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In Love With Spiderman

Request: Can you do 18&22 from the prompt list 💕💕💕

18. “It’s okay to cry…”

22. “You can scream if you want.”

Summary: reader loves Peter. Does Peter love them back?

A/N: so I thought I would enjoy writing this one but I struggled? Like okay, I tried using the pain I felt when I was in an unrequited love situation but man, it’s so hard to describe. I really don’t like the outcome of this one to be completely honest. I don’t like it. Sorry to the anon who requested this.

Warnings: such angst

Masterlist

Peter Parker was the love of your life. He just didn’t realize it.

Basically, you were in love with your friend Peter Parker. You didn’t think he was in love with you. Or that he could ever be.

It hurt like hell to love someone who didn’t love you back. It hurt so much.

And you knew that Peter still had a crush on Liz, despite the fact that She left a month ago. He still talked about her sometimes.

You knew Peter was Spiderman so you didn’t see him as often as before and when he would ask to hang out you would say no more often than not.

You didn’t want to call it an experiment but you needed to know whether it hurt less to see him less or whether it hurt less to keep him in your life as your friend.

So you were trying to see if staying away from Peter would help with the pain you’ve been in.

One night you were sitting alone in your room when you heard a knock at Your window causing you to jump.

Peter stuck his head inside

“I’m sorry, did I scare you,”

“Jesus, Peter. You gave me a heart attack,” You held your hand over your chest, still calming from your scare.

“Can I come in?”

You nodded, and Peter crawled into your bedroom, dropping onto the floor.

“Why are you here?” You asked

“I miss you, Y/N,” Peter said, sitting on the edge of your bed next to you.

“Please don’t say that Peter,”

“Ok what’s been up with you the past few weeks? Months even? You’ve been ignoring me and completely avoiding me,”

“It’s no big deal, Parker. I’m just going through a few things and need some space,”

Peter rested his hand on top of yours.

“Will you please talk to me, tell me what’s wrong,”

“I can’t Peter,”

“Please, Y/N, I’m worried about you,”

You could feel the tears welling up behind your eyes and a lump in the back of your throat.

“I can’t do it anymore Peter,”

“Do what?” He asked quietly

Tears started to fall from your eyes as you tried to speak.

“God, I don’t want to cry right now,” you said, trying to wipe the tears from your eyes as they started to fall faster

“It’s okay to cry…”

“Ah, you haven’t seen me cry before Parker, now certainly isn’t the time,”

“Well if you don’t want to cry you could scream if you want,”

You sniffled.

“Y/N, tell me what’s going on. I want to help,”

“I think this is just something I’m going to have to get over myself,”

“What is?” Peter pressed

“I feel so stupid crying over you, Peter,”

“Crying over me? Did I do something to hurt you? I’m so sorry if I did. Whatever I did I didn’t mean to make you upset,”

“You didn’t do anything,”

“Please explain what’s going on,” Peter said

“I told you I can’t Peter,”

“Why not, Y/N? You’re one of my best friends, I love you with all my heart, why can’t you share this with me? I would never judge you and if you’re crying over me I want to know what’s wrong,”

You stayed silent, avoiding eye contact with Peter who was so desperately trying to look into your eyes.

“Y/N…” Peter started

“Do you know how hard it is to see you every day? But do you know how much it hurts when I can’t see you? I love you so much Peter and everything about you kills me,”

“What are you saying?” Peter asked

“I’m saying I’m in love with you Peter and it hurts so fucking much,”

“You’re in love with me?”

“Yes Peter!” You said, finally looking up at him.

“Look, I told you why I’ve been avoiding you and crying. Can you please leave before this gets any worse,” you begged.

“Why would I leave the girl I’m in love with?”

“What?”

“I love you too, Y/N. I just realized long ago that isolating myself from you only made it worse,”

“You’re lying, Peter. You don’t-”

“Yes I do,” Peter interrupted.

Peter started to inch his face closer to yours.

“I still don’t believe you,” you said

“Do you believe me now?” Peter said, gently placing his lips on yours.

Peter pulled away and rested his forehead on yours.

“I do love you, Y/N,”

