bullying statistics

• 1 out of 4 teens are Bullied.
• 9 out of 10 LGBT students experienced harassment at school and online.
• As many as 160,000 students stay home on any given day because they’re afraid of being bullied.
• 1 out of 5 kids admits to being a bully, or doing some “Bullying.”
• 43% of kids have been bullied while online. 1 in 4 have had it happen more than once.
• 97% of middle schoolers are bullied while onine.
• 47% of older youth 18-24 are cyberbullied.
• 35% of kids have been threatened online. Nearly 1 in 5 have had it happen more than once.

anonymous asked:

Hello! So whenever I debate with sex workers, they always tell me that the police (and stigma) is the only one who is violent, that johns are not violent at all (or just a few of them). Could you explain what they mean when they blame the police and if the nordic model (their police) truly is violent? thks

There are multiple aspects to this, but they are conflated to form a certain argument.

1. The police (male officers in particular) are violent, especially in countries with a conservative culture. That’s a fact. They rape, imprison and sometimes beat people in the sex industry. One could argue that this is due to stigma, but i see it more as a crime of oppertunity, intersected with misogyny, racism, classism, homophobia or transphobia: they do it because they simply can. If the sex industry would have the exact same status as the bicycle repair industry, these things would still happen. Because the root cause is not stigma, it is oppertunity and belonging to an oppressed caste. One could argue that prostitution forms a class of its own (“wh*rephobia”), but politically this just doesn’t hold up. All of these aspects are already covered by their actual reasons: misogyny, racism, classism, homophobia or transphobia. Fighting stigma isn’t the solution (because stigma is not the problem, it’s a consequence), fighting for concrete protections of prostituted persons and against those 5 pillars of oppression is.

2. What one calls violence is subjected to interpretation. For example: another victim of abuse - let’s say incest- may jump up and down about this as well. Their dad molests them every night, but does so with soothing words and rewards in the form of toys and candy, while at the same time bullies slap the child on the playground at school. What do you think the child will mark as violence? The playground bullying of course. While statistically, the sexual abuse will have a higher chance of leaving a long lasting trauma. This goes for prostitution as well: there is a certain expectation or familiarity to what johns do to us, therefor we’re not so quick at labeling it abuse. While when a police officer causes harm, this is direct, intense and a very clear sense of violations. He is not supposed to touch you and selling sex shouldn’t be a crime at all.

3. Not every prostituted person/“sex worker” has the same experiences, position or background. I’m willing to believe at this point that the happy hooker exists, but mostly by grace of her good fortune and the cruelty in the lives of others (the “bad dates” do end up with some girl…). Not 100% of clients are sexually violent perverts or whatnot, of my own clients i’d say maybe 75% was abusive. I’ve had absolutely deluded clients too, who truly believed their own lies that this was just sex: equal, fair and mutually pleasurable. Some “sex workers” are in the position to select clients or negotiate in a way that is acceptable to them. And i hear my friends already shout “no human deserves this!!! Women aren’t fuckholes!!!!”, I know right? But that’s our personal OPINION, which is a useless argument in a POLITICAL STRATEGY to reduce the suffering of other women. And i hate to say it, but: if women aren’t suffering, why make such a fuss? And that’s the core of this little bulletpoint: I’m not here to convince happy hookers that they’re actually being abused. I’m here to prevent the happy hooker minority (backed by pimps, punters, lobbyists and rape apologists (“sex positive”, pedophile, MRA or otherwise) from speaking over the suffering majority.

4. The argument they use in this debate regarding “criminalisation” and the Nordic model is half bullshit and half misguided fear (that lobby groups LOVE to instill in them). Because how many people actually live in Sweden, Iceland, Norway (and since like 2 days Ireland, depending on the implementation of the soft side of the Nordic model)? What is their direct connection to those few people on Earth? A fuckton of their information (and fears) comes from a lobby group calked the Rose Alliance (which claims to be an organisation “for and by sex workers”, but is in fact run by the co-owner of a stripclub*). And fact-wise, it just doesn’t add up. They keep bringing up Petite Jasmine (a tragedy related to domestic violence), the only death in the history of the Nordic model (and again: domestic violence, not killed by a pimp, trafficker or punter) as why “the Nordic model will kill sex workers”. But at the same time an acquaintance of mine is literally counted the murdered prostituted women in Germany alone and that’s quite a list. Germany has a unregulated legalisation model (so somewhere between full decriminalisation and legalisation).

And the other big fear that keeps popping up is criminalisation. The fear that gets utilised is that “sex workers’” loved ones all will get rounded up for pimping and if they’re helping out each other they got thrown in the slammer as well. This fear is ridiculous of course, but as often is the case, it’s rooted in some realism. Which is the question “who is a pimp?”, because if you say “anyone who profits from a sex worker’s labour” you’re wrong, but it’s also the definition they fear will be used. And the fear is that it gets interpreted this strictly for the sole reason that “people hate wh*res and want to make our lives hell”. And considering the Nordic model is a feminist construction, specifically designed to reduce the suffering of women… nope. The Nordic model does not mean you can’t pay a driver, security person or accountant otherwise they’ll be jailed as pimps. It doesn’t mean that if you give your kids pocket money the newspapers will read “shocking cases of extremely young pimps on the rise!”.

The Nordic model simply means: curbing the market by educating potential punters, discouraging punters with punishment and reform (john school), prosecuting pimps and traffickers as abusers and helping prostituted persons avoid or leave the sex industry by means of social services. And i get that this sucks for the happy hookers, their wallets and their “shit, i don’t want my wife to read the letter with the fine and i don’t wanna learn about how i’m not entitled to other people’s bodies” clients, but some things are more important, like the suffering majority. You cannot assume all prostitution is “consenting adults”, because those actually, freely consenting adults are a tiny minority. We don’t legalise or fully decriminalise beating the shit out of people just because both boxers and masochists exist either. And i do understand that not all countries are Sweden, but did you really think that “free”-market-capitalism caused poverty is a good match with a thing like fully decriminalised prostitution? Think again. Germany has quite some social security and labour laws/regulations and there you have flat rate brothels that work like an all you can eat sushiplace, but instead of sushi it’s women’s bodies. These girls make ridiculously little money. I don’t wanna find out what this is gonna do when it’s implemented in other countries… you’d be sucking cock without a condom for 75 cents. Full decrim or legalisation are not the solution.

*Source: http://kvinnofronten.nu/eng/Newsletter/debate-rose-alliance.htm