[part 2] And once upon a time I could shrug it off but now I went from smiling and loving Jensen and Jared to being weary of even reblogging something because the last time i did i ended up reblogging a Sam and Dean post it ended up being from an anti-destiel tumblr. Its just really frustrating because I miss liking their relationship and I hate that I let others ruin it for me but at the same time ive received so much hate and I guess I just wanna know if you recommend anything. Sorry if I bothered you.
Hey there! :)
First of all; you’re not bothering at all. And I understand what you mean, because it happens in a lot of fandoms; fans of something turning you off from the thing itself, even if it was a thing you used to like. Some people say Destiel shippers turned them off from the Dean/Cas relationship, some say that the Supernatural fandom turned them off from the show, some say Wincest shippers turned them of from the brotherly Sam/Dean bond, etc.
The problem is that when you encounter a group of haters or crazies, it will leave a bitter taste in your mouth no matter what, even if it’s a small group that doesn’t speak for the rest of the fandom. And I understand your problem specifically because a lot of big J/2 blogs out there are anti Destiel/anti Cas/anti Misha. (I often hear multi shippers complain about this, it being hard to find blogs that they can safely follow without seeing hate for the other thing they love.)
Now personally I’m not much of a J/2 person period (as in; I like Jensen, I like Jared, but the combination of the two doesn’t do much for me and doesn’t get me excited), so I have never actively looked, but I’m 99% sure that there are quality Jensen/Jared blogs out there that are hate free. So my advice to you would be to simply block the hateful ones you encounter without giving it too much thought, and invest some time in finding some decent J/2 blogs to brighten up your dash, so that you’ll know that you don’t have to be afraid to see negativity towards other things that you like. Also maybe a tip; find some good J2M blogs to follow, because they usually post both J/2 and Cockles, and are obviously not hating on the other side.
So that’s what I would do; stay out of the general J/2 tag for the most part, because as a Cockles/Destiel shipper you will probably not find stuff you like there, and instead find some good positive blogs to follow, so that you will get your fix and can enjoy the J/2 friendship without the negative feelings that come with it.
I hope this helps, and I’m sorry you’ve gotten hate to begin with. *hugs*