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21 Recommended Books for Writers

As I’ve talked about on my blog several times, an important part of growing as a writer is learning about writing. For years I’ve wanted to compile a list of writing books I’ve read, liked, and recommend. Today I’m happy to say I now have that list to add to my blog (perfect timing for anyone who likes summer reading). I’m sure over time, this list will be added to.

Many writers I’ve talked to have read quite a few of these books. How many have you read? And is there one I need to look into? (You can comment at the bottom).

If you haven’t read any of them, cool. Now you have a list to chose from should you ever want to.

Hundreds of books have been written on the art of writing. Here at last is a book by two professional editors to teach writers the techniques of the editing trade that turn promising manuscripts into published novels and short stories.

In this completely revised and updated second edition, Renni Browne and Dave King teach you, the writer, how to apply the editing techniques they have developed to your own work. Chapters on dialogue, exposition, point of view, interior monologue, and other techniques take you through the same processes an expert editor would go through to perfect your manuscript. Each point is illustrated with examples, many drawn from the hundreds of books Browne and King have edited.


What makes a good story or a screenplay great?

The vast majority of writers begin the storytelling process with only a partial understanding where to begin. Some labor their entire lives without ever learning that successful stories are as dependent upon good engineering as they are artistry. But the truth is, unless you are master of the form, function and criteria of successful storytelling, sitting down and pounding out a first draft without planning is an ineffective way to begin.

Story Engineering starts with the criteria and the architecture of storytelling, the engineering and design of a story–and uses it as the basis for narrative. The greatest potential of any story is found in the way six specific aspects of storytelling combine and empower each other on the page. When rendered artfully, they become a sum in excess of their parts.


Bestselling author David Farland has taught dozens of writers who have gone on to staggering literary success, including such #1 New York Times Bestsellers as Brandon Mull (Fablehaven), Brandon Sanderson (Wheel of Time), James Dashner (The Maze Runner) and Stephenie Meyer (Twilight).

In this book, Dave teaches how to analyze an audience and outline a novel so that it can appeal to a wide readership, giving it the potential to become a bestseller. The secrets found in his unconventional approach will help you understand why so many of his authors go on to prominence.


How do you create a main character readers won’t forget? How do you write a book in multiple-third-person point of view without confusing your readers (or yourself)? How do you plant essential information about a character’s past into a story?

Write Great Fiction: Characters, Emotion & Viewpoint by award-winning author Nancy Kress answers all of these questions and more! This accessible book is filled with interactive exercises and valuable advice that teaches you how to:

   Choose and execute the best point of view for your story
   Create three-dimensional and believable characters
   Develop your characters’ emotions
   Create realistic love, fight, and death scenes
   Use frustration to motivate your characters and drive your story.


The road to rejection is paved with bad beginnings. Agents and editors agree: Improper story beginnings are the single biggest barrier to publication. Why? If a novel or short story has a bad beginning, then no one will keep reading. It’s just that simple.

In Hooked, author Les Edgerton draws on his experience as a successful fiction writer and teacher to help you overcome the weak openings that lead to instant rejection by showing you how to successfully use the ten core components inherent to any great beginning.

Plus, you’ll discover exclusive insider advice from agents and acquiring editors on what they look for in a strong opening. With Hooked, you’ll have all the information you need to craft a compelling beginning that lays the foundation for an irresistible story!


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The Hostage

[We OPEN in the Shadow Realm, the empty void between worlds that Dark currently calls His home.]

DARK: So, My dear. It seems that we cross paths again.

MELISSA: Seems like. Gotta say though, Daddy’s girl is a real pistol.

DARK: [low chuckle] Indeed. She can be a handful at times.

MELISSA: Might I recommend the occasional time-out?

[Dark chooses to ignore that statement completely.]

DARK: I have your favourite tea and some chocolate. [A dish is moved on the table.] You still enjoy chocolate, don’t you?


DARK: You’re not happy?

MELISSA: Well… I did promise my readers I’d bring You to them. You… of course, You already know.

DARK: That I do. I am, however, most interested in how you would choose to describe it.

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Jonsa Prompts - Smut - Submitted by @jen-snow

Why don’t we start with the good ones? Here’s a list of smutty Jonsa-appropriate writing prompts!

  1. Jon keeps ripping Sansa’s panties, so she takes him shopping for new lingerie. Up to you to decide what happens next and where it happens ;)
  2. Jon and Sansa have recently become roommates. Ever since Jon moved in, Sansa’s underwear has been disappearing…
  3. Jon and Sansa have recently moved in together. Sansa didn’t realize Jon has a habit of walking around the house naked. He doesn’t seem to mind her seeing all of him, but Sansa finds it very distracting.
  4. Sansa tells Jon: “If real life was a fandom, people would ship us. There would be porn of us!“
  5. Jon loves that Sansa is always dressed up so nicely, but one day he sees her in pyjamas/sweats/… and is incredibly turned on by the sight.
  6. “Watch out!” Jon startles Sansa as she is about to sit down on a bench in the park. “The bench is wet,” he explains to her, “I thought you might want to keep your panties dry for a change.”
  7. Sansa catches Jon trying on a pair of her silk stockings.
  8. “You should have been my first. I like that you’re my best and will be my last, but I still wish things could have been different. There’s one thing I can give you that I’ve never done with anyone else.”
  9. Jon’s online dating profile: “Besides eating pussy, I also like reading in my spare time.”
  10. “If I wasn’t so horny, I’d slap you!”
  11. BONUS: Sansa gives Jon a blowjob. Jon puts a winter rose in her hair while she’s at it ;)

These ones are not necessarily smutty, but cute and guarantee kissing happening.

