bullie treats

it’s kinda fucked up that bullying is treated like a “soft trauma” or not REALLY a serious kind of trauma/abuse just because the abusers are generally other kids, because it’s honestly so damaging. it stays with you. it fucks with your sense or self, your self-esteem, your ability to trust people and make meaningful relationships. 

like yes those bullies ARE kids who generally don’t understand the consequences of their actions and i don’t doubt that most of them grow up not to be awful people but the damage they cause is real and people just………don’t take it seriously

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Why are you trembling in front of me like a scared little mouse? ( )

Meeting of the MCs


HSS MC: I’ve made great friends on my first day of High School. I also showed some bullies that treating others badly isn’t a solution


Sophomore MC: I’ve made great friends on my first day of college. I also showed some bullies that treating others badly isn’t a solution. And I wrote a book.


LoveHacks MC: I’ve made great friends on my first day in a new city. I also showed some bullies that treating others badly isn’t a solution. And I started my own company.


RoE MC: I’ve made great friends on my first day on a cruise ! I also showed some bullies that treating others badly isn’t a solution. Also my grandma forced me to marry a man I just met for money.


TRR MC: I’ve made great friends on my first day in a small foreign monarchy! I also made dangerous enemies and got threatened and my good name was dragged through the dirt. All because the prince wanted to propose to me….. but I’ll show those bullies that treating others badly isn’t a solution ….oh and maybe the old king is secretly a murderer but that’s not out ye…..


THoBM MC: I’ve made great friends on my first day in a haunted house. They’re ghosts. Also I was attacked by my brothers ghost and the burning ghost mother of my not burning ghost girlfriend . But I showed those bullies that treating others badly isn’t a solution.


Hero MC : I’ve made great friends on my first day as a superhero. I also showed some villains that treating others badly isn’t a solution and one of my LI almost died! Also there’s a supervillain who’s plotting something but I don’t even know he’s a villain yet.


Everyone: And what about you, Taylor?


ES MC: Well….. I’ve made some great friends on my first day on a tropical island….


Everyone: aww, that’s nice!


ES MC: …. just to find out that they’ve already died over and over again. 2139 times to be exact. And each time I saw them die and couldn’t do anything, even though I’m a practically immortal being who will still exist when there’s nothing left of the universe anymore. I exist out of time and used my time traveling abilities to create a whole religion with me as it’s god. I waged a civil war. I collected my dead friends blood to forge idols out of it that should guide them. I found myself. Literally. I’ve been killed countless times and resurrected always. I fought a high tech killer commando, a giant sea monster from ancient mythology and faced unimaginable dangers. I’m up against a real supervillain, who sank the world into the apocalypse. I’ve seen the whole world burn.


Everyone: What the heck…?!


ES MC: …and I showed some bullies that treating others badly isn’t a solution?


Everyone:

Ok so I’ve cooled down a bit from the initial shock and anger from the episode and have formed a coherent post so lets go.

Riverdale is smart. Just go with me here. The writers are smart, we may not like them right now but they are, why? Because they write these characters and let them live and breath and act like they would if they were real people. (I can’t tell you how many shows I’ve watched where plot dictates the characters actions.)

Jughead: he is a self loathing 16 year old with LARGE abandonment issues, his mother left him, his dad for the better part of his life was not a very good father. He has always been looked down upon, bullied, treated like he didn’t matter and never thought he could ever matter. And THAT influences his decisions. He is told BY Archie that Betty does not love him and sees the dark turn he is taking and does not like it so she wants nothing to do with him. Now a person with severe abandonment and trust issues is inclined to believe his BEST friend. He is self deprecating and was honestly just waiting for this moment to happen in the back of his mind. And it hurts it hurts SO MUCH more coming from a guy who is like a brother to him. He doesn’t believe Archie would lie to him what does he have to gain from that, so he believes him.

Betty: She is a 16 year old girl who tries to appease everyone, a person who tries to protect everyone and will do anything for the ones she loves even if that mean it brings harm to herself. And these character traits influence her actions. she can’t hurt Jughead she can’t even bring herself to end things with him because it hurst so damn much she is being put in an impossible situation and she asks for help from someone who has been with her since day one someone she can trust. This kills her but she believes she can fix it she’s Betty Cooper she can solve anything she’s Nancy Drew meets girl with the dragon tattoo, but really she is just a broken girl trying to do her best to keep the people she loves safe.

