bullys

Bullying is a big theme in the series. It holds three big outcomes and are represented through three characters: Tom Riddle aka Voldemort, Severus Snape, and Harry Potter. The outcome as follows: evil, grey, good. Showing how bullying affects a person, it can make them crave power to never feel weak, make them a bully, or make them know it’s not worth doing to anyone else. BUT, had the Ministry kept better tabs on children with magic, perhaps these characters would’ve had better homes as kids.

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Reibert Week Day 3: Childhood

PORCO: You think you’re so much better than me don’tcha Braun? Too bad my brother isn’t here to come to your rescue now.

REINER: No I don’t! Hey, cut it out!

BERT: Reiner! 

PORCO: Shit. You got lucky Braun, but you won’t be so lucky next time.

BERT: Reiner, are you okay?

REINER: Yeah, I don’t know why he’s such a jerk. Thanks Bertl, you’re a good friend.

REINER: Don’t tell my Mom okay?

BERT: I won’t.

Someone needs to give that awful pig boy the dressing down he deserves. 

>:(

Just another BTF rant...

I was just thinking about how BTF instills serious FOMO (fear of missing out) in young competition/convention dancers so it’s really no wonder kids almost exclusively attend their events. Like you see all these videos from Gen IV and in a few weeks it will be Dancerpalooza either posted by BTF social media accounts or little dancers themselves so kids have a visual of what they’re missing out on. Idk I guess it’s no different from other comps and conventions but it’s on such a large scale and for some reason it feels like more than just promoting the brand. To me it seems like there’s actual pressure to attend BTF events to stay relevant in the dance world which is totally not true and is actually so limiting. Not to mention the politics of it all (I know you all are so tired of hearing it but seriously) like if you’re not at all these events and pumping money into BTF and rubbing shoulders with their faculty then your chances of winning at their regionals and nationals are possibly jeopardized.

anonymous asked:

hey hannah I hate all these ant-sjm blogs and they make me feel really uncomfortable to say my opinions on here. Theyve been attacking some people in the fandom behind their backs because of a post and I want to say something but I'm too scared because I know Id get hate back. Do you have any tips?

Hi Nonnie. That’s a decision you’re gonna have to make for yourself. And it all just depends. One thing I think you could do is PM people you see who are the focus of the hate and just let them know you see what’s happening and that you support them. I think people don’t realize sometimes when they cross the line from having an opinion to outright bullying others. Of that makes sense? This website is pretty anonymous, so I like to give people the benefit of the doubt. I also think some people have a lot of hurt and anger in their own lives and it’s easier to vent that anger or to take it out on other people. Especially if they’re anonymous and through a screen. And I don’t often think they realize what they’re doing. But some of them do. So I think it’s ultimately a decision you have to make for yourself.

But I’ll leave you with this: we can’t change other people, but we can change ourselves. So if we don’t like how someone acts on Tumblr, we can stop putting ourselves in a situation to see what they post by blocking them.

Hope this helps!

Learning to love myself

Sometimes I wonder why society tells us only thin figures are beautiful. Why can’t everyone be beautiful. I scroll through my Tumblr, Instagram, Facebook, etc., and all I see is girls who’s bones are the most noticeable thing about them. And for years and years I have tried my hardest to look like them. I starved myself and threw up when I ate and I punished myself for wanting food. But why? I’m healthy. I have little chubby bits but that makes me me and I am so tired of being held to the standard that thin is the only beauty in this world. I have been ashamed to even leave my house at times solely because of my weight. I have been shamed by boys and men for not being so skinny that my bones are showing. On my senior prom night I was told by a group of boys that I should not go to prom because I would not fit in my prom dress. I am not obese. I am 160 pounds and I am healthy. I know I am not the only person who has been shamed based on their appearance and I for one am so fed up with society. It is sickening to me that people are okay with saying such hurtful things to young girls who already are suffering to find their identity in this world. I want to let all of you know, no matter your size, you are beautiful. Curves are beautiful just like thin figures. We all have our things but that makes us who we are. Please don’t let people bring down your spirit. I know I am so far from being happy with my body, but little by little I’m learning to love myself ♥️

anonymous asked:

The indoctrination anon again here!! A lot of ppl who are bullied start to believe that they fit these labels & names that their bullies use because of the constant repetition. Like a kid who believes that they're stupid after bully continuously says they are. The child didn't believe this before the bullying but does so after. There's scientific & psychological proof that this happens to not just kids but bullied adults as well. Wouldn't bullying also be a more realistic kind of brainwashing?

I think this is one of those awkward areas where…this question could easily go to me, ScriptShrink or ScriptTraumaSurvivor and we’d probably all have slightly different answers because we all focus on different aspects of trauma.

The effect you describe of someone internalising abuse is completely true to life. But it’s not what most people mean when they say ‘brainwashing’.

