but i am not a more motivated person

How To Stop Procrastinating

For all the procrastinators out there, here’s a list of tips that a fellow procrastinator has found very useful through the years to get her actually doing stuff.

Start studying from day one

I know you’ve heard this a million times, but seriously, before the panic of “I can’t possibly catch up with all of this’ kicks in. Once this happens, you won’t even want to try so you’ll just procrastinate even more. I know it seems overkill to study on the first day, but think of it this way, you’ve covered almost no material and it will take you no time. Also, it only takes 30 days to form a habit, I promise you revising every day becomes second nature after a while.

But I’m already in the middle of my academic year and I can’t possibly catch up!

I’ve heard that excuse a thousand times, from myself that is. So you can’t catch up? Well, don’t. If it’s a class where you don’t need to know the previous material to understand what you’re learning about right now, take it from that point and keep up with it. You can catch up on the previous stuff little by little when you have free time.

But it’s a cumulative class and I need to know the previous material to understand what the heck my profesor is talking about! 

Watch some youtube videos on the material or go to Khanacademy. You just need to grasp the basics, you can perfect your knowledge on those topics later on, if you have time.

I just can’t get myself to open the book 

First, what is it you need to do TODAY? Let’s say you need to study a unit that has x pages and you have three days ro study it. Today you will study x/3 pages. You get it, don’t just study aimlessly, give yourself a finish point. Then write down what you want to accomplish (it’s incredibly satisfying to cross things out) but don’t write more than 5 tasks (unless they’re really small ones) per day.

Now is when you find that you don’t actually want to do any of the things on that list, so what do you want to do NOW? Do you want to watch a youtube video? Read a book? Pee? What were you planning to do to procrastinate? Well you can still do it. That is, once you study a page (or x pages, whatever you feel up to). This can be repeated until you hit that finish point you stablished earlier. You can also add extra weekly rewards like ‘If I do all my studying this week, I can do x or I can buy y’ (think small stuff, x can be calling a friend to hang out and y can be a color pen). But remember, just as important as getting that reward if you do your work is NOT getting the reward if you DON’T do the work. I don’t mean like don’t indulge if you haven’t finished one or two tasks, but, if you’ve been slacking all week yet you get the reward anyway, what your brain understands “It’s ok, I don’t actually need to work”.

I just want to lie on my bed for a bit

Yes, studying on your bed is awful and you should avoid it. But you know what’s worse than studying on your bed? Not studying at all. If you’re like me and sometimes you just randomly get these urges in the middle of the afternoom to lie on your bed ‘for a bit’ and then you fall asleep, bring your study materials to your bed. DON’T lie down, just get into a slightly reclined sitting possition. I find that this kind of tricks your brain into thinking that you’re resting but you can still get work done.

I have to write a paper, not study

I was planning on telling you that I have literally no tips for writing papers and lab reports (these in particular are the bane of my existence, I literally feel such hostility towards them that I will refuse to even look at the document I’m sure it has nothing to do with being a failed writer) BUT luckily I’ve found something that kind of works. So, forget about your paper for a minute, open a text document, and just WRITE. You can literally write about whatever - your day, how adorable your pet is, or a random story that makes no sense whatsoever. Force yourself to write for about three minutes. Now look back at your paper. I find that once I’ve started writing, I am a lot more willing to keep doing it, even if it’s not about the same topic. This may not work for some people though. Also, write a SUPER rough outline or just bullet points of what you want to say like “Then we add HCl. Later decantation. Test for acid pH. Finally filter and evaporate”. Expanding on something is much easier than writing it from scratch.

Clean you desk the night before

I promise having a clean space to put your books on will motivate you the next day.

And finally, a little tip from a recent experience - YOU’RE GOING TO WISH YOU HAD DONE MORE 

Personally, every time “I can just cram for this” even crosses my mind, I remind myself of how stupid I felt last semester when it came to finals and how badly I wanted to go back in time and beat past me to a pulp. But also, I remind myself of how thankful I was to past me for every little thing that she HAD studied because it was one less thing to worry about. So, when you want to slack off, think of your future self thanking you for not doing so.

So, with this advice in mind, go hit your books right now and start becoming a better version of yourself!

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Sugilite: What was Sapphire’s deal?

For a long time since the reveal of Ruby and Sapphire, I’ve been seeing posts that (jokingly or not) suggest that Sugilite’s behavior, as a Fusion of Ruby, Sapphire, and Amethyst, was the result of the rambunctious Ruby and Amethyst dragging Sapphire along for the ride.

I kinda get why people say that, because obviously both Amethyst and Ruby are prone to anger and sometimes lack filters and coping mechanisms. Meanwhile, Sapphire seems so calm and in control. Surely Sugilite was mostly Amethyst and Ruby getting carried away.

