I get that RSD is something that's only seen in people with ADHD but does everyone with ADHD have it or only some people
RSD isn’t only seen in ADHDers, it’s just mostly seen in ADHDers. It’s the result of being blamed for things we have no control over, being told that we have all these moral failings that we often don’t actually have, and being expected to perform up to our potential at all times, even though our performance is affected by our ADHD – which means that our potential isn’t always something we can reach. I don’t know if all ADHDers have it, but an awful lot of us do.
How does one cope with RSD? Because it is literally eating me rn
Hhh I tend to try to get reassurance when my RSD is acting up. I tell the person how I’m feeling, explain RSD, and ask if there is anything I had done to upset them. There’s nothing wrong with needing positive affirmation and attention from people who care about you
credence and a reader with ADHD? How would he be around them? I feel like he'd understand somewhat
okay, babe, so i asked @ilovecredencebarebone to look at this for me bc, while i understand some of the symptoms of adhd bc they overlap with bipolar disorder, he has an insight i simply do not, so these are his hcs and they are amazing so:
Credence is a bit upset the first time he meets you. You’re easily distracted by things outside of the conversation, you’re fidgety, and some of the things he says to you seems to go in one ear and out the other. He takes these as signs that you don’t want to talk to him.
Over time he realizes that it’s anybody’s guess how much attention you can pay to people at any given time. He watches you talk to others and notices how often you drift out of conversations with everyone.
After you get to know him a little bit better you explain it’s not him, your brain just works a bit inconveniently sometimes. He’s more confident talking to you after that.
Credence doesn’t mind that you have trouble remembering things. He always writes down important things for you and gives you a note instead of expecting you to remember everything. He likes that he can tell you the same stories over and over, especially because he doesn’t have a lot of happy ones yet.
He loves when you ramble at him, loves the way you get passionate about things and talk and talk and talk about them. He enjoys hearing about the book you’re reading or the hobby you picked up or the project that you’re starting or the new thing you’re studying.
He never once makes you feel bad for your hyperfixations, never intentionally in any case.
He was concerned the first time he saw you really hyperfocus on something. You were so wrapped up in what you were doing that you forgot to have lunch or dinner. He didn’t really get why you couldn’t pull yourself away from what you were doing long enough to eat something.
He also thought you might’ve been mad at him because the few times he tried to get your attention you either didn’t respond or absentmindedly brushed him off.
He started leaving glasses of water and snacks by you when you were hyperfocused for long periods of time to try and get you to remember to eat/drink
it took some time and a lot of reassurance but he doesn’t feel bad about how hard it is for you to pay attention to him sometimes. He knows how hard you’re trying and that it can be really hard to properly follow a conversation on your bad days
He’s always patient with you when your brain fog is full-force and your thoughts are slow and disjointed
He loves the way you can make quick connections between things, the way your mind skips over steps. He thinks it’s amazing how you can go from A to E without stopping at B, C, or D.
He doesn’t mind that you have problems with volume control. The way he sees it, you’re just so full of passion and enthusiasm that you can’t contain it.
He understands what it’s like having trouble with controlling your emotions and doesn’t mind that yours get a bit out of hand sometimes. When you’re really happy he can’t help but smile too at how you radiate joy and when you’re really sad he’s there for you to provide support. When your RSD is spiraling out of control he does whatever he can to make you feel better.
He’s always understanding when you’re late meeting him. After the first couple of times it happened he started bringing a book to read while he waits.
He got you a kitchen timer for your birthday, a countertop one that was large enough that you weren’t likely to lose it and loud enough that you wouldn’t be able to ignore it. His thinking was that that way you wouldn’t lose track of time if you told yourself you were going to put down whatever you were doing in twenty minutes.
Once he started learning magic your clumsiness went from endearing to great for practice. He mastered repairo and scourgeify pretty quickly.
(That would explain his hostile takeover plan and why he sounds so pouty when Wanda rejects him. Does Stephen know he has RSD and very probably ADD? It would make sense either way.)
((He probably doesn’t notice it and if he has ADD, it’s veeeeery low, because even if Stephen might sound like a dork when doing certain things, he pays SO MUCH ATTENTION and OBSERVES SO MUCH when he’s focused (even if he looks so casual) reading or studying. In a matter of minutes he learned a lot from the Cagliostro book page he had restored and evolved so much in his studies due to his determination along the days. ))
Does anyone else feel like when someone gets angry or annoyed with you that now EVERYONE is angry/annoyed with you and that they want you dead and so you feel like never speaking to them or anyone else ever again because you are a worthless piece of shit