Ways to Cheer Yourself Up (When wanting to be alone) - 50 top things to do
  • 1. Go ON Tumblr, believe it or not, we don't care where you're from, what you do, how you're being you, as long as you are being you, you're pretty much welcomed on here. That's why i love it. Unless of course you are homophobic or judgemental or ignorant - then the people will speak for themselves, we look out for each other here.
  • 2. Read Books; escapism is a wonderful thing
  • 3. Listen to music; and no - not the sad, 'ALL BY MYSELF' type music, but the kickass songs like 'I will Survive' or 'Loser Like Me' just celebrate yourself for being awesome, because we know you are; even if others don't; especially then actually.
  • 4. Become your own superhero. Every single one of you have a talent or a dream. Follow up on that talent/dream. YOU ARE WORTH IT, and you can be whoever you want to be.
  • 5. DISNEY MOVIES. Unless you absolutely hate bursting out into song - better cut of highschool musical and glee while were at this, then Disney is the best pick me up ever.
  • 6. Watch your favourite TV shows. Remind yourself why life can be awesome. Watching your fav characters usually means you can relate to them.
  • 7. Go on walks - it's very pretty outside, and sometimes our heads can be overloaded with information or stress, I advise calming music and a nice walk outside in comfortable clothes.
  • 8. Have a diary. A friend of mine recently bought me one, and it's a godsend because all the anger, or emotions I feel, I try to put in the diary rather than putting it out on others. It also calms you down. I feel better when I write.
  • 9. Speaking of writing...if you enjoy it- WRITE. Writing is a wonderful way to escape. You can put all your emotions into your characters and they just come to life. I tend to do that when I'm stressed.
  • 10. If writing is not your thing then bake. I've actually ironically read in a fan fiction where a character would bake when stressed and try out new recipes, this character tried making butterbeer; maybe be adventurous; have a food blog or something to keep you occupied.
  • 11. Be With Your Pets - Pets are loyal creatures, and they love you, even when you're being a pain in the ass, and I hear they're very good listeners.
  • 12. Now I don't know about you, but I LOVE Musicals. If you are a musical fanatic like me and you're feeling a little down, my dears; listen to those awesome voices, because sometimes we just - need - a break (Also, if you haven't watched RENT, watch it - NODAYBUT TODAY...or Starkid...Starkid make the most funniest musical parodies, even if you don't like musicals I suggest it, and if you're not enjoying their YouTube Channel, then I'll eat my own hat).
  • 13. ASK ME ANYTHING. If you really want to talk to somebody but you don't want to talk to people you know and you just want to get things out, my ASK box is always open.
  • 14. Find a hobby. If you don't really want to talk to anybody, that's okay, sometimes we need to just have some 'me time'. In my me times, I usually deactivate from Facebook, and just focus on things that make me happy. Like; Puzzles, Sudoku, Games, writing, cooking, singing, whatever it is...travelling even. Enjoy yourself.
  • 15. Travel. Maybe being stuck in the same place is the problem, maybe you're head wants to be in a place where it can ACTUALLY THINK.
  • 16. Go Hiking. I suppose Hiking is similar to walking but if you're an outdoor person, this is a great way to clear your head and to feel fresh.
  • 17. Hit The Gym. Or even do your own exercises. I like to walk - do crunches, and I love Zumba. I love dancing. If you love being active, this is also another way to clear your mind from negative things.
  • 18. GO SEE A MOVIE!!! When was the last time you had fun? Even if it's just by yourself. You're allowed to treat yourself. Go, enjoy, be surrounded by people, even if they're strangers.
  • 19. If you like coffee, treat yourself for one at a local cafe. Who knows, you might meet your coffee soulmate in a cafe one day.
  • 20. STOP thinking Negative. Have a Pros/Cons List. Try not to outweight the Pros list with the Cons. Please?
  • You are good enough.
  • 21. Write down a bucket List, and start ticking them off. Having goals and dreams is healthy. If you have dreams, then you have a direction of where you're going.
  • 22. Get help. It's okay, if you're head is in a really bad place to reach out to people. It really is okay.
  • 23. Help others. If you're not sure what to do with yourself at all, be useful to other people less fortunate than you. Volunteer! Work with Charity, Feed the homeless, help the guide dogs association.
  • 24. Smile more. It looks good on you, believe me. Spend time with your guilty pleasures, my guilty pleasure is binge watching glee
  • 25. Please DO NOT go to a pub to drink to ease your mind, if you are going to do that, do it with a friend, or somebody close.
  • 26. Eat Chocolate. Okay yes while society says NO DON'T EAT THE FATTY FOOD. Hey; screw them. If you feel better eating a bit of junk go for it. There's nothing wrong with eating a whole pizza or tub of ben and jerry ice cream when feeling upset - just try not to make TOO much of a habit : p
  • 27. REBLOG YOUR FOLLOWERS POSTS, you might be surprised that you aren't the only one feeling the way you're feeling, you might be surprised by how much you're forgetting that hey - it's gonna be alright.
  • 28. Do something nice for your neighbour. Ah who knows, have you ever actually talked to them? Maybe they might be lonely too.
  • 29. Have a GAMES Night. A very good friend of mine loves Games. If You LOVE Games, then hell have a marathon of them. Play the sims, be in control.
  • 30. Speaking of marathons...dun dun dun - MOVIE MARATHON, I Don't Know About You Guys, But Having A Harry Potter Movie Marathon always cheers me Up. WITH FOOD Of course, and good company, but this is about cheering yourself up, so if you don't want company, that's okay.
  • 31. Draw. I love drawing too. I suppose I'm more of the creative person. There are a lot of different types of people out there, maybe you like solving things - do those fancy cube things Idk what they're called. If you are like my brother and you love Maths, then maybe you can tutor someone. On one hand you're helping someone, and doing something you like doing, just like I'm drawing because I like drawing.
  • 32.Be with kids. believe it or not, kids are the most innocent little munchkins, and they honestly don't care what you look like, if you play hide and seek with them they'll be thrilled, so long as you're nice to them, they're generally nice to you... but be warned, they tell it how it is too. I talk a bit different. The most popular thing they've said to me was "Is that why you talk funny, because of the things in your teeth?" (They've also never really seen braces before) I even had one kid determined to get me to sing 'Everything is awesome' I'll never forget that because this kid clearly didn't care how I sounded, and just wanted me to sing with her. I felt great.
  • 33. If you're into Fairy Tales, Please Please Read Chris Colfer's The Land Of Stories series 1-4. It's an amazing series, and you almost forget what world you're in once you start reading. Plus, there's more coming (I'm a little excited)
  • 34. Watch Pixar Movies. You can't go wrong.
  • 35. GO TO HOGWARTS. Harry Potter Fan? Visit - Platform 9 3/4s in London, or go to the Harry Potter World, or if you can't actually visit these sites, go on Pottermore.
  • 36. Read Fan Fiction, you might not be a harry potter fan, but whatever fandom you are in, believe me sometimes Fan Fictfion Cheer me up. I adore Glee *Don't Judge Me* and Dalton is the best thing ever. Or Little Numbers...or Both. They cheer me up big time.
  • 37. Role play. If you like superheroes or characters, go be with the crowd. I believe they have events like Comic Con, and on Facebook they even have Events for such things, go be with strangers! So long as it's safe of course.
  • 38. Write a letter to the person who inspires you most and send it. You might be surprised by an answer.
  • 39. Pick up your instrument. Don't ignore your musical talent if you do have a musical talent. Remember, you're worth it. I don't care what you've done. Pick, It Up.
  • 40. Maybe go visit your family? I know this is about 'quality me time' but if you haven't seen your family in such a long time or are at a distance. Maybe being surrounded by something familiar is what you need.
  • 41. Change Careers. If you're not enjoying what you're doing or studying, change it. I remember in highschool a teacher said you might change your job 10 - 12 times before getting it right. It'okay, you just haven't found where you're meant to be yet.
  • 42. Enter a competition - Who knows what will come from it, take risks.
  • 43. If you're a risk-taker, challenge yourself. IDK how you're going to do that, but google has some pretty good answers. Even ask your tumblr followers, they follow you for a reason after all.
  • 44. Go on a boat. Go Fishing! I don't know, it's not my thing, but if you like fishing, then hell - go out there and fish.
  • 45. Find time for yourself, are you working too much? Maybe you are working too much. You know life doesn't stop for nobody, and if you keep pushing yourself so hard, time will go so fast and you won't realise how much of that time you could have spent on your own self.
  • The world is not going to end if you treat yourself.
  • 46. You ARE Good Enough. Listen to my words. Sometimes encouragement is all we need, when people feel hopeless, or like everything's gone wrong. It's gonna be okay. I promise, just hang in there.
  • 47. Write Down Quotes that Inspire You. I have a wall of these, and of people that inspire me too, and it reminds me of the good things in life when I'm in a crappy mood.
  • 48. Find something to do. If you're not doing anything, go take up a course, research things that interest you, you might be surprised by what comes from it. Join a community that enjoys doing things you do.
  • 49. Go To The Beach - If you live in Australia like me, visiting the beach is actually really calming and me and my best friend always would go on a random drive, and drive up to a beach or a look out, and it was always calming. Enchanting too sometimes. Maybe we forget about the place we live in, and what's exciting about the place. If you're in New York, visit Broadway or The Statue Of Liberty, or if you're in London, go to the London Bridge, or the Eye, visit the Eiffel Tower if you're in Paris...just go Anywhere.
  • 50. Take a random journey. Go on a train to somewhere new, go on a road trip. You never know what's around the corner.

anonymous asked:

(1/2) Just on the same topic you wrote about private pictures, I still don't understand how her fans don't see her real intention when D became famous. Just looking at their own words (not mine): "Being closely associated with someone in the public eye -which was never something I really wanted or thought I would be- it wasn’t a predicament I thought I would find myself in." Ok, she says that when D became famous overnight she didn't want to become famous herself by association with him. (cont.)

