but i think i want them anyway

I’m rereading Allegiance by @kaelinaloveslomaris and it’s so good!! Highly highly recommend everyone to read it if you want some super super well written Skywalker fam stuff with good characterisations and a good plot and all in all 11/10 everything

I wanted to draw something for it so here’s how I imagined the half cape outfit from chapter nine! I honestly don’t know how half capes work or how you attach them so I just drew a chain similar to the one vader has on his cape, which I think is a cool detail anyway because of the “Well, I’m really going to be a mini you, aren’t I?” comment from Luke lmao

I hurt myself because of autism brain and now that it’s over, it’s funny.

Well, it’s funny to me, anyway lol!

Back in 2012, my mom had major surgery and was out of commission for awhile, so I was in charge of washing dishes and helping her get stuff down to cook dinner. Basically I was her hands and feet for everything but the actual cooking and washing the cooking pots / utensils part. (They were very hot and she didn’t want me to hurt myself touching them.) She went to wash the pots and pans after cooking and remarked that the water I filled the sink with was barely warm.

I’m extremely heat sensitive, so to me the water was hot. I said as much and mom told me the water has to be really hot so the dishes get disinfected as well as clean. I was making up for that by being very thorough with the scrubbing, since friction builds up heat that kills germs too. But it was mom advice and I told myself to follow that to the letter. Since that was the last time she needed me to be her hands and feet, it would be awhile before the situation came up again.

And that was today.

Mom was late getting dinner started because she had a dentist emergency (broken tooth, she’s fine). I wanted to help, so I fed Monroe, started the water on as hot as it’ll go and filled up the dishes side of the kitchen sink. I threw in the soap and did mom’s trick of bending forward until my eyes were level with the counter and shut the water off as soon as the dish soap foam appeared above the lip of the sink.

The water wasn’t quite scalding hot, but it’s much hotter than the showers I take. My mom has zero problems touching water this hot, so I know this is a skin / sensory issues for me. I ran some cold water to take the bite out of it. Then I had to reach in fast to grab things, wash them, rinse and put them in the dish rack. It hurt so bad that I was shrieking. I reached in real fast, grabbed and yanked, but I don’t have great coordination all the time. Sometimes I reached, pulled and THEN closed my fingers, so I kept missing my grabs, dropping stuff back in the water or not reaching in far enough to grab anything. I shrieked in pain each time I had to plunge my hand into that inferno and I started to feel the pain all up my arm. I alternated hands, but my left hand is about as useful as an octopus doing ballet when I need to be fast with it. (I’m right handed.)

But fifteen minutes later, crying in pain, I looked over at the dish rack full of clean cereal bowls, spoons and butter knives from lunchtime and told myself I did a good job.

I have first degree burns on my knuckles. I held my hands under the cold water until they stopped hurting and I stopped crying. They sting like a very faint sunburn and look slightly red, but that’s it.

I told mom about it when she got home and she said I was supposed to run warm water that’s comfortable to me to wash the breakfast / lunch stuff, then run it hot so it’ll sit and be cooler once it’s time to wash up after dinner.

“But you said it has to be hot,” I told her.

Mom said back, “Yeah, but you don’t handle hot water as well as I do. It’s okay to let it sit and cool a little bit first since you scrub things for a long time before you rinse.”

I just facepalmed and went, “Autism brain strikes again.”

I took her instructions from 2012 literally because she said hot water.

She did appreciate that I tried to help, so there’s that. I still think it was worth it to give her a break.

This is why I wouldn’t be safe cooking anything more complicated than a grilled cheese sandwich. I can do the mac ‘n cheese with hot dogs if mom writes the instructions down. But I could really misinterpret an instruction and hurt myself or ruin the food. It’s safer if someone else does that.

tl;dr Took dishwashing instructions literally and burned my hands with hot water. I’m fine, it’s just first degree burns. Feels like sunburn, damage is minimal.

anonymous asked:

LOOK. I just want to know if, after Roman interrupted them, Harry Terry and Bonny Connie were both thinking about Roman and what if Roman had stayed and what if Roman wanted more than his wallet. Or did they both get so reckless because they were into the cut of Roman's pants.

I CANNOT ANSWER THIS QUESTION AT THIS TIME HOWEVER I MUST RESPOND ANYWAY BECAUSE BONNY CONNIE.

BONNY CONNIE!!!

I posted this message on Wattpad and it works for here too. It’s just an update about the covers on my stories, and the story titles in case it was missed. Ignore this if you don’t care lol. 

Yes, I changed a lot of my story covers. I LOVE the ones I had but for my own reasons I don’t want to have any band members faces on them. I don’t really want to go into why. ANYWAY a lot of people have already started sending new covers bc my quick ones I did SUCK. A lot of people are asking to make them too which I really appreciate, but I think I need to put a list on here of what I already have and what I don’t. 


I already have ones for: play me like a puppet, lavender, under your spell, insatiable, under the covers, glitter, twice in a lifetime, grow up, forgive me father, the deal 1 and 2, miss novocaine, starting something dangerout, 1000 paper cuts, ttoyl, tangled in the great kellin quinn, kellin Quinn and the son of Voldemort and low. I haven’t changed complexes yet but someone on tumblr is making me one. 


