but I am not going to complain or rant about that because I really don't want hate

Tower of Dawn

     So I think it’s time this fandom had a sit-down and talked some things out. Today’s topic: ableism. Before all of y’all start jumping on me and dismissing me and trying to say I have no right to talk about this, let me tell you a bit about myself.

     I was born with spina bifida. For those of you that don’t know that is, it’s when a baby’s spinal chord and nerves don’t develop properly. I had my first surgery to help this condition when I was eight days old. The excess amount of scar tissue in my lower back had begun to wrap around my spinal chord, which for obvious reasons is dangerous. I had the same surgery when I was four years old, and that’s when my life changed forever. I’d been able to walk before using a leg brace, but due to a mistake by the surgeon, my left leg was left paralyzed. I was a normal (and I hate using the word normal here, normal is an absolutely useless construct of society, but for lack of a better word at the moment, bear with me) kid, mobile and able to move around as I pleased, and then I couldn’t. I’ve been using a wheelchair since then. I’m not telling you guys this because I want pity. I don’t. I’ve accepted it as part of my life, and I love myself just the way I am. This little explanation is here so you guys can understand exactly where I’m coming from when you read the rest of this post. So with all this in mind, here goes my not-so-little rant.

     DISCLAIMER: I will be calling people out in this post and tagging them because I am done. 1000%, completely fucking done with this fandom. And if this causes a shitstorm, fuck it, because this needs to be said and this fandom needs to learn to stop being hypocritical pieces of crap.

     I love these books. I love Sarah’s writing in general,  and I would read literally anything she wrote. These books, Aelin’s story, Feyre’s story, are so important to me. I don’t have words to describe how much they mean to me. I love talking about them and healthy and constructive conversations about them. And some of the jokes that have been made  by the fandom are some of favorites. I’ve made some of them myself. I’ll joke alongside all of you about wingspans and gold nightgowns for as long as you want.

     I want to make something perfectly clear: this rant is in no way a reflection of my thoughts about her books. This post is exclusively about the fandom’s disgusting behavior.

     So let’s start with this post that I saw earlier.



     Disability is not kinky.

     For those of you that can’t understand that, let me repeat it.

     Disability is not kinky.

     DISABILITY. IS. NOT. KINKY.

     This whole post is horrifyingly ableist. And before you guys start claiming that “I have disabled relatives, I can’t be ableist!” (@rowan-stole-my-heart, I’m looking at you. Remember that conversation last year? Nice to know you’re still disgusting), that’s like saying “I have African-American friends, therefore I can’t be racist!”, which is such an inherently flawed line of arguing that it would require a whole other post to address, so I’ll just say don’t try it. I can’t even begin to fathom the mental process all of these people went through to think that this was even remotely acceptable in any way, shape, or form, so let me break this down and explain to you why this isn’t.

     This, my horrifyingly inconsiderate friends, is a form of fetishism. According to the Merriam-Webster dictionary, fetishism is the pathological displacement of erotic interest and satisfaction to a fetish. Now that you know what that is, let’s move on.

     This whole fandom has been complaining about a lack of diversity in Sarah’s books since I joined the fandom. Diversity doesn’t just mean POC, which is exactly what this fandom conveniently forgets. Diversity includes POC, people with mental illness, people with physical disability, LGBT+ people, and so much more. And when Sarah finally adds someone who embodies a slice of that diversity, you all have the gall to reduce his situation to sex jokes. All I can say is how dare you. How dare you reduce someone’s life and reality to a kink, to something to be made fun of, to something that spices up your dash and makes it NSFW just because you wanted to make fun of a book cover you probably weren’t satisfied with. In doing so you are insulting the thousands upon thousands of people that are in the same situation. You’re reducing them – reducing me – to a fantasy that you can use and then dismiss the next moment, without regard for anyone’s feelings. Do you have any idea how difficult of a topic sex is for people with disabilities? We are laughed at for wanting sex. Our anxiety when it comes to that is ten times that of any able-bodied person, simply because we don’t fit into the box that society wants to shove everyone into. And you’re making it that much worse because you have the audacity to think the fact that someone can’t move their legs is funny.