  1. Jon/Sansa is asked whether they would kiss the other if they were paid *insert currency* 100.00. Answer: “I would pay that much money to kiss him/her.”
  2. Jon and Sansa (who are not going out yet, but have crushes on each other) are playing Truth or Dare with their friends, who can tell about their feelings toward one another. One of their friends dares Jon to kiss Sansa. He leans over and kisses her on the cheek. Very tired of Jon’s BS, Sansa tells them, “Come on Jon, you know that’s not what they meant” and grabs his head and kisses him on the mouth.
  3. Sansa has realized her dream of publishing a novel and Jon embraces her to congratulate her. She’s so warm and soft and smells so nice and he can’t stop staring at her lips.

Some of these are my own, but I’ve also found some on the prompt blogs @idea-garden and @otpprompts. There are a lot more funny, cute, smutty, … prompts to find on those blogs. Go check them out!

If any of these are yours and I’ve accidentally shared them without giving credit (I mean I might have picked them up somewhere and forgotten I did), do let me know and I’ll add you as a source!

scaredy-bee  asked:

Hi! I'm new to the witchy scene and don't know where to start on anything tbh. It's hella overwhelming, esp bc I'm finding planetary stuff v interesting but also incredibly confusing. Any thoughts, suggestions, etc? Any blogs i should follow?? Favorote resources??? Idk. You seem v cool so i figured i would ask. My witchy sideblog is kosherkitchenwitch. 💜💜💜 (im on mobile 24/7 so sorry if you have that info somewhere and im being repetitive!!!)

I usually have a very long winded explanation for this question. Its just hard to write a very short answer because the topic itself describes several life styles and cultures and practices. To really get you started you have to be ok with journeying down a rabbit hole. (This answer by the way is it’s own rabbit hole so get comfortable lol). 

Witchcraft is a practice but it’s also very spiritual so it’s definitely one of those things that become a lifestyle and you are forever learning something new. Don’t feel too overwhelmed that it is forever going on cause like its something that expands with everyone’s unique experiences!

I honestly should write a book for beginner witches with tips and exercises but for now I will leave you with this: (Though it’s very long and I apologize, I want to give you something concise to research and start with so that you have someplace to begin instead of just short and concise answers since that still won’t give you a good enough foundation.)

Here’s the top 5 tips I will tell you:

1- Know these Basic Terms

2- Know Yourself

3- Know Your Roots

4- Know Your Local Nature

5- Resources

Below I will flesh these points out:

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Sometimes I feel like theme makers have no rights.

Why? Let’s see, theme makers generally have to:

  • answer things in their inbox politely on a regular basis
  • fix bugs on their coding as soon as possible
  • post codes on a regular basis (before people start going into the inbox and demand that they do so)
  • do all of this, as well as juggling whatever commitments they have in real life, such as studying, or having a job, or actually having a life.

In addition, here is a general process that goes behind making a theme:

  1. Plan the theme. Draw inspiration from various places, make sure you’re original enough, or just whack it and sketch something out.
  2. Open the tumblr customiser, and start translating the idea into code.
  3. Fuck something up, then spend ages trying to fix it, only to then break something else and end up having to fix that, too.
  4. Debug the code and add your credits, trying to make sure that people can’t delete them too easily.
  5. Code meta options into the theme and painstakingly design a colour scheme that works, while making sure that your booleans are all properly coded, that your colour options all work, and that common add-ons (music player, updates tab, freehostedscripts, etc) don’t fuck up when you install them.
  6. Make previews. Find appropriate posts of each post type to reblog, look for suitable header/sidebar/background images, photoshop accordingly if needed, test dimensions.
  7. Write feature lists and options, customisation notes, theme documentation, etc.
  8. Post the theme, ensure that your screenshot shows off the best parts of the theme, tag it appropriately, submit it to relevant places, etc.

And yet, many theme makers also have to:

  • deal with things like people removing the credit and other people stealing their coding
  • deal with customisation questions that they don’t want to respond to, or questions about things that have been asked over and over again and are written on the FAQ
  • deal with rude people demanding that their answer their message and/or fix their bug right now, at once, immediately
  • deal with even ruder people telling them off for being rude when the question was on their FAQ or in the theme documentation
  • deal with people demanding that they re-publish ______ theme that has already been revamped/deleted

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In light of this ask about more general potential issues with m/m shipping, I wanted to share some of my thoughts on the subject from a while ago, just in case anyone is interested. I reposted the entry from my main blog and now I’ve forgotten when I wrote it, but it was during my first round of hockey fandom so maybe 2014? Before I knew much of anything about 1D or Larrie.