I think a definition of brainwashing might be helpful in this ask.

Brainwashing refers to a controlled and imposed change on a victim’s beliefs and mental state.

The reason I don’t think this fits the definition of brainwashing is that it’s not controlled. It’s a possible response, but it’s not a guaranteed one. In the same way that this kind of intense bullying can lead to a victim becoming depressed, but depression is only one of several different possible psychological symptoms.

Brainwashing also tends to imply that the person imposing this change on the victim has some control over how they respond. And in this sort of bullying case they really…….don’t.

A bullying victim who internalises the message that they’re stupid can respond to that in several different ways. The fact that they’ve internalised that message doesn’t dictate how they respond. In the same way that someone’s symptoms don’t necessarily drive them to the same behaviours.

The behaviours I personally show in response to my own symptoms of mental illness aren’t constant across everyone who has the same condition.

So, yes bullies change the way people think about themselves. But inflicting that change doesn’t dictate how people act.

And I think that’s one of the core assumptions in stories that use ‘brainwashing’, that torturers ultimately control their victims.

I hope that I’ve helped clear up the differences and may be explained a little more about what is a possible response to trauma and what isn’t.

I think that to get a better idea of how this sort of bullying and internalisation of negative messages works you’ll need to ask ScriptShrink. It’s too far outside my area for me to give anything beyond this sort of shallow summary of what is possible and what isn’t.

Still, I hope this has helped and thank you for sending in the question. :)

Disclaimer

Dear Roger,

You have been bullying and harassing me for years. Yesterday you struck again publically shaming me with words like “shitbaggery” and dismissing my words as “bullshit” because you are too lazy to provide a reasoned and legitimate argument to my statement that there is a relationship between snake handling and skateboarding. Dismissing my words by calling them “bullshit” wreaks of misogyny. A tactic you often rely on out of laziness and privilege.

I have reached out to you directly numerous times asking you to utilize social media to talk about issues of representation in Appalachia in a way that opens up the conversation. Instead you continue to rely on tactics of public shaming and gatekeeping. By gatekeeping I mean that you position yourself in the role as dictator of who can and cannot make photographs in Appalachia.

You have spread rumors amongst colleagues that I am a slut and a drug addict. The former is important because much of your shaming is directed at women. I say this because in the past year three women have reached out to me to say that they have been harassed by you.

I have spoken with you directly about the value of self-reflexivity, about how important it is to remember that part of criticality is looking within oneself and owning your personal short comings when calling others out for theirs. I hope one day you will figure out why you feel the need to suppress women’s voices. A pattern that cannot be overlooked. I would love to see you publicly address why you have let jealousy and ego guide your criticism instead of an interest in building a conversation toward the greater good of representation in Appalachia. Every time you behave like this, you belittle the strength of your own voice.

You did not reach out to ask me why I chose to make a skateboard with an image I took of a West Virginia snake handler. If you did I would explain that I did it to celebrate 9 years of friendships with five West Virginia skateboarders I have grown close to. I was given the opportunity to make a skateboard about anything and this connection felt important to me. I am thrilled to have designed skateboards to give to all of the incredible rural skateboarders I have grown close to in Tennessee, Ohio and West Virginia. The practice of handling snakes is misunderstood by mainstream Christianity. It is seen as fringe and outsider. This is something rural skateboarders can relate to. For the many native Appalachian skateboarders and proud West Virginian’s, the connection between snake handling and skateboarding is not “bullshit”. When I say, “I was interested in how Pentecostal holiness churches represent an extreme form of transcendence and danger that correlates with the act of skateboarding.” I was speaking from a place of experiencing both cultures without condescension. This is because I do not believe in utilizing language that is negative or belittling. My interest in making connections between different types of outsiders has been a central component of my work since the beginning. It is intentional, thought out and considered. This does not mean that I always make the right decisions. I am not arrogant enough to believe I am always right. I welcome mindful criticism of my decisions. Calling my words “bullshit” is a cop out and epitomizes the laziness of your criticality.

Please be mindful that you do not speak on behalf of all Appalachians or all West Virginians.  Please be mindful that the commodification of culture is not good or bad it is a combination of the two and deeply embedded in the fabric of our capitalist society.