     It hurts. Reading that post hurt like hell. Because in your eyes – in society’s eyes – people like me aren’t human. We’re just something to ride, right? Yeah, I didn’t miss that little gem of a comment, @readinglikewildfire.

     And because I know this is coming, no, Chaol isn’t just a character.

     But you know what, I get it. It’s just sex, right? A small joke made, no harm done.

     Wrong.

     You’re perpetuating yet another harmful concept cooked up by a disgustingly ableist society. Sorry, but your privilege and utter ignorance are showing. I will concede a bit and agree that we can treat fiction for what it is – something that isn’t real – up to a certain point. But you guys just crossed a line. For those of you saying that you feel guilty for laughing, you absolutely fucking should, because this shit isn’t funny.

     The fact is if that post had been making fun of race or mental illness, then the fandom would have ripped these people to shreds and they would have been reported many, many times over. But it’s not, and instead I can count on my fingers the number of people that stood up to say this was wrong, because it’s just another wheelchair joke, right? Who cares? To those that did, I thank you from the bottom of my heart, especially @throne-of-omg-the-feels and @midnight-wonder.​ It’s nice to know there’s still some hope for humanity left. And to @nerdperson524, I agree with you. People do need a laugh, even those that live their lives stuck in chairs. But that post? It’s downright offensive.

     So that’s it. I’m done blowing things out of proportion, as some of you will say. If you think I should have approached you privately and messaged you about this instead of publicly calling you out, then maybe, just maybe, you shouldn’t have PUBLICLY insulted mocked degraded an entire subset of the human population. And maybe that makes me a bad person. It certainly means I’m not being the bigger person. And I could honestly care less. I am tired. So sick and tired of constantly being the bigger person, of just staying quiet when I see things like this because what’s the use? The entire world is filled with this shit and it’s not like I can fight every time I see this kind of injustice. Nothing’s going to change, no matter what I do. But this? This is where I draw the line. Congratulations.


@crochanblackbeak @feysandsmut @the-bookish-soul @rowan-buzzard-whitethorn @abraxoswyvernnn @carrion-princess

So Something Happened at Phoenix Con

I’m not usually one to complain, or criticize, or speak out at all really. I’m one of those fans that just quietly sits in the corner and admires from afar, silently praising all the guys for what they do. But every now and again, someone does something that lights me up, and I’m off like a firecracker.

As I’m sure you’ve concluded, that happened recently.

I’m a Jared girl, but I love and respect all the actors equally. Respect being a keyword here. Phoenix con 2017 is going on now. As it so happens, that’s exactly where this incident took place. Yesterday. On the day mostly recognized as Misha’s day of the con.

Let’s all just agree that Misha is an incredible human okay? He’s actual such an incredible human that he borders on being a real life angel. He deserves all the good things in the world. Which is why I am particularly fired up because of what happened.

**Not naming names because this is not to bash anyone, just to draw attention to the fact that these are people with real, human emotions**

I’m going to summarize this the best I can because, honestly, the more I talk about it the angrier I get (and I’m not an angry person, this just really doesn’t sit well with me).

Long story short, there was a con-goer that had been to a con in the past and she had Misha sign her arm. Misha had said that if she still had the autograph on her arm the next time he saw her, he would buy her ice cream. No harm in that part. This is where things start getting…. Uncomfortable.

The girl then decided she was going to take Misha up on that (which, admit it, we would all try to keep Misha’s auto on us as long as we could, bet or not). But, instead of doing any number of options that would be considered safe and acceptable, she peeled off her skin, including the autograph, and preserved it.

Are you still with me? Hold on. I’m not done yet.

At Phoenix Con, she then adhered it back to her skin. Now, I’m not sure if she showed it to him during a panel, or ops, or autos, or where. But when she did show it to him, he told her to take it off.

**this is where I get seriously pissed**

So, she takes it off. AND FUCKING THROWS IT AT HIM.

This girl, who claims to love and respect Misha Collins throws a piece of her dry, dead, decaying skin at him. It lands in his lap and his handler has to come pick it up. She tries to excuse it by saying ‘it’s all in good fun’ and that he’s ‘used to her by now’, but let’s make a few things clear.

