a couple of my friends are, well, disgusted(?) by jonsa because they grew up believing - and still do believe - that they are siblings. I told them I definitley prefer jonsa over j0nerys (which they also find wrong due to being related) and I got judged haha I don't know how to convince them that jon and sansa share many similiarites and despite being cousins, they compliment eachother in ways that j0nerys simply don't/can't then again, they're nowhere near as obssesed with thrones like us 😜
oh caitlin. sweet summer child. recent jonsa convert. ultimately people like stuff or they don’t and it’s not your job to convince them of ships. shipping is more accidental than anything. you don’t choose what you like/what repulses you.
as for incest, consanguinity =/= incest. @goodqueenalys has a post about it here. and we also need to remember that in no way were they raised as ‘siblings’. at least not in the way that we would describe ‘siblings’. winterfell was not a house, it was a small town. they were not raised in a nuclear family unit. jon was also seperated because he was a bastard and cat didn’t like him. sansa was a momma’s girl who avoided him because he made her mother uncomfortable. also boys and girls had different activities. if anything, they’re like neighbours. except there’s something more interesting and taboo about it – they think they’re siblings.
but being raised by the same man means that they share a set of values. that’s why i like jonsa, i like it thematically. though sansa was once the one who wanted to leave the north behind, now she wants to protect it, as does jon. in the books, they share a dream – rebuilding winterfell and filling it with a new generation of children who look like the siblings they lost. in a story about duty and family, i think this is beautiful. this is the sort of compatibility that doesn’t wear off even when lust does. your significant other is your partner for life. downton abbey summed it up well:
“Marriage is a long business. There’s no getting out of it for our kind of people. You will live 40, 50 years with one of these women. Just make sure it’s the right one.”
i also think they would be effective together. i wrote about this in my contribution to the jonsameta roundtable. jon is very focused on the big picture and doing what is right, to his own detriment. sansa is a little more ruthless and realistic. they balance each other out and i think they could help usher in great reforms as king and queen in the north. and all of this would lead to our boy jon snow being happy in the long run. despite everything, they trust each other.
and also let’s not forget that right before sansa showed up jon was basically giving up on saving the world, instead heading south to get warm. then a girl comes around, smiles at him, he wraps his cloak around her (he did!!), works to get him made king, etc. and now our boy cares about the white walkers again. and remember 6.09 when sansa told jon if he lost the botb she would kill herself rather than go back with ramsay, and then jon immediately told melisandre if he died not to bring him back? she gives him a reason to go on and idk as a jon stan first and foremost that’s why i ship it.