but i did it for the greater good

thenightingalelily  asked:

So what did you think of the ending of ME3? I loved it, in a masochistic "destroyed my heart and left me broken for days" kind of way. I don't really understand why people hated it so much? I mean sure, it's super sad and all, but I think it was a perfect ending to Shepard's saga.

EXACTLY THAT, THANK YOU!! like it leaves so much room for speculation, but I like that about it because it gives you that feeling of sacrificing yourself, thinking, hoping it’s for the greater good and never knowing (maybe) how it turns out. I even love how there’s an option to not choose anything - to come so far and to lose so much… for nothing.

I honestly don’t see what else they could have done other than doing some repetitive ‘oh, look! there’s an easy weak spot after all’ shit. I personally think the choices are fucking tragic great; throughout the trilogy, you face a destroy/control theme. It seems fitting that you’re given the option yourself. And then there’s freaking synthesis we’re you’re basically merging everyone together, DNA, data and all! How do people just see that as 'pick a colour’?! Those choices alone will face long and drastic consequences.

It’s just a masterpiece to me. The music is the most emotional track I’ve ever heard and I bawl my eyes out every time, the visuals are freaking beautiful, and then when you see the energy spread from relay to relay across the galaxy, watching as you realise you finally made that happen? Watching everyone cheer and hug because the nightmare they never though they’d wake from is over?

FUCKING. IMPACTING.

Or then you can fuck up, and not even because you chose not to do anything. No, you can have so little amount of support that the crucible is so unstable that as you fire it, you set everything on fire as it spreads, slightly diminishing the further it spreads, but it completely destroys everything close to it (I experienced that in my first playthrough. I should hate the ending for that, but I don’t) You can even have your own crew die because of it. How did I find that? 

FUCKING. IMPACTING.

It’s the most depressing thing I’ve ever seen in fictional media, and I’d do it all again in a heartbeat.

Creating Conflict

Or, as I call it, causing ~drama~

The key that keeps readers interested in your story is conflict. If nothing is at stake, then there is not much to see. So, here are a few general tips to cause some ripples in the ponds of your characters’ lives.

“Prioritizing”: Your character has two main motives that they have been working towards, but they end up in a situation where they have to sacrifice one to save the other. Depending on how easy or hard the choice is, this range from “disappointing” to “devastating” in the sacrifice. 

Character Flaws: As I talked about in my cornerstones post, every character should have a flaw. Flaws are flaws and not strengths for a reason- they get in the way. Have your character have a moment of weakness, where they lose their values and give in to temptation or get carried away.

 In addition: Even without their key flaws, characters can sometimes just… be wrong. Maybe they miscalculated. Maybe they misunderstood. Maybe they made the wrong guess. They did what everyone does: They Done Messed Up, and now they have to deal with the result.

Liar, Liar: Someone is lying, or even keeping secrets, and now, it’s causing problems. They can’t go forward without the truth, or worse, they are making mistakes due to a warped perception of the situation.

Draw backs: Let the good things come at a cost. One key rule for worlds with magic or superpowers is that all power should come at cost- equal to or greater than the power itself. 

“Because I Said So”: Don’t forget, there are other characters in your story, and even if they are on the protagonist’s own side, they are not always going to just merrily go along with whatever the protagonist said. Maybe they disagree. Maybe they are powerful enough to get in the protagonist’s way, and maybe it’s that important to them that they try. If fighting an enemy is hard, fighting a friend is harder.

Take It Back: Your character makes a decision that seems right at the time. Maybe it was the obvious choice, or maybe it was taking a risk. But uh-oh…now there are unforeseen consequences. 

Or, the opposite…

Decisions, Decisions: Maybe your character has to make a decision where there is not an immediately obvious choice. Make sure that both/all the options have both positive and negative possible or certain outcomes. There is no obvious right or wrong choice. Bonus, it’s funny to watch the fandom debate it later. 

Strip Them Down: Remove your character’s greatest strength. For whatever reason, your character’s most valuable asset is not available, and now, they have to live without it. Bonus mode- it would be really, really helpful if they had it right now!

Or, do the opposite…

Boss Fight: Maybe, instead of your protagonist getting weaker, it’s your antagonist that gets stronger. Strengthen the opposition and see if your characters can adapt to survive, or if they lack what it takes. 

Change of Plan: The rules of the game have changed. This can mean different things depending on your story. They could be literal rules, or more general. Think Hunger Games- did I say two tributes? I meant one, after all. Fight to the death now, please.

Amplify the Emotions: … And the results that come with. People do crazy things in the heat of the moment. You can’t think straight when all you can do is feel. Blinded by anger, sadness, or even joy, your character makes a bad choice. 