I don’t need ones for any of those listed above because I’m not gonna change them again. 


The ones I DON’T have, which I edited to really bad ones,a dn are totally up for grabs to make if you like are: IHBNTY, trust, have faith in me, cold blooded, doctors orders, oneshots, the prince and the outlaw, act the part, winter vacation, heart-breaker, the lunatic, obsession, summer lovin, hush hush, sweet sixteen, the boyfriend experience, possessed, head says no body says yes, locked up, 30 week kellic challenge. I’m also down to change Low and GTSMU even though they already have ones I made ages ago. 


YES, you will notice I changed some of the titles of a few stories, for my own reasons again. Don’t wanna go into it right now. But a lunatic’s lament= the lunatic. bleed into your mind- obsession. all hail the heart breaker= heart-breaker. a most profound silence= possessed. mgsnbyfsy= head says no, body says yes. ugly birds in a beautiful cage= locked up.


If you wanna make, go ahead. Come back and check this post though because I’ll edit it when each cover is “taken” lol. I basically just use the first ones I see, in fairness and all. But I won’t use any with band members faces on them or even their names. I just don’t want it plastered everywhere in case the band members really don’t want that lol

Anyway, if you’re making, then have fun

Lovesick

HERE IT IS AFTER FOUR HOURS OF SLEEP,  AND CONSTANT REARRANGING. Ahem. Anyway, sometimes I can’t sleep so I think about my crushes on older men and what it would be like to do all the things I would want to do in a relationship with them, so I thought, “hey why not try to make another playlist for this?” These songs are mostly songs I heard throughout my life from a child when I was at that age where I thought boys my own age were stupid and older men were something from a whole ‘nother level that made my heart race and my cheeks rosy to right here right now as a fresh faced adult. Here you go, hope you guys enjoy it, take inspiration from it, and feel free to suffer from the lovesick feels with me.

1. May Jailer- You, Mister - https://youtu.be/oKddpW0TOVI
2. Juan Luis Guerra- Bachata Rosa
v.1 studio version - https://youtu.be/PkhSqy7ldEg
v.2 live music video version w/ english lyrics - https://youtu.be/wFkAxnja1TA
3. Johnny Mathis- Chances Are - https://youtu.be/-7ECVVoE7DI
4. Prima- Distant Moon - https://youtu.be/6kQ-pOfNgQs
5. Nicole Dollanganger- Smitten With You - https://youtu.be/xb7KeSUv3Q0
6. Poppy- Lowlife - https://youtu.be/orK1R0X8Rv0
7. Coldplay- Something Just Like This - https://youtu.be/-NTWXdrX-qc
8. Sixpence None the Richer- Kiss Me - https://youtu.be/8N-qO3sPMjc
9. Lana Del Rey- Once Upon a Dream - https://youtu.be/8waJ7W3QcJc

(THANK YOU AGAIN SIR PATRICK ANON 😍😍😍YOU ARE TOO MUCH!!! Hope you can all enjoy it as well :3)

anonymous asked:

Hey, I love y'all's blog and it helps me embrace being ace! I just wanted to share something that a friend of mine told me when I was upset because I'm more on the sex-repulsed side of things. I get worried that my (hypothetical) partner wouldn't love me if I didn't have sex with them, and so I sometimes think 'maybe I could force myself if they really wanted it', but this friend told me "sex isn't supposed to be scary" and it just kinda clicked with me. I hope it can help someone else, too!

thanks for supporting us!

anyway, you’re not alone in thinking that. 

i disagree with what your friend said, because it invalidates your fear. it’s like your friend saying “roller coasters aren’t supposed to be scary!” after you said you were afraid of them.

but if it helped you ease your mind about future partners, more power to you. 

-victra

since i think it’ll take a miracle for me to get back into the twd fandom i wanted to share my desus prompt masterlist w u guys. it’s a combination of lyrics, quotes, and general prompts/aus. 

as far as the lyric prompts are concerned, they might not make much sense to you guys but i initially saved them for my own reference anyway? but still, this is everything i’ve got and i hate to think that im just sittin on this list when i know i’m not gonna do anything with it 

LYRICS:

