but i really do feel bad

anonymous asked:

hi guys!! im not aro and/or ace but im curious about something related to asexual ppl!! okay so my biggest hobby is designing characters and my latest oc is an aro ace girl whos theme is flowers and plants and this might sound dumb but i know a considerable part of aphobia is considering ace ppl unhuman and comparing them a lot of times with plants?? i guess im asking to what extent is this character a bad idea. feel free to delete this if its too silly but 🌟 1/2

but i thought asking actual aro/ace ppl would be a reasonable thing to do. especially for future reference i guess?? thanks anyways!!!💕💕💕 🌟 2/2

I personally don’t care. I like all aro ace rep as long as you don’t say “I’m into plants because I don’t have attraction towards others.” I think just casually having a cute character surrounding by flowers all the time can be really sweet and can make the sting of plants jokes less. With that said, as a default I don’t trust allosexual writers to write such characters correctly. So I think if you are willing to be mistrusted at first and remember that shouldn’t act like this is a gift to us you’ll are fine. There are writing guides on the FAQ page for more things to look out for.


Author’s Note: I promise guys I’m finishing Hiraeth but I wanted so bad to do this. It’s a way to calm myself as I’m having shitty days and I’m feeling realy useless. If you could help me to feel better and I’d be really thankful. Anyway, I hope you all like it.

Warnings: Sebastian being a tease, implied smut, sexual language.

Pairings: Sebastian Stan x Reader.

Words: 483

Gif not mine!

“What are you doing?” you smiled as you heard your boyfriend’s voice, shifting in your bed, rolling on your stomach. 

“Now? Just reading. I was tired of binge watching the TV so…” you could almost see his smile as you spoke and that made your heart to flutter. 

You missed Sebastian. Him being an actor, travelling quite often made it difficult, but you both knew the relationship was worthy. The “I missed you” kisses, the cuddles the day after he would come back.

You had met him in a friend’s wedding. You were there, bored, sitting and drinking when you noticed his eyes staring at you. You had smiled and wink at him, watching as he smirked and strutted towards you. You dance during the whole night, laughing as you’ve never done.

And there you were, two years later.

“Do you miss me?”

“Nah, not at all. I’m wearing your shirt and reading my favourite book. I don’t need you here”

“Really?” you bit your lips to stop the laugh as you heard his fake offended tone. He was such a drama queen sometimes. “I suppose I should do the same. I’ll find someone else”

“Go. I won’t stop you. As you keep buying me flowers and food I’m fine”

You loved teasing him. It was part of your relationship, saying you’ll leave the other for another person. You loved watching his face changing as you said you’d leave him for Chris, making the blonde to smirk at you.

Sometimes, that would end in Sebastian teaching you a lesson in the sheets. Or in the sofa. Or on top of the kitchen counter.

“Actually, I talked to Chris and…”

“Doll” he interrupted you with a warn on his steady and velvety voice. You chuckled and continue talking about his abs and muscles, hearing Sebastian’s growls on the other line. “It’s a shame. I was going to eat you out as soon as I got home”

“Seriously? I thought you prefer using your own hand, sweetie”

“Y/N, you’re digging your own grave”

“What? What are you going to do? You’re far away”

“Are you sure about that?, Doll?” you heard a chuckle and you turned, your eyes opening wide at the sight of Sebastian leaning against the door frame with the phone pressed against his ear. He hung up and smiled, dropping the bag and opening his arms.

You jumped from the bed and ran towards him, circling his waist with your legs. You peppered kisses over his face, watching as he laughed when you moved your hands along his bearded jaw. 

“I’ve missed you so much”

“Really? I thought you were fine with Chris” you rolled your eyes and he smirked, smacking your ass and making you to jolt, placing you on the mattress, his hot breath touching for face and his lips moving as he whispered. “Now, honey…you’re in so much trouble”

anonymous asked:

So I consider myself a lesbian, but once in a while I see a guy that looks really cute and I kinda get a crush on them. You know like seeing someone really cute on the street and your heart picks up. If I was bi Im a lot more towards girls. Its hard to picture myself marring or dating a guy, but I can with a girl. I feel like Im lying to myself and I feel bad. I think girls with really short hair are cute so could this be steaming off of that? Im just so confused.

I think that you’re bi but you’re more into girls like you said before, its not necessarily to like guys in every possibly way to be bi and you don’t have to like boys and girls equally. And girls with short hair is your type of girls, you’re not liking them bc they are having “boy hair”, right? and they are still girls, why it has to do smth with liking boys?

