but it's the only source i have

according to twitter user lemon_buzz who regularly tweets out vancouver location shoot information, wentworth will be appearing in this year’s arrowverse crossover event and will have at least one scene with chyler leigh who plays alex danvers on supergirl. i can’t guarantee that this is true but she looks like a pretty reliable source. 

as far as i know supergirl is the only show filming its crossover episode at this time, with the other 3 starting tomorrow and later next week, so it looks as though wentworth may have a guest spot on supergirl this year. 

i will post more info as i get it but if you have more details feel free to submit it!

anonymous asked:

i know you meant well when you said 30 isnt ancient, but im nb so my life expectancy is actually 30 :(

Hey anon, I’m so sorry that that’s a fear you’ve had to live with. I know that trans people are at greater risk of violence and suicide, and I’ve heard people say many times that the life expectancy of trans people (or trans women, or trans women of color, depending on who you ask) is anywhere from 23 to 35. Your ask troubled me, so I’ve dug deep looking for solid evidence of any of these, and I don’t believe that these statistics are true.

A trans woman, Helen, looked into the “23 years” claim and traced it back to someone’s notes on two workshops at a 2007 conference, which stated that trans people’s life expectancy is “believed to be around 23” (emphasis mine) but cites no actual source. This claim has been presented as fact in many news articles since then, but as far as I can tell, no one seems to know where this figure came from.

Another claim is often sourced to an Argentine psychologist quoted in this NPR article

Psychologist Graciela Balestra, who works closely with the transgender community, says it’s an especially vulnerable population.

“Transgender people have an average life expectancy of about 30 to 32 years,” Balestra says. “They don’t live any longer; I think that statistic alone says so much.”

But again, the article gives no source for this figure

I found an article claiming that a 2014 report by the Inter-American Commission on Human Rights (IACHR) “concludes the average life expectancy of trans people in the Western Hemisphere is between 30-35 years.” However, when I tracked down the report, An Overview of Violence Against LGBTI Persons (pdf), its only reference to this is (emphasis mine): “[T]he IACHR has received information that the life expectancy of trans women in the Americas is between 30 and 35 years of age.” Again, this is no source.

Someone said on my post that these statistics may have come from the NCTE/NGLTF report Injustice at Every Turn (pdf), but I can’t find any reference to any such claim in the report.

Thinking about these claims, they seem unlikely for some basic reasons. Consider that we simply don’t have a long enough span of data on trans people, and that what data we do have is extremely limited because we can’t always know who is trans and who isn’t. Consider also that, although obviously the murder rates for trans people are extremely high, the number of deaths of 20-something trans people would have to be ENORMOUS to offset the existence of older trans people and bring the average down to 30. Especially since, unlike with racial groups for example, the data on trans people would likely include almost no childhood deaths, simply because it would be much more difficult (and in many cases impossible) to identify these children as trans. And since we know that trans women of color are extremely disproportionately affected by violence, statistics that include white people and/or trans men would be especially unlikely to be so low.

And as to your specific situation anon, again given that trans women of color are most at risk, I don’t think we have reason to believe that being non-binary specifically puts a person at anywhere near this level of increased risk of dying young.

I don’t say any of this to question anyone’s experiences or to deny the state of emergency that trans women face with regard to violence. That is very real. But I think it can be harmful, even dangerous to trans people to spread claims like this around, especially without evidence. Expecting to die by 30 would take an extreme emotional toll on anyone, and trans people deserve better.

But don’t take my word for it: FORGE, a national transgender anti-violence organization that works with trans survivors of sexual assault, wrote the following in its 2016 publication “First Do No Harm: 8 Tips for Addressing Violence Against Transgender and Gender Non-Binary People” (pdf) (I have moved two footnotes into the main text and provided links to some endnote sources; italicized emphasis is theirs while bold is mine.): 

Promote Hope for the Future

It certainly is not the same as a murder, but publicizing a low “life expectancy” rate for transwomen of color is another way to steal away their future, a “crime” that has been committed repeatedly by trans, LGBQ, and mainstream press. Think about the people you know or have heard of who have been diagnosed with a fatal illness and given a short time to live: how many of them have enrolled in college, undertaken lengthy training for a new occupation, had a new child, or tried to establish a new non-profit? A few do, certainly, but many more focus on their bucket list, arrange for their good-byes, or simply give up entirely, essentially relinquishing whatever time they have left to depression and regrets. When we tell transwomen of color they cannot expect to live very long, we rob them of hope. We rob them of any motivation to invest in themselves, their relationships, and their communities. We rob them, in short, of their lives even while they are still living. (This statement in no way negates the need to systemically work to improve and increase the life expectancy of trans people through working to end transphobia, racism, poverty, pervasive violence, and health and healthcare inequities, and more.)