*Pile It On: You know what a full plate needs? Even more stuff. Your character is already juggling, trying to balance a variety of responsibilities. So add one more ball. Do they crash and burn immediately? Does it take a while? Do they succeed?  Any which way, the stress is high.

*Note: this one can be difficult on the author, too. Make sure that with all these plot lines, you’re not losing track, yourself.

“Murphy’s Law”: Simply stated, this is a plot tool that says, “whatever can go wrong, will.” I’m just going to say right away… be careful with this one. It’s really frustrating for your audience to watch the characters fail or lose or face misfortune over and over and over again. It makes it feel like nothing will ever come out of rooting for them, so you may as well give up now. Murphy’s Law can be great in the proper proportions, please, let your characters have some victories, or there’s no point to it.

And hey, don’t forget about your inner conflicts. You never know when those are going to have the opportunity to cause trouble. 

Give ‘em hell, kids!*

***disclaimer: you do not have to be a kid to give them hell.

~Penemue

  • Castiel: Where did this tear in reality come from? Huh? This is weird even to me and I'm an angel
  • Castiel: If Dean where here he would say 'Castiel, don't do anything stupid, dumbass!' and 'wait for back-up', then he'd say 'what's with you and the half-cocked ideas?'. He's really rude sometimes...and honestly, where does he even get the nerve?
  • Castiel: Well fuck you Dean
  • Castiel: I don't need anything to be full-cocked! Am going in!
  • *Somewhere far away*
  • Dean: Cas just did something stupid, I can feel it. Why am I NOT surprised? Don't you 'greater good' and 'please trust me Dean', I wouldn't trust you with a plastic spoon! God I hate you
  • Sam: So long-distance fighting is a thing now

◆ —— LILO & STITCH QUOTES STARTER PROMPTS.

  • ’ Why are you all wet? ‘ 
  • ’ Aloha! ’
  • ’ You’re vile. You’re foul. You’re flawed. ' 
  • ’ Ohana means family. Family means no one gets left behind or forgotten. ’
  • ’ If you want to leave, you can. I’ll remember you, though. ’
  • ’ I remember everyone that leaves. ’
  • ’ You! You’re the cause of all this. ’
  • ’ This is my family. I found it all on my own. Is little, and broken, but still good. Ya. Still good. ’
  • ’ Oh, good! My dog found the chainsaw. ’
  • ’ No more caffeine for you. ’
  • ’ Did you lose your job because of me? ' 
  • ’ The managers a vampire. He wanted me to join his legion of the undead. ’
  • ’ Trust me, this isn’t gonna end well. ’
  • ’ I’m sorry I bit you. And pulled your hair. And punched you in the face. ’
  • ’ GIve us a sign you understand any of this. ’
  • ’ Show us that there is something inside you that is good. ’
  • ’ I didn’t teach him that. ’
  • ’ Come on, what’s the big deal? ’
  • ’ Leave my mother out of this. ’
  • ’ You are such a pain. ’
  • ’ Then why don’t you sell me and buy me a rabbit instead? ’
  • ’ I hate it when you use Ohana against me. ’
  • ’ I’m lost. ’
  • ’ Don’t interact with her. ’
  • ’ Oh, we can’t do that. Uh-uh. That would be a misuse of resources. ’
  • ’ Why do you act so weird? ’
  • ’ You look familiar. ’
  • ’ We’re a broken family, aren’t we? ’
  • ’ I shouldn’t have yelled at you. ’
  • ’ You are built to destroy. You can never belong. ’
  • ’ We need something that can defend itself. Something that won’t die. ’
  • ’ I hear you cry at night. ’
  • ’ Do you dream about them? ’
  • ’ You came back. ’
  • ’ Nobody gets left behind. ’
  • ’ I need someone to be my friend. Someone who won’t run away. ' 
  • ’ His destructive programming is taking effect. ’
  • ’ Did you ever kill anyone? ’
  • ’ Are you.. happy? ’
  • ’ I am the one they call when things go wrong and things have, indeed, gone wrong. ’
  • ’ Our family’s little now, and we don’t have many toys. ’
  • ‘ If you want, you could be a part of our family. ’
  • ’ We’d raise you to be good. ’
  • ’ She likes your butt and fancy hair. ’
  • ’ I read her diary. ’
  • ’ Not guilty! My experiments are only theoretical, and completely within legal boundaries. ’
  • ’ He was designed to be a monster, but now he has nothing to destroy. ’
  • ’ I never gave him a greater purpose. ’
  • ’ What must it be like to have nothing, not even memories to look back on in the middle of the night? ’
  • ’ If you promise not to fight anymore, I promise not to yell at you, except on special occasions. ’
  • ’ Stupid head. ’
  • ’ Did you catch fire again? ’
  • ’ This is your badness level. It’s unusually high for someone your size. We have to fix that. ’
  • ’ Don’t leave me, okay? ’
  • ’ Do you want to be taken away? ’
  • ’ You’re just jealous 'cause I’m pretty! ’
  • ’ My friends need to be punished. ’
  • ’ Heard you lost your job. ’
  • ’ Thus far you have been adrift in the sheltered harbor of my patience. ' 
  • ‘ After all you’ve put me through, you expect me to help you just like that? ’
  • ’ He’s very persuasive. ' 
  • ’ I know you had something to do with this. ’
  • ’ Oh, good! I was hoping to add theft, endangerment and insanity to my list of things I did today. ’
  • ’ I prefer to be called evil genius. ’
  • ’ You smell like a lawn mower. ’
  • ’ I have just determined the situation to be far too hazardous! ’
  • ’ Don’t worry. I won’t hit her. ’
  • ’ This is low even for you! ’
  • ’ You are all mine. ’
  • ’ You know I have no choice. ’
  • ‘  Please don’t do this. ’
  • ’ You’re making this harder than it needs to be. ’
  • ’ She needs me. ’
  • ’ Leave me alone to die. ’
  • ’ What is that monstrosity? ’
  • ’ Does this look infected to you? ’
  • ’ You’d better not have rabies. ’
  • ’ Hiding behind your little friend won’t work anymore. ’
  • ’ Didn’t I tell you? We got fired this morning. ’
  • ’ That is the ugliest thing I have ever saw! ’
  • ’ It has no place among us. ’
I hope one day, these good memories will float back to you when you are feeling down and maybe you might know that I did everything I could for you. That love couldn’t be bought or created like that. It happens because it happens. Sure you can tell yourself that you love someone every day but you do not need a constant reminder of what’s in the heart. We know love is greater than all that and choosing someone entirely based on valid criteria, isn’t going to cut it.
—  kissmylime
(IMPORTANT) Binding Safety