Dear Anxious Annie,

Wow…  It sounds like you’ve been through a lot yourself.  I’m glad you decided to come to me for help.  I know what it’s like when the stress of your job gets overwhelming.

Here’s something I should share about myself, though: I might say “I’m fine” all the time, but that doesn’t mean I always am.  There have been times when I was either too sad or too angry to even talk to anyone, and saying I was fine wouldn’t do anything to change that.

But you know…I realized something every time I got over it – it doesn’t really matter how I feel right now.  As long as I keep going and don’t let my worries get the best of me, there’s always a chance things will improve, and that I will be fine.  So, just keep holding on to hope whenever things get rough for you.  No matter how bad it gets, it can always get better somehow.

I sometimes forget that myself, believe it or not.

-Apollo Justice


I really hate to have to do this, but I’m opening up commissions if anyone wants to support a poor writer.

I recently moved into a house with my friends with the knowledge that I had been hired upon passing of my drug test. The problem: I received the message that I had passed all of my drug/background checks on July 3rd, over three weeks ago, and I still haven’t received my promised start date.

It’s hard for me to find another job with the same hours as this one, and working different hours is difficult as I already work a 20 hour a week internship with a 45 minute commute each way.

With bills due in 2 weeks, I’m a little tight on money, and while I could probably get by, any extra money would really help me out, so I figured I might as well take a shot and see if anyone would be willing to pay for commissions.

I’m honestly not sure how pricing works on commissions, but I’m going to start at 5$ for every thousand words? And if anyone wants to come and talk to me about paying a little less (or a little more if you really want to help), feel free to DM me or send me an ask and we can figure out technicalities.

Otherwise, if you want to help out, send me a DM or a (non-anonymous) ask. Or, if you can’t afford or don’t want a commission, but still want to help, just share this post!

Thank you so much,

Edit: For those wondering, I figured paypal would be the easiest and most secure way for any payments. Thank you to those who messaged me reminding me to address this question!

5secondssex  asked:

Hi, I don't mean to bother you, but you give really good advice. I have very bad anxiety and things have been going terribly. I haven't eaten in 8 days besides some grapes because I can't keep anything down due to my anxiety. Do you have any tips to stay healthy while dealing with this? Thank you.

This is so respectfully put and non-demanding and I appreciate the tone in this ask so thank you!!!! I get a lot of asks that feel like they demand for advice and it kinda bugs me (I still answer them of course but still grr) anywayssss! I’m assuming you came here for some real ass advice so lemme tell ya a solid way to deal with this. I was in this situation just last year around this time (it took me until last month to finally be able to eat again) and what I’m gonna tell you helped me regulate my eating and stress pretty smoothly. I’m not a professional at all so please take this as a grain of salt and still talk to a doctor about it!

1. Destress. Ik it’s obvious but start with the root of the problem. You gotta have ways to cope and activities you can do to help yourself feel better emotionally. Your immune system is sensitive and heavily influenced by your emotions! So try to find ways to start feeling better. Stretches twice a day. Playing fun games. Mindful meditations. Deep breathing. Do what makes you feel relaxed and find a routine you can do post anxiety attack if you can too.

2. Supplements. If you can’t eat food without vomiting it all up, start taking daily multivitamins and other supplemental pills so your body gets some of the nutrients it needs to heal. I took fish oil, magnesium, biotin, multivitamins, and iron pills every day to make sure I was at least getting some stuff in my body for example

3. Try smoothies!!!!!! Dude… no lie… smoothies were one of the ONLY things I could digest. Not sure how severe your illness is but if hard foods are tough to keep down, try blending up some of your fave fruits and veggies, throw in some nuts or chia seeds too!

4. Protein bars. If you’re worried about calories and can’t eat a lot then eating protein bars or those high calorie post workout bars are a fucking lifesaver. This one helped me a lot. I lost a lot of weight but this was probably where most my calories came from and helped me from turning into skin and bone.

5. Keep eating. Please dont just stop eating entirely because you throw up every other meal. You jus gotta keep trying. Eat small meals if you have to, things you know you have an easier time with. Work your way back up to eating full dinner plates. It’s okay if you can’t do it now. You will get there eventually.