  • So no, I’m not afraid to see these suckers hold a blade to me; ain’t a way to shake the ground I built before you came to be. Take it how you take it, I’m the opposite of vacancy. (wastelands, linkin park)
  • Take in your chemicals that make me cling to you; You are a miracle I gotta stay with you; And I’m not spiritual but please stay ‘cause you’re a glimpse of bliss, a little taste of heaven. (st. patrick, pvris)
  • You make your way into my veins, course right through my limbs and dig your way into my brain; So in the second that you walk into a room, I can’t help myself from the things that you do. (smoke, pvris)
  • You’re just a ghost of blissful feelings, a cloud of smoke that I keep breathing; An illusion, I’m losing you to the games in my mind. I see your face, an apparition, but now it’s changed, shape shifting; Don’t wanna open my eyes. (smoke, pvris)
  • You were a walking, talking, corpse at best, and I swear I couldn’t wait to get you off my chest. When you asked us why we couldn’t look you in your eyes, well, it’s hard to find life in something that’s already died. (fire, pvris)
  • I don’t know how you got into me, down my throat and made a home in my veins. (stay away from my friends, pierce the veil)
  • Can I just have one more taste just to make it through the day? You’re tangled in the great escape. I never meant to hurt nobody, no. I never meant to hurt you, no. I only meant to do this to myself. (the great escape, pierce the veil)
  • I’ve got so much to give, but I would kill just to feel less invisible, and you’ve got so much to learn about gravity, so live it up baby, don’t look down. (the first punch, pierce the veil)
  • Another kiss like a fire on pavement; We’ll burn it down till the end. This is a wasteland, my only retreat. With heaven above you, there’s hell over me. The water is rusted, the air is unclean, and there for a second I feel free. This is a wasteland, my only retreat. (hell above, pierce the veil)
  • Imagine living like a king someday, a single night without a ghost in the walls. We are the shadows screaming “take us now”; We’d rather die than live to rust on the ground. (king for a day, pierce the veil)
  • I’m gonna tear out the thread one by one from your skin 'till your bones feel embarrassed by all the attention. (i don’t care if you’re contagious, pierce the veil)
  • I’m swimming in the smoke of bridges I have burned, so don’t apologize: I’m losing what I don’t deserve (burning in the skies, linkin park)
  • I came in the ring like a dog on a chain and then found out the underbelly’s sicker than it seems. (when they come for me, linkin park)
  • And I’m just a student of the game that they taught me, rocking every stage and every place that they brought me. (when they come for me, linkin park)
  • We say “yeah” with fists flying up in the air, like we’re holding onto something that’s invisible there; 'cause we’re living at the mercy of the pain and the fear until we get it, forget it, and let it all disappear. (waiting for the end, linkin park)
  • When you’ve suffered enough and your spirit is breaking, you’re growing desperate from the fight. Remember you’re loved and you always will be. This melody will bring you right back home. (the messenger, linkin park)
  • I can’t fall back, I came too far; Hold myself up and love my scars. (lost in the echo, linkin park)
  • Oh please (please, please) quit draggin’ my heart through them coals. Oh, please (please, please) stop trying to fix it ‘cause baby it’s broke. When it’s late at night and you call me ‘cause I’ve got another man fixing my blues, you should never, never worry ‘bout nothing, baby, because I’ll never love someone new the way I love you. (lil darlin, zz ward)
  • I hate to love you, I love to hate you, I just can’t shake you (lil darlin, zz ward)

PROMPTS:

  • Sleeping together. Hushed breathing and feather-light touches when one wakes before the other. Rolling over and unconsciously curling closer into each other because even when they sleep, they are in love.
  • wake up kisses pressed gently to the column of A’s neck or the underside of B’s jaw.
  • morning kisses; gentle and lazy, humming in contentment, limbs still tangled together, hands wandering over soft exposed skin.
  • “I can’t stand this person but I would die for them”
  • character A slowly falls in love with character B over the course of several years, realization hits them that they’ve been in love with B for a long time hits them like a truck
  • grumpy jerk and actual ray of sunshine are BFFs
  • cool badass is actually a giant fucking nerd (JESUS)
  • Person A, the more stoic/serious of the two, treating a severe injury that Person B sustained. Person B notices A’s hands shaking and tries to crack a joke, which only serves to send Person A bursting into tears over nearly losing B.
  • Person A of your OTP always wears baggy clothes that are too big for them. Person B does a good job of hiding their crush on them, until Person A shows up one day in clothing that actually fits.
  • Imagine your OTP where one is the Fully Functional Adult™ and the other has been living off of coffee and fruit snacks for three days straight.

AUs

  • kissed them as a distraction while stealing their wallet au
  • I always see you doing weird shit at ridiculous hours of the night and it makes me feel better because I do weird shit in the middle of the night too AU
  • The walls in this apartment building are really thin and I can hear you having mental breakdowns all the time are you okay? AU
  • You’re one of those annoying people who tries to make casual conversation all the time and brings people baked goods and stuff and I just want to mind my own business but somehow we end up being friends or something?? AU
  • we decided to go camping with a bunch of our friends on halloween and we’re telling ghost stories around the fire when we hear a sound come from the woods…turns out you just went to go pee, jesus, you scared us
  • “I twisted my ankle and you’re the only one here strong enough to carry me to the nurse’s office but we’re both really awkward” AU
  • Imagine your OTP running away from teachers/police/authorities and to hide in plain sight Person A grabs Person B and pushes them up against the wall and kisses them.
  • “I hit you with my car and was the only one to visit you in the hospital” AU
  • “we both like walking in the park at night and I think you’re a stalker so I accidentally attack you and give you a black eye sorry” au
  • “I’m a bartender and I have to cut you off after a certain amount because you’re drinking to forget your ex and I end up calling you a cab” au