(2/2) Then D said: “This was like, maybe a week after I’d been on Glee. I had a picture of me and my girlfriend that I loved, like one that I put in a frame just to keep around the apartment. And she posted it on Facebook, and I just remember going: ‘No, don’t do that cause now is OUT THERE!’ And now I can like, Google and find that picture. And I was like “No man! That’s our photo!” Do you think M listened to his pleas? No! Cause in Jan. 3 2011 she posted another couply miar/ren pic on her FB.

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Me too, anon, me too… I don’t get it either how her fans don’t see what is really going on, when it’s always so very obvious with every little thing that is happening. And the second we point it out, they (i.e. her and the team) lay low for a few days, to pretend that they are far from what we said - only to begin again a bit later. It’s always the same pattern.

Whenever I see pictures from events or even videos, like the one where she is supposed to quickly walk past the cameras (Nobody could have misunderstood what was being said in that one video.) and then suddenly runs up to D to pose for pictures, while he looks confused and more than mildly annoyed, I think about that quote from her that you mentioned. She basically claims that she never wanted fame or attention - either through somebody else or any other way. I mean, if she is famous, she will always be associated with someone in the public eye. It’s part of this business and she knows it. What she said there, is simply her way of trying to get people to feel sorry for her (as usual) and to distract from her real motives. Judging by what her fans are saying to this day, she was at least successful to get them to believe it. Well, at least some of them. When I see pictures of her on a red carpet, I always ask: “I thought you didn’t want any attention?” Every single time.

About D’s quote though… I have to say that I don’t believe these were truly his words - at least not all of them. Yes, he said them, but we know that he wasn’t alone there, which makes it more difficult to leave something out or change it from the narrative he is supposed to tell. Anyway, I don’t think it was a picture that he loved. I think it was one of those old pictures that they have a lot of. Pictures that get posted when needed to prove something. So, when she posted it on her FB, he likely did complain about it, but not because he loved it and because it was “their” photo. If he said something, it was about her posting that picture without there being a reason for it. She just went ahead and did it to get in on all the attention that he was getting. But like you said, she didn’t listen or care and posted more pictures after that - on FB, Twitter, Snapchat, IG. What she is doing there, is the opposite of private. She always documents every little thing she is doing, especially when D is there. Does anybody think he would like his real partner to do that? After he claimed again and again that he keeps his private life private? What she is doing is such a contradiction to what he is saying and if she cared, she would stop. But since she isn’t stopping or telling any of her so-called friends to stop, it shows how much she really cares… And before anybody says that D posts such pictures, too: Of course, he does - when he has to. This should be an even bigger hint for everybody. Somebody who values his private life and wants it to remain private, goes and posts pictures from before or after an event or from a trip somewhere on his public accounts? Doesn’t sound right, does it? (Just for the record: Many of you already know what I think about D and social media and how often he truly posts something himself.)

All of this should make more people suspicious, but I sometimes fear that they are blind on that eye and pretend they didn’t see it happening. If they would just pay a little bit more attention…

anonymous asked:

it's about the pattern. not JJ's pattern, all shows and f/f ships. we've seen actors/producers do this many times. everyone thinks they're special and should be judged on their life of goodness. no. an action can be judged against the systemic pattern too. "not the story we're telling, just friends, i don't see it, won't happen, family show"-- this constitutes a visible pattern. the pattern is homophobic, i don't care what your feefees were at the time. also "ignorance of the law..."

Late ass reply, and I honestly hate to bring the topic up, but here we go:


“Family show” is different, actually homophobic. Has the secret meaning of “seeing gay people living their lives is harmful to children”. (This is what I mean by an innately homophobic phrase)

“Not the story we’re telling” is shady to me, because it feels like “we’re not being activists, we’re telling normal stories” which is offensive, but it might just actually be their way of saying “we’re not gonna go that direction” ? Depends on if my vibes about it are right.

“They’re only friends” is just alerting us to whether or not they’re gonna get together.

This isn’t a package deal. Saying one of these things doesn’t mean you mean or think the others, regardless of what other people have said in the past.


And the way they emphatically said it wasn’t, “you’re crazy for thinking it’s a possibility!” 

It seemed more like, “everyone is going crazy for this thing that’s not actually gonna happen.” Like a half put-on exasperation. Exasperation that we have no reason to believe exists because the ship is gay. 

(The common theory is that Jeremy’s reaction had to do with the fandom’s intensity. It’s both eclipsing of the canon content that they’re actually working on on purpose, and has been historically aggressive. Personally, I think Melissa was just kinda going with it for humor.)


And just in case anyone was wondering: these writers deciding not to make both of their leads wlw just isn’t homophobic.

There is indeed a pattern of not having representation in the media, not including diversity in shows over and over and over again, when writers who aren’t a minority should still be able to relate to these people enough to tell stories that include them. They should be able to see themselves in these people.

If they can’t, that hints at a larger issue within them…

But shipping is different. 

Someone can’t force themselves to ship something different than their orientation. A straight writer wouldn’t feel pleasure in writing a gay relationship any more than a gay writer would feel pleasure in writing a straight relationship.

Any more than a gay person would feel pleasure in watching a straight relationship.

Expecting a straight person to change their lead- who is often their favorite character and who they most relate to- so that they start dating someone of the same sex, when they themselves aren’t of that orientation and can’t feel the emotion of the relationship, is expecting too much. 

If that decision were made, it would be specifically for the benefit of the fans, for the cause, and maybe because they’re logically interested in the prospect. But they would not feel it in a romantic, emotional way. Not the way we do.

And writers write things they want to see more than they write for other people to see it.

If you’ve written fanfiction, you know that you don’t want to write for a ship you don’t ship. You might do it from time to time, in small doses for people who request something about them, but your main focus is the ship that you do like. (Side note: imagine your frustration if the ship you do like to write about is massively less popular than the one you don’t.)

This might be why most lgbt+ characters are side characters. Because the writers can’t relate to them in that way, and they want the most important character to also be their favorite character. 

They can’t project themselves onto the characters and feel like they’re experiencing the romance. 

And if the story is romance-focused, then it is especially unlikely that they’d have the main character be gay. Not unless there is some degree of fluidity in their sexuality. 