One trans woman of color was trying to come to grips with an estimated lifespan figure more than ten years shorter than the one that has been published most often. (We are not repeating any of the (incorrect) estimated lifetime figures that are circulating, to avoid even inadvertent reinforcement.) Faced with the report of yet another attack on another trans woman, she wrote:

These days, I look at the latest reports of stabbed, shot, beaten trans women, search myself for tears, and I cannot find a thing. I want to mourn and rage. I want to honor all of our sisters — the hundreds each year who are ripped, namelessly and without fanfare, from this life — who are taken so young before their time. But the grief and anger — even empathy — do not come. I don’t feel anything but numbness and fatigue, and somewhere far below that, fear.

The terrible irony of the life expectancy “fact” is that it is based on an impossibility. The only ways to determine a given population’s life expectancy are to: examine decades or more of death certificates or census data containing the information being studied, or follow a specific set of individuals for around 100 years and record every single death. There is not and never has been a census of transgender people. Our death certificates do not mark us as transgender. There has been no 100-year-long study of a representative group of trans people. So where are the estimated lifespan figures coming from?

FORGE tracked the most commonly-cited figure back to what was most likely the 2014 Philadelphia Transgender Health Conference, where a workshop presenter gave the figure and explained she had calculated it by averaging the age of death for all of those listed on the Transgender Day of Remembrance (TDOR) website. This means the figure is actually the average age of those trans people who were both murdered and came to the attention of someone who added them to the TDOR list. Interestingly, this average is very close to the average age of everyone who is murdered in the U.S., according to the U.S. Department of Justice statistics. [I’m not seeing an average age given in the cited source but you can see on page 5 of this Bureau of Justice Statistics report (pdf) that the average age of homicide victims in the U.S. was between 30 and 35 from 1980 to 2008.]

But not everyone is murdered.

Despite how many there may appear to be, only a tiny, tiny fraction of transpeople are killed by other people. Most of us, transwomen of color included, live average lifespans and die of the most common U.S. killers — heart disease, cancer, chronic lower respiratory disease, and unintentional injuries (accidents).

Please don’t add to fear and hopelessness by spreading inaccurate and profoundly disempowering data.

Since I can’t respond to everyone directly, I’m @ing some people who’ve brought this up on my post and may be interested: (urls removed after posting for their privacy). I appreciate your thoughtfulness in bringing this to my attention. If you or anyone else has a source on any of these figures that can provide specific methodology, I’d be very grateful to see that.

In closing, here are some resources that provide a more hopeful view of trans aging. They are well known but I hope they will be helpful to someone.

Jamaica is flooding and its upsetting that the only source of info I’m to rely on are sparse news outlets and people stuck on the island… Whole houses are being washed away, bridges have disappeared, crops and herds gone… Obvi Jamaicans are being hilarious and requesting for life guards and swimming lessons lol but idk if it’s bc I’m not on Tumblr.edu as much as I once was, or if nobody’s talking about it, but it’s sad that it’s not getting the coverage that other disasters have received in the recent past…

  • Prompto: You really don't have any fears?
  • Noctis: just one
  • Prompto: Oh??
  • Noctis: dying alone
  • Prompto: Noc-
  • Noctis: it's okay i know it won't happen
  • Noctis: ardyn will be there bleeding out next to me
  • Prompto:
  • Prompto: We need to get you help.
my fellow sensates:

i just want to remind you to be calm and courteous when you speak with netflix personnel, be it by chat or by phone. it’s another person on the other line and it will only benefit our cause if we prove our maturity, determination, and intelligence. that said, when i called and made my displeasure known, i was thanked for having coherent points. this is important, as it makes it easier for the rep to discern a clear and digestible argument for the show’s potential continuation that they can pass on to the higher ups.

this is some of the stuff i brought up:

  1. netflix didn’t seem to care to advertise sense8. it didn’t even appear on a banner featuring netflix originals which was on their own website just a few days after season 2 was released
  2. if they’re going to judge it by the amount of views, then the timing of the release was poor. it’s finals and graduation season - people are busy. and judging it by that standard, in that timeframe is brutally unfair because it goes against netflix’s entire premise of watching when you please.
  3. making a decision when the second season hasn’t even been out for a full month makes even less sense when you consider that we waited for THREE MONTHS to hear about the season two renewal.
  4. the fanbase is incredibly loyal. we waited patiently for two years for a second season, so despite the production cost, people were paying for their service for that period with the primary justification being new sense8 content to come.
  5. the creators had planned the story out through at least five seasons. there was story left to be told, with an idea of where it would be headed. compare this to something like 13rw which was renewed, even though it’s already run through its source material. 
  6. fanbase age difference - sense8’s audience is probably a bit older than say 13rw’s. we have more spending power (as evidenced by holding subscriptions for two years as we waited for new content)
  7. finally, their reputation is on the line here. sense8’s diverse and progressive nature can only be a boon for netflix. this show is culturally and socially relevant. it made fans think highly of the company. thus the timing of the cancellation (first day of pride month) feels like a pointed slap in the face.