It’s all in good fun? I’m sorry, I have never once in my life have gone around throwing preserved skin at people for the fun of it. And I’ve asked some of my friends (the ones that wouldn’t call the cops on me for asking such a question) and they all said the same thing. I don’t care if you’re a celebrity or Mary Jane that lives next door, people don’t like having dead skin thrown on them. Especially a stranger’s skin.

Secondly, no matter how many times we meet them, they really don’t know us. They don’t know if you’ve got any diseases. They might not even recognize you, really. How many times have you seen someone at work over and over and over again but don’t really know them? I have. I’ll admit it. And you know what? It is my job to interact and build report with customers. And I’m not a celebrity – I don’t have millions of people begging for time with me.

I guess I made this post for a few reasons:

1.       Is my anger justified or misplaced? Taking into consideration that, while I’ve never met them (Pitt Con is so far away), I do love them like they’re family

2.       I’m open to opinions.

3.       I want to make a PSA that Jared, Jensen, and Misha – hell EVERYONE – are human. Don’t do something to them that you wouldn’t like having done to you. If you wouldn’t like have dead animals thrust into your hand, don’t make them hold one. If you wouldn’t like someone to throw decaying organs on you, don’t do it to them! You paid money for a ticket to the con. You did not pay money to abuse them.

I know I’m going to probably get hate for this, and to be honest, I really don’t care. If you think I’m right, great. I’m glad someone sees this from where I’m at and finds it just as wrong as I do. If you think I’m wrong then… well, you keep doing whatever you think is right. We’ll agree to disagree.

tl;dr – Don’t throw your decaying, preserved skin at Misha because he’s a human and it’s disgusting on so many levels. Show him respect. Show all of them respect. You know Misha is too kind to say anything about how uncomfortable it makes him, so just save everyone from being awkward, and save the fandom from feeling like we have to apologize for the actions of a single fan.

As a Mercy Main;

This rework is horrendous.

I’ve only been playing since about mid Season 3, and I have 100+ total hours on Mercy. I have both the Huge Rez (which is a really fun yet hard to get achievement) and Group Health Plan achievements.

I have suffered some of the most insufferable, entitled players in the game, adn this ranges from DPS to Support (though… more often than not, DPS and Tank, chill, please). I have pulled off multiple of the full-five-man rezes in my time, and each one was either really hard to get or ridiculously easy to.

I am that Mercy that you should fear not seeing on the kill counter.

However, this isn’t why I’m against the rework. I love love love the concept of Valkyrie. I know my lovely heal-bird Mercy needs a rework. But this is not what we- as Mercy mains- wanted, or asked for. 

Now, those of you who think that the new Mercy rework makes them ‘actually play the game’ can eat my boot. Mercy players- and I mean the ones who earned their golden weapons and played her to perfection, the ones that would quad or quintuple res you, the ones that were truly your guardian angels that you LOVED to have on your side but HATED on the enemy- have learned to play their game exceptionally well. We know how to fight back, how to lash out, how to get that last 5-10% of our res in a pinch.

And as a heads up, I’ve never seen a single Mercy player ‘hide and res’.

I myself have hidden before. This occurs when the entire enemy team blows their ults at once and I’m not near the Graviton/Blizzard and can escape. I do this because it’s better to let them blow their ults and kill who they do before I walk in and res them to push again.

I’ve also been in the middle of teamfights where ults go off all around me and I pull off a three to four man res. (Once, a five-man, but that was because Ana nanoboosted me and I could Battle Mercy my way to my ult.)

This new res, however;

is a death sentence to Mercy due to range

is basically a death sentence for her single res

puts her even more into the fight

has such a long cooldown that the moment you wind up rezzing that one person that was valuable and then got instantly targeted/killed, that when you get back to your team, it’s still not up and you can’t rez anyone on the payload.

and puts her more in danger than ever before as she can no longer keep her range.

Her Valkyrie is AMAZING. I’ve played it on the PTR a few times, yeah, but it’s not… It’s not what she needed.

She still has no way to fight back and heal, unlike EVERY OTHER SUPPORT (Symmetra doesn’t count we all know you’re actually a defense.)

