hello beautiful INTP lady! it's been a while! :D hope you are super fine! The last question you answered got me thinking; Do you think INTP-Men would be alright with a girl who gives the first step first? My best friends (ENTP, ENFP) suggested I should, by all means be direct and straightforward ...BUT considering I would prefer to find an INTP male... is this actually a bad plan? THANKS!!
I’m not really sure exactly how INTP guys think, not being one myself. I’m guessing that if they’re anything like my brothers and pretty much all the other guys I know, they’d be kind of uncomfortable with a girl coming to them. (In particular, my ESFJ brother had a rough experience with a girl who was pretty forward concerning her feelings for him. But then, he is an ESFJ.) At any rate, I don’t think there’s anything terribly wrong with it, but I would be extremely careful.
Remember, we INTPs don’t wear our hearts on our sleeves. I think that, even accounting for inferior Fe, INTP men tend to be pretty closed about their feelings. They might even be hesitant to tell a girl what they think about her because they won’t ever be sure that she’d feel the same way. (We can be ridiculously self-deprecating, and an INTP guy might be able to convince himself pretty easily that there’s nothing about him that a girl would like.) It might be a relief to an INTP guy to have the girl make the first move, if only because then he’d be sure of where he stood with her. If we care for a person’s opinion, then we can’t stand not knowing what think think about us, after all.
So, my advice to you is to tread carefully, but I don’t think it would be the end of the world if you were to approach the INTP guy you like.
I hope this helps, and thanks for stopping by again!