The solution is to have writers who can relate. 

Lgbt+ writers.

When writers see that the fans like something a lot, they take a second look at it, and if they agree, they might change the story. 

But straight writers will never agree about gay chemistry, because they can’t feel it.

And so we need more wlw/mlm/etc. writers out there, so that when we show a writer that this other ship has chemistry, they’ll be able to feel it and then possibly turn the story in that direction, instead of only advancing the gay ships that they had designated from the beginning. 

This is where Supergirl has gone wrong, in (what it looks like) pushing Ali Adler, lesbian writer, off the show. That’s what we should be raging about. 

That a writer who might have seen the chemistry is gone. 

Not that these writers don’t personally see the chemistry of a specific ship.


Also, you can’t say “let’s compare it to the rest of society” and then leave out the fact that they have an actual canon lesbian ship

That’s the full picture. 

And not just because they have some positive track record that absolves them, but because it means that this isn’t “give us a gay character!” to which they respond with “~We don’t want to tell that story~.” 

(Or show us that, in never having a gay character or only having one for five minutes)

This is, “Make this specific character gay!” 

And then they respond with, “No, actually, we plan to keep that one straight.”


So if this is the reason that what they said is homophobic, then you’re also mad at the actors for just knowing what the writers are doing.

If I had gotten a lot of asks sent to me saying “Lena and Kara might actually end up being canonically together!” I might have responded in the same way.

“They’re not gonna get together, they’re (canonically) only friends.”

Now, I’d have more tact than Jeremy, because I know people’s real feelings are involved in this, but even if I were blunt about it, it wouldn’t make me homophobic. 


And your “ignorance of the law” argument just doesn’t apply to the fandom’s “feefees”.

Because that’s what’s happening. 

It’s not that the cast was ignorant that what they were saying was homophobic (because it wasn’t), it’s that they were ignorant that lgbt+ fans’ feelings would be hurt because they hold the ship close to their heart.

It’s like if someone called the rainbow flag ugly, not realizing that people are very emotionally attached to it’s image. 

It’s kind of like, “They should probably know that people might feel that way…” but calling the flag ugly isn’t actually homophobic.

Now, if they think it’s ugly because it reminds them of gay people, that’s homophobic. 

If they called it ugly to purposefully hurt gay people, that’s homophobic.

But we can’t know that that’s what they’re thinking from just that statement alone, just like we can’t know what Jeremy and Melissa were thinking from just their statements. 

(This is where examples of their past “allyship” come into play. It’s not “Melissa was on glee so she can’t be homophobic.” 

It’s “Hey, because of their track record, we have no reason to think there was anything secretly nefarious behind what they said. They just didn’t realize how seriously wlw take their non-canon ships.”)

And yet people have been automatically projecting homophobia onto what they said.

They’re placing mockery of gay fans or feelings of disdain for two women being together onto the event when it just isn’t there.

If anything, I think if Jeremy and Melissa were actually uncomfortable with Supercorp, they’d have been exponentially more careful with their words.

anonymous asked:

can i ask why u don't like her? i don't either but i wondered why u don't

I don’t like her for a lot of reasons but my biggest annoyance with her is the fact that she’s made to be this perfect person with no flaws and she feeds into it. Have you seen her instagram? It’s basically a photographers wet dream.You want to share photos of your kids, your bees, your flowers and whatever else go for it. But do not treat your children like props and please stop being fake. If you take a look at her twitter and her instagram can you find me one single photo that shows some sort of flaw? The kids are always smiling, they’re always poised and they never even have a stain on their shirt. They’re kids and you’re telling me they don’t get dirty? Here are some of my other reasons for disliking her…

Judgmental:

Her twitter is usually pretty tame. She doesn’t post anything that could spark any sort of controversy, she rarely interacts with the fans and she knows when to tweet. By that she knows when Jared is getting attention and she’s just gotta bring it right back to her. Here are some examples x x x x  of her being judgmental or bringing the attention right back to her. Is smoking good? No. Is it good to do it around a child? No. But it’s not your place to judge that person! Who gives a shit how someone lives their life? Jared seemed to be having a great time at SDCC and she just had to point out that it was trending and that she missed him. You’ve never tweeted about SDCC before but now all of a sudden you’ve just gotta point out that it’s trending? Here’s a link to the article she mentioned in the one tweet. Are all Italians in the mob? No. Do all Russians like vodka? No. So please don’t paint all sorority girls with the same brush.

Liar:

She’s been known to be inconsistent with her story but I like to call it her being a liar. Let’s take a trip down memory lane, shall we? To start the wedding photos, engagement photos and rehearsal dinner photos were all stolen. That’s a little odd because that was a shit ton of photos to be stolen and who could possibly access that many photos without someone alerting Gen or Jared? But wait! A couple years back she approaches the ladies of DLG and tells them how the photos were released with her permission and she chose which photos the photographer could put in her online portfolio. Did she tell the fandom as to stop people from thinking they were stolen? Nope. Set’s up a charity that supports equality but spends 90% of her time with a family that hates same sex marriage. She’s all for girl power but never about this before she had a girl. Now she’s so proud to be a female! It’s like having a girl is what truly made her a mom. Paleyfest rolls around (oh my God, those pictures of Jared kissing her are so bad!) and she tells the interviewer how it’s pilot season and she’s trying hard to book something. Couple months later and she’s pregnant with Tom. Oddly enough Jared told the fandom he wanted to wait to start a family because he wanted to be able to be home with the kids. Later down the road Jared says Gen wants to act but she’s busy with Tom and he’s lucky she’s putting her career on hold like that. Guess what happens? She gets pregnant again! She does a podcast and tells them how she’s just auditioned for the part in a TV show and wanted the fans to tweet said TV show about her getting the part. Then we find out she’s pregnant again! Anyone else seeing a pattern? She tells the DLG ladies that she doesn’t want to do cons, they just aren’t her thing and she doesn’t want to take away from Jared. Really???? Judging by JibCon and Asylum she LOVES being on the stage. She’s an attention seeking bitch. And please, she did not get high. That train story has gotten so fucked up that she actually tells a different variation of it to sound cool and give herself a bigger part in it than she originally had. The reason why she’s never had her own panel is because creation had gotten sick of asking her and her saying no. She’ll dress the boys and dogs up in Seahawks gear because that’s her team but when she goes to a game with Jared she wears HIS team. Logical.