But y’all have seen “Keystone Motel.”

“This will pass. She’ll eventually just burn herself out.”

Sapphire, when she’s upset, pretends to be above it all, ignores others’ emotions while denying the effects of her own, and even resorts to shaming those she loves when she’s not happy with their behavior. 

She can be callous. Cold. 

Sapphire is just as responsible for everything that went on with Sugilite as Ruby and Amethyst were. 

Now here’s the thing. Fusions can feel like they’re one being–especially when they get used to being fused–and though they’re “a conversation” and “a relationship,” they’re also capable of functioning like a single consciousness despite that they technically can never quite be “individuals.” So I do hesitate to pick apart “what comes from which Gem” when examining Fusions’ behavior. However, much like you can analyze the traits of a child and surmise which parent they “get it from,” you can sort of do that with Fusions. But there’s another element you have to keep in mind when you do this.

A manifestation of the fusers’ influence on each other.

Guide to the Crystal Gems is the source of this tidbit–a canon source authored by Rebecca Sugar. You don’t really see the “influence” aspect discussed explicitly in the show, but this implies that Fusions aren’t just what their components are, but what they inspire in each other. What they think of each other, what they expect from each other, what they want to be together. What they bring out in each other, regardless of whether that element is usually part of the individuals.

Look at Smoky Quartz. Before they appeared, Steven and Amethyst had just had an arc with a competitive and self-deprecating tone which led directly to forming Smoky for the first time. They literally fought each other over who was the worst, had a discussion of not living up to what they were supposed to be, and aired their grievances over the proper path to improvement.

“Us worst Gems stick together, right?” “That’s why we’re the best.”

Amethyst and Steven literally formed their collective identity based on their low self-esteem and feelings of inadequacy. They play it like a big joke, of course, cracking puns and offering distractions, but when Sardonyx presses them during their second appearance in “Know Your Fusion,” Smoky heaps on the self-abuse.

“I guess zero plus zero equals zero. They say two wrongs don’t make a right–I guess I’m living proof that that’s true! I’m just one big super-wrong good-for-nothing dud with a yo-yo!”

Delivered with a smile. 

Supposedly it’s a common trait of youngest children to be the comedian of the family–if you’ve spent your whole life feeling like those who came before you have won all the awards, done it all before you, and met stratospheric goals before you even found your feet, you might feel like there’s no point in performing well, so you joke about it and poke fun at everything, including yourself. Amethyst and Steven have both spent a lot of their lives feeling like the youngest child who’s a bit of a screw-up with whom everyone must be patient. Smoky doubles that feeling, and when they start to feel inadequate, out come the self-deprecating jokes.

Sugilite is more complicated because she’s a three-Gem Fusion, but I’d like to first refer to my “How Fusion Relationships Work” post and assert that Sugilite is far more a relationship of Amethyst and Garnet than she is a relationship of Amethyst, Ruby, and Sapphire. If Sugilite were to internally argue with herself the way Alexandrite did in “Fusion Cuisine,” you’d probably hear Amethyst’s and Garnet’s voices, not Ruby’s or Sapphire’s. I could be wrong, but I think Sugilite is better understood as Garnet and Amethyst’s Fusion. Therefore, to find out what comes from Sapphire and what comes from Ruby in Sugilite, it makes more sense to pick apart where their traits feed into Garnet first.

Sardonyx and Sugilite are both Garnet Fusions. And Sardonyx and Sugilite have both shown an incredible capacity for showing off for Steven. We know Pearl loves to perform, but Sardonyx seeks to impress through grace and precision, while Sugilite is about power. That is likely a strong Amethyst trait–she REALLY wants to be strong, and she thinks Garnet is this incredible pillar of strength. Amethyst’s beliefs about Garnet and desire to be strong would feed into making Sugilite the powerhouse she is.

And Amethyst also has abandonment issues.

“What about ME, huh? I had someone who was always there for ME until she started hanging out with YOU!”

What was Sugilite’s apparent main complaint?

“You left me behind!”

She was left alone with no one to perform for, no one to encourage her or make her feel cool for being strong enough to take out all those pillars.

This seems like an awful lot of Amethyst, but what about Garnet?

“We don’t need to be careful. We just need to be huge.”

Get the job done, Garnet. Who cares about Pearl’s feelings? Who cares if there might be some speed bumps? It’ll turn out with the result we need, and that’s all that really matters.

Well, that’s some Sapphire there.