She can fly, but this escape isn’t entirely viable.

Torb now counters her even more.

Her beam still only hits one person. Just, from really far away.

Her infinite ammo is fun, it’s not hard to really aim, but there’s no… there’s no point. She either becomes a DPS superwoman, or she becomes a long-range heal monkey.

There is literally no reason to pick her anymore beyond that single, wimpy res.

What I would have LIKED to have seen is them make Valkyrie into her E instead. A five-second ability to get her out of tough spots or get to her team faster, with a thirty second cooldown. (A massive fucking cooldown, by the way, two of Valkyries and a majority of good players can get their ults up anyway) or something similar, and kept the rez or nerfed it slightly. Maybe lower the amount of health the rezzed players received (make it ¾ or ½, add to the skill that’s already required to keep the team alive post-rez).

To all of those who complained about Mercy to begin with, I say this; you’re just mad she was on the other team. I cannot tell you the amount of you people that I have met twice in a row and switched teams, where you recognized me and focused me and then flamed me for being good. For doing my job.

While you had just told me less than an hour prior, “good rez!”.

Five man rezes are not an instant PoTG steal, either. I’ve done a few that didn’t get it. I’ve done rezes that saved the game and didn’t get PoTG. 

I’m convinced, totally and utterly, that this only came about because you wish, you beg for a Mercy that is a true Guardian Angel and doesn’t charge into battle with her wimpy pistol, that doesn’t just heal/boost her duo  and actually stays with her team. And when you see her on the other team, you got angry, you got upset, and you whined about it to get your way.

You want that Mercy, and since you can’t have her, nobody can.You threw a fit, you whined and cried until the rez that you loved to receive but hated to get countered by got wiped entirely from the game. She needed a rework, but she could’ve kept the rez.

Those of us who main her, to this day I will tell you, we just want a way to fight back and heal at the same time for when that Genji or Tracer comes around back and you don’t help. Or a reliable way to escape, such as a five second flight ability to get us in the air and out of the way. Both would’ve been nice. One would’ve been awesome. A five second flight doesn’t even keep us out of the teamfight or prevent us from death-

Those Widow mains are a pain to deal with lmao-

and a reliable combat method that won’t get us screamed at for not healing would’ve been even nicer.

I’m not going to enjoy playing her anymore. Salty, toxic players will yell at me for not rezzing them when I still have a massive CD. I will have people yelling at me for rezzing x and not y even when I think X is more valuable.

“Single rez me” will become something I will wish and love to hear in the next few, tiring days before rework goes live. 

Rant Time

I may lose followers for this and I don’t care cause these are my own opinions, but keep in mind these are just my thoughts and observations after the shit storm that was created regarding the Supergirl cast at the SDCC 2017.

I woke up Sunday morning (Australian time) to see nothing but a hateful shit storm towards Jeremy Jordan, Melissa Benoist, Mechad Brooks and Chris Wood from Supergirl. Without full context and only hearing people complaining about what was said and done I initially felt disappointed and let down by a cast of a show that meant a lot to me after the whole Sanvers storyline. This is where I point out I am a young lesbian woman who is still very insecure about myself and sexuality, so seeing this positive story between Alex and Maggie validated me and made me feel less shit about my being gay, so to say the show is important to me is an understatement.

Then, being curious and aware that I could be hurting myself even more, I watched the interviews for myself and was able to come to my own conclusion. I felt like a whole lot of what had been said was blown out of proportion and some things taken out of context to make the cast seem lesphobic and mocking their LBGT+ fan base and Supercorp shippers.

I feel like people are ignoring the fact that Jeremy was saying “they’re only friends” in regards to the storyline that actually happened in Season 2. Not once did I hear him, or the other cast members in question, directly shut down the community or Supercorp shippers. A lot of it was them being silly and having fun, hence the laughing and dancing along. I don’t believe it was meant to be malicious deliberately.

In saying that, I don’t agree with what the cast actually said and how they went about it. They could have been nicer about it.

In regards to Jeremy saying he debunked Supercorp and Melissa’s response of “that was brave”, I took her to mean that Jeremy was brave to say something controversial in a fandom so big and he should be prepared for backlash.