remember that netflix is still a company whose primary interest is money. i didn’t drive the point home too well, but you can and probably should add in an 8th point (how appropriate..) which focuses on money. maybe a personal statement about your own subscription would be good?

keep up the good fight, my friends. we’ll give them a war.

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get to know me meme: (6/7) animated movies ☰ ratatouille (2007)

In many ways, the work of a critic is easy. We risk very little, yet enjoy a position over those who offer up their work and their selves to our judgment. We thrive on negative criticism, which is fun to write and to read. But the bitter truth we critics must face, is that in the grand scheme of things, the average piece of junk is probably more meaningful than our criticism designating it so. But there are times when a critic truly risks something, and that is in the discovery and defense of the new. The world is often unkind to new talent, new creations. The new needs friends. Last night, I experienced something new: an extraordinary meal from a singularly unexpected source. To say that both the meal and its maker have challenged my preconceptions about fine cooking is a gross understatement. They have rocked me to my core. In the past, I have made no secret of my disdain for Chef Gusteau’s famous motto, “Anyone can cook.” But I realize, only now do I truly understand what he meant. Not everyone can become a great artist; but a great artist can come from anywhere. It is difficult to imagine more humble origins than those of the genius now cooking at Gusteau’s, who is, in this critic’s opinion, nothing less than the finest chef in France. I will be returning to Gusteau’s soon, hungry for more.

MBTI types and Avatar - The Last Airbender Quotes

ISTJ: The sword is a simple tool, but in the hands of a master it becomes the most versatile weapon.

ISTP: I don’t care what I look like. I’m not looking for anyone’s approval. I know who I am.

ISFJ: You are stronger, and wiser and freer than you ever been. And now, you come to the crossroads of your destiny. It’s time for you to choose.

ISFP: People see me and think I’m weak. They want to take care of me. But I can take care of my self, by myself.

INFJ: The true mind can weather all lies and illusion without getting lost. The true heart can tough the poison of hatred without being armed

INFP: It’s time for you to look inward, and begin asking yourself the big question: who are you? And what do you want?

INTJ: Instead of seeing what they want to see, you gotta open what your brain to possibilities

INTP: The greatest illusion of this world is the illusion of separation. Things you think are separate and different are actually one and the same.

ENTP: You have to try everytime, you can’t quit because you’re afraid you might fail

ENTJ: Pride is not the opposite of shame, but its source. True humility is the only antidote to shame.

ENFP: To bend another’s energy, your own spirit must be unbendable, or you will be corrupted and destroyed.

ENFJ: I would never, ever, turn back on people ehi needs me…

ESFP: If you listen hard enough, you can hear every living thing breathing together. You can feel everything growing.

ESFJ: While it is always best to believe in one self, a little help from others can be a real blessing.

ESTP: We cannot concern ourselves with what was; we must act on what it is

ESTJ: I always had to struggle and fight, and that’s made me strong

  • [During the Sea of Monsters, trying to get away from Scylla and Charybdis]
  • Percy: I have a plan.
  • Clarisse: You've got a plan?
  • Percy: Yes.
  • Clarisse: First of all, you're copying me from when I said I had a plan.
  • Percy: No, I'm not! People say that all the time, it's not that unique of a thing to say.
  • Clarisse: Secondly, I don't even believe you have a plan.
  • Percy: I have... part of a plan!
  • Annabeth: What percentage of a plan do you have?
  • Percy: I dunno. Twelve percent.
  • Clarisse: "Twelve percent"? [She breaks into raucous laughter]
  • Percy: That's a fake laugh.
  • Clarisse: IT'S REAL!
  • Percy: Totally fake!
  • Clarisse: That is the most real, authentic, hysterical laugh of my entire life, because that is not a plan!
  • Annabeth: It's barely a concept.
  • Percy: You're taking her side?
  • Tyson: It's better than eleven percent.
  • Clarisse: What the hell does that have to do with anything?
  • Percy: [To Tyson] Thank you, Tyson. Thank you. See? Tyson's the only one of you who has a clue.
  • [Silence as Tyson starts picking his nose]
BTS Reaction- s/o Sleeping with a stuffed animal

A/N: Oh thank god I am not the only one! I have a giant teddy bear too… so I would definitely absolutely love to do this reaction. Apologies for posting this late!! I know its been a long time since this was sent in. Happy reading 😊 and I hope you like it!