I’m going to pull out the most relevant parts, but even these feel a little weird on this blog because I’m going into the moral issues that are raised EVEN when the shipping is normal and not tinhatting or fourth wall breaking. Like I’m here saying it’s not even morally clear whether it’s ok to publish RPF publicly at all, and we’ve got Larries sending Louis’s sisters porn and insisting they’re the voice of this secret relationship. So just note that this is aimed at a more sophisticated and appropriate fandom audience than we often find in 1D.

But you can definitely see how much I’ve always been opposed to fans acting like we truly know about the actual inner lives of the people we stan.

Anyway, here’s pre-1D fan me, on slash and shipping and RPF:

I think the most important thing with slash that I feel like I don’t see said enough is never to equate it or your interest in it with actual homosexual relationships between men. Just as lesbians shouldn’t have to hear from guys saying “oh, can I watch you and your girlfriend make out??”, neither should gay men have to hear from fangirls saying “ahhhh, you and your boyfriend are so cute!!!” (Unless you know them really well and they are being cute, I guess?) They’re not there for your amusement. They aren’t slash fanfiction. They aren’t part of your fantasy. Don’t fetishize homosexuality.

It goes back to always, always recognizing the difference between fantasy and reality. Your fantasy slash couple has nothing to do with the actual gay men in front of you. That fantasy power exchange where no one negotiates anything and they just know what the other person wants, that only works in fantasy world. (Making this distinction is something we fail at a lot, to be honest. This is also important if you have a fantasy about being the best friend/wife/whatever of a celebrity. Keep it away from reality! And on that note…)

On RPF, I… don’t know. The thing about making a real person a part of your sexual fantasy life is that if they haven’t consented, I feel that at least they should not have to be aware of it. Like I actually don’t really mind if one of the boys I’ve dated is masturbating thinking about me every night, as long as he absolutely never ever makes himself a presence in my life such that I would have to be in any way aware of or even guess about his obsession with me.

But RPF (which I often adore) is out there and is really easy to find if you know where to look. Obviously if you go out of your way to make the subject of it pay attention to it (Supernatural fans…) then, well, you’re kind of a shit. But it’s not like I’m writing it just for me and making sure no one ever sees it, you know? Back to my masturbating ex comparison - if I found a blog post of his talking about how much he still thinks about me, I wouldn’t be AS uncomfortable and horrified as if he were actively stalking me, but I’d still be pretty uncomfortable and horrified.

However, I am capable of vaguely justifying RPF and my participation therein! Because the difference is that Masturbating Ex actually knows me - he is thinking about me specifically, the real me. He possibly knows where I am, he knows me intimately, who I actually am. RPF, on the other hand, is about a fantasy version of the real person. There’s separation. I actually like to think of it as being about a character - the public persona that the celebrity allows to be seen (in my case, often an athlete… or a member of a Japanese boy band, which made me feel better because almost none of them knew English and couldn’t read my porn anyway). The character that they portray to the world.

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bellsravenclarke  asked:

idk if i've ever told you this but it makes me so happy that you love tudors! i'm absolutely obsessed and i would definitely read the book you're working on right now if it was published. on another note, i was wondering if you've ever thought about what mbti types henry's wives or even elizabeth I or mary queen of scots might have been? i've been thinking about it a lot lately and i would love your input since you're the best mbti blog around imo and a tudor fan as well :)

The Tudor dynasty and all their kin is totally fascinating, so … yay for history fanatics who love it as much as I do.

Also goodie, I’ll sell at least one book.

I reserve the right to come back later and edit this post, because I am not positive on the types of a few of them and will need to do more research on the ones I’m not completely familiar with.

These are based on the historical figures, not film adaptations.


This one is so obvious. He was larger than life, dramatic, incredibly popular and physically present, forever pursuing new and exciting physical experiences (beautiful women, jousting, hunting) … and he could be ruthless and cruel in a way that only bad Fe users can be.

Katharine of Aragon: ESFJ

She had incredible power and charisma and used it skillfully to win people to her side and gain support not only as a queen but during the annulment / divorce precedings. Her former experience both with Henry and her own upbringing in Spain made her a formidable enemy during the latter events, and also reinforced her belief that Mary should remain in the line of succession — she had absolute confidence a woman could rule, and why not? Her mother was Isabella of Spain, the warrior queen.

Anne Boleyn: Either an ENFJ or an ESFP

This one I am unsure about, because she was such an enigma of her time and all the reports we have on her are biased by contemporary writers who hated her (most information about her behavior comes from Eustace Chapuys, the Spanish ambassador who preferred Katharine and Mary, so his interpretation of events is questionable). That being said, she was obviously using Se/Ni (expensive taste, very specific in her vision for the future, which included her on the throne and the Reformation coming to England). I haven’t read about Anne in awhile; I’ll have to do so before making up my mind.

Jane Seymour: ISFJ

A mild-mannered, socially-appropriate woman who learned from the mistakes of her predecessors.

Anne of Cleves: ESFJ?

Everyone loved Anne — except Henry, and even that changed after they were no longer married. Smells like a Fe-dom at work, and I think she learned from others’ mistakes and happily granted Henry a divorce. But I know the least about her, so I might change my mind later on.