Now, I think people should stop and think for a moment at the fact that Jeremy apologised in the interview when he realised what he’d said about Supercorp, sure it was brief, but it was there. Or the fact that he apologised on social media and people immediately shut him down and said he didn’t mean it. He’s only human. He realised he made a mistake and apologised. Why can’t people accept that and move on?

Now, it may sound like I’m defending their actions, but please keep in mind this is just what I’ve observed. The fact that comments were made by the cast is hurtful and disappointing as some one personally part of the LGBT+ fanbase for Supergirl.

Another fact i wish to rant about is people complaining that Sanvers wasn’t going to get enough representation at Comic Con because Chyler Leigh and Floriana Lima couldn’t make it. Now we know for a fact that Chyler was going to go until recently, when she told us that her husband’s father’s memorial service was on the Friday evening and she needed to be with her family during that difficult time. Fair enough. Leave the poor woman alone, she’s going through enough. As for Floriana, I know she’s gotten a lot of hate since she was cast and it even got to the point that she was bullied off social media. Perhaps she thought it wouldn’t be worth going due to the hate. That’s just me speculating though.

Really, the point of this rant is that a lot of what was said had been taken out of context and twisted to make it sound like the cast was nasty, and it made me feel like shit until I actually saw everything for myself. I feel like a lot of this shit storm is from people overreacting and wanting an excuse to fight or call people out for the slightest homophobic thing. I feel like everything was blown up to be larger and more malicious than it actually was.

Again, these are just my personal thoughts and observations. I can absolutely understand why people are mad and upset with the cast, don’t get me wrong. I’m not saying people aren’t entitled to their opinions about it all, and I’m not going to shut anyone down for their thoughts. I hope you can show me the same courtesy with this post.

While I’m not as mad as some other people on Tumblr, I’m certainly not saying the certain members of the Supergirl cast are able to have a free pass. But enough with the “you can choke” collage of the cast. That’s a bit much.

Rant over. I love you all and hope you have a lovely day.
that essay I promised...

I will admit there are many good things and interesting concepts in the new book Tigerheart’s Shadow, and while there are many technical flaws, objectively speaking there are probably worse special editions out there. However…that being said I can’t help but admit that this may be one of my least favorite warriors books to date. All because of one very special thing: The protagonist. If you are willing to join me on this long journey of exploring the borderline irrational depths of my seething hatred for this fictional one dimensional tiger-clone, feel free to proceed, but be warned it is very long and unorganized. (as usual)

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anonymous asked:

I completely understand that not everyone has to like a show. I love OL and thought the recent episode was one of the best. But that's me. I don't take it personally if you don't like it. That's you. What I don't get is people who genuinely have issues with virtually every aspect of OL who still watch it, take the episodes and certain story lines as a slap in fans faces, and spend some much time discussing these shortcomings. I am genuinely confused by this, so my question is simply - why?

I’m wondering if you’ve ever been in a fandom, Anon. Lots of fandoms contain people who blog ad nauseam about shows, lots of those people complain, especially those based on book series. Honestly, I missed the part where I was obligated to like everything about the show. And I don’t understand how every time I express dislike for some things, people automatically generalize it as me hating the show. I’m not sure why you think this, because I was busy the better part of yesterday to fully unpack 304 and I did not rant about it on here. Yesterday, I did two things on Tumblr: I reblogged a post by my friend Suhaila and I responded to a couple anons who were grateful others were bothered by the Jamie and Geneva sex scene. That’s it.

If you were taking the time to read my Twitter and my more immediate reactions to watching the episode, then that’s on you. Since then, I’ve digested the episode. I discussed it in DM and, yes, was pretty passionately against/repulsed by the Jameva sex scene. But I don’t think this anon is any of those people, because I would think those people would respect our friendship more than to put me on blast. 