That’s probably exacerbated further when all the frustration and feeling of being left out was amplified by Amethyst’s perspective, and it’s all directed at Pearl. What might Sugilite be thinking about Pearl? “She’s to blame! She took Steven away and abandoned me! She called me ‘too much’ because she’s just too little! And now she wants me to unfuse just when I’m enjoying myself! She’s probably just jealous Garnet didn’t pick her instead!”

There’s a ton of feeling in there and not a whole lot of thinking. And feeling is something Ruby does extremely well. Meaning she does a lot of it, and she doesn’t think about the past or the future. Now is all she can think about, and her incredibly important, long history with Pearl and any future consequences are beside the point in the face of all that emotion. Sugilite feels hurt and angry and vengeful now. And she has a ton of power that this little Gem Pearl wants to take from her. She won’t let it happen.

But here’s something complicated. Ruby is emotional, but she isn’t selfish. She’s almost entirely selfless. I mean that literally, too–at the beginning of her life with Sapphire, she expressed that it didn’t matter if she was broken because there are tons of her. Even more recently in her life, in “Jailbreak,” she cared about what happened to Sapphire but had no thoughts for herself.

“Did they hurt you?” “WHO CARES??”

And if you listen to her rant about Blue Diamond in “Gem Heist,” Ruby still offers an onslaught of anger that has almost nothing to do with slights against her.

“She’s a shatterer! She yelled at Sapphire, she hates fusion and love!”

Hear that? Blue Diamond had specifically threatened to shatter Ruby, but she doesn’t say “she threatened to shatter me.” She just uses general terms about her being “a shatterer” before launching right into how Blue Diamond mistreated Sapphire and hates their union. And, going back to “Keystone Motel,” it’s more of the same from Ruby: she’s angry not because Pearl personally hurt her, but because Pearl disrespected fusion. Disrespected Garnet.

“It’s FUSION, Sapphire! What’s more personal to us than fusion?”

She’s so, so angry, but it’s on behalf of their relationship, not on her own behalf. She’s not mad at Sapphire for wronging her. She’s mad at Sapphire because this is about fusion. Without fusion, Ruby doesn’t even think of herself as worth something to be mad about. But the fusion she’s contributing to? Wow, nobody better EVER say anything against THAT, or insult it for ANY reason!

So, no doubt this is magnified in Sugilite.

“I AM myself, and I’m SICK of being split up!”

Amethyst’s respect for power, Ruby’s respect for fusion partnerships, and Sapphire’s respect for outcome over process all contribute to Sugilite’s motives. But Amethyst’s sullenness over abandonment, Ruby’s single-minded emotion, and Sapphire’s callousness make those motives manifest in a destructive way.

When Garnet is just Garnet, she has effective coping mechanisms most of the time, at least when it comes to losing control. But Ruby’s EXPLOSIVE emotion is very present in Garnet–we repeatedly see her punch first and ask questions later, or break things just because she’s pissed off. Sapphire’s soft-spokenness and withdrawal from full engagement are also very present in Garnet, and we see her withholding emotion or letting her overconfidence make her stubborn. But she’s balanced, and she carries leadership without cracking, and she rarely makes her problems into other people’s problems.

But when Garnet is part of Sugilite, emotion is streaming in from Amethyst AND Ruby, and neither of those Gems likes to think outside the present. If you said Sapphire’s future vision and composure is “drowned out” by such passionate energy, you wouldn’t be far off, but I think it’s more nuanced than that: Sapphire’s traits manifest differently. Amethyst respects the heck out of Garnet, and Ruby feels like Sapphire matters far more than she does. Sapphire holds a good deal of the self-respect in Sugilite–the part of her that thinks she deserves attention, dignity, and honor. There’s still some aristocrat in her. In Sugilite, that respect is up against an overwhelming amount of self-directed belittling and inadequacy. So you get someone who knows she should be respected but feels that she doesn’t deserve it.

Ruby and Amethyst may be the source of Sugilite’s fury and pain, but without Sapphire’s cold indifference, she wouldn’t have ever posed such a threat. Some of the most brutal aspects of Sugilite may have their roots in Sapphire.

anonymous asked:

How do I stay motivated to write on a schedule? I want to write more, and I thought planning writing out might help.

Hey, nonny, thanks for your question! I’m pretty sure every writer has faced this problem at some point, and motivation can be hard to come by. I’m currently in a writing slump, and really I’m just making myself write every day. You’ve kind of asked two questions here - how to stay motivated/write on a schedule, and the benefits of planning, so I’ll address both. 