Katherine Howard: ESFP

A highly immature one, who lived totally for the moment and recklessly pursued following her sensual pleasures and feelings in the moment all the way to the chopping block.

Catherine Parr: EXFJ?

The wife who shared her opinions freely and was chosen primarily as a nurse and companion… but whose passion for the Reformation might have killed her had Henry lived long enough to give the order. Sounds like another enthusiastic Fe-dom... and a somewhat unhealthy one, considering what she allowed her husband to do to Elizabeth.

Queen Mary: ISFJ

A traumatized queen dominated by her past, who for the moral good of England tries to wipe out the lingering Reformation. Unfortunately, an excellent example of a naive, fearful, and deeply unhealthy ISFJ.

Queen Elizabeth: XNFJ (?)

Here is another enigma, just like her mother, but I think that her vision for England was a strong one, which indicates a fairly high Ni. Highly emotional and passionate, with the same fiery disposition of both her parents, and concerned for the well-being of her country but also quite emotional. That being said, I haven’t read up on Elizabeth for awhile, so I may change my mind digging into her biographies.

King Edward VI: ISTJ?

Te/Fi. Could be quite harsh and unyielding. Had a cruel streak toward those who disagreed with him on religious matters. Might have been a tyrant to parallel his father had he lived.

Mary Queen of Scotts: EXFJ?

I haven’t read much about her yet, but I tend to remember her as being quite emotionally-driven. Unsure.

Lady/Queen Jane Grey: IXTJ

Someone pointed out to me (in a subsequent post) how Te-Fi Jane was and looking back, I can see it. To use my own words in the other post: A Fe user would have been much more amenable to persuasion, and Jane’s total refusal to budge from her beliefs (Fi) wound up being a significant factor that played into her death in the end. Fe would have been much more careful around Queen Mary as well … and she wasn’t.

ETA: clarified on Jane and Edward.

o27: Social Media


jk tho but this is so fking long and gross fml
hopefully sasuke doesn’t come off as too stalkerish

Social Media


Sasuke guides Sakura the way to his heart. Anonymously, of course.


Her URL was simple enough—bow-down-bitches dot tumblr dot com—which, Sasuke thought, was a perfect way to describe Sakura’s cockiness and yet didn’t diminish her confidence.

Her blog icon was a picture of her, smiling widely in what seemed to be her messy bedroom with clothes heaped up in massive piles behind her. She wore striped shorts that barely classified as shorts, with knee-high socks and a red tank top. Even in the grainy photo she took from her smart phone, anyone from around the world could tell that she had a wonderfully fit body and some nice assets to go along, front and back.

But what Sasuke cared most about her blog was the content—particularly the personal self posts that gave him a glimpse into Sakura’s true self.

August 27th

I got ice cream today lol


August 29th

Im a bad person I told my friends I didn’t wanna go out today bc I was sick but rly I just wanted to stay home and watch porn


September 18th

So there’s this really cute guy in my uni class that I like and he sits two rows ahead of me next to the window and I dunno it’s kind of creepy to say but he’s gorgeous and brilliant and is it weird that I wanna get to know him? Like I don’t have to pursue a relationship with him I just want to talk to him. Idk

He knew the last post was about himself. And he knew Sakura was interested in him romantically, as was a majority of the female population, but he didn’t know to this extent. She wanted to know him as a person. That was new to him.

Sasuke headed over the ask box, appropriately labeled “Ask Box.” Anonymously, (like a coward, he thought, though he really didn’t have an account), he asked:

What would you talk about to that uni guy?

He pressed send and waited. Sasuke figured he was being a grade A stalker, but at the same time, he wanted to know how she’d respond to someone she thought was anonymous.

Only a few minutes later, he noticed that she had published his anonymous ask and replied: “That’s the problem—I don’t know what he likes, and I’m afraid that if I talk to him about something stupid like the weather or how he’s doing he’ll be disinterested and won’t keep up the conversation. Does anyone have any suggestions?”

People began to respond to her post, girls and boys alike offering suggestions that were unknowingly more harmful than good. No, Sasuke wouldn’t want to talk about basketball or other girls in the grade, or the latest upcoming school event. He was glad that someone wanted to talk to him about him—past the accomplishments and accolades, past the activities and extracurriculars.

He sent her another anon ask.

Just tell him you want to get to know him. Go out for coffee together.

She published it and replied, “no no no, I can’t do that! I’m too embarrassed! And how will I deal with the humiliation if he turns me down? The remainders of my dignity can’t handle that.”

Frustratingly, he sent her a final ask.

Just do it. And if it doesn’t work out, you have every right to blame me.

She didn’t publish that one.

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A/N: Sorry for the wait. I’d also like to apologize in advance for the wait for part III lol. As always, I appreciate feedback. Hope you enjoy it. 

I’VE MOVED ALL MY WRITING TO A SIDEBLOG. Any continuations of this or any other writing will no longer be published on this blog (just message me and I will link you to my sideblog)

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Misconceptions Part II

(Clearing Up Misconceptions Part I can be found here.)

  • “Do you accept non-writing related questions?”