Okay friends. So there are these “les lesbian binders” on amazon (I would add pics but idk how to do that on mobile so bear with me). THESE BINDERS ARE SHIT AND WILL FUCK YOU UP.

So early in my “am I trans” journey, I started with these binders. I was working a shitty job (y'all don’t even know like it’s some movie-worthy shit) and I had like no money. But these binders were like $5-$15 EACH. And I was like “fuck yeah gonna get me a chest I love at an affordable price” well, I did. But it came at a greater cost. Those binders don’t stretch. They are the equivalent of wearing ace bandages. AND I WORE THEM EVERY SINGLE DAY FOR SIX MONTHS. at one point I thought “you know what’s a fucking fantastic idea? IF I WORE TWO BINDERS ON TOP OF EACH OTHER” given they were both the shitty “les lesbian binders”. And, of course, I had hot flashes and felt like I was going to puke and all that good stuff. But I mean it was worth it right? No. It was not worth it. It royally fucked me up. I had bruises all over my chest and ribs, and when I say bruises I mean my entire chest was covered with purple and blue and occasionally black splotches. I go running (without the binder of course) and I can barely breathe, my lungs/ribs can’t expand as much as they used to. Now they can only expand as much as the binder constricted them to. I can only breathe in short/shallow breathes to where I get so light headed constantly. AND THATS WITHOUT THE BINDER. I used to be able to hold my breath for 2.5 minutes and run at least 2 miles without stopping (yeah I was healthier but I also had the ability to expand my lungs so much).

You’re probably thinking “but it could be worse” yeah it could be I could’ve broken a rib. Thank god I didn’t. Ive worn sports tape (Also a bad idea don’t do that) and those binders feel exactly like that.

So please, I beg of you, don’t buy those shitty binders and don’t use ace bandages and don’t use sports tape. Please save your future self. I know it’s hard, trust me I go through it everyday, but YOUR SAFETY COMES FIRST. GC2B and Underworks are great companies created by transguys that make great quality binders that are super comfy and safe. If you need the money just ask the transguy/trans masculine community like me and some other people will go out of our way to give you money for a safe binder. Please.

I'm gonna talk about why Maria Stark is infinitely important
  • infinitely

first off, to hell with the fucking notion that 616-maria didn’t love tony and tony never realized she loved him.

the universe realizes tony is a momma’s boy

in his dreams, maria is the one trying to offer input as to how he might lead a less miserable life. (also he reaches for her and theres a fucking butterfly come the fuck on) note that we’re in tony’s head so of course his dream figures are like “you created your own problems” – the important part here is, maria is the one who gives advice

howard wanted a son to take over the name/stark industries. maria was ready to accept any sex.

also here’s something golden. tony stark says this to the demon incarnation of his father’s soul when they’re fighting in hell (i mean lol in case you needed proof howard is scum)

She loved me. Loved us both. Unconditionally. All that’s good in me, all you call “weakness” — the compassion, the caring, everything decent — I learned from herAnd that gives me the will, the need, the strength — to ultimately do — whatever’s necessary.

i know right

i really want to point to one specific part in this.

