Hi Niu! I absolutely love your blog, and it is nice to see people like you helping others with advice and such. You really make people smile (I can speak for myself of course). I wish I had your wisdom and ability to give advice. Unfortunately, I deal with social anxiety, and I feel like my head is cloudy with many thoughts and I never get a break. Can't even remember the last time I had a good night sleep.
I always recommend three options; 1. meditation 2. mindfulness 3. Abraham-Hicks’s videos about anxiety, worry, stress ect. and how to manage them from Youtube. Either all of these or some of these. Even one is good.
People think others think about them a lot, but in reality people don’t think about us as much as we fear. They mind their own businesses. There’s also this false concept that this or that should be achieved by this age or you have failed for life. Nonsense.
Anxiety can come from many sources but the main factory often is the feeling I’m not in control of my own life. There’s too much value put on what others want from me, what others think of me, am I pleasing them or not ect. and it’s all done with the expense of your own well-being, which should be your priority; not is your mom happy with your career choice, not does your family accept your partner, not are your hobbies silly, not how you look (also something decided by the society and these beauty standards change based on the time and the culture).
You can’t live by pleasing others. Others are fickle. Everyone has different preferences. Someone will say “You are too noisy!” and someone will say “You are too quiet!” and someone will say “You don’t talk the right way” and someone will say “Talking with you is fun”. How can you please these 4 different people? You can’t. You can be only you and let those who vibrate with you, come to you.
BE YOU. It’s easy. It’s very easy in the end. It just means you will not give a single fuck about ANYTHING what someone else wants from you. Only what you want is important.