-now these are traits that influence the choice these characters are making, its natural, its real, its painful, and heartbreaking… but its honest.-

Now on to that pesky kiss… its a strategical move on Toni’s part 100% she saw Jughead in a vulnerable place and took advantage of that. And going back to Jughead’s personality traits and personal issues it makes logical sense that he would succumb to this very human (and also tv dramatics but whatever) reaction. He hates himself more than anyone ever could and he is being show affection in a vulnerable and heartbreaking moment so he gives into his self hatred to feel connected and to quite the voices telling him he is not good enough not worthy. So many people make the wrong choices in moments of self doubt and loathing its what he does after that that shows who he really is and whats worth it to him.  

so lets not demonize these kids until we have the full story and let the traits of these characters infilucen their choices becasue trust me its better that the ooc bull I’ve seen on other tv shows.

okgal21  asked:

Hey, I now next to nothing on the hero high school anime, but are Deku (is that right? Main character, green hair kid) and Sparky Sparky Boom man (the blonde one with grenades for hands I think) canon now? I knower something recently was confirmed but idk what. (Sorry if this is a bother or confusing. You just seem like the expert to ask)

………………………………………………….. what

no, they are not. in any way. Izuku (aka Deku)’s canon love interest is Uraraka (floaty girl), Bakugou and Izuku have absolutely nothing like that going on in canon. 

Bakugou continuously abused and bullied Izuku for 10 years based on his fear of Izuku’s potential, his own inferiority complex, his anger at Izuku daring to help him as if he needs it (how dare this powerless nobody assume he needs help, when Bakugou is the most amazing kid that exists?), and his desire to always be the Best and Perfect caused by his own unrealistic expectations from being a big fish in a small pond.

Izuku has been abused and bullied by Bakugou for 10 years (over half their lives), and their relationship reflects that. Izuku flinches around Bakugou, is afraid to be around him, and tries to get away from Bakugou as quickly as possible whenever they’re alone together, and the only time they’re near each other is when circumstances forces them to be. 

Izuku does respect Bakugou for his abilities, and is inspired by Bakugou’s determination to be The Absolute Best, but nothing in canon says that Izuku likes him as a person. he’s more of an obstacle for Izuku to surpass, because Bakugou was always that One Kid Who Was Better Than Him, so Izuku wants to surpass him one day, to prove to himself (and the audience) that he can.

their relationship is not treated as romantic at all, and instead as two kids with mental/emotional issues misunderstanding each other for ten years and suffering greatly because of it (mainly because of Bakugou taking it out on Izuku, who did not deserve any of that kind of treatment). 

it’s only recently that their relationship has gotten better, because they finally talked it out in a classic shonen battle style (… due to Bakugou’s overspilling guilt (feeling like he caused the man he admired to fall from grace), aggression, anger, and various other emotions finally exploding out of the bottle he was keeping them in, because aggression is the only way he knows how to express anything).

their relationship is also probably social commentary on how bullying is treated in Japan, since teachers are actively told not to interfere and to ignore it, which only caused the bullying to get worse, Bakugou’s overall attitude to become overblown and extremely arrogant and prideful, and Izuku to have a lot of confidence problems. 

they are slowly developing a more healthy relationship (not a romantic one, and not a friendship, either. just a relationship), because they’re slowly realizing that they were wrong about each other. but there’s still a lot of bad things that happened between them (particularly on Bakugou’s part) that is explicitly treated as unhealthy and Bad. 

their character arc is about integrating Saving People (something Deku focuses on) and Winning (something Bakugou focuses on) so they can both become more well-rounded heroes by learning from each other. and with that, they help to move the story because each of their arcs pushes the story forward. 

Bakugou isn’t abusing or bullying Izuku now (something he did for most of the series, and over half of Izuku’s life). he’s listening to Izuku, and offering critiques on his technique when asked. he’s slowly growing as a person, due to the various things happening in his life. but they are, in no way, canon.

they’ve just got a somewhat healthier relationship now than what they started with.