How to Write Consistently

Unfortunately, there is no magic solution that will solve all your problems and make you want to write all the time. Sometimes, you lose motivation or inspiration, and you don’t know how to get past it. Here are a few tips to keep you writing on a consistent schedule:

  • Set yourself a goal to reach every day. Whether it’s 100 words or a 1000, give yourself something to work towards when you write daily. For me, the site 750 Words has helped me write a consistent amount every day. 
  • Try writing sprints. If you’re really pressed for motivation, just set a timer and start writing as much as you can. Sprints can get your creative juices flowing.
  • Learn to write even when you don’t have motivation/inspiration. You may not always feel like writing, but if you realize that sometimes you have to write when you don’t want to, it can make things a lot easier and help you push past a bout of writer’s block. Be careful you don’t overwork yourself, though.
  • Set yourself a literal schedule. Set aside some time every day where you just write, and you won’t be distracted. If you do it daily, you’ll set a routine that you can follow, and make writing a habit.
  • Choose a place where you write. If you can, write in the same place every day - make it feel official. Write wherever you’re not going to be distracted, and where you’re most comfortable and motivated. 
  • Tell someone about your plans to write every day (or however often). If you tell someone, or post it somewhere, that you’re going to write consistently, odds are you’ll feel a lot more motivated to actually follow through on your promise.
  • Keep track of when you write/reach a word count goal. Mark it down on your calendar every day you sit down and write.
  • If you’re really not feeling your story/fic/novella or whatever you’re writing at the time, write something just to keep yourself in the habit. Make a diary entry, or a one-shot, or a blog post. Just make sure you keep the habit. Who knows - maybe after writing something unrelated, you’ll get more inspiration for your main work!

Planning or Pantsing? 

Read: Do I plan it or wing it? 

Personally, I am more of a panster - I tend to let my story take me where it wants as I write, and I don’t plan a lot of it. However, I do plan the rough plot points and arcs - but I usually end up changing something while I write. So, take my opinion on planning and pansting with a grain of salt. 

Planning

For some people, planning their story to a ‘T’ helps them stay motivated - they know what scenes they want to include, they know how all of the scenes and plot points fit together, they know how their character arcs tie into the subplots, etc etc.

However, for some people, knowing too much about their story before they write it can hinder them and make them lose motivation. They might feel restricted by their original plan.

Pantsing

When some people write a story, they like to know nothing about it as they go into it. There are varying degrees of this - some people have a general plot, some just have an inciting incident and start from there. They might feel that this gives them more freedom with their story and boost their creativity.

On the flip side, not knowing anything about their story can make some people feel lost. They might not know how to connect scenes and plot points without a plan, or how the story should continue.

Originally posted by fuckyeahdragrace

So, how do you know which one suits you, you ask? That’s up to you. You just have to see which one works for you through experience. (Generally, even if you’re pansting, you’ll probably have some idea of where your story is going, even if it changes.) Don’t be afraid to stray from your plan, or rewrite something you don’t like. It’s up to you!


Hopefully this helped you out! Here are all of our posts about outlines, if you want to start planning more. If you have another question, feel free to ask, and good luck writing!

-Mod Gen


If you need advice on general writing or fanfiction, you should maybe ask us!

The secret to being who you want to be

Lately I’ve realised the power of self-image. Rather than having an image of yourself that you want to be in the future, imagine that you are that image.

A month ago, I wanted to be a studious, disciplined person. At the time, I was pretty lazy. One day walking to class, I thought, ‘I am a studious, disciplined person’, and the more I thought it, the more I believed it. The more I believed it, the more I became it.

Don’t wait to become who you want to be. Just be. And believe.

Imagine’s Master Spell Book Post

Originally posted by ofallingstar

I realize i have quite a lot of spells so i’m just going to put as many of them as i can on here sorry if there not in order and please let me know if a link is broken and i’ll try to fix it

Origami magick for beginners

“Blue Shield of Fire Visualization” By Ellen Dugan 

Peaceful Home Spell 

Positive boost spell

Triple Circle Casting (Ritual)

New Day, New Choices Spell

“Raising and Releasing Personal Power” By Ellen Dugan

“Raising and Releasing Personal Power” By Ellen Dugan

🌝Dream spell 🌝(origami spell)

Self love spell

Shut the hell up spell (origami spell)

who are you really spell (origami spell)

Protection and balance spell (origami spell)

Stability Spell

Healing spell (origami spell)

Yakko-San’s Self Love spell (Poetic Origami Spell) 🌷🌺☺☺

House Plant Blessing Spell (By Scott Cunningham)

Sweet dreams flying spell (origami spell)

Inspiration Spell

Life is like a song spell (origami)

The Comfort of home

Spirals of Protection

Achievement Spell

Protection Chimes (By Scott Cunningham)

The Fearless Glamoury

Creative healing spell

Piece by Piece Trauma healing spell (Origami spell)

Protection spell (origami spell)