WWC receives a constant stream of questions, ranging from blog recommendations, Q’s such as “what do you think about x piece of media?” to general questions on race. Please understand that we are a writing advice blog for racial and ethnic diversity. It’s very privileged and/or entitled behavior to treat a writing blog about racial diversity as an all-purpose place for advice or education on PoC issues.

Answering your writing questions is our priority. Please do not ask us to hunt down resources for answers that can often be found with a simple google search or ask us questions more appropriate for another blog.

Also, please refrain from asking non POC-writing related Qs as we receive hundreds of writing questions as it is. There are dozens of writing blogs that take more generic writing questions; we focus only on representation and racial/ethnic diversity. Try a blog that has a specific focus for your needs (See the Recommendations page for leads and remember to read the FAQ). 

This doesn’t mean you can’t ask about the intersection of race/ethnicity and some other trait. But asking how Judaism approaches LGBTQ+ acceptance is different from saying “my Jewish character is bisexual; is it okay if she’s only shown dating one gender within the canon of the story?” The first question is directly relevant to ethnicity; the second is not (it’s about bisexual portrayal in general) and would be more appropriately directed to another blog.

  • “How much information should I put into my question? Isn’t more better?”

Keep it simple! Honestly, it’s really no fun receiving extremely long question submissions. They take a long time to read through, and the Mods all have busy schedules. Really think about what details are pertinent when asking questions. Remember that 1-2 part questions are most appreciated. If you find yourself saying at the end of a 250 word submission, "well, I guess I’m rambling but!” or “I guess I haven’t asked a question yet but” or something along those lines, please take some time to go back and streamline your question.

  • “I’m not a part of _____ group, but here’s my 2 cents…”

Please refrain from leaving comments to the effect of "I’m not X group, but…,” because if you’re about to tell us about something you witnessed but didn’t experience yourself, you may not have the whole picture or understand what it was that you saw. History has already been told through a white colonialist able-bodied cis straight lens all this time; the whole point of this blog as a resource is to let people of color/in marginalized ethnoreligious groups be the ones to speak about their experiences.

WWC is a safe space for marginalized and oppressed people groups. We would like to ‘give the floor’ to people who want to speak about their own personal experiences and share their perspective. We believe it is necessary to amplify voices of those who are silenced or erased. Again, please do not add your perspective unless you are a part of the community we are talking about. (As always, mixed race, biracial and multiethnic folks are always welcome to share their thoughts).

  • “Is this the white savior trope?”

We get many questions that ask if a such-and-such situation is the white savior trope. If you have a story with a sympathetic or kind white character, that doesn’t mean it’s the white savior trope. The problem with the white savior is that it centers POC’s realities and stories on whiteness. The only time so many of our stories get told is through whiteness, like Dances With Wolves, The Last Samurai, etc. Whether or not the white protag is a jerk or genuinely being helpful isn’t the only issue.

It’s that these stories only exist through the lens of white, straight, Christian-coded males (and more recently, females)

. It implicitly states that white straight dudes are the "Everyman” and that their presence is required for a story to be relevant. 

  • “Are you saying all my characters of color have to be good or nice characters? What about villainous characters of color?”

When Black, Brown, and/or Muslim people cry out for more representation in whitewashed media, they’re not asking for more vilification and depictions of dysfunction. When Asian people and Latinos cry out for more representation they are not asking for more sexualized and objectified women. So please don’t use, “But I was adding diversity and I thought people wanted representation!” as justification for validating destructive tropes.

Too often, characters of color only exist to be props and tokens. They’re the same cardboard cut-out character, changing only names and locations to suit the setting of the story they’re in.

We aren’t saying that you can’t write villains or anti-heroes that are of color; we’re saying that too often, that’s all we’re relegated to being. Sidekicks, best friends, one-tone villains, flat characters, or objectified decorations to “spice up” a boring story. We don’t get to be ourselves in media, and we don’t get to see ourselves in media.

Rather than focus on “Is this offensive?” or “Is this diverse enough?”, please focus on writing solid, interesting, nuanced characters, who are also people of color.

WWC looks forward to the day when there are so many diverse, inclusive stories that we won’t need to have this blog, and we can write (and publish!) diverse stories to our heart’s content. Until then, though, we will continue to advocate for people to write stories that represent people of color, because we’re still constantly being misrepresented. 


anonymous asked:

So, Kubo said that the ending was the one that he wanted all along. Will you now stop defending that he did that on purpose to spite sj? Will now accept that he's just a shit writer who used his fans for money? A hypocrite that said that would not draw something that he didn't like but did the honeymoon spread just to ship bate all the while faping tho ih? A sick person who thinks that the lust arc was romantic? Just to realize that he is this kind of person makes me sad...

oh my god i’m so sick and tired

Hey look I get that you’re really disappointed and upset but why, for the love of god, have some IR shippers started coming into other people’s inboxes and started a militant ‘OH MY GOD WHY DON’T YOU HATE KUBO YOU DUMB MOTHERFUCKER YOU’RE SETTING YOURSELF UP FOR DISAPPOINTMENT’ campaign

like what is your problem. who the fuck CARES if you think other people are setting themselves up for disappointment, who the fuck CARES, leave other people the fuck ALONE