QUOTES:

  • “I think I am / a better ghost / than I am / a human being” -Anksitet, dir. by Ingmar Bergman, as quoted by Mikko Kuorinki in Wall Piece with 200 Letters
  • “I think I could have loved you better than anyone, and I can’t stop making lists of all the times I almost told you that.” -Caitlyn Siehl
  • “And I understand. I understand why people hold hands: I’d always thought it was about possessiveness, saying ‘This is mine’. But it’s about maintaining contact. It is about speaking without words. It is about I want you with me and don’t go.” -anonymous
  • “Some nights I’m afraid of sleeping. I’m afraid that I might still feel as broken in the morning as I do staring into the blue of the midnight sky.” - Sandeep Sidhu
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So I snatched this from Pinterest and I have no idea who originally created these (but if I did I would give the credit/tag them.) Anyways, I thought this is really cute and the stuff are inexpensive and consist of things you wouldn’t think to do normally (at least not me) so I wanted to share it 🙃

anonymous asked:

What are you interested in that most people haven't heard of?

This is a really interesting question. Now I feel bad because I’m boring as shit and I don’t have an answer. :(

When I was younger I could tell you a whole bunch of interesting shit about dinosaurs, but I don’t remember most of it now. I wanted to be a paleontologist. But people have heard of dinosaurs so that hardly counts.

Do things I’ve made up myself count? Because I think a lot about my original species, Kylaat’s. Like what other creatures lived on Orn, and the history of the species before they migrated to Orn. What their internal organs and bone structure is like. Almost like I study them, even though I made them up so the answers are already in my head anyway? I’m fascinated by my own creations and why I created them in the first place.

That barely counts as an answer though.

i hate when straight women w short haircuts come into my salon and start joking about having a lesbian haircut/requesting short hair that “doesn’t make them look like a lesbian LOL”

today a straight woman sat down and showed me the picture of the haircut she wanted and she was like “i showed this picture to my husband and he was like ‘wow are you gonna get a girlfriend now’ haha. i love him he’s so ridiculous”

i never know what to say. it feels weird, because i know they say these things to me under the assumption that i’m straight. i don’t know how i’m supposed to respond. “oh don’t worry, you definitely don’t look like a lesbian!” or “omg don’t worry i won’t give you a LESBIAN looking haircut haha”

i can’t just out myself and play along. i do everything in my power to prevent outing myself to any of my clients.

and it feels like some cruel joke is being played on me, like this is straight humor that women laugh about behind our backs. i mean i know it is. it’s just weird being a part of it. i don’t know how to ask straight women to stop joking about butch lesbian haircuts while they’re in my chair. i don’t know what to do when straight women laugh about looking like a lesbian, i don’t really know how to take that, like if it’s a joke at the expense women like me or just harmless commentary. i don’t know what to say, and i can’t bring myself to laugh along with them.

it’s not a subject i want to talk about. i know that makes me sensitive, but i’ve been through a lot of very traumatic experiences because i’m gay. it’s humiliating to perform a service for straight women who seem to think there’s something funny about people daring to think they might be gay

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“our audience is this big anonymous mass on the internet, so meeting each individual person and hearing their story and actually being able to connect with the people that have given us everything, i think, is really important.”

You know the best part about Wonder Woman? She’s a hero because that’s what she’s always known she wants to do. She’s not all “woe is me, I am suffering under the weight of my destiny”. Hell no, right from the get-go she’s like I’m gonna save all these people because I have the ability and I know that’s what I should do. People keep telling her she can’t do it, and she sits them the fuck down and does it anyway. She actually WANTS to be a hero, and despite what BVS might have led you to believe, she NEVER stops being one.

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doods done between finals: zelda edition

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gif meme: jon/arya + quote (requested by @horcrucxs)

The heart is all that matters. Do not despair, Lord Snow. Despair is a weapon of the enemy, whose name may not be spoken. Your sister is not lost to you.

spookymiscreant  asked:

A concept: Kevin Day and Aaron Minyard talking mad shit about Andrew and Neil. Kevin talking about how he's sick of Andrew "pretending" he doesn't care about Exy and then Aaron replying, "I'd take that over Neil eye fucking the court every day"