**gifs are not mine. Credit to the rightful owners. Sourced from google images**

MASTERLIST


Jin 

Jin would be so happy and so smiley and giggly he would not be able to help himself 

After coming home from tour he found you fast asleep on the couch, probably waiting up for him he assumed. You shuffled around and he saw the Mario plushie had given you before leaving. His eyes lit up and he smiled. He found it so adorable that you kept the plushie with him and used it when sleeping. He found the plushie almost dangling off the edge, but he tucked back into your arms and smiled lovingly at you. He kissed your temple and whispered “Goodnight my baby” before picking you up and taking you up to the bed to let you sleep comfortably. 

Yoongi

Yoongi wouldn’t be able to help but smile as he saw you sleeping with the stuffed dog he had given you. 

Yoongi felt a sense of strange happiness as he saw you clutching the mini stuffed dog tight to yourself. He chuckled. He admired you for some time before he realized he had been sitting for a very long time. “Oh y/n..” he shook his head and smiled to himself. He stroked your hair gently and kissed you on the top of the head. “Why can’t you cuddle me like this?” he asked your sleeping form, though he knew he wouldn’t get an answer. He smiled softly feeling so warm and fuzzy that he could have kissed you silly right then and there but he held back because he didn’t want to disturb you. 

Hoseok

Hoseok would melt into a puddle of goo, totally hyper and excited. He would take pictures of you from various angles, and then wait for you to wake up and show you

Hoseok took pictures from every angle he could think of while you were sleeping cuddled up with the plushie he had given you. After a while when you had woken up he shoved the phone in your face. “Look at you being all cute. its not fair” he pouted. Your eyes widened as you saw hundred pictures of you from different angles, and some that even had him posing next to you. “babe! you are so adorable and you actually kept the plushie with you” he wrapped you up in a tight hug and kissed you all over the face. “I am dating the cutest person ever!!” he said in excitement. 

Namjoon

Namjoon would not be able to stop laughing because he found it so cute that you still slept with a small stuffed animal. Might accidentally wake you yo though while trying to be affectionate because he’s clumsy

Giggles erupted from his mouth as he saw your face pushed against the back of the stuffed plushie he had given you. He had to cover his mouth with his hands so as to muffle the sounds. He stepped towards you wanting to kiss you but he ended up tripping on the mattress under the couch and fell on you. You woke up with a start and Namjoon pushed himself off you. “Oh my god I am so sorry for waking you babe. I just wanted to kiss you because you looked so cute sleeping with the plushie I gave you. I am sorry!!” he said all of it in one breath. 

Jimin

Jimin would absolutely melt because he is the type of guy who would love cute lil things like this. So when he would see you, he would admire you and gush to himself on the inside. 

Jimin came home from practice to find you sleeping peacefully. He did a double take because the first time he missed the white teddy bear you were clutching to your chest. He moved a bit closer and the smile on his face grew wider as he saw you sleeping with the teddy bear he had given you on your first date. He took out his phone and took a picture of you. He then kissed you softly on the forehead whispering “Sleep well my baby prince/ss” He retreated back out of the bedroom softly. He stared at the picture even after he had taken it, kissing the screen because he just could not get enough of the sheer cuteness. 

Taehyung 

He would end up waking you, most likely drowning you in kisses and hugs because he would be over the moon about the adorableness of the situation 

You eyes fluttered open as you felt his lips onto yours. “Sorry, but I couldn’t resist it” he smiled warmly at you after pulling away. He pecked you again, and then once again. “You still have this?” he asked, taking the teddy bear from your and examining it, running his fingers over the fur. You nodded, yawning. He kissed you on the nose, and hugged you. “You are so cute babe. I love you so much” he swayed you side to side in his arms. He then tucked you back in bed, wrapping the warm blanket around you again, and placing the bear in your arms. He gave you one last look, threw a small flying kiss your way and exited the bedroom.

Jungkook

 He would feel so touched that you kept the teddy bear he gave you and used it as a source of comfort. He would find it so cute that he wouldn’t be able to stop smiling. Would probably take pictures and videos as blackmail material for later.