I don’t know if you realise how badly you’re coming across but the repetition of ‘will you now finally~blah blah blah’ makes this message read REALLY condescending and supercilious and patronizing. Like you’re saying ‘will you finally stop being a goddamn MORON and accept that I had the right idea all along you abject idiot’. And I apologise if that’s not your intention but for the love of christ, why can’t people on this website offer some basic courtesy. I love receiving messages from people but why do people not REALISE THAT DESPITE THE FACT THAT WE ARE ON A BLOGGING PLATFORM YOU ARE STILL ESSENTIALLY WRITING MESSAGES TO STRANGERS. STRANGERS. WHY WON’T PEOPLE WRITE WITH SOME BASIC COURTESY I’M SO SICK OF THIS GODDAMN WEBSITE

If you wanted my opinion on the twitter clusterfuck, you could have just asked?? Alright, I’ll bite. Most of my feelings about it can be pretty eloquently summed up by @sorisanam​‘s post here (read it before you read my response), but to answer your questions and add my (REALLY REALLY LONG) two cents:

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walecznyzdzisioposts  asked:

I am bemused by the raw stupidity of people nowadaysand need someone to explain to me why does (an examlpe for this particular question, mark my words) a man all of a sudden thinkhe is a woman, why standard pronouns (he/she/it) are a no-no insuch a situation and for that matter, why this extremelly vocalminority is both incredibly agressive and endlessly annoying? I of course do not mean the transsexual folks, only your regular "genius" that considers gender-fluidity a good thing.

My friends and enemies alike, today is an historic day for you are about to see what happens when your slightly aggressive affirmer becomes extremely aggressive. I’m so angry, I’m not even gonna use allcaps cos I only use my allcaps for people who need loud reassurance, and this transphobic nonsense does not deserve my special allcaps touch. Or my swears. No swears for you.

I don’t even know where to fudging start with you, but let’s give this a try, shall we?!

For starters, it is not my responsibility to educate you. Why don’t you just google answers to your questions?! Even Bing would suffice. I am only taking the time out to do this because if you are gonna make demands on other people’s time, I’d prefer it be mine over a trans person who does not need this stuff in their inbox. Not that I believe you actually want answers. It’s clear from your bio that you just enjoy stirring people up and then blaming them for being angry about it. Well go ahead and get on your high horse about me being angry and emotional, because the name of my blog literally has the word “aggressive” in it, so any attempt to suggest that my aggression is unnecessary and unwelcome in debate will make you look like someone who is poking a bear and then surprised when the bear bites. (A bear does more than just bite, it can take your whole arm off, which may or may not happen here).

Secondly, I cannot tell if you are using the term “transexual folks” because you don’t know that the more inclusive term “transgender” exists, or if you are using it to refer specifically to those who prefer the term “transexual”, because they are the only people you recognise, in your gatekeeping capacity as Arbiter Of What Counts As Trans. But look! I googled and in two flat seconds I found a glossary of terms to use when speaking to or about trans people! What is this devilry that allows me to search the internet for answers to my queries instead of using the internet to message random blogs in the hope one of them will explain things to me? What a time to be alive!

Now let’s discuss the question of why a man “suddenly thinks” he is a woman? Well, for one thing, if someone currently identifies as a woman, we need to use she/her/hers pronouns (or alternative pronouns if so requested). And we need to call them a woman, because they are a woman. Also, how would you know if someone “suddenly thinks” they are a woman? Are you a psychic? Have you put in a long term effort to hear and analyse every thought inside their heads to determine the exact moment at which they “thought” they were a woman?

Guess what?! Just because someone presented as a man yesterday, and used he/him/his pronouns, this does not mean to say they were personally identifying as male. They could have been identifying as female in the privacy of their own mind. Maybe it’s sudden and unexpected for you that they have come out as a woman, but guess what!? Other people exist outside the context of your interaction with them! There are a multitude of reasons why a woman would present as male to you on Monday and come out as a woman on Tuesday. Maybe that’s “annoying” to you, but you know what’s even more “annoying”? Having your identity disrespected, being at increased risk for murder, assault and sexual assault, being asked about your genitals by total strangers… There are many things much worse than the mild inconvenience to you of people asking to be treated as the gender they are.

Also, what do you even mean by saying “standard pronouns” are a “no-no” under such circumstances? Let’s skip over the super concerning fact that you regard “it” as a standard pronoun that you believe would be acceptable to use when referring to any person ever, and note that many trans people do in fact use “standard” pronouns. Why should you get to decide which pronouns are “standard” anyway? You think “it” is more usual than, for example, “they”? (Hey look, I didn’t skip over it at all…)

Why do you even care what pronouns a person uses anyway? If someone wants you to refer to them as They or Zir or Nir, why not do it? Is it difficult? If Sarah asked you to call her by her name, Sarah, would you say “No, your outward appearance doesn’t seem like Sarah to me, I’m going to call you Doris”? Everyone would think you were a massive jerk and avoid you at all costs. But because you’re discussing a marginalised group of people, it’s suddenly fine for you to decide which forms of basic courtesy we’re going to use and which we aren’t?

