so something that I’ve noticed is that when I post about my attraction to women/non-binary peeps, people on tumblr tend to be much more supportive of my bisexuality in those contexts and if I talk about my attraction to men, people tend to kinda shut down and pretend that I’m not also attracted to dudes.
This is kinda a general attitude problem within the LGBTQ+ community about bisexuality, but like it or not, I LIKE DUDES. My sexuality shouldn’t be limited to women or non-binary people just because it makes some gay people uncomfortable. there are bi people who are in long-term relationships to people of the opposite gender and there tends to kinda be an insidious attitude that those bi people don’t “count” as being bi anymore or some bull. the mom of the toddler i babysit is bi and she’s married to a man, with a son, and that doesn’t erase or invalidate her sexuality.
BI WOMEN ARE ALSO ATTRACTED TO MEN AND WLW NEED TO STOP IGNORING THAT BECAUSE IT MAKES THEM UNCOMFORTABLE
i hate when straight women w short haircuts come into my salon and start joking about having a lesbian haircut/requesting short hair that “doesn’t make them look like a lesbian LOL”
today a straight woman sat down and showed me the picture of the haircut she wanted and she was like “i showed this picture to my husband and he was like ‘wow are you gonna get a girlfriend now’ haha. i love him he’s so ridiculous”
i never know what to say. it feels weird, because i know they say these things to me under the assumption that i’m straight. i don’t know how i’m supposed to respond. “oh don’t worry, you definitely don’t look like a lesbian!” or “omg don’t worry i won’t give you a LESBIAN looking haircut haha”
i can’t just out myself and play along. i do everything in my power to prevent outing myself to any of my clients.
and it feels like some cruel joke is being played on me, like this is straight humor that women laugh about behind our backs. i mean i know it is. it’s just weird being a part of it. i don’t know how to ask straight women to stop joking about butch lesbian haircuts while they’re in my chair. i don’t know what to do when straight women laugh about looking like a lesbian, i don’t really know how to take that, like if it’s a joke at the expense women like me or just harmless commentary. i don’t know what to say, and i can’t bring myself to laugh along with them.
it’s not a subject i want to talk about. i know that makes me sensitive, but i’ve been through a lot of very traumatic experiences because i’m gay. it’s humiliating to perform a service for straight women who seem to think there’s something funny about people daring to think they might be gay
A big thank you to the folks at twitter who gave me great ideas. I tried to put them all in one picture. Ichigo shouldn’t have made Grimmjow any promises he couldn’t keep. Who cares if it’s 3am? He wants his fight!