Or rather. Bakugou is realizing he was wrong about thinking that Izuku was looking down on him, and that his actions for the last decade were completely in the wrong. For Izuku, now he knows why the kid he once considered a friend hurt him for so long. 

(Again. there’s nothing in canon that says Izuku likes Bakugou as a person–tho Izuku doesn’t want to see him hurt, either. but that’s part of Izuku’s personality and moral code. Bakugou has never particularly liked Izuku, either, even back when they were kids, when their relationship was arguably at it’s best. at most, he was just insensitive, as kids are, but then he assumed Izuku was looking down on him and became a full blown bully. it just got worse over time, to the point where Bakugou is introduced by telling Izuku to kill himself, which the narrative completely does not treat as a joke.

so yeah. definitely not canon.)

here are more posts to read about on their relationship if you’re curious:

anonymous asked:

Please rate the Lancers so the world may have a clear and obvious objective base on which Lancers are the best characters because subjectivity isn't real and it is clear you are the expert on all things Lancer and thus are qualified to be the definitive objective source for all opinions on Lancers. (or just share some other lancers you think are cool and maybe some you wish had been done better that's fine too)

the best lancer which is why he’s the one everyone thinks of when you say ‘lancer’. the beauty. the muscles. the spandex. the personality. the voice. the colour palette. the archetype he represents. the way he fits into the rest of the fate cast. his skillset. his animations. the ultimate. the absolute. could’ve just stopped making lancers after this one bc they’ll never top this one. EX/10

handsome. entry level thirst but that’s not necessarily bad. victimises himself a lot in zero so people going uwu poor baby on him piss me off just a lil because both the situation with grainne and with sola was supposed to be morally ambiguous and out of everyone’s control. I like how he’s a good example of how feitos are kinda doomed to repeat the same mistakes of their legend. my top fav until I played fsn and learnt what true love is (its cu). 8/10

a good boy! a handsome boy! a boy of many talents! just wants to help at all times but never learnt how to mince words so he comes across as the absolute rudest fucker. in ccc he lists “his own poor communication skills” as the thing he dislikes. 10/10

wants to clear his name as bloodthirsty vampire but only the vampire part because he knows what he did and he won’t try to deny it, he just wants to clear up the things that were added later he didn’t do. very good and nuanced. very spicy uncle. I’m not saying I want to fuck vlad I’m just saying that if vlad were to come up to me and ask me if I wanted to fuck I would not say no. 9/10 I should actually read apocrypha sometime

spicier uncle but less personality. 8/10 why did he have to be a package deal with that fucking clown

pls no bully. treated as kind of a joke a lot but a really nice character if you pay attention. absolutely as bloodthristy and evil as her legends but all because she was genuinely never taught different and therefore doesn’t realise her actions are evil and the reason she is hated. desperate to be loved because her literal life depended on it. later on starts to slowly realize just how fuckedth she is and tries to make amends even though she knows full well she can’t possibly ever make up for everything she did. hates her future self’s guts because she knows what she did will make her end up like that but still wants to change it somehow because this time she knows it was wrong. 10/10 please god let CCC get localised

if i see one more fucker say she has no personality I will FIGHT I love her. insanely powerful and worked hard for it but because of it reached a point where none of her achievements are achievements anymore and instead are just something she would’ve done eventually bc she has all the time in the world for it. claims to want to die but actually just wants to feel alive again. actually pretty easily excited especially when fights to the death are involved but feels like she has to keep up a composed teacher front. an overcompetent mess who has no idea how to do anything without doing the Most. 100/10

now THERE’s a lancer girl with no personality. I’m sorry bryn you’re beautiful beyond belief but fragments has a bad writer and I hope you get to shine in fgo sometime bc that’s what saved arash and ozymandias 7/10 

treated entirely as a joke in fgo so far and mostly known in fate for getting cucked but his legend has a lot more and is actually pretty cool so I hope he gets to be taken seriously sometime too. dressed up as a baby once to avoid fighting a dude bigger than him. stabbed himself in the face to avoid falling into a magic sleep and then fucked up a dude another time. now that’s what I call a grab bag of a character! 7/10

100% YOUAERE My FUCKIGN GI>RLFREIONGD 10/10

dirt friend 10/10

whose fucking child is this

whom?

supreme

okay i didnt want to see omgcp bitterness anymore so i overdid it and my dash is a stagnant pond now lol. anyways if you post sidgeno or the pens I’ll check out your blog if you like this post. or if you’re a decent person who doesn’t constantly post the magna carta of all your opinions or and isn’t a salty child, ill come check it out too. just…..any positive blogs like shit you post paintings of cacti??? id much rather look at that honestly

I need to remember it is OK to ask for what I want and need. Reconnecting with others is fun and priceless.