Are you really interested in my analysis? I’m not sure you are, I think you just want to call me out. Anyways, I will tell you I loved 301 and 302. I was quite pleased with 301 and I’m pretty sure I’ve stated that. I think they nailed the grief and loss from the separation for both characters in 302. Baby Bree in her elf hat was adorable (sweet Time Traveling Fetus Child!). I wished there had been more bonding between Claire and Bree and build up to her decision to go to med school, but overall it was a very good episode. Episode 303 is where my issues with the imbalance really started to be highlighted. On one hand, Jamie’s Ardsmuir storyline was very well done, compelling, I enjoyed his developing friendship with LJG, remembering Claire’s healing, and was thrilled that Murtagh was saved. Good job show! 

On the other hand, I’ve felt Claire’s storyline has been incredibly shortchanged. They basically flew through her life and focused solely on the Claire-Frank dynamic. Her friendship with Joe never got proper development and I wish we’d seen more of her as a doctor. I wish they wouldn’t have once again shoehorned her into episode 304. They could’ve saved all of her stuff for 305, where it looks like they will focus on her—AT LAST!—but I truly hope it’s not too little too late. I truly hope people won’t think she’s callous and a bad mother for just deciding to up and abandon her daughter. Up until now, we’ve only been told Claire and Bree haven’t been close and Claire’s a workaholic. Oh, and that she would deliberately part with her beloved pearls—NOPE. So wrong, so against the character. The stakes haven’t been portrayed as very high for Claire regarding what she’s about to do because the fact is we’ve barely seen her or her perspective. 

Despite my initial reaction, 304 wasn’t all bad, aside from the sex scene, which I HATED. I hated it because it was the most graphic sex scene we’ve had since 109 and it wasn’t between Jamie and Claire. I felt it was unnecessary to show so much detail, such as Jamie’s “You can watch me if you’d like,” sucking on her breast as he’d done when making love to Claire, his low, sultry growl, “now move with me.” Just unnecessary. I can see how people thought the aftermath attempted to qualify it as a simple transaction with very little feeling. But still, I feel very fervently that we did not need all of that detail.

If you want to know why it felt like a slap in the face, here’s why: We went a full season with very little intimacy between Jamie and Claire. That’s just fact. Then we were given a myriad of excuses like “they’re not the royal couple so we don’t need to see them conceive their child” or “they’re telling a different story” or “they’re married now.” Sorry, that still doesn’t sit well with me. And it now colors my perspective toward this season. I have my doubts they’ll make it up to me, but despite my first reaction, I’m now willing to let them try. If they’re going to be that explicit with Jamie and Geneva, 306 better melt my frigging television. The latter half of Season 3 better be wall to wall Jamie and Claire intimacy—sex and otherwise. Otherwise, what is the point of this show? What the heck are they building toward with these first 5 episodes?

One thing is clear: This show is not good at balancing dual storylines. In Season 1, people raged about how the focus and flashbacks about Frank detracted from the building of Jamie’s character. In Season 3, it’s Claire who has been the victim of the continued focus on Frank. But because Jamie’s life is so interesting, people don’t care as much. If you really want a well-articulated perspective about how they’ve done Claire a disservice from a professional—which I definitely share—see the New York Times

To be honest, while everyone’s going back and forth justifying the focus by saying finally Jamie’s getting his due attention, his journey in the 18th century is much more interesting, I’ll just say I am and always have been more interested in Jamie and Claire together. Jamie’s journey is compelling, even though it veered hard into melodrama in 304. The fact that Claire’s isn’t is 100% a failure on the part of the writers. But after writing all of this, I’m ready for them to be back together. I think once Jamie and Claire are reunited, I’ll be much happier and much more interested in returning to gifing and squeeing away.

anonymous asked:

Where's the matty receipts post?

(alternately titled “Matty: how he doesn’t understand power dynamics”.)

okay, so I’ve thought about this and I hypothetically could make a huge post with Matty receipts. However, I’m going to The 1975 twice this weekend and I would prefer to not be filled with rage whenever I see him, so instead of making an actual receipts post, I’m just going to talk about the things he’s done that relate to what Halsey has done. 

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anonymous asked:

What do you think of Grant Morrison's writing for Dick, and how he wrote Dick and Damian's relationship? I know he gets a lot of flak from fans for how he wrote Jason Todd and Talia Al Ghul, but I don't know what fans think of his Dick Grayson.

