but it really interests me

Submission: Harlow's Social Recovery (nerd tropes for nerds)

So I’ve reread reverse about four or five times by now, and there’s one thing I notice more and more as time goes on: a big part of why Kurama is recovering as well and quickly as he is, is because Naruto and the other jinchuuriki kids are just so, so attuned to him and his mental state. The second they see him starting to go some place bad in his own head, they get right up in his face with love and affection and reminders that he’s not alone, and they do it without Kurama ever realizing that they do this very specifically whenever he starts to dwell. (Side note, what amazing kids. The assholes formerly known as their caretakers sure as shit did not deserve them.) And as a result, Kurama is actually – happy. And healthy, and coping well, only a few months after witnessing not only the literal end of the world, but also the end of his own personal social world, when the man who was his best friend and (non-romantic) partner died right in front of him. And that’s a miracle :) it actually reminds me of a study done by Harlow (king of Orochimaru-style scientific ethics) and Suomi in 1971, where they figured out that macaques reared in social isolation would basically lose all social skills and coping mechanisms, and would never be able to completely relearn them, EXCEPT when they were placed with younger macaques. Relearning how to socialize with the younger ones, the isolates “achieved essentially complete social recovery for all situations tested” – something that had looked totally impossible before. Despite Harlow’s shitty and questionably sociopathic methods, it’s amazing to know that interaction with children actually can heal and teach the isolated. rant> and that’s what reverse makes me think of whenever I see those wonderful scenes where the kids are cuddling Kurama out of his sad :)

(thank you for indulging my rampant nerding, this is just literally one of my fav things and I have a great need to make Harlow’s Social Recovery a trope that more people know)

Kinda wonder whether what Mary wants is hunting or family, because don’t get me wrong I’m all for both, both is good, and it can work for Sam and Dean and hopefully Cas but I don’t think it’s what Mary actually wants..
I mean, I’ve been buying the ‘kill all the monsters to give sons a normal life’ thing but now I think.. if she really wanted family, she wouldn’t have had the urge to hunt when Dean was a kid and all? Maybe she’s really kidding herself? Or is this also still the messed up cupid/resurrection thing affecting her?

I also wonder if John would’ve been able to/wanted to stop after Azazel’s death if he’d still been alive back then..

What I’d also like them do with this character story is the boys not ‘because mom’-ing everything about her, because that way they can never develop an honest relationship with her. I’d like them to temporarily(!) break with her so she can earn her place in the family by herself and not based on expectations. 

@vld-leap AhhI am not the best at talking but I try and things and I doodle to ease my fear of talking and things and being a fool ah. ahh. 

I hope it’s okay to draw things and sorry if It’s not and things ohjeepers. someday I’ll not panic when I get an IM but I’m still getting used to sending asks and things

proxiies  asked:

Hey! So, I'm looking for some book recs. My favorite book is East of Eden, and I'm looking for some more stuff that's similar to that. Like, anything that's sort of epic and character-focused, maybe with a relatively simple plot. I just want to read something that gets me really attached to believable, interesting, human characters. Pretty prose is also preferred. :) Thanks!

Okay, so I’ll start with the pretty obvious recommendations. If you loved East of Eden, you should read Of Mice and Men and Cannery Row by Steinbeck. And since you mentioned character-focused books with a relatively simple plot, you *must* (!) read The Heart is a Lonely Hunter by Carson McCullers. I recently re-read it, and I’m still in book hangover because of it. It’s the most pensively, atmospherically beautiful book I’ve ever read.

I hope others will chime in.

like, listen, if you’re going to give luke skywalker any love interest, you’re gonna have to work really hard to sell me on it. Who is this person? Where did they meet? How did they fall in love? What is it about them that luke loves? What was their life together like? What do they and luke have in common? What is their relationship dynamic? Are they a pilot? Are they force sensitive? What planet are they from? What were they doing during the rebellion? Why is luke skywalker in love with them?

because it would be ridiculous to give luke (the original main character of star wars!!!) a romance arc for the first time in movie canon and then not fully develop it, or have it take place completely offscreen. Writing some half-baked love interest for luke would be so disrespectful to fans and to his character in general, and i refuse to accept it.

anonymous asked:

so did you like riverdale?

No xD it’s poorly written, poorly acted, poorly directed, and poorly photographed (poorly everything, really). The photography is pretty, but nowadays anyone with some sense of aesthetics can pick up a camera and film pretty things. Photography is so much more than just making things look pretty. Only the two main actresses are worth anyone’s time (although one was clearly better than the other) and Archie is simply insufferable. The dialogue is dreadful (especially Chyler and Veronica’s) and the love triangle is already making me puke. The baiting is insulting and there’s way too many accidentally gay moments (“he was looking for the girl next door… But he found me.” REALLY?!?). The crime is interesting and intriguing, but that’s about the only enjoyable thing in the show. Now, I only watched one episode, so the rest could be much better, but it’s Netflix so that usually doesn’t happen, because a season is produced in one block. So yeah, it’s really bad.