Okay, your whole message is so offensive that I’m trying to move through it at speed so bear with me as I skip to yet another point. You refer to trans people as an “extremely vocal” minority. By what system are we categorising level of vocalness? Is there a “very vocal” or a “massively vocal” and where would they fit on a scale? In any case (and I’m gonna put this in bold for the folks up the back):

When my trans friends talk about trans issues, I listen, because when a group is marginalised, they are the only ones who can tell us what they need for equality to be achieved. They are the only ones who can tell us how we can be better and more inclusive. Trans people have every right to be vocal, because they have a great deal to say about oppression and how we as a community need to be doing more and doing better!

I would suggest that when you refer to trans people as “extremely vocal”, what you really mean is “existing at all”. Trans people are rudely taking up space in the world and that upsets you enough to send messages to total strangers on the internet complaining about trans people having the audacity to exist and ask to be treated with basic respect.

Shall we look at the phrase “incredibly aggressive”? My interactions with trans people are always polite and friendly. I have never had a trans person send me messages out of the blue complaining that cis folks have confusing pronouns. I’ve never had a trans person come into my space, demanding I spend my time in explaining cis people. The only people I, a cis woman, ever hear aggression from are other cis people questioning why I choose to stand by and with trans people in their fight to be treated with fairness, equality and kindness.

I’m not even going to dignify “excessively annoying” except by pointing out that all the trans people who come here asking me to write affirmations for them do so politely and respectfully. They never rant at me. In fact, I have only ever received ONE annoying message in nearly a year since creating this blog. And guess whose message it was? YOURS, so maybe think about not bothering total strangers with your transphobia before you start flinging around words like annoying…

But oh, this has been such a nice chat, I’ve almost forgotten about the primary purpose of this blog. It’s about AFFIRMATION and being supportive of those who are having trouble loving themselves. I agonised about whether I should even publish and respond to this message. I weighed up the pros and cons and I asked some trans friends. Should I, as a cis woman who aspires to being a good ally, use this platform I have to call out transphobia? Or should I block and ignore, leaving this space safe for trans people who don’t want to see that kind of negativity? In the end, I was advised to publish the remarks you have made and put your name to, with appropriate tagging so that anyone who might be triggered by your disgusting attempt to troll me could avoid it. Ultimately, this is a positive space full of positive affirmation, and in the end, the message I have today is ultimately a positive one. My message is not for you, but for all my followers identifying as trans and/or non-binary, or agender or gender fluid or demi or any other gender identity that so offends you by forcing you to accept those who are different from yourself.


The asshole who sent me this message will probably try to provoke me again, so I’ll be blocking them immediately after I post this. Their views are not fucking acceptable and they do not deserve a fucking platform. Once is enough, to send a message that transphobia, no matter how hard you try and package that shit up as debate or education, is not fucking okay. Not to me and not to the many many cis followers of this blog, who I have seen reblogging gender-based affirmations, tagging friends, or just addressing it to their followers in general. I urge my cis followers to reblog this exceptionally long rant, or post their own message that makes clear transphobia is not welcome on their dash or in their inbox.

This is the first and only time you will ever see a transphobic message published here. And only because it gives me a chance to unequivocably state my position and to tell y’all this:


STAY SHINY FUCKING RAINBOW FARTING CANDY FLOSS SOFT BLUEBERRY SCENTED UNICORNS, EVERYONE!!! (Except you, person who put this trash in my inbox. You can fuck off.)

- The Slightly Aggressive Affirmer

ETA: Oh, and I strongly advise against visiting the person’s blog to learn more about them. There is a lot of stuff there that could easily trigger someone. Please also don’t send them hate, because they seem like they would enjoy knowing their behaviour upsets people and it’s better to just ignore them.


anonymous asked:

Just a thought--I think it's interesting that FB groups are now getting advanced notice of things... after Jess (and Purv--though I don't mean to equate them at all-*shudder*) closed her blog. When Jess was open for business, she was the one who got, for instance, MM's full name dropped as an anon ask before she showed up anywhere. Now? Move on to FB groups. (I would *love* to know who's dropping all the info)

It does appear that what you propose is indeed what is happening. With the closure of the two main information sources on Tumblr, the one aimed at the anti shipping community and the other functioning as a clearinghouse for all the rest- shippers and neutral fans combined- whoever is promoting this narrative has had to change their information dissemination tactics a bit and the tightly closed Facebook fan groups seem like a good choice. In exchange for what amounts to a private meet and greet session with Sam in their own local supermarket they simply had to leak a few pics at the appropriate times to the fandom as a whole. And they may not even be aware of their role as advance press, anon, it’s an easy enough thing to send info to them the, same as we have been getting in our inboxes, to watch for Sam in NC. Send enough messages and one or two of them is bound to get published. The tweet where one of them said that she “heard you’ll be in Fraser country” bears witness to someone who is spreading that info around to this group.
There seem to be a few problems with the whole set up though. The amount of “advance publicity” that is being done through anons on tumblr, and people sending out tweets prior to these “appearances” is way over the top and makes them appear quite orchestrated. We had been told to look for Sam in NC for weeks and then lo and behold he turns up in the local grocery, camera ready and dressed for an appearance, and conveniently standing, not in the paper products aisle, or even the canned goods or the dairy section, but in the produce section-in front of the kale display. Could it get any more “orchestrated” than that? In fact it was almost a carbon copy of the appearance he made for MPC in a Baltimore MD grocery- right down to the clothes and the hat he was wearing. The two ladies whose pics were chosen to be leaked, out of the probably many from that group who showed up to meet him, looked suitably surprised to see him, but really nothing about the whole thing seemed at all spontaneous.

