but i shouldn't even be on the internet

*taps mic, clears throat*

jeon jungkook is the child locked away in the basement in omelas, and therefore doesn’t have an internet connection and thaT is why he is not tweeting anything

*drops mic and runs away*

anonymous asked:

Sheila I am Mexican too and I have thought about skin bleaching a lot. I know I shouldn't but sometimes I think it might be easier to be whiter. What was your experience with it?

Hey friendo. 

Let me tell you right now that I’m not going to yell at you. Or make you feel guilty. If your like me, you already feel really guilty for even THINKING about bleaching. A lot of the small, discreet forums I ran too when I first started bleaching were these tiny corners of the internet where mexican, hispanic, and black girls talked on forum about where to buy bleaches, how they got lighter. And they were always interspliced with us trying to tell each other to be strong, to stop, to not feel bad about what they were doing but also encouraging others not to start. It’s a sucky, sucky place to be, but I understand that you’re there. You know? And sometimes the act of controlling the shade of your skin can feel like overcoming the insecurity (its not.) 

Instead Imma tell you the realities of skin bleaching. 

First off, most of the brightening and bleaching products ARENT frederally regulated. I mean, they are super fucking dangerous. Just fyi. These companies are super shady and the ingrediants to even the FDA approved over-the-counter prescriptions of lighteners, have been linked to causing cancer. Over extended periods of time, it has been known to give a higher risk of, and even cause, cancer. They are still banned in a lot of countries. Yes, these are products that are used to help patients with post-sugery spotting, scarring, that are prescribed whiteners. Or even Vitilago patients, but even they are told the serious dangers and they are just using it for exactly that. SPOTTING. Not slathering it on your whole body.

Aside from being really fucking expensive, the ultimate thing that stopped me and others was this. 

You can’t actually strip your skin of melanin/pigment. 

It’s just not scientifically possible. Bleaching doesn’t actually BLEACH your skin. It just -delays and stops the melanin from forming- thats it. And in some whiteners, like the soap bar whitener, its actually peeling off layers of your skin to the non tanned cells beneath, and delaying melanin. This leads to redness, allergies, skin infections, and itchyness like a mutherfucker. It can be really painful.

But that also means that no matter how much you whiten, because you are only stopping melanin from forming instead of stripping, you will always be as tan as you are to begin with. You can only peel back and stop your layers so much before you reach your base shade. 

So guess what that means?

Your shade will always come back. 

Unless you plan on bleaching forever (see above about cancer) you will never reach a point that you won’t be tan, or won’t be in ‘need’ of bleaching. It will always, always come back. Because as soon as you stop using it, your melanin starts producing again. Unless of course, you damage your skin so badly you start DARKENING.

Yup, skin bleaching can also cause you to darken. 

And I don’t mean, it makes you get tanner. It blackens you. It’s called exogenous ochronosis. It’s when your skin gets damaged by the use of whiteners/bleachers and starts BLACKENING. Mostly in the thinner areas of your skin. Around your eyes is the most common one. Its practically unrepairable. Unless you want to sit under lasers at the dermatogloist weeks on end.

And finally, the shades you whiten never feel like enough. We all experienced this. It’ s a paranoia from your insecurity. As white as you get, you’ll still be staring at the mirror thinking ‘im too dark, im too dark.’ Because in the end it’s in your head, not in your skin. You’ll be endlessly torturing your body to try and fix your mind. I still struggle with this, despite having used it for 4-5 years and now stopped for another 4. And I realized that even though I was actively getting lighter, I was still not happy. Still not satisfied. That’s when I realized that I wasn’t targeting the right problem. What I had been made to think. Not what I had been made AS. 

And now, because I had beat up my skin so badly, I notice how much more easily I scar, I darken, I sun spot. The exact opposite of what I wanted. But i made my skin so tender, its more prone to tanning than not. 

I hope this helps. I know that when I realized all these things it turned me off completely, and many of the other girls that helped me stopped other from using just by explaining what they might be getting into. 

I’m always, always here to talk about this! On anon or privately! 

anonymous asked:

For that anon- making friends in the community is hard. I myself have over 500 followers in 3 months, but not a single person that talks to me, and my original content almost never gets notes. Unfortunately, the community does often seem like a "cool kids club" and as much as a lot of popular bloggers try to assert that isn't true, they do contribute to it by being cliquey. It's not you and you shouldn't feel bad that people are just human, even on the internet.