Her Instagram fail:

This one should be obvious but I’ll explain why I cannot stand this woman’s attempt at a lifestyle blog. For one she’s making it seem like all these photos are completely candid and weren’t taken by an actual photographer. She’s using her kids, Jared and the fandom for her own personal gain and I find that to be disgusting. All the photos have the perfect caption and show off just the right thing to get the most amount of likes. She knows damn well the pictures with the kids will get the most likes so she posts them when she’s feeling needy and wants attention.She talks about how a “mylkshake” gets the kids to eat their veggies but doesn’t give them a sugar rush. But just last week she gives the kids ice cream and tells us how the sugar rush is real. I’m all for giving kids sugar but also giving them healthy food as well. She acts like she’s the only parent that does these things. My other favorite post of hers is when she talks about missing me time. At that point she attended her brothers wedding, went to a fashion show with her bestie, went to the zoo, had a couple workout dates with the bestie and also went to the beach with her trainer, bestie, besties beard and a disgusting homophobic pic. Not a lot of moms can do all these things and then have the audacity to complain about not having me time. Tells people how it can take a village to gets kids to eat properly. What in the actual fuck? People need to spend 600$ on a blender for kids to eat their vegetables? Why in the hell are you letting your kids dictate what they eat? Keep putting their vegetables in a blender and covering the taste with fruit and they’ll never eat them. Her friend Nicole owns her own baby food company and Gen just loves this! But Nicole often says not to mix fruits and vegetables so kids can learn to eat right without sugar being present. Here she agrees with a fan on how to avoid picky eaters but with her instagram all she’s doing is insinuating that her boys are difficult eaters. The kids rule that house while dads are in Vancouver. So, yeah. Her instagram is not a lifestyle blog for the average person. It’s a platform for her to show off her perfect life, perfect family and how much better she is than everyone else.

Miscellaneous:

She doesn’t support Jared unless it’s to tweet that she’s proud of him. She didn’t even wear an AKF shirt! She admits that she didn’t do anything to prepare for the role of Ruby even though almost every single actor that comes on that show to be 2.0 or something says how they study the other person. All she did was take a character and ruin her and then complain when people had a problem with her rendition of the acting. It’s over the top or nothing with this girl. She can never just share a simple picture. She’s gotta have the perfect caption and she likes to try and fool people. Posts a picture of Jared and the baby making it sound like she just took the picture moments before hand. When actually it was taken the day they celebrating JJ. I absolutely hate how she spends JARED’S money on complete garbage. This bracelet cost almost 900$ and looks like a child could have made it. Yes, she does come from money but I seriously doubt that her parents are still giving her money to pay for her extravagant lifestyle. I believe she had a trust fund from her grandparents but I doubt that’s still there especially with he way she likes to spend money.

The fandom treats her like she’s made of glass and she’s right there with them because she loves the attention.Being made the victim is right up her alley.

namara-ashina  asked:

i don't know why people are surprised you would ship moana/maui after your history of shipping sess/kag. both are awesome by the way and your art is amazing! (isn't max also some kind of immortal?)

LONG POST warning.


WELL my preference for sesskag aside even the canon pairing of Inuyasha/Kagome would be technically problematic by sjw standards now cuz Inu is still hundreds of years older as well. But again immortal/mortal ships aren’t NEW it’s been around forever but I suspect that it’s acceptable in most stories because the guys in question are often times HANDSOME. I mean Bella is completely fine with Edward stalking and breaking into her room to watch her sleep cuz he was hot amirite. Don’t think she’d feel the same way if he actually looked not 17/was ugly. And look how many people completely mooned over that despite the fact that he turned out to be a pretty manipulative and abusive guy. Are immortal characters (but men mostly cuz double standards for ladies including being judged by women fans themselves lol) absolved of all their wrong behavior because they’re hot? (similarly what is up with ppl only caring about a different race or even species in fiction only if they’re attractive. I doubt anyone would care as much about all those blue kitty ppl in Avatar either if they weren’t extremely long legged humanoid supermodels but that’s a different conversation) In short people are shallow.

And if you think about the terms of “acceptable” where Inuyasha despite being hundreds of years older ACTS like a fucking stupid boy it’s also considered OK I guess. Maui ACTS like he’s always young at heart even if he’s around forever. The difference therefore lies mostly in the superficial. I dunno, perhaps cuz he’s not traditionally attractive in terms of society’s standards or even cuz he’s a POC or thick. I mean, if you look at a lot of canon princes and princesses in media all the girls are usually younger than their love interests with the most significant age gap recently between Flynn(24) and Rapunzel(17). The youngest being Snow White at 14 in her story. (Haha and let’s not forget that Juliet was fucking 12). Doesn’t make it better but everyone seems to be so OK with these.

But that aside, I understand why someone would be uncomfortable with a ship and I personally don’t have anything against them cuz they’re feelings are valid and whatever ppl want to ship or not is their business. Like I’ve said before whatever floats your boat your dash is your place so fill it with only things you like. Block, Scroll Past, Unfollow whatever you want. All I ask in return is for the same courtesy to leave me to my own business and not go attacking other ppl for something that they like–which I had explained in this post is something often times not even explainable why you like something. It’s irrational, the heart wants what it wants right Tamatoa fans? People just want to be left alone to enjoy what they want nobody is forcing others to like the same things they do.

Besides that, when I ship characters I usually go based on their character dynamic and how I feel they are fit for each other. It has nothing to do with a preference for immortal ships. I usually strive to show when I portray them that I care about the fact that they are equals. That I see their relationship is grounded in their mutual respect and friendship for each other. That I see it developing over years and is essentially kind of timeless and most importantly is not dependent on sexual/physical attraction which is secondary to me. Also if you can really sell it to me and convince me why a pairing works I can be won over even if I wasn’t on board before. And honestly that’s how I feel about SessKag/most of my ships too? 

Like if we’re getting back to SessKag I’m actually pretty annoyed with common trope that either of the characters are only in it to get to the other one’s pants and there is no deeper substance to come out of that relationship besides the fact that hey you’re hot and I’m hot which is fine but if you’re again trying to go back to oh but immortal/mortal ship nobody really cares as long as the characters are bone-able. I just think ppl need to start taking to take a good hard look at themselves if the only reason why they’re OK with other immortal/mortal ships but not this one boils down to the fact that either of the parties involved is not attractive.

Also ppl who equate fandom to real life extremes needs a reality check and I also explained that again here. again that’s like saying “You’re pro-choice so that must mean you’re a murderer.” Ridiculous.

This was a rant and not entirely coherent I’m sorry. 

p.s. I don’t think Max is immortal he’s just subject to the whims of George Miller’s hand-wavey timeline (i.e. GM admitted to not really caring about accurate time tracking cuz Max’s stories are meant to take on a myth-like quality. and so his adventures themselves immortalize him).

anonymous asked:

hey! just wondering, why do many cristiano fans not like messi? is it simply because of the whole rivalry/competition between them? or has messi done something that people don't like? i know many messi fans hate on cris because he's "arrogant" and stuff, so why do many ronaldo fans not seem to like messi? i know there are many cris fans that respect messi but im just wondering if i'm not aware of something messi has done that people don't like him? thanks! :)

Phew ok this will be a lot so heads up.