Jungkook smiled so wide when he saw you sleeping with the stuffed panda bear “Thank you “ he said softly so as not to wake you up. He felt so touched that you kept it with you. “I hope that this keeps you safe during the night” he said and gently kissed both of your cheeks. Remembering that it would be good for blackmail later he vlogged the situation on his phone and gushed over how cute you looked sleeping with the plushie he gave you. “Isn’t y/n just the cutest thing ever?” he raved in the vlog. He even took a picture of you and made it his home screen with the intention of taking strength from it in times he needed it. 

I hope you liked it!! and please excuse and spelling and grammatical errors :)

So this is legit the message Trump left at the Holocaust memorial in Israel -

- and, yeah.

One Republican official, who requested anonymity in order to speak freely, said after meeting Trump recently he did not think the president had a firm enough grasp on the nuances of the long-running Israeli-Palestinian conflict.

“I don’t think he understands it,” said the official, adding that Trump needed more detailed briefings before leaving on Friday. “I think it’s a very difficult challenge and I hope he’s going to talk to a lot of smart people.”

Conversations with some officials who have briefed Trump and others who are aware of how he absorbs information portray a president with a short attention span.

He likes single-page memos and visual aids like maps, charts, graphs and photos.

National Security Council officials have strategically included Trump’s name in ‘as many paragraphs as we can because he keeps reading if he’s mentioned,’ according to one source, who relayed conversations he had with NSC officials.

[source: Reuters]

“Wow. That is absolutely pathetic. Our President can only understand the world to the extent it involves…himself.”

How to make a Servitor.

Servitors are artificial spirits that are made by the practitioner, and are used to complete tasks, or goals set by the petitioner to help him or her in their life, or magical practice. Before you jump right into creating a servitor there are things you must plan out beforehand. It’s a lot like building a blueprint. You don’t just start making the house before you have a blueprint. Here are the things you’re going to need to think about  before building your very own servitor:

1) Purpose

Everything needs a purpose, and it’s your job to pick your purpose for your servitor. A purpose can be anything. You could want your servitor to protect you, or your family. You could want your servitor to help you pass a test. You could have your servitor torture people in their dreams… You know whatever you want. It is important to give your servitor a purpose, because it is dangerous to make a servitor without a purpose. If your servitor does not have a purpose it may go rogue, and we may have a situation like that Jewish story of  "The Golem of Prague", who goes on a murderous rampage. Once you have your purpose feel free to move on to the next step.

2)Spiritual appearance

Now you must create an appearance for your servitor that it will take on the astral, and etheric planes of existence. It is important to keep in mind when making your servitor’s spiritual appearance that the spiritual appearance should reflect the task that they were assigned to complete. If the servitor is for better communication with your peers, then it’s spiritual appearance shouldn’t be a Azathoth looking creature, but maybe perhaps some type of human or anthropomorphic entity. Besides that the you can create any type of spiritual appearance you would like. Male, female, tall, short it’s up to you. You can even say “f*** it, and I’m making this one a shapeshifter”. So have some fun, and do whatever you would like. You also might want to draw a picture, or get some representation of their form once you decide upon it for later steps in the servitor creation process.

3)Personality

This one’s pretty self-explanatory, and again you can pretty much pick whatever you would like. All we’re going to do is think of some personality traits that you would like your servitor to have, like charming, intelligent, funny, friendly, loyal, etc…  So this one is pretty easy, and now that I think about it I have no idea what happens if you don’t give them a personality. I guess they turn into Kristen Stewart, or something. Anyway pick out your personality traits that you like, and move on to the next step.

4)Feeding

You like to eat, so do servitors. Feeding a servitor is a lot like charging a Sigil. and you can use all the same methods in order to feed a servitor in the same way you use to charge a sigil. You can also set up some methods of feeding for the servitor that the servitor can do on their own behalf. You could tell your servitor to feed on something like sunlight, or crystals that you have lying around. Not setting up feeding methods, or not feeding your servitor will result in it going rogue, or it finding its own food sources which may not always be more preferable.

5)Lifespan

There are some people that say the servitors lifespan should not be very long, but in my experience this has not been a problem. In my experience servitors only act up once they do not have a purpose anymore, or if acting up is programmed into their nature, or if they are not being fed. Life span is very based on purpose. If you want your servitor to help you pass a test, then its lifespan should only be until after the test then it will return back to the energy of source. If you wanted your servitor to protect your property then you would need a lifespan that you can end at any time. So then you would need a phrase, or ritual to end its life when the time comes. This phrase, or ritual would not have to be elaborate. It’s never happened to me before, but being on a system like that one could in theory make the servitor want to have self preservation. You would be the only thing that could kill it. So if they took you out then they could go on living. I don’t know if it happens, or not, but that’s just a theory. A Servitor Theory! Thanks for watching…. <– (Tell me if you get that joke.) I always tell my servitor if they try to harm me or anyone I care about they will be terminated immediately. That’s a good enough safety net I guess let’s move on to the next step.