Glamour illusion (origami spell)

Sun smile spell

studying spell (origami spell)

😃🌺I Am Creative Spell😃🌺

Here are some more enjoy

“a book blessing” By garden girl gallery

Freedom Spell

A personal Shield

Simple Balance Ritual

“Full Moon Magic Ritual” By THEWITCHANDWALNUT (Wordpress)

“Eyes of Truth Spell” By This Crooked Crown (Wordpress)

Snow Bird Prosperity Spell

Mars Motivation Spell

Household Harmony Spell

Loving Vibes Spell


I’m going to upload some more later on but this is it for now

Enjoy. -Imagine

There has been a Decepticon emblem somewhere on my person every day since the election.

Today I saw a post that upset me. It was basically stating that half the fandom is incorrect to see the Decepticons as the ‘real’ good guys, and reiterated all the reasons that they’re terrible and the Autobots are, were, and always will be the only good guys. 

I may have growled ‘fuck you’ at the computer, almost reblogged with an angry comment…and then looked at myself with horror, because I make it my policy not to be negative at someone I’ve never met, or their thoughts, on such slim basis. Compassion is more important than anything else; we are all hurting, and it is so easy to do further damage that, especially on a platform such as tumblr, it does well to watch one’s words very, very carefully. Fictional characters are not worth doing real, tangible harm over. 

So why the hell was I so upset that I almost broke my own rules?

The election.

I have worn a Decepticon emblem somewhere on my person every day since the election. Earrings. My windbreaker. A t-shirt. But mostly the earrings, since they’re subtle and pass mostly unremarked. I’m even contemplating a tattoo, more seriously than ever before. 

I’m in agony. I’m a policy student; I specialize in public health policy. A few weeks ago, my mentor quite literally told me to hold off on entering the workforce for the next four years; he feels that me starting a career under the Trump Administration would be a very bad idea. At the same time, I’m significantly changing the course of my immediate future in light of the election; I’m applying to Teach For America, which has an LGBT initiative to recruit LGBT teachers. It’s intended to make up grade and graduation (and survival) differences between LGBT and straight students. I’m going to actively pursue being placed in a red state, where I can do the most good. 

It’s not like I don’t understand this is dangerous. There is a large part of me that wants to flee the country (New Zealand being the favorite refuge, right now). But my family didn’t leave China during the Cultural Revolution, though it killed my great-grandparents and led to the torture and humiliation of many of my other family members. My grandmother had to be almost forcefully sent to the US because the rest of the family knew damn well her opinionated nature and total disregard for her own safety would get her dead. But it wasn’t the first time the family had weathered horrors. I know too well that it won’t be the last. And if my great-grandparents could stay in China then, then no incompetent orange baboon’s arse will chase me from the United States. 

I’m bi. I’m multiracial. I’m a woman. I’m an intellectual. This is not a good combination in Trump’s America. But I’m not afraid. 

Because I think about Megatron every time I start browsing the New Zealand visa site. Megatron, and my family. 

We’ve been weaponizing words for generations. Two thousand years, in fact. Megatron, the young miner working in the dark for a better world, shaping words to change sparks, speaks to me on a deep level. This is what we have done for those two thousand years. And like Megatron, we have paid a price. Very often in blood. We’ve never been good at shutting up. 

Megatron is both a power fantasy and a cautionary tale for me right now, and right now, what I really need is the power fantasy. I feel incredibly helpless; I am not the only one. Megatron, someone who starts out so utterly helpless, gives me hope that I, too, may yet be powerful one day. That I may be capable of righting the injustices that cause me such pain now. 

I do not mean to excuse his atrocities. I am repulsed by them perhaps more than many others, because I understand how easy it might be to slip over the edge to committing them. (Anyone who tells you it is easy not to slip over that edge is a person to be very frightened of; they obviously do not see themselves as capable of horror, and those people are the ones most likely to commit horrors–they do not examine themselves or their motivations, they believe they are utterly in the right, and that is the most dangerous of persons). 

In the wake of this election, we all feel helpless. We are suddenly enemies in our own countries. Our neighbors turn on us for our compassion, for our liberal sentiments and our belief that all people are created equal. Does We the People still cover us? We’re not sure. There are so many who would say no. There are so many who believe we’re seeing the rise of another Hitler. 

Megatron rebelled against an authoritarian government. The lowest of the low, he shattered the monstrous system that treated him and his fellows as disposable objects. We are facing a future in which we are disposable objects. Is it any wonder we find hope in him? Is it any wonder that, seeing Trump get another pass for a lie, or use a tweet to cover up his nefarious dealings, you are being deceived gains new, immediate meaning? How about rise up? 