As to who is dropping all this “information” about Sam and his private life. It is probably the same group all along- that is whoever it is who wants to promote the idea of a relationship between Sam and MM. The studio probably has the most to gain here from pairing Sam, one of their top draws, with one of their struggling actresses. MM is clearly quite pleased with the increase in social media followers and the attention they are bringing to her career and her projects, and Sam gets the cover for his personal life which it seems that the studio is also requiring. It’s a win- win from the studio’s perspective and they don’t seem to be too concerned with the damage that this campaign is doing to both of the participants as MM has not been particularly discreet about her time spent with Billy recently. And Sam has, as usual, not done anything to hide his feelings for Cait. It makes the whole thing with Sam and MM look contrived and ridiculous and the more the hard selling of this “relationship” continues the more ridiculous looking it gets. Neither the professional publicity group working on this, or the Facebook fangroup amateurs they are using to get the information out have any grasp of the concept of subtlety. It’s their fervor to make sure that everyone is looking at just the exact spot they should be that to me reveals the whole game.

anonymous asked:

oh i understand how the world works. i realise that cults can be as fatal as jamestown, as serious as scientology, and as batshit as the larrie conspiracy. everything about how larries continue to spread lies & speculation as "receipts" and facts to their younger and more impressionable followers, to how you actively shame people who were once your own who have decided to leave the mindset. you guys are a cult, like it or not. you're not as smart as l ron hubbard though.


- stalk the blogs of people you don’t like online

- send them anonymous hate because you’re too much of a coward to spew your garbage under your own name

- compare us with people like l ron hubbard (who created a cult that has destroyed and continues to destroy the lives of hundreds of thousands of people)

- say i’m an idiot but then also say i’m somehow intelligent enough to mass manipulate my ‘younger and more impressionable followers’. 

- you send all of your hate in order to defend the heterosexuality of two famous privileged white males


- stay in my own lane 100% of the time

- never send anyone anon hatred regardless of how much I disagree with them. everything i have to say on this blog is posted under my account and with my name very clearly attached. i take accountability for every word out of my mouth and every thing i type.

- despite the fact that the antis are the ones who regularly doxx people, steal private information, and engage in actual harassment (which fyi - is against the law) i have never thought ‘hey why i don’t i compare them to a serial killer or a dictator’ because it’s not appropriate and it’s incredibly insensitive.

- only ever get upset at people who get really nasty and become hateful towards the rest of us after leaving. if someone changes their mind and leaves but is respectful about it then that’s totally chill. i’ve always said people should come to their own conclusions and think for themselves.

receipts before you accuse me of lying:

“you have to do what’s best for you and ultimately you can’t rely on other people’s perceptions of the situation but you have to go with your own gut and your own analysis”

i don’t care if someone has doubts or changes their mind and chooses to leave only to come back again later. all i care about is people (on all sides) being respectful.”

“never beat yourself up or feel bad for having doubts. it’s totally fine to re-evaluate things or to question where you stand on things. that’s not and has never been the issue …”

here’s what an actual cult survivor had to say (and yes, this applies to you as much as it does ex-larries):

now let’s take a look at what cult expert steven hassan has to say about cults/cult behaviour:

still not enough? how about this cult 101 checklist published in Take Back Your Life: Recovering from Cults and Abusive Relationships by Janja Lalich and Madeleine Tobias (Berkeley: Bay Tree Publishing, 2006)

i’m a random blog on the internet. i really don’t have the power you seem to think i do. also you’re insulting the intelligence of every single person who is here because they saw the shadiness with their own eyeballs and came to investigate further. your entire ask is displaying more manipulation and donald trump-esque rhetoric than anything i’ve ever written.

i actively encourage people to think for themselves and to form their own opinions. i legit linked screenshots of me saying exactly that from different points over the past year

i dare you to find a single post on my blog that actually supports your argument. you won’t.

because no matter how much you hate us, no matter how many unfounded accusations you throw at us and how many insults you try to stick us with, we’re not the ones constantly harassing people we don’t know simply because they won’t believe what we want them to believe and we’re not the ones trying to shut down any kind of discussion that goes against the party line.

that would be you guys.

Rainbow Direction Concerns


I have some concerns to make you aware of.

As a warning, this post gets a bit messy because of the nature of the pictures included. Everything not in italics is a picture.  Pretty much everything in italics is my own thoughts.  I’ve marked out usernames because I don’t want to make it easier than necessary for people to send a deluge of asks to posters I’ve included if opinions differ.

Since evidence was asked for, evidence will be provided in my explanation of how Rainbow Direction does several problematic things that I would like to see rectified and why I feel too uncomfortable with the organization to keep the Safe Spaces heart on my blog anymore. (The post in the screenshot is not my post, just for clarification.)

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