I respect Messi as a talented footballer, don’t get me wrong, but he’d be a flop if he left Barcelona. When it comes to the Messi v Ronaldo thing it’s all about playing preference (if you take the rivalry seriously and don’t judge it on Cristiano’s fancy hairstyles). I like Ronaldo because he is complete. He can score goals from freekicks, his left, his right, his head, his knee. He will lap back and help defense. He will play midfielder. Messi…. he stands around usually and waits for someone to pass it to him. IMO it’s been proven that if the play isn’t centered around him, he’s worthless. Anyone that knows how to kick a ball would score a ton of goals if you CONSTANTLY received the ball from all of your team mates.

On a personal level I, again, choose Ronaldo. Messi fans tend to label Cristiano as “arrogant.” Yes… he is arrogant. Not in the way they try to make it seem though. He knows he’s a good player. He knows many women think he’s attractive. Yet they blame him for recognizing that fact? I don’t get it. But what a lot of people tend to overlook is ALL the AMAZING things Cristiano does for people. He’s donated SO MUCH MONEY to charity. He donated one of his golden boots like wow? I mean that’s crazy, I’ll admit I wouldn’t give that up. He doesn’t have tattoos so he can be a bone marrow donor. He paid for a life saving cancer treatment for a child. Like I could go on forever. But let’s stray away from the whole tax deduction stuff and get to the real shit. You see a person/child run onto the field Messi cringes away. (I have seen footage of him being decent but yeah still I’ve seen plenty where he’s acting like a little dick). Ronaldo? Always takes the time to appreciate them. Always is super nice. My favorite case was one that happened last summer in the USA. A younger guy ran onto the field and embraces Cris and they talk for a good 2ish minutes? That guy told Cristiano he thinks of him as a father figure because his father left him and he was an inspiration to him. Cristiano keeps all the security away to talk to him about it. After that since the guy was an adult he was put into jail and Ronaldo wrote a letter to the police HIMSELF asking them to drop charges. The guy could’ve gotten deported because of this. Ronaldo had a back up plan however and said he’d pay for his education if that happened.

Let’s talk about some of the really shitty things Messi has done, shall we? Well last summer Messi set up that Messi and friends game. Well his agents sold tickets worth $2500 a piece to meet him after. Messi never showed up. Never gave a reason. Never gave their money back. Broke a lot of his fans hearts. That sure is a good role model there. I will also direct you to my favorite Messi skill video: (x) so lovely of him to intentionally shoot a ball into a crowd of Madridistas. Can I also throw in that when Cris ACCIDENTALLY shoots into a crowd and hurts someone he makes up for it by signing a shirt and giving it to them as well as just APOLOGIZING, but Messi does no wrong so why should he apologize? You could also read this report: (x) can’t promise it’s worth a grain of salt, but I have heard things like this before and it claims to be from a reliable source. Honestly, I think he’s a shit human being as well. Not everything is at it seems.

You also have to appreciate all that Ronaldo has been through in his life and yet here he is the best player in the world. His dad died when he was 21. He sat through his mom fighting off cancer (and then donated 100000 to the hospital that saved her life so they could better their cancer center). He’s under CONSTANT criticism. Yet he takes all that and grows from it. He doesn’t let it pull him down, he uses it to become stronger. He’s my hero. I’ve been through a lot in my life, a lot of similar experiences as Ronaldo, and he inspires me to push through it and keep going. 

I BEG you to look read up on him. Learn all you can about how amazing he is. I really can’t describe how much this man has changed my life and how in debt to him I am. 

I’ll end this with my favorite quote:

“Your love makes me strong, your hate makes me unstoppable.”

Age Gap - Requested (Ashton)

This was requested by Anon (hello, i was wondering if you could do an Ashton imagine where you’re almost 3 years younger than him so he likes to take care of you and make sure you’re still with him and ok when walking through crowds and just being like really cutely overprotective) ENJOY!!!

‘I don’t wanna move’ you whine, lying on the made bed with your eyes closed. You feel the bed dip and hear Ashton moving about, then a pressure on your belly, you open one eye to see him resting his head on you.

'You don’t have to come, I could meet you after’ he offers.

'No, no I want to come, let me just wake up a little’ you tell him closing your eyes again and you hear him chuckle, then his head moves again, you feel his hot breath on your face. You open one eye to see him smirking above you, he comes closer his lips brushing your. 'I have a way to wake you up’ he whispers before pressing his lips to your, you arts you lips right away to allow his tongue in, he moans into your mouth and you fist his hair. There is a knock, you both ignore it, you bit down a little on his lip and he moans again, until there is another knock.

Ashton drops his head into your neck and sighs, ‘that’s all the waking up we have time for’ you laugh and he chuckles as he climbs off you. And heads straight for the door, you see Michael and give him a small wave. ‘Morning’ you smile as you walk past and he ruffles your hair a little.

You head down the elevator with Ashton and Michael. ‘I swear I’m never gonna find a girl that will wake up with me at five in the morning to watch me at the studio’ Michael bursts out; you smile a little at his comment.

'Probably not mate cause you spend all your time with mine’ Ashton teases and you playfully glare at him and slide your arm around Michael waist and cuddle into his side, 'don’t be mean to Michael’ you kiss Michael cheek, making Ashton glare at the both of you as you and Michael laugh, the elevator doors open and Ashton grabs your hand, holding it tight.

'Luke and Calum are already out with fans there are loads of them’ Michael cheers skipping off towards the door, Ashton pulls you a little closer. 'You okay babe?’ He whispers as he kisses your temple, you nod and smile up at him as you step out, the screams filling your ears, Ashton pulls you over to the fans, they greet you and are lovely but as soon as Ashton let’s go of your hand you walk ahead to the car.

’(Y/N)’ you hear your name called and turn to see a guy, he is wearing a band shirt and as two other girls with him and a little girl. You smile and step towards them. You spend a couple of minutes chatting, when you look up you notice the nice group of fans has turned into a huge, loud, dangerous crowd of fans, you can’t see the boys or any of the security, you’re not far from the car, actually only a couple of feet away so you excuse yourself and turn to walk to the car, knowing it would be the safest place but you freeze hearing a huge shout.

'STOP!’ The crowd slowly grow quieter and you hear Ashton shout 'THIS IS OUT OF CONTROL, CAN ANYONE SEE (Y/N)!’ you close your eyes and shake your head a little what the hell is he doing, you stand on your tiptoes and wave your arm 'Here’ you shout, fans start to move a little and Ashton comes into view he starts to rush over bit you shake your head. 'I’ll wait in the car’ you tell him and slide into the back seat.