6)The Housing

Now we need housing to ground the servitor to the physical plane. Housing can be things like a rock, a staff, a doll, something you made out of clay, etc… Servitors by nature do not need housing, but it is better to have a physical representation of them for control, and feeding purposes. Housing can be anything, but I would stay away from certain metals because energy does not flow as good through them as it does other materials. It is also better to have a housing made, or created by you, and your hands. Once you find what housing you would like to use you are ready to go onto the next step.

7)Naming

This one is super simple all you have to do is pick a name for your servitor. Literally can be anything Meaningful, or otherwise. All you have to choose a name, and then you can move on to the next step.

8)Making a Sigil

Now you should make a sigil out of the name of your servitor, or out of the purpose of your servitor. You will use this sigil as a true representation of your servitor. If you do not know how to make a sigil you can always Google it, or you should be able to find it by searching back through my posts.

Once you have your sigil you can draw it, or carve it into your housing for your servitor. This would be recommended, but if you do not want to mark the sigil on the housing you can always put the sigil on a piece of paper, and put it underneath your housing during the “Bringing the servitor to life” step.

9) Bringing the servitor to life

Now we just bring together all the materials that we have gathered thus far into a ritual. First thing you’ll want to do is cleanse the area. This can be done through any cleansing method such as the Lesser banishing ritual, smudging, or clap cleansing. Next you’re going to want to cast a circle or use some other form of protection technique. Then you’re going to want to start charging your housing, and your sigil through any form of charging method. Now you’re going to want to enter a Gnostic state of consciousness where you can strongly in vision the energy that you are manipulating. Close your eyes, and in your mind’s eye begin to mold the energy into the spiritual appearance of your servitor. Strongly visualize every little detail of your servitor’s being. Then breathe life into your servitor by just intending for the energy to be alive and to be conscious. Once you have molded your energy into the spiritual appearance of your servitor, then in your head, or out loud call to the servitor. Tell the servitor it’s name, it’s purpose, it’s personality, it’s feeding methods, and it’s lifespan. More focus, and intention you use to create the servitor more put together the servitor will be. Now your servitor is done, and it is alive. Undo your circle, and before you send out your servitor for the task you want them to complete I usually wait one day, and feed my servitor a couple times. I find when I first create a servitor it is incredibly weak so I gave it one day to become a little bit stronger before it starts its task.

anonymous asked:

Hi Dr. Ferox, I am a student in my undergrad planning on applying to vet school soon. Recently on tumblr I have been seeing a lot of vets say they wish they never became vets and making very discouraging posts about how no one should pursue this career cause they will just be broke and angry/upset. Any encouraging words for students pursuing this career to stay motivated to follow their dream?

This is probably not what you want to hear.

If you become a vet you will spend a lot of your time being angry, frustrated and upset. You will also spend a lot of time lamenting that you are not paid like a human doctor, despite having the same level of skills, whilst simultaneously being told by the animal owning public how much money you ‘must’ be making.

It certainly gets you down. By the time we’ve been in practice for 5 years, about a third of new vets will no longer be working in clinical practice. Lots of us leave.

Also, we are between 4 and 6 times more likely to take our own lives than the general public.

They’re not telling you these things, and I’m not telling you these things, in order to discourage you from becoming a vet. We tell you these things to forewarn you. If you are prepared and aware of the challenges you face, you will be better equipped to deal with them.

Veterinary medicine is a high stress, highly demanding career with a large emotional and moral burden and very unsociable hours. It’s not actually good for your brain, and it’s not right for everyone. I would prefer would-be vets walk into the profession knowing they might have to walk themselves out again.

And I would  much rather somebody decide to give up on being a vet than give up on life.

“Becoming a Vet” should not be your end goal. That only takes a couple of years, not a lifetime, and then what are you going to do? You should look at other options, you should have other plans, escape routes if everything doesn’t work out.

As a profession we have a huge issue with mental health. We talk about these things because they’re important to us, and they’re real. As much as you don’t want to hear it to be ‘discouraged’, you shouldn’t ignore them. Consider them an opportunity to learn from someone else’s mistakes, including my own.

I have said before that if animals are the only thing that brings you joy in life, don’t become a vet. I would still stand by that sentiment. If animals really are the only thing that brings you any happiness, stay out of vet medicine and don’t dissect and overanalyze your only source of joy. 