It’s not Optimus who gives us hope, Optimus who was a cop in IDW, Optimus, the well-meaning supporter of the status quo (that very same status quo that has so failed us!).

It’s Megatron, who may have fallen from grace, but who understands. Who was the miner who toppled an empire.

You may interpret canon as you wish. I would never want to step on someone’s toes for that. But for all you folks wondering why the hell fandom has suddenly decided the Decepticons are more appealing…

…it’s very simple. We’ve just realized we’re in their position. 

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No gym for me today; went to my friend’s wedding shower!

What kickstarted my weight loss/fitness journey a few years back was a really terrible candid photo that I saw of myself. I was so shocked at how I looked to other people and it seriously upset me for weeks until I decided to do something about it. We were all gathering today for a group photo and someone snapped this picture and it truly made me realize how far I have come and how happy I am with my body and myself in general. It has been such a long road to get here but I wouldn’t have it any other way.

A little blonder and a few more tattoos, but I can’t even recognize the girl on the left.

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Happiest Birthday to the man who managed to hold my heart despite the number of bias wreckers who may have tried to shake me from you. From the moment I had first laid my eyes on you, I knew that you are more than just a pretty face. True to this, each passing day has made me realize how talented, kind, caring, and positive person you are. You have become my inspiration and constant motivation in remaining positive, and because of that my prince I am forever grateful for having you in my life. Your kindness has made me realize so much about you that I can’t help admiring you even more, you are truly deserving of the love your fans put out so much for you. You will always have a special place in my heart. Stay just as you are and take care always 文俊辉.

#HappyJUNday #나의_기적_문준휘_생일축하해

Demure

Originally posted by wooyoung

Part of the Dalliance Series

Genre: Romance, Smut.

Length: 4,6k

Part one.

Summary: “The most shy and reserved one can also be the naughtiest one”


de·mure reserved, modest or shy especially in a playful or provocative way.


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Form your habits

free printable you can download here

Forming your habits can be extremely difficult, here’s a tool that can help you achieve that.
I use a 21 days calendar because it’s customary in these sort of things. It’s not scientifically based but usually 21 days are enough for most people to create a new lasting habit. Sometimes you’ll need more.

All the sections in the printable are there to help you, so I really recommend you fill every part! Let’s see what those are:

Triggers - it can be anything, even an alarm on your phone, but I suggest you ‘latch’ your new habit to some old one you have. Like if you want to start flossing, use as a trigger ‘after washing my teeth’ or something logical like that. Also put this printable somewhere you can see, so that you’ll be reminded of it!

Rewards - while the habit in itself should be a reward you definitely need something a little more short term because sometimes it’s difficult to see the long term plan. Something small and easy, like congratulating yourself, or crossing off the task in your planner or app, or buy something small like a song or an app, or do a little dance or whatever it might work for you and might bring a smile on your face.

Why am I doing this? - This is possibly the most important. if you don’t have a personal reason to form a new habit you’ll never find the motivation to do it.

Tiny Victories - More often than not you’ll face all sort of obstacles during your attempt to form your habit. Consider from the beginning a list of small wins that are a ‘lighter version’ of your habit. So you don’t have to punish yourself if you don’t get that day to perform your habit. It will make it easier for you to start the habit and it will not become a chore. 

“but I just don’t want to today…” - We are our worst enemies. You know yourselves pretty well, you probably have tried more than once to attempt this habit, so you know how many excuses you can come up in the next 21 days to avoid working on your habit… “I’m too stressed to do this” “I was so good yesterday I can take a day off” “I’m on vacation”… and so on. Make a list of replies to yourself, now that your excitement is at the top so in the next days you’ll be able to read it again and convince yourself to actually do what you proposed yourself to do.


Here’s a list of good habits you might want to try:

  • daily review of your planner
  • cleanup your desk
  • meditate
  • take a walk
  • exercise for 30 minutes
  • 15 minutes of gesture drawing
  • wake up early
  • work 30 minutes on your personal project
  • use a language app
  • write in your journal
  • clean something
  • drink enough water

wingsfreedom  asked:

How do we know the difference between ISFJ, ISFP and INFP? My type is lost between these three.

Look at how your process new things.

ISFJ: When I encounter a new situation, person, or idea, I internally scan my memory banks and personal experiences to see if any of this feels familiar to me, so I can use that as a basis for comparison and know how to interact with this new idea, person, or situation. I then reach out to others to form a sense of emotional closeness in order to better navigate the situation and get things done through this emotional network. I enjoy analyzing new information as I discover it and like to place it into an internal framework, category, or box, to help me understand a range of situations, people, and things, so that next time I encounter something similar, I will know how to respond.