All that’s good in me… I learned from her.

now listen to me on this

to hell with the notion that tony’s heroic streak comes from howard :) ok. fuck that

sensitive boy

EVERYONE LISTEN TO ME RIGHT NOW. TONY STARK WAS A SENSITIVE BOY

i’m gonna tell you who else was sensitive

MARIA FUCKING COLLINS CARBONELL STARK WAS SENSITIVE

SEE: THE PANEL ABOVE WHERE SHE’S CRYING

SEE: THIS

like i understand that comic portrayal of women wasn’t/isn’t stellar. but at the same time – don’t do the thing where you say maria isn’t strong as a character just because she’s a woman that cries and is scared of her abusive husband after he becomes a raging alcoholic because newsflash not all women need to be SHIELD agents or superpowered physical kickers of ass in order to be worth your time. like we have no evidence that maria wasn’t a SHIELD agent like howard or whatever but even if she wasn’t (and i’d prefer it if she WASN’T) fuck the notion that women can’t be sensitive and feminine and also

fuck the idea that tony took after howard temper-wise, like

literally fuck that

stop erasing maria like. TONY HAD A MOTHER TOO HE DIDN’T SPONTANEOUSLY SPRING INTO EXISTENCE

the little boy who read about knights in the library. that’s not fucking howard stark. that’s the maria stark in tony

this. this is maria stark

and this. quiet and subdued tony stark

thiS IS MARIA STARK

TONY STARK WHO GENUINELY WANTS TO HELP YOU

TONY STARK WHO WANTS TO MAKE YOU A SURPRISE

THIS IS MARIA STARK

THIS IS MARIA STARK BECAUSE THIS IS THE EXACT OPPOSITE OF WHAT HOWARD TRIED TO PREACH TONY TO BE

NEVER UNDERESTIMATE THE IMPORTANCE OF MARIA STARK

NEVER FORGET THE FACT THAT TONY WITNESSED HIS MOTHER BEING DRIVEN TO TEARS BY HOWARD. NEVER FORGET THAT MARIA WAS TRAPPED IN AN ABUSIVE RELATIONSHIP AND WAS PROBABLY DEPRESSED SHE PROBABLY HAD GOOD REASONS TO START NEGLECTING HER FAMILY DO NOT COME INTO MY HOUSE AND TELL ME MARIA STARK IS NOT IMPORTANT

LITERALLY NO ONE IS MORE IMPORTANT THAN MARIA STARK

MARIA IS THE REASON WHY TONY STARK IS A GOOD PERSON BENEATH THE IRON ARMOR AND SHE’S THE REASON WHY HE PUTS ON THAT ARMOR TO DO GOOD THINGS

MARIA STARK AS HER OWN PERSON NEEDS TO BE DEVELOPED IN THE COMICS BECAUSE HONESTLY WE DON’T KNOW TWO FUCKS ABOUT HER AS AN ENTITY SEPARATE FROM HOWARD AND THAT SUCKS BUT WE DO HAVE TONY STARK AND THAT’S NOT ENOUGH BUT IT’S EVEN LESS IF PEOPLE KEEP IGNORING THE FACT THAT MARIA STARK WAS, IN MANY WAYS, THE ONE POSITIVE FORMATIVE INFLUENCE TONY HAD GROWING UP oh my god i’m so mad MARIA STARK IS THE MOST IMPORTANT

AND EVERYTHING “SECRET ORIGINS”!!!!! IS!!!!!!!! FUCKING BULLSHIT

IT’S FUCKING BULLSHIT because how dare you

i mean. lets go back to that quote

She loved me. Loved us both. Unconditionally. All that’s good in me, all you call “weakness” — the compassion, the caring, everything decent — I learned from herAnd that gives me the will, the need, the strength — to ultimately do — whatever’s necessary.

“She loved me. … Unconditionally.”

how dare you take this certainty away from tony

literally how in the fuck dare you

HOW DARE YOU DO THIS

this is the hallucination from fatal frontier HOW THE FUCK DARE YOU TWIST TONY’S PERCEPTION OF MARIA LIKE THAT

HOW IN THE FUCK

BUT WE ONLY DID WHAT WAS BEST” HOW IN THE FUCK DARE YOU DO THIS

HOW IN THE FUCK DARE YOU TAKE THE ONE PERSON TONY KNEW FOR SURE LOVED HIM UNCONDITIONALLY AND TWIST HIS IDEA OF HER IN SUCH A WAY THAT!!! HE THINKS!!! SHE WOULD DISPOSE OF HIM AND HIS EMOTIONS!! FOR THE SAKE!!! OF THE FUCKING GREATER GOOD!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

HOW IN THE FUCK

DARE YOU DO THIS I’M SO FURIOUS

JUSTICE FOR MARIA STARK I’M SO MAD

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Join Sophie, Agatha, Tedros, and the other students as they begin a new era in the Endless Woods—The Camelot Years—where Evers and Nevers alike must move beyond the bounds of school and into the biggest, boldest adventures of their lives.