i….love this….so much oh my god ok

  • so andrew and neil are on one of theyre “this is nothing but we go on weekend trips together to makeout” things 
  • so kevin needs to practice bc he’s Extra™ and…he’s still having a little trouble relaxing without andrew around all the time
    • andrew gave aaron a look before he left that aaron knows means to watch out for kevin
  • aaron’s complete disinterest manages to deter kevin from practice for two full days
    • never underestimate aaron’s ability to be stubborn to spite someone else ok
  • but finally FINALLy it’s not kevin’s incessant bitching that gets aaron to go to the court with him 
  • it’s aaron getting back from classes and not getting immediately bombarded with requests to go to the court
  • it’s coming home to a silent kevin staring out the window, rubbing his scars
  • aaron sighs deep to hide the fact that he’s concerned and changes into light workout clothes and grabs kevin
  • he also ignores how much kevin lights up when they turn onto the street of the foxhole court
    • this is an example of aaron “im not allowed to feel anything at all ever” minyard
    • also an example of aaron “knows where matt keeps a spare key to his truck” minyard
  • at first aaron refuses to practice with kevin
  • but he “gets bored” or whatever he likes to tell himself
    • see, aaron actually likes exy. he likes the way he can channel all his frustrations into it. he spends so much time studying and trying to figure out his brother and trying to figure out what the hell he wants from his life so sometimes he just needs to run around and knock people on their asses, ok?
    • its also pretty much the only times he can remember connecting with andrew
  • kevin is, like always, completely immersed, and barely notices aaron getting on the court until he walks by him to block his way to the goal
    • kevin’s on the courts because he can breathe there. he’s on the court because its where is mother put him. its the only place he mattered after she died, where he felt like a living thing rather than an asset. 
    • he’s there because even though he’s happy for andrew and neil, he really is, he’s still figuring out how to stand on his own. the court’s been the only place he really felt he could do that. 
  • now aaron may be on the court
  • he may have come to be there for kevin shut kevin up
  • but you best believe he’s gonna bitch about it
  • “fine, i’ll go, but i’m gonna complain the whole time” yea that’s aaron
  • after like one snide comment though Bitchy Kevin comes out to fuckin play and it goes a little something like:
    • kevin: andrew knows he’s good but does he try? of course not. see, that’d be fucking easy. that’d be simple. nothing is simple with him. *cue kevin taking an unnecessarily forceful shot on goal*
    • aaron: and don’t even get me started on neil just asking him for things. are you kidding. andrew doesn’t do anything ever at all and neil just??? asks him??? and he does it???
    • kevin: I KNOW. AS IF I HAVEN’T BEEN MAKING SIMPLE REQUESTS FOREVER.
    • (both of them are secretly wondering why they don’t bitch to each other more often)
  • the best part though, is when aaron is at the height of his rant and says, “You know, i don’t even want to do extra practice, but I’d take this over Neil eye fucking the court every goddamn day”
  • kevin just fucking breaks like he drops his racquet and everything
  • aaron hasn’t ever seen kevin laugh???? its kind of beautiful surprising??
  • kevin gets a hold of himself and wow
  • he doesn’t think he’s ever seen aaron smile he’s surprised how much he likes it
  • after that kevin’s feeling better 
  • they head back to the dorms and play video games for a while, order food. just kinda hang out
  • nothings really changed, per se, but….things are definitely different. 
    • more often than not now kevin will just go to the library to watch his taped games with headphones on while aaron studies, occasionally getting kicked in the shin when he gets too excited
    • when neither of them want to sleep because they know its one of those days they’ll have nightmares they go to the library’s 24 hr lounge and eat shitty microwave ramen (aaron is sworn to secrecy…no one can know kevin loves creamy chicken ramen) and try to teach each other bio or history
    • aaron only had a mother who hurt him growing up, and kevin only had the memory of his mother and people who hurt him growing up . without saying anything, they just understand.
  • in conclusion because aaron is accidentally really funny, kevin and him get a lot closer, which is good, cause they both kinda needed it
  • they wouldnt say they were friends, or are friends, but…maybe its a little “nothing” of their own

anonymous asked:

Hey, you're awesome, thanks for existing, basically ^_^ Anyway, I wanted to know if you have any tips on how to write different personalities? My characters (all of them) always end up with the same default personality that I fall back on. Thanks!

Thanks for your question, darling!  I think most of us have struggled with this – after all, we’re conditioned to one way of thinking, feeling, and acting for as long as we live.  That doesn’t necessarily mean we write characters like ourselves, though.  In fact, many of us have a “default character” that’s sassier than we are, sweeter than we are, or in some way different enough from us that we still feel like we’re writing a character.

The problem, then, isn’t that we can’t visualize a different personality than ours.  On the whole, we can.  What we’re missing are the small details that make it feel whole – otherwise, it’s like painting the same room six different colors and trying to pass it off as six different rooms.  Different dominant traits can’t hide the fact that you’re working with one template!

So the question we’re left with: what are the traits we’re missing?  And how can we change them to create a unique and whole personality?


Three Types of Character Traits

There are, as the title suggests, three major categories of personality traits as I see it: fundamental traits, acquired traits, and detrimental traits.  A well-rounded character needs some of each to be three-dimensional and realistic.