You will be able to eat comfortably again! Just give it time and keep trying out all these things. Regulating your stress and learning to combat anxiety is definitely a wonderful start though. If you have a therapist or some kind of professional you can talk to I’d highly advise bringing up your current situation. They might have some medication or other advice to give you~

jooniesnumber1flower  asked:

To the anon that's skipping meals, please don't skip meals or purge! I had anorexia and bulimia before and I promise you, you do not want it! I felt so unhealthy even though I was happy with the results. But I also realize that I wasn't really that happy with myself. You skipping meals doesn't do anything but prove that the people who made fun of you won at making you feel bad. I became healthy by eating JUST three meals a day and exercising at least 30 minutes a day. Stay healthy~!


levalseduvieux  asked:

She's straight and I'm madly in love. I always see her walking around with her boyfriend and smiling at me as you do with a good friend. I feel like I can't stand this situation anymore.

Ohh honey, i really hope that it will pass! One day you’ll meet the person who would make you feel happy and would love you the same. Remember life is about bad and good things, not only good. Its smth you need to go through. And remember that you get twice more good things than bad so smth good is expecting for you in future :)

I do feel really bad for the respectful sc shippers. I feel like we don’t think about them often because they’re not loud and obnoxious but they have a really hard time and only now I was made more aware of that fact. I’ve had some of them reach out to me apologizing for what’s happening when it’s not their fault at all, I had some telling me how horrible and hurt they feel in the midst of these situation, others talked about how they hate that a lot of people just assume they’re nasty when they don’t partake in that kind of behavior. And I imagine it can be frustrating. 

I do not feel bad for the ones who trivialize serious issues, the ones who send death threats, the ones who mock abuse survivors, the ones who body shame Chris, the ones who used racial slurs and insulted Rahul. I feel 0 sympathy for those people. If  I were a better person I would but after everything they’ve done to me, my friends, followers and people I admire, I really can’t.

anonymous asked:

He doesn't respond for a moment. "I don't know," he says. Will frowns. "Anything hurt?" Nico shakes his head. That was odd. "I just- I don't know." He flops onto Will's lap, sending his cards into the air. "I'm tired of being sick," he whines. "I like here, but I don't." Will understood. He loved being close to his mom, but he also wished that Nico was in good health. "I'm sorry, baby. Is there anything we can do? Do you want to IM your friends? Would that help?" Maybe he was homesick.

Nico shook his head. It wasn’t a homesick that had Nico suddenly feeling bad. He didn’t really know what it was, to be honest. He felt generally uneasy, and that was probably why he felt so bad. He was anxious, for reasons he didn’t understand. What was there to be anxious about? Nico had been feeling better lately, up until now, and Naomi was coming home tomorrow. Was that why he was anxious? Nico didn’t think so, but the anxiety kept growing until it was a tight ball in his stomach that left a sour taste in his mouth. When he held up his hand he was shaking, and Nico tried to lower it before Will noticed. “Anxious.” Nico finally mumbled. “I’m really, really anxious, and I don’t know why.”

Do NOT spread Brendon’s new address around if you ever come across it. Do NOT go to his house. I don’t care if you’re the biggest fan alive, don’t go to his house unless he invites you. It’s simple. He’s a human being who puts up with enough stuff already, the fact that it’s gotten to the point where he doesn’t feel safe anymore in his OWN HOME and he feels the best decision is to MOVE is completely unfair, and now you need to keep this in your thoughts, tell new fans, people who don’t know. Respect him and his privacy.


infodumping about the ocean

One of the hardest things is to watch someone slowly lose interest in you.

u know whats great? that lance has honestly taught me that its okay to be a guy and care about beauty, that its not just a feminine thing and even if it was that there’s nothing wrong with that! 

the only other times in movies or tv i’ve see a man wear a face mask or pamper himself is when someones using it for humor- haha look at that guy, he’s not manly at all! he must be gay! thats not something boys do!

lance enjoys pampering himself and feeling pretty and it’s not just used as joke, it’s a part of his nature and no one else points it out or scoffs at it

that just makes me really happy and honestly that precious boy has allowed me to accept certain parts of myself i didn’t at first 

you can be a boy and have a beauty routine, you can take care of your skin, its a relief finally seeing that validated and i really appreciate the voltron writers for giving us this part of lance, because it’s so so important! i love him!

Autumn ride together 🍂 Where are they going? 🍁


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also wanna say a huge thanks @littleblackchat for your ridiculous amount of hard work in making this zine come together ;0; it was crazy watching you work and i have a lot of respect for you //grovels profusely// ur a beast gurl

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