  • psychic: *reads my mind*
  • my mind: DUN dun dun dun DUN dun dun dun Eggsy, (dun duN DUNN) I saw in you what someone once saw in me, (DUN Dun dun)something that can’t be taught, the makings of a Kingsman. Being a Kingsman is more than the clothing we wear or the weapons we bare. It’s about being willing to sacrifice for the greater good. I hope you’re ready for what comes next. And now, the end is near, and so I face the final curtain. My friend, I'll say it clear, I'll state my case, of which I'm certain FOR WHAT IS A MAN WHAT HAS HE GOT *wink* IF NOT HIMSELF *cocks gun* WHAT HAS HE NAUGHT THE RECORD SHOWS I TOOK THE BLOWS AND DID IT MY(dundunDUN)Y(dundunDUN)Y(dundunDUN)Y(dundunDUN)Y(dundunDUN)YY WAYYYY oh my god Harry?/FUCK ME
  • psychic: what the fuck
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PadMay Day 19. Favorite Revenge of the Sith Moment

I have a google alert for ‘Padme Amidala’ (obviously) and it’s popular lately/again to wish for the ‘original ending’ to this scene wherein Padmé stabs her husband. To quote the internet at large, “how badass”. As an interesting AU (and I love AUs), I like it. But for the “true” story, of the “real” Padmé, no, absolutely not. Padmé comes to Mustafar to save her husband, from himself if necessary, but save, not kill. This is important for multiple reasons, and it is not a display of weakness. It’s really incredibly brave. 

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  • Cassian: HONEY?
  • Nesta: Yeah?
  • Cassian: Where are my weapons?
  • Nesta: What?
  • Cassian: WHERE. ARE. MY WEAPONS?
  • Nesta: I uh... put them away.
  • Cassian: WHERE?
  • Nesta: WHY DO YOU NEED TO KNOW?
  • Cassian: I NEED THEM.
  • Nesta: UH UH. DON'T YOU THINK ABOUT RUNNING OFF AND DOING NO-DARING-DO. WE'VE BEEN PLANNING THIS DINNER FOR TWO MONTHS.
  • Cassian: VELARIS IS IN DANGER!
  • Nesta: MY EVENING'S IN DANGER!
  • Cassian: YOU TELL ME WHERE MY WEAPONS ARE, WOMAN! WE ARE TALKING ABOUT THE GREATER GOOD!
  • Nesta: Greater good? I am your MATE. I AM THE GREATEST GOOD YOU ARE EVER GONNA GET.

okay, you know what? i really need to say that i am so incredibly satisfied with how they handled charlotte’s departure. because you know, i have been wanting her to be gone for a long time but that is mainly because of how negative she is to lucifer’s life but we can’t ignore the fact that she’s his mother and he clearly loves her. they didn’t let her off the hook for all the terrible things she did, but they also did NOT give her what she wanted and lucifer didn’t let her off the hook but he still showed her mercy. we can see how much it killed him to send her away but he knew it was what he had to do for the greater good. my god. this show never lets me down.

To insecure self typed INXJs (and others needing insight in Fi/Fe distinction)

SUBMITTED by rainismyfavouritecolour

This is a personal, very recent discovery that I’m indeed INFJ. It took me a very long time to understand, but now that I’m finally here, I want to share this with you.

Maybe you’ve been told you don’t look like an INFJ. Maybe you can’t fully identify with hunches or always being right. You might have read a ton of Ni vs Ne descriptions and found the Ni one always more accurate, but were too filled with self doubt to really go with it.

There’s no surefire method I can tell you will work for you, other than continuous study of the functions and yourself. But maybe some of what I’ve written will help you identify yourself better. This is my very subjective experience only, but I’m sharing it in hopes that this will help at least some of you.

— O —

On Ni:

I get hunches. Constantly. And I go with them so fast, I don’t even notice. It’s an immediate reaction, a bolt of lightning hitting me from above. The reason I didn’t realize it before was because I was much more insecure and self doubting. I didn’t pay enough attention to this happening, nor did I trust it. Instead of implicitly trusting myself, I constantly analyzed and questioned, wondered if I was wrong - running around in constant circles. But tuning into myself a bit more, I caught it. I took it for so granted and natural before, I didn’t see what was meant by ‘hunches’.

I don’t think about it, in fact, I will usually be elsewhere with my thoughts or preoccupied with something completely different, and suddenly the solution to some thing I’d been worrying about appears (provided I have enough/correct info). That’s Ni.