Fundamental Traits

The fundamental traits of a person’s character are not as simple as interests and preferences; they are the very base of all decisions and desires.  They are either learned in early life or developed over a long period of time, rooting deeply into the personality.  A few examples of fundamental personality traits include:

  • Upbringing – The word choice here is conscious, as upbringing encompasses many different aspects of a person’s development.  Consider who raised them, and with what morals and practices they were raised to adulthood.  Consider their influences, both familial, social, and in media; consider the relationships that were normalized during their development, as well as the living conditions (financially, emotionally, environmentally, etc.).  The people, places, emotions, and conflicts made common during a person’s developmental period are essential to their personality in adulthood.  This is why psychologists often draw present-day problems back to a person’s childhood memories – because those formative years can subconsciously dictate so much of a person’s future!
  • Values – These may not coincide with the values a person is raised to hold, but upbringing certainly has an influence on this. A person’s values will direct the course of their life through every decision, large and small.  You don’t need to outline everything your character believes is important – every moral and every law they agree/disagree with. But those values which stand above others will give your character purpose.  A few of my favorite examples are: Jane from Jane the Virgin (whose initial storyline is heavily based on her religion and desire for a beautiful love story, as well as her childhood influences who inspired these values) and Han Solo from Star Wars (whose character development rested upon his values shifting from money and gratification to more honorable things).
  • Beliefs – Different from values, beliefs are a more general set of guidelines for how a person believes things are supposed to be.  Beliefs can also be a source of great conflict, as a character tries to stay aligned with their beliefs despite other values or desires.  These beliefs can be established systems, like religion or politics; they can also include more personal belief systems, like nihilism or veganism.  A characters beliefs, like their values, can change over the course of the story – but even if a character is questioning one system of belief, like religion or pacifism, they should have other belief systems in place to govern some of their activity.
  • Reputation – A lot of human activity, whether consciously or not, is dictated by how others perceive them (or how they believe others perceive them).  There are two types of reputation: personal and passing.  For instance, a woman named Sally who gains a personal reputation of sleeping around will behave in reaction to this reputation – either sleeping around because everyone already expects it of her, or specifically not hooking up because she wants to shake this reputation, or developing a thicker skin to deal with the rumors until it passes.  A man named Billy who, because of his tattoos, bears a passing reputation as an intimidating man will either try to soften his demeanor with strangers, own up to the image, or at least learn to expect judgment from strangers as a consequence.
  • Self-Image – Also relevant to a person’s behavior is the way they perceive themselves, which can often have little to do with their reputation.  A lot of self-image is based on definitive moments or phases in the past.  For instance: for several years after I started wearing contacts and cutting my hair, I still saw myself, in dreams at night, with long hair and glasses.  One of my friends, similarly, could not seem to notice when boys would flirt with her during sophomore year – because she still saw herself as an awkward middle schooler with braces, and not as the charming cheerleader with the great smile.
    Inversely, self-image can be inflated, causing character to behave as though they are funnier, smarter, or more prepared than they truly are (see: the rest of my sophomore acquaintances).  This can be an overlooked character flaw opportunity – or flawportunity…

Originally posted by alliefallie


Acquired Traits

Now we move on to the acquired traits of personality, which are the ones you’re more likely to find on a character sheet or a list of “10 Questions for Character Development”, alongside a million other things like their zodiac sign and their spirit animal.  But the traits I’m about to outline are a little more relevant to a character’s behavior, and more importantly, how to make this behavior unique from other characters’ behavior.  The following traits will be learned by your characters throughout their life (and their story), and are more likely to shift and grow with time:

  • Interests – I know, I had to reach deep down into my soul to think of this one.  But it’s true!  Interests, both in childhood/adolescence and in adulthood, are an important part of a character’s personality and lifestyle.  Childhood interests both reveal something about the character (for instance: my nephew loves trains, Legos, and building, suggesting a future interest in construction or engineering) and create values that can last for a lifetime.  Current interests affect career choice, social circles, and daily activity for everyone.  Forgotten or rejected interests can be the source of pet peeves, fears, or bad memories. There’s a reason I’ll never play with Polly Pockets again, and it 100% has to do with bloody fingertips and a purse that wouldn’t open.
  • Sense of Humor – This can be a little hard to define, understandably.  If you were to ask me what my sense of humor is, I’d probably start with a few stupid memes, pass by Drake & Josh on the way, and somehow wind up telling you bad puns or quoting Chelsea Peretti’s standup comedy. A person’s sense of humor can be complex and contradictory!  Sometimes we just laugh at stuff because someone said it in a funny way.  But anyway, to help you boil this down to something useful: take a look at a few kinds of comedy and relate it to your character’s maturity level.  Do they laugh when someone lets out a toot?  Are they the kind of person to mutter, “That’s what she said,” or simply try not to laugh when something sounds dirty?  Can puns make them crack a smile?  Do they like political humor?  Do cat videos kill them?  Is their humor particularly dark?  Can the mere sound of someone else laughing make them laugh?  Figure out where your character’s sense of humor is, and you’ll feel closer to them already.
  • Pet Peeves – For every interest a person may have, and everything that makes them laugh, there’s something else that can piss them off, large- or small-scale.  Are they finnicky about their living space and neatness? Do they require a lot of privacy? Do certain sounds or behaviors drive them crazy?  What qualities are intolerable in a romantic interest for them? What kind of comments or beliefs make them roll their eyes?  If you need help, just try imagining their worst enemy – someone whose every word or action elicits the best eye-rolls and sarcastic remarks and even a middle finger or two – and ask yourself, what about this person makes them that mortal enemy?  What behaviors or standards make them despicable to your character?  That’s all it takes.
  • Skills – Everybody has them, and they’re not just something we’re born with.  Skills can be natural talent, sure, but they’re also cultivated from time, values, and interests.  What is your character okay at?  What are they good at?  What are they fantastic at?  Maybe they can cook.  Maybe they have a beautiful eye for colors.  Maybe they have an inherent sense of right and wrong that others admire. Maybe they’re super-athletic or incredibly patient or sharp as a tack or sweet as a cupcake.  Maybe they know how to juggle, or maybe they’re secretly the most likely of all their friends to survive a zombie apocalypse.  Where do they shine?  What would make someone look at them and think, “Wow, I wish I were them right now”?
  • Desires – A good way to “separate” one character from the next is to define what it is they want, and then use every other detail to dictate how they pursue that goal.  Every real person has a desire, whether they’ve defined it or not – whether it’s something huge, like fame or a family of five with triplet girls and a beach house on an island, or something small, like good grades for the semester.  These desires can cause a person to revise their values or forsake their morals; and these desires can conflict with other people’s desires, influencing how people interact with each other.  Remember that every character is living their own story, even if it’s not the story you’re telling.
  • Communication Style – A majorly overlooked character trait in pop fiction is unique communication styles.  Having every character feel comfortable arguing, or bursting out with the words, “I love you,” is unrealistic.  Having every character feel paralyzed at the idea of confronting a bully or being honest to their spouse is also unrealistic.  There should be a healthy mix of communicators in a group of characters. Some people are too softspoken to mouth off at their racist lab partner.  Some people wouldn’t see their girlfriend kissing another guy and just walk away without saying something.  Some people just don’t react to conflict by raising their voice; some people enjoy sharing their opinions or giving the correct answer in class.  Boldness, social skills, and emotional health all have a part to play in how people communicate their thoughts – so keep this in mind to create a more realistic, consistent character.
  • Emotional Expression – Along the same lines but not the same, emotional expression is more focal on feelings than thoughts.  If you’ve ever heard of the fight-or-flight response, the different types of anger, the stages of grief, or the five love languages, then you’re aware of different “classifications” of emotional expression and management.  Read up on some of those things, and think about how your character handles emotions like happiness, sadness, fear, anger, loneliness, paranoia, and so forth.

Detrimental Traits

While acquired traits are certainly more enjoyable to brainstorm during the creation process, detrimental traits are as important – or even more important – to the character’s wholeness as well as their role in the story.  Not only do these negative or limiting traits make your character realistic, relatable, and conflicted – they create a need for other characters and their strengths to move the plot forward.  A few examples of detrimental traits include:

  • Flaws – Character flaws are probably the first thing that came to your mind while reading this, but they’re the essence of the category.  Flaws in a character’s personality, morality, or behavior can be a source of character development; they set an individual on their own path and provide a unique motivation for them.  Having Character A struggle with sobriety while Character B learns to be a more patient mother can do a lot to separate their stories and personalities from each other.  Even if certain flaws don’t reach a point of growth, they create a third aspect to personality and force us, as writers, to be more creative with how our characters get from Point A to Point B, and what they screw up along the way.
  • Fears – Everyone has fears, whether we’re conscious of them or not – and I’m not talking about phobias or “things that give you shivers”.  Just like everyone has a primary motivation throughout life (romance, family, success, meaning, peace of mind, etc.), everyone has a fear behind that motivation (loneliness, failure, emptiness, anxiety).  We all have something we don’t want to happen places we never want to be and things we never want to do.  We’ve all been in situations that mildly bothered others but wildly affected us at the same time.  For me, it’s a lack of autonomy, or in any way being forced to do something or be somewhere against my will.
    What does this mean for me?  It means that when other people have nightmares about being chased by an axe murderer, I have nightmares about being kidnapped and locked up.  It means that I’m continually aware of my “escape plan” if something goes wrong in my living situation, and I’m hypersensitive to someone telling me, “You have to do this.”  It means I struggle to follow rules and usually don’t get along with authority figures because I have to assert my independence to them.  It’s irrational and continual and doesn’t just affect me in one situation; it subconsciously directs my steps if I let it.  That’s how real, guttural fears work. Phobias are only skin deep, and they don’t make you feel any closer to the character.