On another note, I had a friend jokingly tell me that there could be a man with two penises. (Long story). He sent me a story from Reddit, which led to finding this individual’s book.

I appreciate that he is willing to share his story with others. Being authentic and “different” than the norm is challenging. Truthfully, we are all different because of our experiences, talents, desires…etc. But sometimes it is easy to feel alone and misunderstood.

One section of his story stands out,…“I think that’s something important that everyone should know, who hasn’t experienced it yet. Considering the content of this book I don’t know how many younger people will read this but it’s important that they know. All that shit doesn’t matter in the real world. The grief kids give you, the needless insanity will go away. You just have to hold out long enough. They aren’t worth screwing yourself up, or even worse, ending your own life. I had some seriously dark moments in my final months of high school. As you already know I had wanted to have one of my dicks cut off. I can see why other guys and girls at that age would think about suicide. Don’t do it. The people causing you that pain aren’t worth your life, your soul and immortality. Yeah, I’m Christian and I believe there’s more beyond death. You don’t have to believe that, it’s your choice. But what if there is? Suicide is just going to close that door forever. Anyway, I’ll move on from religion. It’s not popular and it’s because of the people who follow it, not the message under it all; which is love. Just remember, treat everyone the way you want to be treated. Don’t bully someone, or give someone grief just because you feel like shit. What hurts you, hurts me, what scars you scars others. Why leave a negative mark on another person? Especially when you can do so much more for them by being kind. It’s worth thinking about. Just remember, good comes back to you whenever you put it out there. No matter where you send goodness and love, it will find it’s way back to you. It may not happen tomorrow and it may not come back from the person or place you sent it. But trust me when I tell you, it comes back to you.“I think you might like this book – “Double Header: My Life with Two Penises” by Diphallic Dude.

I agree wholeheartedly! “What hurts you, hurts me.”… "Good comes back to you….”

I haven’t finished his story and understand he is here on Tumblr should you want to learn more of his experience.

They forget to tell you that some ghosts
whisper lullabies to help you sleep.
That some hide your father’s belt
at the age of thirteen.
That some ghosts stop the bullies at school
who are treating you wrong.
They write and dance with you
and sing along to your favorite songs.
They forget to tell you that some ghosts
will still love you when the world is unforgiving.
That some do tons of good
to help those amongst the living.


Post Notes:
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Title: Ghosts
Copyright: © Ivan Ambrose 2017
Deck: Antique Anatomy Tarot
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“Something happened. It was so embarrassing. My skin feels itchy with it. I hate to think that people would have gone home and talked about it…like it was a joke…over their Yorkshire puddings or summat. It’s too much out there. I don’t even know how to explain it. It smashes up all of your senses. I’m not strong enough to deal with it all on my own.”

anonymous asked:

Holy Primus, I already love this blog! May I have some h/c's about Fortress Maximus having an s/o that is taller than him? The thing he needs the most is to be able to hug the person he loves the most without worrying. Let my beautiful son feel loved!

( Melly’s Mod Notes: Considering that my only post for his tag so far is this cursed prompt from a certain friend of mine, I would love to do this. I want him happy okay??

I’ll be doing SFW headcanons for these only since NSFW wasn’t asked for. Hope that’s alright with you, anon! )


✦ Anyone who is taller than Max is going to get stared at a lot because Max is a very Big Boy by Cybertronian standards. That is some height they’ve got on themselves. Considering how rare it is to meet someone taller than him, he decides to search them out thanks to his curiosity and it doesn’t take long because again. They tall. He finds them helping out at Swerve’s by setting up decorations for theme night, happily chatting and joking to Swerve and they look so kind and friendly. He almost doesn’t want to bother them because he’s shy and afraid he’ll make a bad impression. Luckily for him they notice him standing at the doorway and happily invite him in.