  • Karen: Frank, you are the most awesome person I have ever known in my entire life. I vow to protect you. From danger. And I don't care if I have to fight an ultimate fighter, or a bear, or him *points to Daredevil* You're mom. I would take them down. I'm getting mad right now even telling you. I wanna spend the rest of my life, every minute with you, and I am the luckiest woman in Hell's Kitchen.
  • Frank: I guess I kinda hate most things. But I never really seemed to hate you. So I wanna spend the rest of my life with you, is that cool?

do not upload videos of an autistic person having a meltdown

do not upload videos of an autistic person having a meltdown

do not upload videos of an autistic person having a meltdown

I don’t care if it’s your child, your sibling, a friend, someone you care for, or anyone else

I don’t care if you think they’ll see it or not

that is a fucking vulnerable moment and you should not be posting it all over the fucking internet where anyone can see it

I mean for fuck’s sake, do people have any respect for privacy and dignity, I shouldn’t even have to fucking say this

What we all should try to learn from the signs
  • Aries: To stand up for ourselves. To address that mean comment on a reblog, to tell the teacher you weren't the one who cheated, to confront the boss when it was ridiculous to expect you to do that extra work. To believe in yourself and your right to be as happy as anyone else.
  • Taurus: To respect others. To not allow anyone to insult those who can't stand up for themselves, to accept and understand the opinions of other people, to rule our behaviours with morality and empathy. To be tenacious and unwavering, to mix stern ethics with a kind and forgiving heart.
  • Gemini: To understand what we most hold back. To know that honesty isn't always the best policy, to think before we speak, to tell little white lies when we need to. To make sure we are not tying ourselves down to the same set of beliefs: truth, faith, truth, faith, truth, faith.
  • Cancer: To retreat sometimes. To allow yourself 'me' time, to write poetry and take long baths, to cry and eat ice-cream. To allow yourself and what you feel to be valid. To take a day off work if you just can't face seeing that one person, to remember to put yourself first sometimes.
  • Leo: To show the world how we feel. To allow ourselves to breathe, to cast aside the iron restrictions of society, to cry and laugh whenever we need to. To express ourselves, to paint and draw and write and sing. To believe that the world is a good place and that we can make it even better.
  • Virgo: To work hard. To make sure we ace that test and not to slack off just because we don't think we can do it, to go over that presentation one more time before you show it, to do ten minutes of exercise every day just because it's good for you, to live up to the standards you set for yourself.
  • Libra: To make a good impression. To check your grammar, to be polite on the Internet, to make sure you put on deodorant and you're not wearing pyjamas when you answer the door to get the post. To never fight fire with fire and maintain a calm discipline even when that anon was just plain rude.
  • Scorpio: To tell it like it is. To admit to yourself that they don't like you back, to tell your friend that they really shouldn't grow their beard out, to say 'Thanks, I know' when someone tells you you're beautiful. To be brutally honest and understand that life isn't fair.
  • Sagittarius: To experience as much as possible of the world. To say yes to every opportunity, to never be unkind when you can help it, to do things just because they're random and fun and no-one else can say they've done them. To make a real effort to be happy, even when it's hard.
  • Capricorn: To project confidence. To walk like you're going to murder the next person who so much as looks as you, to case your insecurities in iron and do that death stare like you just sold the world, to maintain control over yourself even when the rest of your life is broken.
  • Aquarius: To never compromise your individuality. To wear that lipstick even though your girlfriend doesn't like it, to stand up and speak when the school makes a stupid rule, to march with everyone else at Pride. To be unafraid not to fit in. To remember to pack up and leave when you want to.
  • Pisces: To be kind sometimes. To give a stranger a smile or even a hug, to make little gifts for your friends for no reasons, to be sweet and soft and sensitive and take the courage to be good even if it means being weak. To compliment everyone, and that includes yourself.
An Example Of How I Am "Arrogant" If Want To Speak To Another Black Woman
  • Me: "Hey, Black women with 4C hair, I have a question about genie locs and how yarn may start to lock into my hair if it is wool yarn versus acrylic yarn."
  • White woman: "I use yarn in my knitting!"
  • Black man: "I don't like natural hair."
  • Black man: "Yarn is still weave so obviously you like White supremacy."
  • White man: "Why are you excluding non-Black women from your conversation? All women face oppression, even White women."
  • Non-Black woman of colour with 3A hair: "You should ignore the hair typing chart altogether! Us women of colour have to stick together."
  • Random men in my DMs: **inserts unsolicited sexual images**
  • Me: "I kinda need replies from Black women, specifically here."
  • Black woman: "Hey I think Black women with 4c hair should..."
  • White woman: "Not to derail or interrupt, but don't you mean ALL women?"
  • Assorted Whites: "Obviously you are entitled, pretentious and arrogant and shouldn't use the Internet if you want people to be respectful because they have the right to derail. You're censoring free speech in a public place. Also, it is not conducive to discuss oppression while excluding people. And obviously a comment about your hair for another person with similar hair is discussing how structural oppression impacts all PoCs and all humans equally and the same at all times. You are a race Fact Portal after all, without an actual interior life. We mean, just have your conversations with other Black women in DM at all times. Problem solved! Stop complaining. Meanwhile us Whites will continue to use our timelines as we please without dealing with any of the fucking horseshit that you do since well...we are White after all, hahaha, and our follow counts are like 237."
  • White man: "Ooo, I loooove Black women with natural hair. Wink wink."
  • White woman: "Hey did you see how Cosima on Orphan Black has locs! That's appropriation! I noticed! Good allies always do. Let's discuss cultural appropriation right now for an hour, at least. I'll get it started with 14 replies to your original tweet, including racism 101 links that I saw on The Huffington Post."
  • White woman: "You should loc your hair for real. My BLACK boyfriend has locs. He doesn't like locs on Black women though, but I do, sister girl. Did I mention that my boyfriend is Black?"
  • Me: **scrolls through 5-100 or more replies to find Black women's replies considering the fact my retweet reach is 500K-2M people per month and my mentions reach is 5-15M people per month, according to SumAll, with almost 30K followers**
  • Black woman: "Hey sis, yeah, just be cautious when you use certain wools because if you magnify wool under a macro lens (you're a photographer and I saw you mention macros) you'll notice it looks like our hair texture quite a bit and can lock with our hair. Find bushier acrylic yarns, (if you want a more authentic look), over wool yarns to be on the safe side. Here's a linked photo of how mine came out."
  • Me: "Thanks for the reply, sis; appreciated."