That said, I’m definitely watching it all, because someone is begging me to. Apparently it’s customary for couples to have some couple-watching TV show. Some (literal) Netflix and chill? Who am I to reject that ¯\_(ツ)_/¯

But hey, if you like it, you like it. No judgement here.

anonymous asked:

whats infodumping??

i’d be happy to infodump about infodumping again but i’m Tired™ so i’m just gonna copy paste from when i was asked the first time

ok ok so infodumping is basically how an autistic person or someone with an autism cousin (autism cousins are disorders that while not autism have a lot of overlap in the symptoms like down’s or adhd) shares information they’re excited about knowing and a lot of the time that comes in huge bursts like I babysit a kid with ADHD and she can go on about wolves and their mating habits for hours it’s really interesting (ok so from what she’s told me male wolves basically choose a female wolf n go “wow she’s pretty and healthy and strong…. fight me for her.”) and also did you know the creeper in minecraft was only created bc the creator of minecraft was trying to make a pig

and i used to infodump in essays by incorporating my SI in but infodumping doesn’t always have to be about SI’s it’s basically just that particular group of nd ppl people sharing info they’re excited about knowing and being excited to share it with others!! it’s so cute we’re so cute thank you for asking

I feel awful.

I went on a second date with the guy and as I was sitting in the car beforehand I was like, “I like the girl more,” but my roommates had suggested to me that I give him a second chance, so I did. I was also kind of curious to see how things would go a second time around. 

He’s really nice, clearly has similar interests to me, and is definitely intelligent. I could see him being my first boyfriend if I let things continue, but, I don’t want to?

I like him, but I like the girl more, though I’ve only been on one date with her, but we talk every day. The guy like doesn’t talk to me between dates. I’m sure he’s probably just nervous and busy.

So why do I feel awful? Well, there’s depression, for one. And it creeps up on me telling me I don’t deserve this kind of attention. I was looking at the girl’s Facebook page and how she’s so pretty and I’m like how could she end up liking me? Negative self-talk all around. And with the guy I’m like, why is he so nice to me? Do I deserve it?

I know this all traces back to my parents and how they treated me, so then I ended up listening to depressing songs on the way home. 

But with the girl I didn’t listen to depressing songs. I listened to empowering music and then regular music on my drive home. Then again, only one date in. 

I hate that my depression is having me have these thoughts about myself. 

I also feel like I betrayed my feelings by going on this second date with the guy, but I feel like if I hadn’t, it wouldn’t have been fair because how can you really judge someone after meeting them just once?

Blah. Ramblings.

Just an FYI to all of you, this is my first real go-around in the dating world. I’ve been on dates before, but never while being open (or fully aware) about my sexuality, never with a girl, and I’ve never been in a relationship of any kind before. Yes, I’m 26 and just starting this. Had to get past some of my trauma stuff first. 

social anxiety and adhd is like so weird cause it makes me a shy person but at the same time also very impulsive
And it must be hard to read for other people….
but yeah im actually really shy…. my interests just makes me look like im an outgoing person idk

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THIS IS WHAT I WANT FROM MYSTERY PERSON AAAAAA

mini messengers.

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So Night in the Woods is rad. Thought I’d make some human-ish designs of the characters for fun. Maybe I’ll do more in the future? Probably.

why you should stan namjoon: his ability to manipulate and play around with the korean language

A little while ago, I asked a question about whether Korean music sounds like gibberish to non-Korean speaking listeners. Majority of those who answered said yes and for the most part, many just try to recognize certain phrases or the overall gist of the song when you are listening to it. Now this sort of got to me because as a bts fan, the members play around with words in their songs and they honestly have some of the most poetic/complex lyrics in the industry and it’s really interesting for me, a Korean-American, to be able to hear and distinguish that. But for non-Korean speakers, you guys can’t really do the same. An awesome example of this is Namjoon because well- he is just a genius, a modern-day poet. So, I’m going to try my best to try to point some of the word play in his lyrics out because I think you guys would find it just as interesting as I do!

1)  흥탄소년단/Fun Boyz

저 위 정상들이 보이지
일상에 상을 하나 더해 난 이상해지지
정상인 상태로는 정상에 못 가요 baby

trans:  “You see the peak over there, right? Add one more prize to my daily life, I’ll get weird. You can’t reach the top by being normal baby”

In this verse, Namjoon uses the word “정상” which can mean two different things depending on whether you use it as an adjective or a noun. As a noun, it means “the peak” (like the highest point of something). But as an adjective, it means “normal”. In the first line, he uses it as a noun- asking a question if you can see it. But in the third line, he uses the word in both ways. If I were to translate the last line stiffly it would be something like: “in a normal state you can’t reach the peak”

In the second line, he also does another word play.  일상 is a noun that means “daily life” while 이상 is an adjective that means “weird” or “abnormal”. However, he also makes a math pun in the line. The first syllable of  일상 is  일 which is the number 1 and the first syllable of  이상 is  이 which is the number 2. So literally, if you “add one more” to  일상 you get  이상. Add “one more” to daily life, you get weird.