Originally posted by giantmonster

  • Secrets – Even goody two-shoes Amber from the swim team, with her blonde blonde hair and her good good grades, has a secret.  Everybody does, even if it’s not a purposeful, “I have a deep, dark secret,” sort of secret. We have things we don’t tell people, just because they’re embarrassing, or painful, or too deep to get into, or they don’t paint us in a good light.  While the secrets themselves tell a lot about a person, so do the reasons a person keeps a secret.  Hiding something out of shame suggests a person is prideful, or critical of themselves, or holds themselves to a higher standard than they hold others.  Hiding something painful suggests that the person struggles to handle sadness or regret, or that they feel uncomfortable showing raw emotion in front of loved ones. And so on and so forth.
  • Conflict – Whether internal, interpersonal, legal, moral, societal, or what have you, conflict will limit your character’s actions at every turn.  A story is nothing without conflict driving the plot in different directions and causing your character to rethink both their plans and their lifestyle.  Without Katniss’s moral conflict over killing other tributes, The Hunger Games would be the story of a girl who entered an arena, killed a lot of people, and lived the rest of her life rich and comfortable.  If Luke Skywalker didn’t have interpersonal conflict with Darth Vader, Star Wars would be the war-story of a guy who joined a rebellion and then… yeah.
  • Health – Physical, mental, and emotional health is a huge limiting factor for characters that often goes untouched, but it’s valuable nonetheless.  Not everyone has a clean bill of health and can jump off trains without pulling a muscle, go through a traumatic life experience without any hint of depression or anxiety, or watch a loved one die in gunfire and shove right on without emotional repercussions. Consider creating a character who’s not perfect – who isn’t perfectly in-shape or abled, or neurotypical or stable day-to-day, or completely clean and clear of residual heartache, unhealthy relationships, or bad emotional habits.  Don’t define them by these traits, of course – but don’t feel that you can’t write a character with health issues without writing a “sick character.”

So this post got ridiculously long, but I hope it works as a reference for you when creating unique characters.  Remember that you don’t need to outline all of this information to create an individual, realistic character.  These are just some relevant ideas to get you started!  It’s up to you, as the writer, to decide what’s necessary and what’s excessive for your creative process.

Still, I hope a majority of this is helpful to you!  If you have any more questions, be sure to send them in and we’ll get back to you :)  Good luck!

- Mod Joanna ♥️


If you need advice on general writing or fanfiction, you should maybe ask us!

Sharing BABTQFIM fanart from other sites

I decided to get out of Tumblr and Deviantart to see any fan art of babtqfim

and damn, I found a lot ;w;

most of these are from a site that I think is Russian, but I’m not sure

they are all wonderful and you’re all more wonderful for making them X3

if anyone ain’t a big tumblr fan and does not want me to share em here; let me know in anyway possible and I’ll take em down

and if anyone who has a tumblr and recognises any of his stuff among these; I’d be happy to know

anyway: on to the fanarts:

Bendy, Boris, Cuphead and Mugman (and their genderbends):

Others:

and these ones about Fanny are pretty sweet:

SKAM S04E08 Clip 5 - Hope you have room

SANA: I’ve tried to write something.

CHRIS: To them?

SANA: Yes.

CHRIS: What did you write?

SANA: I wrote.. Hi. In the 9th grade, there was a social worker who told me I had an anger issue. I thought: Fuck her, she doesn’t understand shit. Because.. she didn’t understand shit. But now I’m wondering if she maybe was right. Because I am angry. I’m angry because I’m not Muslim enough and no matter what I do, I’m never Norwegian enough. And I’m not Moroccan enough and I’m not chill enough, not pretty enough. I’m angry because I made it so important to fit in on a russ bus. I’m angry because I don’t fit in anywhere. Because I always get angry and fuck up, but most of all I’m sad because it influenced you. Because that bus is not important to me. It’s not important to me to be muslim enough, or if I fit in with Moroccans or Norwegians.

[Because that bus is not important to me. It’s not important to me to be muslim enough, or if I fit in with Moroccans or Norwegians.

As long as I belong with you guys. The biggest losers in school.

I’m sorry for what I’ve done, I don’t give a shit if I’m expelled, just please, forgive me.

Sana]

[TO CHRIS: Are you coming?]

SARA: Do you know if they’re coming?

SANA: I think they’re coming.

INGRID: Because it’s a bit meaningless without them. Everyone here agree we won’t report it to the school?

SARA: You agree too, right? Did anyone have their last class with them or something?

GIRLS: No.

GIRL1: I saw Eva during the break, at least.

INGRID: They haven’t written to you or anything?

SANA: No.

INGRID: Maybe you could try calling them?

[Hey, you’ve reached Chris. I can’t pick up the phone right now, sorry..]

[Hey, you’ve reached Chris. I can’t..]

INGRID: But do you think Eva and Vilde wanted to report it to the school?

SANA: I don’t know.

SARA: But they haven’t said anything about it?

INGRID: But they understand that if they do that, we have to tell them why we made the Vilde account and that’ll influence you too.

SANA: I think they understand that.

INGRID: But seriously, how long are we supposed to be bothered with sitting here? It doesn’t seem like they’re coming.

GIRL1: There’s no point in sitting here..

GIRL2: What time is it anyway?

GIRL3: Ten to half past..

SARA: Should we just leave, you guys?

GIRLS: Yeah, let’s go.

[INCOMPREHENSIBLE CHATTER]

SARA: Let’s go.

THE GIRL SQUAD: SANA!!! SANA!! SANA!! SANA!! COME ON!! Look what we got!!

[YELLING]

SANA: Where did you get this? Was it you?

VILDE: IF YOU FUCK WITH SANA, YOU FUCK WITH US!

NOORA: Bye, bitches!

EVA: Bitches!

[MORE YELLING]