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Hey to all those people telling people “ it’s not so bad, just power through the cramps” when they're on their period because it’s not an excuse to miss school/work etc.!

I had bad cramps today, but I tried to “power through it” and went to class anyways, even though my grandmother had to drive me because I couldn’t walk to the bus.

I tried to “power through it” when I started to feel like I was going to throw up in the middle of my lecture, leaving to take a walk outside in the cold to try and clear my head, even though walking made my right side feel as though it was being ripped in two.

I tried to “power through it” when I started getting cold sweat all over my body, taking off my sweater and then putting it back on two seconds later because my body couldn’t decide if it was hot or cold.

 I tried to “power through it” when spots started to appear in my vision, and just kept walking towards the exit.

I tried to “power through it” when I started to dry heave, and started walking faster.

I tried to “power through it” when my ears started ringing and the spots took over my vision and I was so so hot but shivering and my side felt on fire and twisted into knots and stabbed all at once.

I tried to power through it to the point where I collapsed in the middle of my college hallway. A stranger brought me to Outreach Services, where I lay on the floor, vomiting, for an hour until somebody could pick me up and take me home.

The school paramedics told me that I had passed out because I put too much stress on my already taxed body. My body was taxed because of hormonal fluctuations and blood loss aka my period.

Nothing like this has ever happened to me before. In the past when I’ve had cramps like this, I’ve stayed in bed and eaten strawberries and watched MASH all day.

So don’t you DARE tell me that you should “power through the cramps and do it anyways”. Powering through made me pass out. Powering through made me have to be wheeled out of the school in a wheelchair because I couldn’t keep my balance to walk. Powering through made my grandmother with osteoporosis and a tendency to panic have to come pick me up from school and help me up the stairs and almost break her hip when I started to collapse backwards on the front steps. Powering through made my 13 year old brother have to supervise me while I took a bath because I was afraid I would pass out and drown (he was super sweet about it actually; we closed the curtain and he read me Voyage of the Dawn Treader). Powering through made my mother who works to support our family pretty much on her own have to take time off work to come home and make sure I was okay.

In conclusion; If someone feels crappy because of their period cramps, leave them alone. Don’t make them do things anyways, because you might make it worse. And definitely don’t make them feel bad for not wanting to do things because of cramps; that’s the reason I even got out of bed this morning. Be nice to people on their period. Possibly buy them chocolate or painkillers. Nut don’t make them do things when they have cramps, and definitely don’t tell them “it’s nothing, power through” because cramps? Cramps can be one of the worst things you could possibly imagine.

Seriously. Fuck you all.

You, my friend, are anything but a disappointment. You are not even remotely close to being a ‘failure.’ Everyone makes mistakes and takes wrong turns; its all part of the learning process. We all go through it. Don’t be so hard on yourself, you’re doing just fine.
—  Nicole Addison @thepowerwithin
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RFA
Reality Free Affect
Meaning:
Reality is only an illusionary concept and the RFA are here to give you the message that you’ll never wake up from their dream.

Fandom Name: Mystics
Meaning: Mystical, magical, mysterious, those who fall into this group will fall into a never ending dream. Another word for slaves to this group

Concept: Mysterious, subunits of Light and Dark.
Each music video is shot as if the viewer was apart of it. 
With each new video, it’s another piece of a puzzle the fans are meant to piece together.
Not much is released about the members, the fans must discover things themselves, including the overarching story of their music videos, leaving RFA as mysterious.

Members:
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Jumin
Zen
Seven
Unknown
Yoosung

Manager: Kang Jaehee

Songwriter: MC

anonymous asked:

I am the one who said that Jody would rise Luci Jr And I know I said It randomly but now I feel like I touch a nerve And I feel bad about it. Even if that's not the case And you just used It to explain what you explained... sorry It wasn't my intention

Hi, I’m sorry if I gave you that impression - I was not annoyed at all! I just thought - you know - I’m not really the gushing sort, and I’m not into fluff or wishing things would just go right. So with an ask like yours, my first reaction was Aaaw, of course that would be nice, but then I realized I’d seen other people dicussing this scenario already, so I felt there was little point about trying to develop that and maybe it was interesting to push it in the other direction? But it wasn’t meant to be against you, or anybody. I just like to think that way, like - It’d be great if Sam and Dean come clean to each other and find a way to save the Nephilim and Jody adopts him/her, but what if none of that stuff happens? What then? That’s, like, my default reasoning style - I mostly walk around thinking about what I would do if a friend was kidnapped, or if my train broke down and we were all stuck on it for 24 hours; if pigeons were suddenly the size of horses, if everyone over the age of 42 disappeared into thin air. If civilization broke down.

(And, yes, I actually have a plan for most of those things, and my zombie apocalypse list is getting alarmingly detailed.)

So, you know, sometimes I marvel at how chirpy everyone seems to be - because when it comes to the past, every single post in this fandom could easily be tagged OUCH and HOW VERY DARE and TOO SOON, right, because it’s all heartbreaking gifs about Dean crying and Sam dying and people spitting blood and feelings right, left and centre, and so I find it weird, actually - how optimistic and well-adjusted we seem to be about the future, because those posts, man - mostly Destiel ficlets - every single one that crosses my dash is Dean blushing as he bakes pie for everybody, and Cas buying books and bees and garden tools, and everybody hugs a lot and as much as I like to think about them that way - safe and happy and well-fed - I find it way more interesting to focus on the cracks and the pain and how to get them from what they are now to that future of quiet domesticity. And when I got your ask, really - part of me wanted to just answer with a ^THIS gif, but I like this about our fandom, that we can start conversations and speculate about bizarre things, so I just thought I’d seize the opportunity to express some traditional and endearing European pessimism.