Also! Note the repetition of the syllable “상” (sahng) through out his verse!

2) 고엽/ Dead Leaves

모든 낙엽은 떨어지듯이
영원할 듯하던 모든 건 멀어지듯이
너는 나의 다섯 번째 계절
널 보려 해도 볼 수 없잖아
봐 넌 아직 내겐 푸른색이야
마음은 걷지 않아도 저절로 걸어지네
미련이 빨래처럼 조각조각 널어지네
붉은 추억들만 더러운 내 위에 덜어지네
내 가지를 떨지 않아도 자꾸만 떨어지네
그래 내 사랑은 오르기 위해 떨어지네
가까이 있어도 나의 두 눈은 멀어지네
벌어지네 이렇게 버려지네
추억 속에서 난 또 어려지네

trans:  “As if every autumn leaf has fallen, as if everything that seemed to last forever is falling away, you’re my fifth season. Even if I try to see you, I can’t. Look, you’re still blue to me. Even if our hearts do not walk, they walk instinctively. Our lingering affections, like laundry, hang piece by piece. Only the crimson memories fall above my dirty self. Even if I do not shake my branch, it keeps on falling. Sure, for my love to ascend- it falls. Even if I’m near by, my two eyes grow further- they’re falling away. Like this, I’m being thrown away. I become young again inside my memories.”

Not only is his entire verse extremely poetic with his usage of analogies and personification and overall language but another thing that you have to make notice of is the fact that he raps in alphabetical order.

From the line 마음은 걷지 않아도 저절로 걸어지네 down, the verbs at the end of the lines follow alphabetical order.

The part of the Korean alphabet he uses is (from left to right) ㄱㄴㄷㄹㅁㅂㅅㅇ. Order-wise, and not by actual sound, its equivalent to the English alphabet would be abcdefgh.

Now pay attention to the first consonant of the first syllable of the last word of each line.

걸 어지네 , 널 어지네 , 덜 어지네 , 떨 어지네 ,떨 어지네 , 어지네 , 버 려지네 ,어 려지네

ㄱ,ㄴ,ㄷ,ㄸ*,ㄸ,ㅁ,ㅂ,ㅇ

a,b,c,cc*,cc,e,f,h

*ㄸ is a double consonant, meaning that it’s the stronger sound of ㄷ. In some alphabets, the double consonants come after its single consonant- meaning that Namjoon was still technically following Korean alphabetical order

One more thing to note is his repetition of the verb ending “-네”. This is typically used when the speaker is just taking notice of something and it implies that they have been taken aback by whatever has happened. For example, if you haven’t seen somebody in a long time, you might say something like “You’ve gotten prettier/more handsome”. In Korean, you would use the verb ending “네” for this situation and say something along the lines of “__ 예뻐졌네” or “__ 더잘생겨졌네”

So similarly, in this verse, it’s as if Namjoon is first discovering that hearts will walk instinctively, that his lingering affections hang piece by piece, that his love must fall in order to ascend, that he is becoming young inside his memories, and so on and so forth. It’s slight, but it adds a new level of depth to how you interpret his lyrics.

3) Always

난 세상을 이해하기 위해 사는데
세상은 날 이해한 적이 없어 왜
아니 딱 절반이 모자라
날 해하려 하잖아

trans: “I live to understand the world, but the world has never understood me- why? No, precisely one half is missing. It’s trying to hurt me.”

In this verse, Namjoon uses the verb 이해 which means “to understand”. When he says “precisely one half is missing”, he literally meant one half of 이해 which is 해. The verb 해하다 means “to hurt/injure” which is why he’s saying that “it’s (the world) is trying to hurt me.”  The world lacks one half of understanding him, which is why it’s trying to harm him.

Again, another thing I’d like to talk about is how he says 날 해하려 하잖아. Typically, the verb ending “하잖아” is used when you want the person/people you’re addressing to take notice of something. So, for example, if you’re craving something when you just ate- typically your friend would say something like “but we just ate!” And if you’re talking in Korean, it would be here that your friend would use the verb ending 하잖아 and use the phrase “방금 먹었잖아!” (you just ate!)

By saying 날 해하려 하잖아, it’s as if Namjoon is asking us to see that the world is trying to hurt him, it’s as if he’s implying “can’t you see this?” So it adds a whole entire new spectrum of emotion to his lyrics and I just wanted you guys to clearly hear the song the way he wrote it.