That was the most embarrassing thing in your life; he made you look like you can’t look after yourself, Jesus he makes you look like a little kid. Maybe that’s how he does think of you, as a little kid. You try not to think about it too much; age gaps have never meant anything to you until dating Ashton. All your friends are dating guys a little older, three years really is nothing but the media and fans have been making it a huge part of our relationship and it’s starting to bug you.

The boys start to pile in the car, Calum and Luke first they are talking about something until Calum slides over to sit next to you and smile a little. ‘You okay?’ He asks and you nod, ‘Lier what’s up?’ Luke adds in.

'Did you guys not find that whole, can find (Y/N) thing a little over the top?’ You ask, Luke shrugs and looks out the window and you see Calum try go look away. 'So you did?’ You pressure.

'We were just saying it was a little too much, and to do it in front of all the fans, we never know how some will react to that you know, you could get more hate from it, they might feel like he cares more about you than them which of course he does but when he is with them he should you know be with them, plus it make you look like a little ch…’

'Guys’ Luke whispers and you both look to see Ashton coming towards the car, and stop talking about it, Calum goes to move seats but you hold his wrist to tell him to stay and he does.

'Babe are you okay? Why did you walk off? I was so worried, when the crowd got bigger, I dunno what could have happened to you, don’t do that again’ he rambles, you want to tell him you’re not a child but you know he is only doing it because he cares well that’s what you hope.

'I can look after myself Ash’ you chuckle a little to make it light but he shakes his head, 'Not against all them you can’t’ and again you feel like a kid being scolded, you don’t reply, don’t nod, you do nothing but turn and watch the fans as we drive past.

——————

'She’s super sweet, I like her, I mean sure she’s a little different but the boys don’t judge’ you try to reassure Michael but he still looks worried.

'It’s not them I’m worried about, it’s the fans. I dunno if she would want to deal with it’ he explains, you nod a little 'and she could do so much better, she should be getting wined and dined by some upcoming lawyer, someone one who will be there when she needs them’ you shake your head.

'Michael just because you’re not there doesn’t mean you’re not there’ you tell him but laugh at your own words and he chuckles too. 'As happy as I am that make you smile, you know what I mean’ you tell him and he nods. 'I guess’.

'What you two talking about?’ Ashton asks as he flops on the sofa next to you, his fingers entwining with yours. 'She’s helping me with some girl things’ Michael chuckles.

'Ohhh relationship guru are you?’ Ashton teases and you flash him a goofy smile. 'How can you give relationship advice when you have only had one relationship?’ Ashton asks, you know he is just teasing but it reminds you again on your inexperience but you stick out your tongue and he kisses you.

—————-

'So boys a question that has come in a few times from your fans is asking if you would date a fan or a girl younger and if so how much younger?’ The male interviewer asks you pull your knees up under your chin; you’re sat on the floor in the room with the security and could of crew members watching the boys do their interview.

'We get asked this so much’ Michael laughs 'I would date a fan, I guess I mean as long as they aren’t screaming in your face then they are just girls you know’ he explains.

'Yeah I think it’s the same, but it could be a little weird if they know everything about you when you meet’ Luke adds.

'Yeah you’d have to play catch up’ Calum laughs 'I would date someone younger too, I dunno I hate these questions cause I think you date people because you like them it doesn’t matter if they are a little younger or a fan you know?’ He explains and the female interview coos.

'Very good answer Calum, Ashton your girlfriend is younger than you right? What that like?’ She asks, you see Ashton shrug.

'I mean it’s the same I guess, I don’t reply think about it. It’s weird sometimes when I talk about something I did when I was a kid or something I watched and she looks at me blank and I realise like she doesn’t know them or something’ Ashton explains and you feel yourself get a little annoyed that he labelled it as weird.

'But she’s the nicest girl in the world and she’s so go damn innocent’ Michael cuts in 'Yeah I feel like we have corrupted her’ Ashton laughs.

'Sometimes if we do something like overly weird in front of her or if Ashton is in like his grumpy mood he let shouts at us for swearing around her or something’ Calum explains.

'Oh one time we were shopping, and there were loads of fans outside so Ashton was on like high alert and (Y/N) went to look at video games with Michael and Ashton couldn’t find her he was like shouting her name and this guy asked if he has lost his daughter, it was hilarious’ Luke tells the story Calum and Michael laughing but Ashton shakes his head.

'And we got back and he was like pulling his hair out and she was just like, we got new games’ Michael finishes.

'It wouldn’t happen if you didn’t run off with her’ Ashton glares at Michael but chuckles at the same time.

'She sounds like quite the girl. So you would all date younger girls?’ The male interviewer asks.

'Yeah’ they answer and nod.

'So you’re happily in a relationship Ashton, and the age doesn’t freak you out, cause it’s like three years right?’ The woman asks and you roll your eyes.

'Yeah it’s three years, when I like over think it I feel like a bit of a creeper when I think I was three and she wasn’t born or when I was eighteen she was only fifteen but I try not to think of it like that’ he explain and you done, heard enough you stand up and slip out without anyone noticing, you get in the first taxi you see and head back to the hotel. You shower and climb in bed not wanting to do anything for the rest of the day you grab your iPad and go on netflics, popping your ear phones on.

Your half way through your film when you notice Ashton come in, you don’t look at him or purse your film you just ignore him, he takes off his jackets and throws it over the chair and then he watches you, you can feel his eyes on you as you try to concentrate on the film, but he rips a bud from your ear.

'Where did you go?’ He looks annoyed and you throw the iPad on the bed beside you and sit up on the edge of the bed.

'I came back Ashton, is that I problem, should I have waited for you to hold my hand while I crossed the road’ you snap.

'What the fuck is wrong with you today, I don’t know what I have done wrong’ he shouts throwing his arms up.

'You’re always treating me like a fucking kids Ashton, this morning with the fans, shouting me like that it was embarrassing, I get enough shit from them without you making me look like a complete useless piece of shit’ you yell.

'If I embarrass you so much why are you here?’ He screams.

'Because I thought I was touring with my boyfriend not my fucking dad’

'What’s that meant to mean?’

'You treat me like a kid all the fucking time. I don’t get my three years is so strange for you. The fans, the media I can handle them going in about it but for you to agree it’s weird I hate it’ you explain, your started with a shout but the more you spoke the quitter you got.

'I don’t think about it..’ He starts but you cut him off 'I know you don’t, because when you do you feel like a creeper right.’ You snap, he doesn’t speak and neither do you the only sound in the room coming from your heavy breaths.

'I don’t need looking after Ashton, I don’t need you to remind me of how shit I was without you, I can’t be with someone that treats me like I kid. I can’t walk to a car by myself, I can’t do anything alone. I hate that you feel like you have to protect me from everything..’