I’ve recently received some extremely rude and hateful messages in my inbox lately regarding the whole John Green Paper Towns Quote thing months ago. 

First, I would like to say that I would never, nor did I, ever have the intentions of “suing DFTBA” or “scam them out of money”. I just wanted the credit back for something I wrote. 

Second, how can you still not believe that John did not write it and that a “moody thirteen year old is capable of writing that”. Frankly, I’m insulted that you don’t have that much faith in teenagers. And trust me, there are hundreds of thousands of teens and even younger children who are much much MUCH more gifted. It’s an insult to them that you could ever belittle them and their potential and skill like that.

Third, why do you feel like it’s necessary to send hate like this? Why does it give you satisfaction to send threats and insults to a teenage girl through the internet? Why is it so important to you that I have to be beaten down and kicked upon? Does it honestly give you pleasure to know that people like you were the reason I moved to a new blog in the first place? That I have never felt comfortable and have developed severe anxiety and depression over people like you? Those who relentlessly tell me that I am “worthless” and that my life is “stagnant and won’t go anywhere else” and that I deserve “nothing except hell” for what I’ve done. 

Why is this such a big deal to you? What gives you the right to place yourself above me? Why is it that you think just because I cannot physically hurt you that you can just continue to act like a demeaning and sexist ass to others on the internet?

Don’t you dare lecture me on how I was “stupid enough to post it in the first place” and that I should “expect people to steal” because “that’s just how the internet works”. I understand that. I UNDERSTAND. But do not tell me that there aren’t decent people out there in the world who would never, ever, ever steal from another creator. Don’t you dare. They are my friends, they know the struggles. They’ve been in the same place. They’ve had it worse than me.