I hope in the coming years you will find peace within yourself. A peace that will allow you freedom from the need to behave like a bully. I believe there will be a day when you realize that embodying the power dynamic you are working against damages the integrity of the conversation you are trying to have about photographic representation in Appalachia

Sincerely,

Stacy

anonymous asked:

how could you ship bakugou and uraraka? bakugo is a total fuck boy who tormented deku for the majority of his life.

because the whole point of his character is that he’s slowly growing into a better person and realizing the error of his ways, and he’s eventually going to own up to his actions and apologize for what he did while realizing that his worth isn’t tied to being better than everyone. 

this is the entire reason he exists in the first place.

also, his past history with Izuku has nothing to do with Uraraka. there are very specific reasons as to why he lashed out and abused Izuku for a decade, and it ties directly to his fear of Izuku’s potential and thinking that Izuku looked down on him for most of his life (which severely fucked Bakugou up emotionally. how dare this quirkless nobody think he’s better than Bakugou?), and to Bakugou’s self esteem issues, where he fears that Izuku might actually be able to surpass him, which only fueled his inferiority complex.

none of these reasons have anything to do with Uraraka. 

i’m not justifying what Bakugou did. he still hurt and abused Izuku for ten years. however, he didn’t just do it to be a terrible person. 

no one in his life ever bothered to correct his behavior, and constantly praised him, telling him how amazing he was while constantly putting down Izuku. the adults in his life all reinforced this mindset and gave him a massive superiority complex as a result, and this continued up until UA. Aizawa was the first adult figure in either character’s lives to tell Bakugou that this behavior was unacceptable, and stopped Bakugou before he could lash out at Izuku during the first day of school.

what Bakugou did was wrong, regardless of the reason, and nothing can ever justify why he did it, nor would i ever try doing so. but it’s because of the reasons that we’re able to understand why he acted that way in the first place. 

it’s because he began as such an awful character that we’re able to appreciate his character growth, where he goes from joking about Izuku jumping off a building (which the narrative treats as a serious offense), to actively supporting him in his role as All Might’s successor. 

the reason i ship him with Uraraka is because the point of his character is that he’s slowly becoming a better person. something like that doesn’t just happen over night. it takes time. if he suddenly had a complete 180 degree change in personality and attitude, it wouldn’t be believable, and it’d just be plain old bad writing.

i ship him with Uraraka because they helped each other’s character growth. he took her seriously as an opponent, he treated her like an equal. and when Kaminari called her weak and fragile, Bakugou reprimands him and says that there was nothing fragile about her. it’s the first time he’s ever defended another person besides himself. 

(and he helped her growth as well, by refusing to go easy on her. by showing how far she’d be willing to go for her goals, by showing that she was determined to help her family no matter what. he helped show the audience that Uraraka can take the pain of battle and will give as good as she gets. that she’s not just a soft girl, or the main character’s love interest. that she’s just as determined as all the other characters to prove her worth and reach her goals.)

Bakugou’s defense of Uraraka, and his respect for her (by calling her by her name, something he only does for a very select few people, the others being All Might and Kirishima) is one of the first obvious stepping stones we get to see for his character growth. for the first time, he’s not being self centered, he isn’t raging, he isn’t suffering from the affects of his inferiority complex. for the first time, he’s he’s actively defending and respecting someone.

it was the first of many steps.

i ship them because Uraraka, in an omake, was the first person to realize how much of Bakugou’s anger towards Izuku was based on fear. no one had ever picked up on that in the past ten years. she realized there was something more to it than just anger and bullying. 

she realized that something was wrong. Bakugou didn’t just blindly hate Izuku. there was more to the story; Bakugou feared Izuku. and she reached out to him, and wanted to help them both. Uraraka actively cares and worries for them both

Bakugou has no ill feelings towards Uraraka. Uraraka has no ill feelings towards Bakugou. Bakugou respects Uraraka, and Uraraka thinks Bakugou was amazing during their match. she admires him.

what Bakugou did to Izuku was horrible. he needs to make up for it somehow, which is where his character growth is headed. he’s going to realize the error of his ways and apologize to Izuku, or make up for it somehow. that’s the whole point of his character, to grow up and realize he did wrong and make up for his past actions.

but the reason why he acted that way in the first place was due to very specific reasons. he’s not going to act like that to just anyone. 

he’s still just a dumbass kid who’s growing and learning an maturing. let him grow.

i don’t ship them because they’re the “bad boy” and the “peppy girl.” in fact, i rather dislike that sort of comparison, because i think it heavily oversimplifies their characters.

i ship it because Bakugou is growing as a person. he’s maturing. slowly, he’s realizing the error of his ways. i ship it because these two characters have the potential the other develop more. i ship it because Uraraka understands Bakugou, and sees through his bluster and anger. i ship it because Bakugou actually respects her as a person, and refuses to go easy on her because of her gender. 

it’s about character growth, and established character relationships, and realizing that these things don’t stay static. these two have the potential to help each other in different ways. 

simply describing Bakugou as a horrible person without any redeeming qualities means ignoring what Horikoshi is doing by writing his character, and it’s ignoring all the development he’s gone through throughout the series so far. it’s ignoring Horikoshi’s reasons for why Bakugou exists in the first place, an ignoring all the complex character development he’s carefully written into Bakugou, which is slowly making him learn and change and grow into a better person.

that’s the entire point to his character, after all.

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