I easily see parallels and similarities between things that may not appear similar at all. That sounds Ne but you need to pay attention to what your mind does with all the impressions you take in. If they converge, that’s Ni. If they diverge, that’s Ne. See, when I draw parallels, separate entities become essentially the same thing. They carry the same meaning, become a symbol for the same thing. Ne would likely assign two (or several) different meanings to a single object instead.

Another thing is that it’s stated pretty much everywhere that Ni is always right. That’s false. Ni THINKS it’s right. It doesn’t have to be. That’s an important distinction to make. Ni’s accuracy largely depends how much accurate information is available. The more there is, the more likely it will be that Ni actually will be right. The less information is considered, the more likely it is that Ni will completely miss the mark.

So, coupled with how insecure I was, how was that stereotype anything I could much identify with at all? I’m very well aware I could be wrong, even believe I will be, because that’s what the majority of my life taught me to believe. It’s really hard to trust yourself if you’ve got no self belief. If you don’t know how to.

So, some advice for insecure Ni-doms, or really anyone - work on trusting yourself, on self belief. Take a step back and stop questioning/analyzing. It’ll become clearer in time and your confidence will grow.

On Fe:

I display a number of behavioral characteristics that are both Fi and Fe. That made it difficult to identify with either over the other. What decided it for me though, was how I process emotion. Of course, Feeling functions aren’t primarily about emotion but that’s an important part not to be overlooked. I use Extroverted Feeling simply because I don’t process emotion internally. I can’t. I need to, ideally, talk them out to truly understand what I’m feeling, the exact nuances of it, why I’m feeling it etc. I share them naturally, openly, one of the few things about me that actually are external. I’m vaguely aware of my feelings, when I have them, but trying to figure it out in my head is headache inducing. I simply don’t work that way. Writing my feelings out works as well, but there seems to be something in the act of sharing or hearing it verbalized that makes it a better solution than just writing.

Fi, introverted Feeling, cannot do this so easily. It feels everything much more internally, and sharing emotion is extremely uncomfortable, impossible even. This is a very clear distinction I can see between real life Fi vs Fe users, more easily in high Feeling types. Fe will tell you exactly what they’re feeling, raw and in the moment. Fi will do that indirectly by hurling insults or accusing you of things. Emotion is obvious in both but one is direct and to the point, while the other is less so.

If I talk about my feelings, they see it as whining about my problems. They don’t see that this is how I process and identify my feelings and problems in the first place. To them, it’s an unnecessary and tedious thing to do.

Now, Fe values are about making sure other people are comfortable first while Fi is about making themselves comfortable first. The reason I use Fe is because of how natural and easy it is for me to look out for how people feel/may feel. That’s not because I value being kind and considerate. It’s instinctive. It just happens.

An example of this is how I react to criticism. I don’t wonder if it’s true or how I feel about it, but panic about how to best adjust my behavior to remedy whatever the criticism was about. I adjust myself to make the other person more comfortable. For example, my family once remarked on how odd it was that I continuously, naturally explained my reasoning behind doing certain things (thanks to one of Charity’s posts I realized that was Fe - sharing ‘emotions’ openly). I’ve grown up in a pure Fi family. No Fe whatsoever. So, doing that was perceived as me being defensive which never even occurred to me. Taking this as an unconscious command of 'don’t do it, it’s making me uncomfortable’, I did away with that. I still want to do it and often catch myself in the middle of it - but wanting to maintain outer harmony is so unconscious, it’s like breathing air. You don’t pay attention or aren’t even aware but it’s still happening.

This kind of stuff has been influencing me so much, I blended in with my Fi family. I now superficially appear like a Fi user despite not being one. Often, I’m told I look like an IXFP. My empathy is so high and unconscious, I take on the attitudes and emotions of others and don’t even realize it until slapped in the face with it. I’m just learning that I’ve adopted a lot that way. The differences only become apparent if you know me (and MBTI) well enough. I’m simply unable to do anything without considering what consequences this may have on someone else.

Now, I’m not the stereotypical host. I’m not particularly warm or fuzzy unless you know me well. That’s because my brand of Fe doesn’t care primarily whether you’re physically comfortable, something that probably has to do with with low Se, but if you’re okay emotionally. That you feel safe and comfortable, unjudged and not rushed. That you feel understood. I want to make sure you’re feeling good. I instinctively wait for others to 'give permission’ before proceeding, all because of this unconscious need to be considerate, even if I really want to do it. Like turning on the AC when it’s hot. My sister and mother just go for it while I always either ask if it’s okay with them and wait until they say yes, or silently consider whether one of them has a cold or whatnot, if the AC will make them feel worse. If they object, I don’t do it.