✦ Time and again they reach out to him and it never fails to amaze Max that they want to spend time with him. Of all the ‘bots on the ship too! They could be hanging out with Swerve or Tailgate or Rewind or… or someone just more… approachable and friendly. Someone safe. He’s surprised by how gentle and sweet they are the more he gets to know them during the time spent together. Never once do they push him for details about Garrus-9 or about his life during the way. They’re always kind and considerate, asking for his permission before initiating physical contact with him like holding his hand or giving him a hug. Eventually he falls in love with them and it takes a lot of gentle encouragement from Rung to ask them out. He’ll deny it the day he dies but his fins wiggled in joy when they said yes.

✦ In the early stages of his relationship with them, he’s very careful. Last thing he wants to do is harm then because he was too careless with how he held their servo or hugged them in a spur of a moment. Tries his best to be romantic by leaving them gifts and notes that simply say I love you or Your smile is pretty today. The relationship helps Max become more stable over time to Rung’s delight, evident by how the ex-warden’s moods and sleeping cycle becomes easier over time. Especially when the couple agree to move into a habsuite together and they’re there to help him when the nightmares do come.

✦ Absolutely protective of them. The crew quickly learns that this is pretty much the most protected ‘bot in the world with Max as their lover. They maybe taller than him but they’re not exactly a warrior mech by any means. The idea of them getting hurt is unthinkable. So when he learns that Overlord is on the ship, he immediately searches for them out first to make sure they’re okay. Doesn’t hesitate to tackle Overlord away from the crowd when he joins in the fray and spots his lover as part of the fighter. After the incident he is glued to their side 24/7, torn between being so proud of their bravery and being horrified they allowed themselves to get so close to harm’s way. Fort Max settles with hugging them tightly as he’ll allow himself and whispering I love you, I love you, I love you to them late at night instead.

✦ When he becomes the Duly Appointed Enforcer of the Tyrest Accord, his significant other opts to stay with him on Luna-1. They want to support him to the best of their abilities and if this is what he wants to do then they’ll jump in along side him, pedes first and optics wide open. Not only do they help Fort Max out but they do their best to help Red Alert with his paranoia by helping him through his nightmares and talking to him about his concerns and worries now and then. They help bring a temperament that’s desperately needed for Max’s more aggressive approach of being an Enforcer and Red Alert’s tendency to be very suspicious and serious of anything and everything.

I’m writing this post mostly to say goodbye, as I plan on stepping back from the fandom. But I also have some thoughts I want to share, and we all know I am someone who has never been shy about sharing her opinion.

This fandom has rattled me before, but I’ve never been scared in it until this week. The fact that someone hates me, Julia and Jess so much that they would go to great lengths to find out personal information about us and then use that information to blackmail and harass us is beyond the pale.

I have never doxxed someone in my life. I don’t send anonymous, hateful messages. I don’t data mine for information on Sam and Cait or any fan in this fandom. I don’t leave nasty messages on Mackenzie Mauzy’s IG. I don’t harass Tony in any way. I don’t go looking for the negative things said about me and I do my best to ignore it. I have blocked and muted and reported and gone private when I felt it was necessary.

Yet someone still despises me (and the three of us) enough to stalk and harass a pregnant stay at home mom, a preschool teacher, and a full time caregiver. This isn’t about protecting Sam and Cait or their SOs from shippers - this is about us specifically. Let’s be honest, I’ve been on and off this ship since the BAFTAs. There are many more users on tumblr and twitter who ship way hardier than I do and who speculate on things that I don’t and they are left alone to fan in peace, as they should be. Unfortunately, we don’t all get the same consideration.

I have stuck around in this fandom because I cannot stand the way I’ve seen women treated. The bullying and harassment and flat out lies that have been spread make me sick. I believe women (and all people) should feel safe to come online and post their opinions. I think I have been a champion of that: but it’s to the point where it feels like a losing battle. I’m tired of seeing people say Jess isn’t real, and then turn around and ask for money from this fandom and receive it from members of production. I’m tired of someone saying Jess is a 40 year old Canadian with no proof and the entire production continues to interact with this individual. I’m tired of someone calling my unborn child a snake and then seeing that person retweeted by the author of the series. I’m tired of every sock account on IG being called a shipper when it’s not true. I’m tired of someone writing clickbait stories about the actors while coming online to call us slags, whores, cunts, etc. and seeing other women applaud this person.

