☀️💃🏽 Hasta luego!

Originally posted by tr1ppy-j