I don’t know if I managed to explain? Really - I wasn’t upset, or anything else. Your ask simply gave me the occasion to write down a couple of things that have been lowkey bugging me since that ‘we’ll find another way’ speech - so, uhm - sorry if I hijacked it. For what is worth, I hope the kid doesn’t die. 

anonymous asked:

People have probably asked you this before but - are you planning on writing any more chapters of Inking indigo or is it ending at five? Please note that I am in no way trying to rush or force you into writing because I know how annoying that can be, I was just curious :)

Hi! Thanks for the gentle inquiry :) I’m definitely writing more chapters for inking indigo; the next two chapters are already outlined with portions partially written! I had to put my fics on hold while I finished school, and now that I’m done that, I’ve been slowly re-learning how to write while I recuperate from the semester. I hope to get the next chapter up in the next week or so! It’s long overdue! ^^; 

Thanks so much for reading and for your patience! ♥

anonymous asked:

Hi! Your art is really pretty ^^ When did you start drawing? I'm really interested in art (I've always been a writer and rather terrible at art ahaha),, do you think 15 years old is too late to start learning? Like. I have 0 experience, do you think it's too late for me? Sorry for all the questions hehe love you and your blog~~

// Hey there nonny! & THANK YOU! I was actually in the same position as you in the sense that I started out writing before I really got into drawing. (aka I wrote really really bad fanfiction in middle school with mary sues galore … rip past me) But I probably started drawing in elementary school? But that was only during like art classes at school so it was more like paper crafting than anything. I don’t think it was until after I discovered my inner weeb and started reading/watching Naruto that I actually tried drawing traditionally for the first time. (this was around maybe 7-8th grade in middle school?) LMFAOGJLH I think one of the main reasons why I wanted to draw was so that I could draw out my OCS tbh but I digress LOL ;;

Digital-wise, I think I started when I was 16? I remember I was sophomore in high school– so whatever age that equates to lol ;;

But it’s NEVER too late to learn! Especially with art! (I find that it’s more about experience rather than about your age)

In a sense you’re already halfway there because art is essentially just like writing on paper, only a bit more fluid and more creative in the sense that you can literally scribble whatever you want and it can be art! (that and penmanship is also a form of art ;o) And especially if you’re starting out or if you’re looking to get into art, I highly recommend trying anything and everything (like different mediums/styles/colors/etc) to get a feel of what you like and what you don’t! Don’t be afraid to experiment because that’s how you learn! And to be honest, there isn’t a ‘right’ or ‘wrong’ way to art either– it’s an evolutionary process that’s different from person to person! So just know, that by taking that first step (whether it be drawing boxes on paper, or slapping random paint colors on a canvas), that you’ve accomplished the first step of officially beginning your own art journey! :’) 

I love mimicking art styles! Its a great learning process! Its sad I can’t practice this stuff with a drawing tablet, however. I still somewhat enjoy how this came out though! (Even if it is full of flaws and its nowhere near as perfect or original)

(Okay I did end up doing a daily post today, but this is just a sketch and its around 11:30 at night.)

“Don’t rewrite someone’s work how YOU would have written it. That isn’t editing. Editing is bringing out the best of the story in line with the author’s voice, tone and goal.” - Amanda Pillar 

I have seen too many non-professional people who fancy themselves to be editors (and a couple of pro editors) fail at this very thing. Not to mention editors confusing ‘editing advice’ with ‘emotionally abusing a writer.’ If your editor - after you get back rewrites and notes - makes you feel like you want to write less, sweat bullets over the idea of writing, stress out about writing ‘right’ or feel like the process of creating is becoming only more and more painful over time, ditch them, and ditch them fast. Not everyone gets notes they like (that is the point of editing, after all), but you always have the right to reject anything that doesn’t click, and you should always walk away from a collaboration with an editor feeling stronger, not weaker.

I’m very fortunate that I got to interact with professional, lauded editors of great projects at university, and then later on in life as I pursued varied professional projects. All in all, I’ve probably met about 20-30 editors over the years, and I’ve learned much, including what a good editor won’t do to you or your work. I’ve had the privilege to work with professional editors on different published works (from poetry, to short stories, and now onto novels - some award winning and nominated) and I know how this process is supposed to go. I’ve seen too many authors and authors-who-don’t-know-better get crushed by people who believe they know best for a story and really don’t. 

Remember - You always have the right to ask for a new editor at a publishing house if your visions don’t mesh (and they won’t always). You always have the right to pull your work from an editor if they are destroying your work (it does happen, and I’ve recently seen one publisher in particular begin to fall apart because of this). A relationship with an editor should be collaborative. The editor needs to be consummately respectful of the author’s concept of style, execution. Ultimately an editor is there to assist a writer in the writer’s own work, not sneak their own voice and style into someone else’s work. The latter is not making a work stronger, but making it into something twisted. The true collaboration is when two people come together to make the original story shine in the way the author always intended it to, and the editor knows exactly what to bring to make that happen. 

An editor who insists brutality is key is not a professional. They go against most codes of ethics in many editing organisations in the world. An editor who uses abusive language is not a professional. An editor who tells you ‘this is how real editing is’ when they aren’t a member of an Editing Society and do not have an Editing Degree and don’t have any published books behind them is grandstanding. They are also lying to you about what the editing industry is like. Don’t believe me? Ask an editor affiliated with a Society with multiple published books behind them. An editor who is proud of their ability to be brutal above and beyond respecting the author’s voice, is an editor who enjoys the feeling of being right (whether or not they are) above respecting your creative work and passion.

If you tried to write the equivalent of a rose quartz, and your editor insists you need to be writing the equivalent of a smokey quartz - do yourself a favour, get the fuck out.