Additionally, my 'values’ change and expand constantly. Sure, I’ve got a few that are pretty set, but generally, if you can make me understand, it becomes adopted into my world view and values. Live and let live, for example, is a pretty Fi value. Fe is about collective values which is why 'live and let live’ can be bypassed in favor of 'the greater good’. The individual can be ignored as long as the majority are taken care of. I remember my sister telling me how intolerant I was being by not going by 'live and let live’ - now, it’s a natural part of how I think. I can’t even pinpoint when it became part of me, but it did.

On Ti:

Aah, Ti. How I love and loathe thee. Truth be told, I’ve probably been stuck in a Ni-Ti loop for a really, really long time. I still am in one. To keep it short and simple -

Ti needs to understand something before it can apply it/is taken in. It takes apart a thing into its single elements, examines each one from all angles until fully understood, and by the end can put the whole thing back together any way it wishes. It continually adjusts itself with each piece of incoming information, making sure its always consistent with its inner logic. Ti asks 'does this make sense to me?’

I have never been able to apply any concept until I fully understood it, going by exactly that process.

On Se:

The ultimate blind spot. I get lost embarrassingly easy to the point of getting anxiety attacks. My body coordination is complete crap. I continuously run into walls or door frames (it gets worse the more I try concentrating on how to avoid it). I cannot react right away but need time to process. Try to force me and I become catatonic, unresponsive. I slow down and come to a standstill, a mental stutter and state of paralysis.

I’m wary of physical intimacy to the extreme. I’m quite disconnected from my body or the physical world. The line between my thoughts, imagination and reality is blurred and very easily questioned. But solitary exercise or walks are amazing. They make me quiet my mind until I’m left with nothing but pure physical sensations and the inner peace and calm it fills me with.

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I hope this has been at least a little bit helpful.

I want to thank Charity for her amazing explanations, her infinite patience with putting up with so many of my (sometimes really stupid) questions, and finally for letting me post this.

Charity note: there are no stupid questions. :)

Cannon Star Wars facts (not opinions)
  • The main series films are officially called “The Skywalker Saga”, meaning the Skywalkers are the most important part. If the planned Episodes X-XII actually happen this means one of two things: Kylo lives to carry on the line/there is another Skywalker among the main cast (most likely Rey in this case)
  • The newly added main characters are Rey, Finn, Poe, and Kylo. Those are the important characters.
  • Rey, Finn, and Poe are the “hero trio” if such a thing must exist. They are the good guys. They work for the Resistance, which from the perspective of the story are the heroes. All important to the continuation of the story
  • Kylo is the villain. He antagonizes the heroes, he is on the opposite side. That’s his role, still important but a different role than the hero
  • Finn didn’t murder anyone. In fact he explicitly didn’t in his first scene. 
  • Kylo did kill people. He murdered two (2) named characters in one movie.
  • Luke didn’t kill the younglings. That isn’t what happened, cannon isn’t lying to you, why would it do that
  • Luke has shown disdain for the “Old Jedi ways” in Empire Strikes Back and Return of the Jedi when Obi and Yoda wanted him to abandon his friends for the greater good. They wanted him to give up his attachments but he didn’t and he was stronger for it. This fact helped defeat the Empire (the only reason I bring this up is why would he go back to the old Jedi code?)
  • Obi-Wan was a strict supporter of the Jedi Code, Anakin and Qui-Gon were his deepest and most important bonds. 
  • After Anakin turned to the dark side Obi dedicated his life to watching over Luke (Rebels literally had a scene where he sat in the desert watching Luke watch the sky)
  • Rey and Finn form a strong bond immediately. JJ Abrams confirms attraction (jediknightreys has the sourse on that)
  • There is one kiss in Force Awakens and it is Rey kissing Finn’s forehead
  • The TFA script explicitly states Luke knows who Rey is  
  • All of the scenes in Rey’s vision at Maz’s castle specifically relate to one or more Skywalkers: the Cloud City duel between luke and vader, Luke in shadow with R2, Knights of Ren massacre, Kylo in the woods. This leaves Rey being left on Jakku, which is this only one without a currently CONFIRMED Skywalker shown
  • The Skywalker family lightsaber flies by a currently CONFIRMED member of the Skywalker clan to fly into the hands of a character looking for her family
  • Rey dreams of Luke Skywalker’s exact location, even before the events of the film
  • Being able to wield a lightsaber in battle is a sign of Force sensitivity. (just saying)
JAMES POTTER DIDN'T DIE FOR YALL TO TREAT HIM LIKE SHIT FOR THE THINGS HE DID FROM AGES 11-15 WHEN HE CLEARLY GREW TF UP AND WAS EVEN APPOINTED HEADBOY, WAS A GREAT FRIEND TO A POINT WHERE HE DID AN ILLEGAL THING THAT COULD GET HIS ASS STRAIGHT TO AZKABAN, JOINED A REBEL GROUP TRYING TO FIGHT PREJUDICED AND GENOCIDAL ASSHOLES BC IT’S FOR THE GREATER GOOD AND OF COURSE, TRIED TO FIGHT OFF A NOSELESS GENOCIDAL DICKHEAD WITHOUT A WAND JUST TO TRY AND SAVE HIS WIFE AND SON.