Now, I know it’s not something you wanted to here, but it’s something you needed to hear anyway. I’m not here to tell you it’s all puppies and kittens and rainbows. I’m here to tell you what you need to hear.

If veterinary medicine is what you’re heart is set on, then you will set out to do it regardless of what I or any other vet on the internet tell you. As it should be. The career certainly does have its rewards, but it also has many, many pitfalls.

We learn to cope, to varying extents, in different ways. I can only hope that you will learn to recognize those pitfalls before you fall into them.

Auntie Bells

by reddit user Pippinacious

Auntie Bells wasn’t really my auntie, or anyone else’s for that matter. I’m not sure she even had any real family at all. It was just what everyone called her. She’d been a fixture in the neighborhood since long before I was born and there wasn’t a single person who didn’t at least know of her.

She was something of a living legend; a crazy cat lady type without the cats. It wasn’t unusual to look out your window in the dead of night and see Auntie Bells shuffling down the street, big walking stick clutched in one hand, her tameless hair shining white in the moonlight. And if you didn’t see her, you’d hear her. Auntie Bells took her name from the bracelets she wore on both wrists, strands of twine run through a countless number of tiny bells that tinkled with her every movement.

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DATING CAMILA MENDES WOULD INCLUDE

since nobody is writing about how camila is sooooooooo girlfriend material (and im so in love with her), here it is:


•  it all started with you two being good friends, and as friends, you kept getting closer and closer

when she found out that you were into girls she smiled so big for herself 

• bc you were this cute girl that since she looked at you she wanted to get to know better 

• at first you texted a lot, and everytime she saw something funny she sended it to you

• bc she knew it would make you laugh and that would make her really happy

• then you started hanging out everytime that she wasnt filming for riverdale, like in between takes you’d go to where she was and take her to grab lunch or something

• you tried getting spoilers from her but even tho she really trusted you already she couldnt tell anything

• but she loved how you got so frustrated bc you. needed. to. know.

• so she teased you a lil bit, saying things like ”this may or may not happen”

HOW SHE ASKED YOU TO BE HER GIRLFRIEND before that everybody thought you were a couple anyway

• you were sick, like really sick, so she being the caring “friend” that she is showed up at your place w some soup, and why not flowers (something that she learnt from playing veronica) 

• even tho you melted when you saw her with all of that, you didnt want her around  because you were afraid shell get sick too

• but she didnt care, she sat right next to you on the couch and put some movie on netflix

• you were falling asleep with your head on her shoulder and she was looking at you, playing with your fingers

• she probably wanted to ask you to be his girlfriend “properly” like, with a long speech  and give you maybe some chocolate or candy

• but while looking at you the words spilled from her mouth

• “hey do you wanna me like, my girlfriend?”

• “what”

• “what”

• both of you started laughing and oFC YOU SAID YES I MEAN

• so thats how you started dating

• thats when all the fun began hehehe jk

• her phone and yours would be filled with silly photos of you two

• you know that video of her cooking and laughing about it in her ig story? you’d have tons of them doing mostly everything

• like one day, she took your phone while you were showering bc she was bored and her phone didnt have any battery, and going through your camera roll she found this video you took from her while she was watching her favorite movie because you loved how her eyes lighted up whenever her favorite scene was on the screen and how loud she screamed when something “surprising” happened even tho she watched it thousands of times

• she would do the same, because you’d have that kind of relationship

• she comments on every single one of your pics, really short comments like “i love you” “im in love” “mOM” “gorgeous” “mine”

• her mom loves you, and likes to cook for you bc she seems so nice and lovely

• when she is mad over something really silly, she starts speaking portuguese and you just stare at her while she’s screaming walking around the room until she let it all out

• “i was doing it again?” “yup” “im sorry”

• but theres times where you two are cuddling facing eachother and she is putting your hair behind your ear while smiling and shed say “eu tenho tanta sorte“ or “você é tão bonita”

• you wouldnt get anything of what she said (and she probably wouldnt tell you) but youd smile so big because you knew it was something nice and when she speaks in another language is the cutest thing ever

• PDA !!!!! lots of pda

• but not the annoying type like sucking eachother faces in public, but holding hands, long hugs, cheek kisses, forehead kisses !!!