If you don’t believe me and think I’m “talking shit through every hole” then stop listening to me, stop contacting me, and stop wasting your precious time trying to ruin mine.

anonymous asked:

You seem like a decent person so I'm going to ask you this; what's your opinion on people in the One Direction fandom calling Louis gay? Do you not think it's impertinent to act as though you know something that you clearly shouldn't? That's what I dislike most about Larry shippers (or the majority), I just find even the thought of people discussing something so personal about someone else on the internet disgusting. So yeah, what are your thoughts, seeing as you are one of the accused? :/

I want to flip the question on you first - why do we as a society think it’s okay to assume straight until proven gay? Isn’t it awfully personal to assume people are straight? That’s something pertinent to people’s lives as well, yet it’s something we just assume.

I personally don’t think that Louis has tried to hide that he is interested in men all that much. In fact, if I was Louis (or Harry, for that matter), I’d probably be insulted if everyone assumed I was straight. Heck, you have no idea how nice it would be for someone to consider the fact that I might not be completely straight. That would make my day. (I’ve thought about it a lot.)

I don’t think that thinking people is gay is a gross thing to think. I don’t personally think that Louis loving Harry is a gross idea whatsoever, and anyone who thinks that two guys loving each other is gross is probably homophobic (not suggesting that you are, of course, but just on principle). I think that you have to be careful in calling anyone gay though, because labels, while useful, are a personal choice, and we don’t know definitively that Louis considers himself to be gay. I do personally think it is most likely that he is only interested in men, but if Louis comes out as bisexual or anything like that, I will obviously go by Louis’ word. But I really don’t think that there’s anything wrong with thinking that Louis is gay, given the numerous pieces of evidence he has shown us that point in that direction.

People speculate about their superpowers, like, what power they would most likely have, not just the one they would want.

I already know mine. I already have mine. Unfortunately, it’s kind of lame.

I have SuperSmell.

It came to my attention today that other people cannot, in fact, smell most foods through the packaging. And that reminded me of the time that I broke our summer camp team-building exercise by sniffing our way back to camp after the leaders dropped us off in the woods, because I could smell the horse paddock…..from a mile away. Also, I smelled an onion going bad in our apartment 4 days before anyone else smelled it. I just couldn’t find it because everyone insisted their produce was still good–the nastiness of the onion had started on the inside and they only discovered it when it got through the skin. I can smell who is up and about in the morning based on the combinations of shampoos, soaps, toothpastes, and hairsprays. I can also smell what is in any food before tasting it, though tasting helps; I can recreate any food based on how it smells (and tastes), because I can smell my way into remaking it. I can smell what people around me in class have eaten.

It’s kinda freaky now that I think about it, but also kind of proud and kind of upset. Because hey, I have a superpower! But as far as superpowers go, super smelling isn’t necessarily super helpful. I don’t even know what my super hero name would be.

The Mighty Nose. Sniffer Supreme. SniffSnuffler.

No, there’s no way to make it sound good.

anonymous asked:

Did you see the new spoiler that Bell-ark is gonna happen? wow... the new low. I dont think the iOO team care about us or morality at all. I think it's the responsibility of all writers, not just J. It's a collaborative process. If all of them had disagreed with J, it shouldn't have happened. The casts and crew are richer and in the better status than us. No need to protect them at all. the real need is to protect those who need to be protected, the precious, fragile queer babies.

I’m not even going to touch the Blarke thing, but hear me out on this. According to the internet Eliza is worth a couple million dollars which sounds reasonable because she’s been working on TV since forever, Ricky is the lead in a new show, Marie has movies coming out, it is clear that Lindsay is getting jobs elsewhere, Adina has a new show, etc etc etc. I have no problems believing any of these people will star in other things sooner rather than later if the show goes down. Why is an actor’s career more important that us and our community? The actors and the writers make tens of thousands of dollars per episode. They are part of unions that protect them in the even of a supposed period of unemployment which some people seem to be so concerned about. They are fine! Can we start thinking about bigger picture here instead of just your faves? It’s so narrow minded. 

Look who AREN’T being dorks today. 

I don’t expect to have much internet access for the next couple weeks, which will be decades–maybe even centuries!–in Tumblr time. So here, take this originals fanart as a sign that I am always with you.

Then, someday, when the fandom is at its darkest… when the anime ends and when everyone is in emotional turmoil over Chapter 104… I WILL RETURN. 

with salt for the wounds