(Batman and Robin #5)

For me personally, I have about 90% love for Morrison’s Dick Grayson and 10% annoyance, so I don’t have many bad things to say overall. I’m definitely one of those fans who complains about Morrison’s treatment of Talia and Jason– and I also hate how he wrote the Joker, which I don’t think gets commented on often. 

In fact, it really bugs me, so give me a second to rant about how Morrison wrote the Joker first, and I’ll address his writing of Dick and Damian second. 

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For those of Who don't understand

Dear Confused White People,


Right now, there is a trend that seems to be causing chaos and confusion to curious conforming Caucasians. The term cultural appropriation seems to be the “it” word right now. At first, I was elated by the fact we are finally bringing attention to the fucktivities of the people in this country. For the most part, I’ve always been one to try to educate people in the least hostile way possible when it comes to subjects of culture. I find that since we’ve been discriminated for so long, we tend to lash out to and about anything involving race. Very understood. I’ve also noticed that whenever we do, we are called labeled as “angry” or “hateful” or anything other than what we are trying to be. It’s funny going online and reading comments of people saying, “black people complaina bout everything”, “black people want exclusive rights to everything” , “black people make everything about race”. I almost want to scream and start going on an anti-Caucasian rant. However, to battle hate with hate and discrimination with discrimination, never gets anything really….”fixed”.

Which leads me to this.
​In case you aren’t up to speed. amandla Stenberg posted a comment under Kylie Jenner’s photo of her cornrows basically stating that using black culture to promote yourself and not human rights is kind of…..wrong. Apparently this has sparked a debate saying that blacks want to reserve the right of everything, such as music, etc. Also that we wear weaves and that we should stop wearing them (as if black women don’t also grow curly or straight long hair).
​Now, at first I left it alone. But, more and more I see these ignorant ass comments and it makes me sooooooo angry. So I am giving these people the benefit of the doubt and hoping that you just don’t GET IT. You don’t get it. It’s not about the cornrows, and it’s not about the rap music. ITS ABOUT THE KILLING, THE LYNCHING, THE POLICE BRUTALITY, THE DISCRIMATION, THE COLORISM, THE WHITE WASHING, THE HARRASMENT, ETC.
It is the fact that it is trendy to be black until you are actually black.

To tell us we complain too much, and we make everything about race is very insulting. How about you look at the statistics of how many blacks or even POC are killed by police in this country. How many southern states still have blatantly racist towns and counties etc. Racism doesn’t just exist, it is thriving. People get away with hate crimes. Imagine being killed for doing nothing. Imagine your kids being killed for nothing.

Imagine being hated and killed for your features , your color, your traditions and being told its “ghetto” or “dirty”. Imagine for centuries having to accept that everything you create is jungle music and coonery. Things you make are dirty. And yes, this STILL is happening. So I want you to understand that everything that represents who you and your people are is considered less than.

Now imagine that someone else does all of these “ghetto” “dirty ” things, but they are white. You don’t have to imagine, it’s happening. These people are getting praised for a culture that you abuse and kill us for. And then wonder why we’re upset. When will it hit your mind that you don’t get to tell someone who is abused how they need to feel about their abuser.

“Oh I know he raped you, but that was a long time ago , you should get over it.”

“Oh I know you made that dress and we all said it was hideous and made fun of you. But it looks better when she wears it so you shouldn’t be upset about her stealing your dress.”

“Yea we made fun of you for dancing like that, but when we do it… It just looks better. Can’t really put my finger on it but it just does for some reason. So just go sit down and don’t dance, but be happy about it. We have every right to dance this way.. Even if you made up the dance. You don’t have a right to dance that way though.”


You need to understand that you are the youngest race in this planet. You are not native to any land. Everything you have has been forcefully taken.

The only way you will understand our pain is if an alien species came, called your way of living savage, and decided to enslave and rape you while harvesting the earth. They take over the “savage” earthly customs but punish you for doing them. You couldn’t take it. You couldn’t even take the British Lol.

So no, it’s not that we don’t want you rapping. It’s not that you can’t wear cornrows. It’s that you kill us and ridicule us for these things but do them. It’s that you embrace our culture for your entertainment, then in the same breath, kill us for your entertainment.