I COULD DEFINITELY PUT MORE REASONS AS TO WHY JAMES POTTER DESERVES LOVE, BUT THESE ARE MY MAIN ARGUMENTS.

On Keith and leaving Allura behind

One thing I’ve always wanted to clear up is the ‘Keith is cold-hearted’ thing. I can see how the scene of him being ready to leave Allura behind might come across as such, to quote Hunk: “Keith, that’s cold-hearted even for you.” 

But that is not how things actually are. Let me explain why he acted the way he did back then, because Keith has had just as many emotions about it as everyone else. 

Keith is rational, observant and tends to state stuff exactly as it is, with all facts lied out to make sure that everyone gets the whole picture. (see: how he explained his board in s1e1, how he argues with Lance at the beginning of s1e3 etc.) He has been known to accept critique pretty well - he actively tries to work on his temper (“patience yields focus”) and accepted that Lance’s plan was better than his in s1e7. In turn, however, he expects people to treat him the same way. If there isn’t any evidence to contradict it, he takes things people tell him at face value and accepts them as facts. It is one of the reasons him and Lance clash often, Keith can be found constantly correcting Lance’s statements and Lance doesn’t appreciate that. 

This is coupled with his rational personality. I have no doubt that part of that comes from having been forced to grow up without a family and people to comfort him when he was feeling lost, he has had to deal with reality screwing him over quite a lot of times already. He is extremely cautious and protective of his friends when a possible threat appears (see: how he placed himself in front of the team when Klaizap appeared in s1e2), probably exactly because he knows that when they are gone, they are gone. That happened to his dad, that happened to Shiro. 

And now he thinks the same thing has happened to Allura.

It is not that he doesn’t want to help her - because he does. He really does, he even said so himself. (And he wasn’t lying. We all know that Keith is an absolutely horrible liar.) In his mind, there were four facts battling with one another: 1) I want to save my friend; 2) “the ship that is headed to Zarkon’s central command?” “the place that’s way too dangerous for us to attack?” (a direct quote from an exchange between Hunk and Keith from s1e10. Keith had accepted that information a fact); 3) we are fighting against an enemy we know next to nothing about; and 4) I am responsible for the entire universe and I can only protect it with Voltron, for which Allura technically isn’t essential. 

So he stands there and goes through all the facts. And he comes to the - absolutely logical - conclusion that it is too dangerous to go to Zarkon’s headquarters. He could lose even more friends. He could lose the universe’s only hope. So he does what he always does: suppress his emotions for the greater good. He did that there, he did it when he decided to give up the blade in s2e8.

But then the others turn against him. We can’t see his face when they begin to vehemently protest against his statement-

-but I have no doubt that it would be serious and reflective. The backlash would have made him reconsider the conclusion he had come to. Because that’s what he does when he faces critique: take a step back and reevaluate. Obviously, fact 2) wasn’t quite right. [Also note how open his body language is, he is more than willing to discuss this.] 

And once the execution of their plan starts, which means an actual chance for getting his friend back, he is right at the front of the group again. 

Keith isn’t cold-hearted. Not at all. Does this look like the face of a cold-hearted person to you?

Because that is the face he made when he came to the conclusion that it would be too dangerous to save Allura. He is not happy about it. He genuinely believed that she was already lost and they were about to condemn the universe for a suicide rescue mission. If there is anything he can do to save his friends, he will do it. Like, seriously - he had never seen Zarkon before that episode. For all he knew, Zarkon could be 5ft tall, wield magic and be immortal. But as soon as he saw a normal-sized Galra in armor, Zarkon suddenly became less of an abstract concept and more of something that he has an actual fighting chance against. Look at how his attitude towards him changed in season 2, at the end of it he volunteered to infiltrate Zarkon’s base on his own!  

(Also. He was the one that asked Allura if she was sure that she wanted to come with them: “I’m sorry, princess, did you say ‘we’?!” in s1e10. He was worried for her. There is no way he didn’t want her back.)

Keith constantly watches out for the greater good. It’s what he told Pidge when she wanted to leave to go look for her family - “everyone in the universe has families!” - and what he did when he gave up finding out about his past in the Trials of Marmora. He pushes his own emotions down because he genuinely believes one person’s life and/or comfort isn’t worth putting the entire universe at risk. And that does not equal being cold-hearted.

tl;dr: Keith has had perfectly valid reasons why he hesitated to go on the rescue mission. He wanted her back just as much as everyone else. He is not a cold-hearted asshole.