• at least twice a week you go out to eat or have a cute coffee date, talking bout life sitting infront of eachother, holding hands over the table

• she never fails to make you laugh, she’s always doing goofy things or trying to imitate someone (and failing)  just to put a smile on your face

• its 2:34 AM, the lights are gone, the only source of light is coming from your computer screen and you two are dancing in the living room to some random spotify playlist

• you can go from steamy hot makeout session on the couch to sloppy slow kisses filled with love

• she sings to you whenever you ask her 

• she is probably singing 24/7 GOD BLESS HER ANGELIC VOICE

• but if you’re having a rough time or you’re feeling sad, she sings to you in a low tone kinda whispering, while smiling sweetly 

• i dont think she is the jealous type  ? but if anyone is looking at you in a way that they shouldn’t she’d wrap an arm around your waist, not like in a “she’s mine back off” type of way, but in a sweet “i love her dont steal her from me” type of way im crying 

• SHE. IS. A. TEASER. LIL. ****

• you tried cooking together, but you endend up getting too “distracted” and burning the whole thing

• “lets order pizza” “but i dont want pizza” “what do you want?” “you”

• she appreciates you and loves you so much bc if she is dating you she is 100% focused on you so she wouldnt be the annoying cheesy type, but definitely cheesy

• when she is away filming or busy with her work she sends you selfies doing funny faces, or videos at set with the cast, or a pouty selfie with a “cant wait to get home :(” that makes you melt inside who wouldnt

• PET NAMES !!! she probably calls you “love/babe/gorgeous”

• and she is your little nugget, of course

• play nights at your place with her friends (and yours) happen a little too often, because is everything you love and need: wine, charades, friends, and eachother

PLAYING CHARADES AND SHE BEING THE ONE TO GUESS WILL BE KINDA LIKE THIS: “oh oh oh i know that one!” “pETER PAN!” “no??? mmmm aLICE IN WONDERLAND!” “what, no?” “WHAT THE HECK IS THAT SUPPOSED TO MEAN BABE?!?!?” “no wAY IT WAS F HAPPY FEET”

but it doesnt matter is you win or lose the game at the end of the night, bc she’d wrap her arms around you and say “i win, i have you”

i love her so so so so much okay?????? it ends right here before i start crying she is the most precius lil bean bye

tw: @softnessmalik
Adulting 104

I had all the good intentions of posting this yesterday, but I got sick and spent the entire day blowing my nose into an assortment of paper products. I love you guys and hope your week has been productive and positive.

Shoutout this week to @tylersneverland​ and @bisexualgradient​. Just keep doin’ you!

1. Reuse containers. Get takeout often? Takeout containers are microwave and dishwasher safe, and are often durable enough to substitute as tupperware. Wash and reuse them!

2. Kick the soda habit. Switch to seltzer! Zero calories, carbonated, and they come in so many different flavors. I’m partial to Polar and Schweppes seltzer, but you can buy store brands for a fraction of the price (the Stop & Shop brand is particularly good).

3. Electric budget. Stop what you’re doing and get on a budget with your electric company. Instead of paying for how much electricity you actually use each month, you will pay a monthly flat fee. If you use more, they cannot charge you for it. Electric companies say that people use more electricity in the winter and less in the summer, so the difference evens out. At the end of the year they will issue you a check if they owe you money or credit it to your account. Last year I ended up overpaying and my electric company credited the difference to my account, and I had free electric for two months. 

4. Check your screens. This applies to pets in general, but especially to cats. Before allowing your pet to sit on the window ledge or by the screen door, make sure that the screen is secure. Rental units are notorious for their cheap craftsmanship, I secure my screens with duct tape because they’re so poorly made.

5. Laundry. Doing laundry in a communal area? Always check to make sure that the lint drawer has been properly cleaned before starting your dryer. Not only is it dangerous (I personally know someone whose house burned down because of a rogue dryer) but it will prevent your clothes from drying properly.

6. Soak it. Hard to scrub pot? Fill it with water and soap and let it sit for five minutes- I guarantee you it will be easier to clean. If something is really scorched and difficult to clean, let it soak overnight. 

7. Foaming hand soap. Lasts about three times as long as liquid hand soap, and is roughly the same price.

8. Invest in a multi-functional printer. As a college student, this may seem like a daunting expense, but it’s a necessary one. You can always use a college or library to print or copy at, but some places charge up to 50 cents per copy. If you need a reliable source for printing homework, make the investment. 

9. Skip the mixed salad. Instead of a buying a container of mixed salad greens, purchase only one type of leaf. Each lettuce has its own expiration date, and greens that have a shorter shelf life will go bad and take everything else in the container with them. 

10. Check your blinds. Here’s something I didn’t know before living on my own- there is a right and a wrong way to face blinds. Close your blinds and stand in front of them. Can you see out of them? If you can’t then flip your blinds around the other way. People will be able to see you through the slits in your blinds if they aren’t hung properly.