So you don’t get to say we can’t wear weave because we started that. Can’t say we can’t straighten our hair because we are also born with straight hair of various colors including blonde. We’re also born in different shades and colors. Hygiene and math, you got from POC. You literally have everything because of us and yet we are the ones getting killed. That is the issue.

Stand up for our rights the way you stand up for sharing our culture.


Stand up for our survival the way you stand up for dating our men and women.

Your mixed babies would be lynched just like I would. Your daughter would be raped just like I would. Your daughter will yearn to hold on to the culture that defines her identity the way I will.

Stop telling me I shouldn’t be offended by something when you haven’t lived a day in my shoes. You don’t know what it feels or means to be black. I know because you say nigga and think it’s a slang or trend. I know because you bump Kendrick but don’t know about #blacklivesmatter. Don’t pick out the parts of my culture you like. Listen to the moral of what we say. You have more access to education than I do, so don’t act stupid. You know what the root of the issue is. Don’t make statements if you don’t. Ask.

Ask and actually listen to the response. Listen actively. Pay attention.

Stop finding my culture beautiful only when it benefits you. Find it beautiful when I am bloody for being armed with a bottle of tea. Stand up for me. Tell the world what I brought, what my people brought. Talk about my beauty then, don’t be silent. Learn about me and what I represent. Then, you can rock your cornrows.


Sincerely,
Nezi Momodu

You still can’t say nigga though 💀

I'm going to rant.

Hi there. Friendly reminder that not everything is about you. 

The “sexual” or “romanticizing” posts about Mark are not going to hurt you or anyone else. Guys, he has literally already said before that he CHOOSES to ignore what he finds a little too weird and he even gave us PERMISSION (which wasn’t necessary since we all should have known this from the start) to post ANYTHING we wanted to in the tag. Haven’t you seen that post where someone bluntly said they’d fuck him and he said “I feel”? So, why are YOU taking it so personally if Mark isn’t taking it seriously himself? 

You’re “uncomfortable”? Gee, that really sucks! I’m sorry to hear that. Hey, random fact of the day, the internet and the thing we call a “tag” is a pretty public place where a lot of shit is said and there is in NO way things are going to be censored because of how uncomfortable you feel (unless you changed your settings to SFW things only!). Did you imagine sunshines, rainbows, people focusing only on game play in the tag? Well, you’re going to have a bad time, ‘cause the internet just doesn’t work that way. Those posts HARDLY EVER make ME uncomfortable, but that’s just because my comfort zone happens to be different from yours. No one is classifying Mark as “just a piece of meat.” They do not speak for him, hell they aren’t even changing him, so who are you to tell anyone what to do? Eat a snickers, my friend, because the one changing here is you (what I mean is, you’re going from peaceful to angry about little things that aren’t a big deal). NO ONE is inclined to listen to you because you are “uncomfortable.” That’s pretty selfish, really. Making people watch what they say in a PUBLIC, FREE FOR ALL TAG because you and a few others felt “uncomfortable.” Paltry comments like that do nothing for anyone but you. Besides, do you think that’s going to stop new people in the fandom from saying anything? I don’t think so. Here’s the mindblowing part of it all and quite possibly the only explanation I will ever give ever.. THE INTERNET IS LITERALLY THE MOST COMMON PLACE TO FIND INAPPROPRIATE THINGS AND PEOPLE ARE GOING TO SAY WHATEVER THEY WANT REGARDLESS! YES, THAT MEANS THERE WILL BE HATE AND SEXUAL PRAISE IN THE TAG! WHOOP DEE DOO, ARE YOU SURPRISED?

I am ESPECIALLY fed up with you people who reblog porn gif’s and crap but get angry at someone for making a sexual TEXT post about Mark one or two times. How does that work? Please, do tell, because I know most of you don’t know Mark personally, so I don’t see how it’s any different. You know Mark as well as you know the person in that gif, so please, leave people alone.

Now, before you call me a hypocrite, I’m not telling you not to complain. It’s your blog (and this blog is mine!) and you are entitled to post your complaints in the tag whenever you want. Just keep this in mind before you start pestering people about how uncomfortable you feel about their post that will go away in under two days.