ISFP: When I encounter a new person, situation, or idea, I first decide if I have any personal interest in them or if what the situation provides aligns with what I believe is right. I form a judgment on the new information and, if it does not conflict with my beliefs, I am happy to engage with it / the person. I enjoy soaking in information, observing, and taking action. I am good at seeing an opportunity to act, or to make something happen. Sometimes, I like to think about my ideal future and how I might make my dreams into reality. I rely on my instincts and like to learn hands-on. I’m not afraid to get physically involved.

INFP: When I encounter a new person, situation, or idea, I first decide if I have any personal interest in them or if what the situation provides aligns with what I believe is right. I form a judgment on the new information and, if it does not conflict with my beliefs, I am happy to engage with it / the person. I like to indulge many different possibilities and ideas, and sometimes lose my connection to reality because I find what is inside my mind far more fun. I often read between the lines and assign people motives, or guess what is going on with them. I tend to change my mind often about what I want from life or what profession I might pursue, and am often distracted by newer and better ideas. I like to discuss things (philosophy, poetry, psychology, science, etc) more than do them and tend to be a little nostalgic. I’m not a big fan of change.

And since I know someone else will ask me if I do not include it:

INFJ: When I encounter a new situation, person, or idea, I try and see how this fits into a larger framework within my mind for understanding people / society / the big picture. I do not always absorb this information if I cannot see how it might help me to further my goals, but I find most things interesting enough to listen for awhile. I prefer to visualize the future in my mind. I often feel I have drawn the right conclusions about situations, people’s motives, or future events and find it difficult to change my mind once it is made up. I reach out to others to form a sense of emotional closeness in order to achieve my goals. I enjoy analyzing new information as I discover it and like to place it into an internal framework, category, or box, to help me understand a range of situations, people, and things, so I can better form accurate intuitive insights.

INTJ: When I encounter a new situation, person, or idea, I try and see how this fits into a larger framework within my mind for understanding people / society / the big picture. I do not always absorb this information if I cannot see how it might help me to further my goals, but I find most things interesting enough to listen for awhile. I prefer to visualize the future in my mind. I often feel I have drawn the right conclusions about situations, people’s motives, or future events and find it difficult to change my mind once it is made up. I counter any and all information with facts and measure my success through results. I want to apply knowledge rather than just theorize about it, and do not often share my feelings.

ISTJ: When I encounter a new situation, person, or idea, I internally scan my memory banks and personal experiences to see if any of this feels familiar to me, so I can use that as a basis for comparison and know how to interact with this new idea, person, or situation. I counter any and all information with facts and measure my success through results. I want to apply knowledge rather than just theorize about it, and do not often share my feelings.

ISTP: When I encounter a new person, situation, or idea, I consult my inner framework of logic to determine if it is consistent, thorough, and rational. I am more interested in consistent, clear, precise logic than results. I form a logical judgment on the new information and if it seems worthy of consideration, I am happy to engage with it. I enjoy soaking in information, observing, and taking action. I am good at seeing an opportunity to act, or to make something happen. Sometimes, I like to think about my ideal future and how I might make my dreams into reality. I rely on my instincts and like to learn hands-on. I’m not afraid to get physically involved.

INTP: When I encounter a new person, situation, or idea, I consult my inner framework of logic to determine if it is consistent, thorough, and rational. I am more interested in consistent, clear, precise logic than results. I form a logical judgment on the new information and if it seems worthy of consideration, I am happy to engage with it. I like to indulge many different possibilities and ideas, and sometimes lose my connection to reality because I find what is inside my mind far more fun. I often read between the lines and assign people motives, or guess what is going on with them. I tend to change my mind often about what I want from life or what profession I might pursue, and am often distracted by newer and better ideas. I like to discuss things (philosophy, poetry, psychology, science, etc) more than do them and tend to be a little nostalgic. I’m not a big fan of change.

- ENFP Mod

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Happy 2nd Anniversary to the #AlwaysKeepFighting campaign! I am so grateful to Jared for starting this incredibly important, inspiring and motivating movement. I know it has made a HUGE impact on my life and the lives of SO many others. Thank you, Jared, for having the courage to speak out and share your own personal struggles with depression. Having someone like you, whom I ook up to, helping to end the stigma attached to Mental Health Illnesses, means more than I could ever express. I hope there will be many more campaigns to come in the future. ✗ &

Studying MASTERPOST (Youtube Edition)

This is a collection of my favorite YouTubers I watch when I study, hope you find them useful!