'I do, that’s my job, not because your younger but because your my girl, it my job to protect you, and I do it because I live you so fucking much that thinking of you getting hurt kills me. I don’t care that your three years younger, I wouldn’t care if it was four years or if you were older because I love you so much. And I’m sorry if you feel like I treat you wrong but that’s me, I’m over protective, I’m a little too much sometimes bit it’s all for you’ he explains, you stand frozen, your eyes locked with his from across the room.

'Did you say you love me?’ You ask, your voice strained, he smiles a little and nods. 'Cause that’s the first time anyone ever said that too me so it’s gonna be another first’ you laugh a little.

'Well it’s a first for me to say it, I love you’ you smiles and you run over, jumping into his arms and wrapping your legs around him, to crash your lips to him as his hands hold the back of your thighs. 'I love you too’

From Chelsea

anonymous asked:

Mac's tweet was what it was. Everyone has the right to think it was disrespectful but I don't think it was more disrespectful to Calvin than to Taylor. Plus I am sick of seeing that Calvin is now considered as the perfect guy and I don't agree. I don't think he was reliable and I still can't understand why he stayed so long since he knew he wasn't ready to commit. And no, the decision wasn't mutual but Taylor had no other choice. It's the worst thing that can happen to a woman in love.

You can have your own opinion, but i personally believe that it was disrespectful to them both. It’s like tryna say Calvin was just on a list of men that Taylor goes through and now it’s just like, who’s next? If you don’t find that disrespectful from someone who’s a fan of Taylor then idk what to tell you buddy.

And nobody is saying Calvin is the perfect guy. I don’t think he is, everybody makes mistakes Taylor herself has made many mistakes but that doesn;t mean their mistakes define who they are because they are just learning from them.

And i don’t understand why people keep saying ‘oh i don’t understand why he stayed for so long if he knew he wouldn’t commit’ like??? He loved her. He showed her the path to believe in love again. Just because now they’ve broken up doesn’t mean you can use it as an excuse to say he wasn’t right for her in the first place. And we don’t know anything about Calvin’s personal life because he likes to keep that private. We don’t know how his heart condition is doing, we don’t know about any family issues he may be having, my point is that WE DON’T KNOW. People need to stop using such minimal evidence as proof of what someone’s life is like. He could be going through a very hard time, then on top of that have to balance his career and relationship, and then getting into that car accident wasn’t great either – things like that can damage someone psychologically so i’m certain that it was just getting too much for him. I’m sure Taylor could see that, and she’s a smart woman. She wouldn’t have stayed in a relationship if she knew it didn’t have any potential. I’m sure they both tried to make it work, but love just isn’t always enough.

I personally do think the break up was mutual, and you can have your own opinion as to whether you think it was or it wasn’t, but that doesn’t give us the right to speculate and point fingers Calvin just because we haven’t had closure and need somebody to blame. We have no idea why they broke up. I’m not saying she did, but you never, he could’be broken up with her because of something she did, she could have broken up because of something he did. We! Don’t! Know!  The break up clearly wasn’t dramatic considering they still haven’t deleted all their vacation photos, and Calvin still has his ‘my beautiful girlfriend’ post up, so let’s stop judging a break up as if we’re part of it. And also stop saying things like ‘calvin was never in love with her’ like honestly that’s such bs. A man wouldn’t give his gf a necklace with their anniversary date engraved on it if he wasn’t planning on having more, or grow her a olive tree. We have only idea about anything else he may have done, we also know this because Taylor shared it with us.

We know just as much about their break up as we did about their relationship when they were together. We were only shown what we wanted to see, so stop making Calvin out to be the bad guy just because we’re fans of Taylors.

NOW CAN WE STOP SPECULATING & SPREADING RUMORS AND JUST MOVE ON ALREADY I’M TIRED OF TALKING ABOUT THIS.

In Defense of Caroline Forbes (again) ~

I am so pissed at all the hate being directed towards caroline by her supposed “fans”. anytime i visit something other than the kc tag, i come across “if caroline is kissing him with her rational mind she is dead to me” “her character is destroyed” and i am just ??????????????????????????????

I get that tvd fandom is very ship-centric but how can you put a ship ahead of your favorite character!? caroline could have fucked any random guy i don’t ship her with and i would still love her. not the ship but her. i get people being anti klaroline because they have their own ships that they believe are superior but how can you start hating a character you loved because some other ship happens. like is that all you care about? the character’s romantic interest. is caroline nothing beyond the guy she chooses to kiss? i get that if it were just some character but this is how you judge your favorite character. 

one kiss with the person you believe is wrong for her and she is dead to you?! 

and the people calling her two-faced because she is against DE and now she is going with the “bad guy” too. guess what? the fact that Delena and more importantly Steferine exist is very important to changing caroline’s view of “the right person to be with”. she has been attracted to klaus for a long time but she held herself back because she thought it was “wrong” but then she sees her best friend and now *gasp* her mentor engage in relationships she brackets in the “wrong” category. and she is probably thinking….why can’t i? why shouldn’t i? why can’t i go for someone i like, too? why am i letting all his past misdeeds hold me back when people around me are all going for what they want regardless. 

people are hating on caroline for being ooc but honestly i think they are just thinking of her as this one dimensional goody two shoes. which she isn’t. people change. people contradict themselves. it’s like walt whitman would say, she contains multitudes. this isn’t some out of the blue random moment. this isn’t caroline kissing klaus in 3x14. it is completely within character at this stage. she is actually a complicated, flawed, beautiful character. whether you like klaroline or the fact that they will kiss in the very next episode this does not mean the death of caroline’s character. if anything this is the first real development her character is getting in the last couple of seasons. hate kc all you want but this is your favorite character no longer being stagnant but actually becoming a multi-layered person full of complexities. 

or you know, you could whine that she is making a horrible decision and start hating her. whatever. queen forbes is better off~

anonymous asked:

I don't know if you got the Anon going around about what canon means to you but I would love to hear your take on what canon looks like for us. The other ship is quick to talk about Reedus and those bios to say canon for B£thyl but I don't think actor interviews are a good source. They all lie and troll right? What do you think Caryl is right now? Canon or close or what? Thanksxo

Hi there anonymous friend,

Thank you for your question and for trusting me with it.

Just to be clear - NO I didnt get the ask you are referring to but I did see it on my dash today BUT since you asked me I am more than happy to give you my opinion on the subject.

The term CANON is a relatively “loose” term in any fandom and it seems that its definition also varies from person to person in how they choose to interpret the narrative and it’s outside input.

It’s not set in stone so to speak!

The urban dictionary has it listed as;

“Another word for official. Used quite often in fan fiction to differentiate between the official storyline in which the fan fiction is based on.
OR
Default pairings, often used to describe pairings in fanfiction that are claimed to be obvious. in other words, a couple that is heavily promoted or suggested in the show.”

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