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Re: June is pstd month

I suffer from ptsd, centred on the abuse I received at school. I’ve gotten used to hearing the question ‘oh, did you serve in Iraq or Afghanistan?’ When I tell people of my condition. I wish that it was better understood that ptsd doesn’t just affect veterans.

My pstd manifests itself in flashbacks, sleep disturbance, body dysmorphia, and acute anxiety around large groups of people. I also dislike going anywhere near my old school and often walk miles out of my way to avoid looking at it. I have paranoid schizophrenic tendencies, and the voices I hear are the voices of those who bullied me.

It took me a very long time to even accept that I had pstd, because I - like everyone else - thought that it was a condition only ex-soldiers got, and that I was somehow weak for suffering from it having been nowhere near a warzone.

As a result of being bullied for so many years, I also suffer from acute paranoia. I am 23 years old and it has been a long time since I was bullied.

I guess what I’m trying to say is that these things stay with us. You’re not told you’re worthless every day for years without it leaving a mark. I am now seeing a therapist who is helping me through my conditions. I very much appreciate your blog, and I hope that you continue to be there for anyone who needs you. Thanks.

A reminder to our followers with PTSD: PTSD is common in populations that have not been at war. According to the US Department of Veteran’s Affairs, 30.9% of men and 26.9% of women who served in Vietnam had PTSD symptoms. A study of school-age children found that 26.7% of boys and 40.5% of girls who had been bullied had PTSD symptoms.

PTSD comes from many causes and is prevalent in many communities. You are not alone.


We are people

When I see a picture of someone who looks like me, it’s usually illustrating a tragic or demeaning story.

Sometimes it’s a picture of a child, illustrating a story about how difficult life is for parents of autistic children. Or a story about how the child’s favorite thing got turned into therapy. With depressing bullying statistics.

Sometimes it’s a picture of an adult, illustrating a story about how difficult life is for parents of autistic children once their kids reach adulthood. Or a bleak story about unemployment statistics. Sometimes it’s a story about a special business or sheltered workshop for autistics that the parent is proud to say their child is involved with. With depressing unemployment statistics.

Sometimes it’s a story about how an autistic person has a special talent. Maybe they’re an artist. The story is always about how mysterious and beautifully tragic it is that autism sometimes gives people special abilities along with significant impairments. The story will not take them seriously as an artist. It will be a human interest story about autism, and no art experts will be quoted — but the headline will probably say “autism does not define him.”

This gets corrosive. It can make the world seem bleak and hopeless. It can be hard to remember that this isn’t an accurate way to describe us. That we are, in fact, more than that.

In real life, we’re people, and we do things. We do things besides be miserable or be inspiring. We have thoughts and attributes that are not convenient to the tragic plots of newspaper articles. We’re people. We do real things. And we matter.

I am not a tragic story; I am not an illustration. I am a real person. And so are you.

• 1 out of 4 teens are Bullied.
• 9 out of 10 LGBT students experienced harassment at school and online.
• As many as 160,000 students stay home on any given day because they’re afraid of being bullied.
• 1 out of 5 kids admits to being a bully, or doing some “Bullying.”
• 43% of kids have been bullied while online. 1 in 4 have had it happen more than once.
• 97% of middle schoolers are bullied while onine.
• 47% of older youth 18-24 are cyberbullied.
• 35% of kids have been threatened online. Nearly 1 in 5 have had it happen more than once.