(I am linking some of my favorite videos but most of the YouTubers have more than one studying videos)


Chenling Shi

Personally love all her videos, very inspiring to me

{she is a uni student in Canada that doesn’t play around when studying}


SARANG

Very happy to have discovered her channel. Has both music and real-time studying, my favorites

{she is a student studying to become a dentist}


twinklinglena

Love the content because it shows how she can manage to focus on her education but also her personal life 

{she is a senior I believe, studying in Korea to become a doctor}


Caely Yo

No matter how stressful studying and life is she motivates me to work hard

{she is a student studying law}


Jem

Very simplistic and aesthetic videos. amazing music choices

{just finished high school, entered a college/uni}


Study to Success

Great advice for APs, very hard working and inspirational

{high school senior}


studyign

You most likely have already heard or follow her. videos are very informative and helpful

{just finished high school, entered a college/uni}


Bonus Videos:

my comments:

You can simply find these videos if you search them on youtube. Let me know if you have seen these videos already or if you already follow any of the Youtubers mentioned. During the school year I only follow these people to keep me going. If you know of any similar youtubers or videos please link them or message me about them I would love to find watch :)

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Guess what came in the mail today.

THE APPRENTICE TAROT TEST DECKS, HOLY SHIT LOOK! LOOK AT THAT RAINBOW SPINE GUYS! IT’S A UNICORN DECK!

This is my “edition zero” run of TAT decks for the purpose of feedback and review, and of course, my own experimentation. I have some quibbles with the printing and may choose a different one for the production run, but I am pleased with how it’s turned out overall. The definitions don’t feel overly intrusive to me, the way they have on the very few other study decks I’ve ever seen. The correspondences and keywords are even less so, but still happily readable.

I’ve done a couple of basic readings and an interview, pictured above, and it has turned out rather curiously.

It is a a reasonably gentle, un-scary deck on the whole – which is what I wanted it to be. A lot of new readers, or people getting a reading for the first time, get really freaked out by things like the Death card, or the 10 of Swords, which are slightly less gruesome in my deck than in most, owing to their color scheme and their minimalism.

But I have to say I’m surprised that, so far, the TAT has a slightly serious twang. Perhaps that’s because I, its creator, am a more than slightly serious person.

Pictured above is my deck interview: what sort of deck are you, what do you like to read for, and what is our relationship?

We start out light and gentle with the 9 of Cups, a card of abundance and granted wishes, but from there, things get a little more weighty. The 6 of Wands is speaking towards creative and personal motivation, a need to light a fire under people’s ass. Perhaps a good quality for a study deck to have! But the Judgement card, our relationship signifier and a major, shows an amount of self-awareness I wasn’t expecting, in terms of it pinning down exactly who it is talking to. Are you judging my creative effort, TAT?

Please let me know what you think of the look of them, especially if you are a beginning tarot reader! This deck is for you, and I want to know what you think!

Boosts appreciated, and watch this space for my Kickstarter!

This morning I stepped on the scales and they read 172#. I have never in my adult life weighed as little as one-hundred seventy-two pounds. At one point in time when I stepped on the scales they were closer to 300# than 200#. Hands down this is the most emotional & rewarding journey of my life. Every day is an improvement. I am constantly assessing and adjusting my goals. My training is tougher & more consistent than ever. My nutrition is on point & macros get readjusted as need be. I have a new set of goals and am ready to smash them.👊🏼

Lent

So I’m not religious but I always find Lent a good excuse to usually give up chocolate or alcohol or something like that.

But this year I am giving up calling myself “fat”!!!

No more “ I look so pudgy, my thighs are huge, look how big my belly is”

This is a big thing for me and I’m going to try my best not to say anything negative towards my body size.

What are you guys giving up?

UMFB&MHA is coming to an end in a few hours. Before the new chapter completely ruins me, I’d like to give a huge thank you to @kazliin for creating such an amazing work of literature (When people joke that AO3 has some of the best writing in the world, the first thing i think of is UMFB&MHA). kazliin’s work ethic never fails to amaze me, as she pushes 10k+ word chapters on a consistent two week schedule (while being a med student???? holy shit. She doesn’t get enough credit). The level of detail in the fic is just as amazing. I haven’t gotten a chance to read the meta posts yet, but the careful choice of programs, music, and EVERYTHING in the fic is just crazy. kazliin is also so kind and dedicated to interacting with fans of her work (i have no clue how she deals with so many asks and messages). It has been an absolute pleasure to read this fanfic and interact with others in our emotional distress :’). I’d also like to give a more personal thank you to kazliin. I was totally dried of motivation in anyway to keep up my art hobby, but UMFB&MHA never failed to inspire me. When it came to UMFB&MHA, art became fun again for me, and words cannot express how grateful I am for that.

Its really been a wild ride, and I can’t wait for the companion fic!