The people who make this show pour their hearts into their jobs and I appreciate that. I applaud them for their activism and outspokenness on various issues - but I hope if anyone from production gets wind of this, they will speak out as forcefully as they have about Donald Trump, women’s rights, equality, and the like. Someone from this show needs to have the courage to tell the fandom to STOP and actually mean it. Their continued silence is fostering this disgusting behavior. #BeKind hashtag campaigns and shirt sales mean nothing when real women who are NOT celebrities or in the public eye for public consumption are being abused, harassed and stalked like this - and that goes for either side of the aisle.

So as I said, I am stepping back. I don’t know what I will do with my blog. I don’t know if I will ever be able to make my twitter account public again, which makes me sad - because I helped cultivate a strong shipper community there - but we will see. I don’t think this is forever, and I am always available to DM if anyone needs anything.

Thank you so much to those who have reached out to check in. I really do appreciate it - and of course, much love to Jess and Julia, who have always been a support system when I need it. I love you girls so much.

Xoxo.

Damn i just found my first Throwback Thursday post for y'all haha. Ever wonder what it would’ve been like had i went to you’re high school? Well heres a pic of your favorite ego crushing vigilante, The Dragon Of Devastation known as Chaos Vortex when I was 16 in the 9th grade back in 1999. By then I was already working a full time night shift construction job and slanging dope not just to other HS kids but to the high profile clients like surgeons and lawyers and shit so my time was stretched thin as fuck lol. Just off camera is the trademark backpack I always had with me that housed a full variety of drugs and weapons that drug legends are told about by the campfire lol. Basically I was nice to you as you are to me and I despised bullies and treated them savagely. I even went after ones in other schools when I discovered them and stomped them on-site to humiliate them in front of their peers as an example. Seriously, I openly demanded that anyone who is being bullied to report that shit to me not the school so I can handle it. Although I am sociable, I never made any effort to socialize with anyone my age cuz I come from a family of O.G.’s so HS games never interested me. everyone just kinda knew that unless you’re a beautiful woman, are trying to buy some party supplies, or needed my combat services, then you probably weren’t gonna get me to hang out with you. Muthafux knew that once Chaos Vortex shows up, its strictly for at least one, if not for all 4 reasons, and that’s to get fucked, get fuckin paid, get fucked up, or fuck some shit up lol!

I started to watch Atypical this morning. It seems like a crossover between the A Word and Speechless, but not in the good way. It feels like it’s trying to be Speechless, but it’s lacking the knowledge about autism and the desire to really put autistic people in front and not the families or Neurotypical people around them.

The mother is even more unbearable than the one from the A Word. She’s an overbearing bully, she’s sexist, she’s treating her teenager son like a freakin’ baby… she’s awful. The father is not better, all he seems to do is complaining and building himself as a tragical figure (boo hoo, my son doesn’t want to go to a ball game with me, boo hoo).

The sister seems a bit better, but I’m waiting to watch more of the show to get a proper opinion. As for the main character… He seems accurate at some points, but also super caricatural at others ?

I mean, there’s one scene where he’s in the bus, he’s thinking about something and it’s making him giggle out loud. That was relatable, it happens to me all the time. But after that, he feels the need to overexplain what he’s thinking about, as if it never happened to him before and he doesn’t know that people will just scoff at him or ignore him.

He seems like he just became autistic this day and, before that, he was neurotypical (I know it’s not possible, but it really feels like it). So, he doesn‘t learn about his mistakes, he seems to have never experienced ableism before and I don’t know, it’s really uncomfortable to watch.

Also, a lot of scenes seems to invite us to laugh at him, not to laugh with him. I don’t mind to have certain scenes like this, I mean, I find some of my experiences and autistic traits awkwardly hilarious, but, really, all the time ?

I don’t think I’m really going to like this show. It might do some good, but it just seems to me that we’re going to have a Sheldon Cooper-like, without the “genius” part.

I’m going to watch the rest of it and give you my full impression afterwards.