Yo I’d like to bring some shit up cause I’ve seen some posts about it. Shipping Ryan and Meg is (or at least can be) different from gross jokes about them.
I personally have hard times reading non au’s for this fandom b/c I need that separation from their real life or it gets a bit too creepy for me. But usually even not including irl spouses (whether they’re ok with being in fanfic or not) is the bare minimum of whether I can read it or not.
But that all doesn’t really matter but my main point is:
You can ship Meg and Ryan in fan fiction, and not comment on every cosplay shoot saying “poor gavin”
You can ship Meg and Ryan in fan fiction, and not say their spouses should be worried that they went to Japan together.
What you’re doing there (if you are doing it) is assuming that a married man and a committed girlfriend would cheat on their respective spouses. Which is really fucking gross.
So tip for all you nasties: gain a disconnect from fanfic and real life. Stop with the jokes about it. Meg has repeatedly on her Twitter said she’s done with the jokes.
You can still ship them in your fanfics but to drag that into the real world and make gross jokes is disrespectful to all parties involved.
I’d also like to point out that even if AH makes the joke, you don’t have automatic permission to copy those comments AND you should recognize when the joke is run down and stop. (Hell, even one party of the joke being uncomfortable should be a key to stopping.)