Figured out exactly why I don't ship Spuffy

It all really comes down to his line “Chosen”, “I love you” / “No you don’t. But thanks for saying it”. Spike’s been the one who really gets her, their whole relationship is based on the fact that Spike is the one who actually gets her, not her, Buffy never understands herself but Spike does, Spike understands her so much better than she understands herself and that’s what makes that line matter so much to me. When he says she doesn’t love him, when the person who understands her best and has been right there through the last years and everything they went through, says that she doesn’t love him he’s right, he has to be right because that’s what their relationship is, two people who understand each other and that’s why I can’t ship it.

Granted, I never watched all of Buffy in the proper order, been working on it, but Spuffy never did it for me and it’s not because of Angel, I do multi-shipping with Buffy, I ship Angel with Cordelia and Buffy with Faith but I could never get into Spuffy and I believe this is why, because needing someone is different from loving them. Buffy needed Spike, throughout the time they were ‘together’ she needed him, she needed that someone who understood her and Spike was there because he loves her but, at the end of the day, that’s not love and he knows it and he understands everything she’s not saying and tells her that, that she doesn’t love him and he’s right because that’s what he’s there for, to help Buffy understand what she can’t understand on her own, love being one of the main things.

Even if he wasn’t right, Buffy relies on him to be right so she’ll accept his word that she doesn’t love him and that’s the end of it.

Top 15 Buffy episodes

  • #5 - The Gift 5x22

“Dawn, listen to me. Listen. I love you. I will always love you. But this is the work I have to do. Tell Giles… Tell Giles I figured it out. And I’m okay. And give my love to my friends. You have to take care of them now. You have to take care of each other. Dawn, the hardest thing in this world is to live in it. Be brave. Live. For me.”


That trademark smirk didn’t waver at her words, only widened. 

             ❛ Well we did have our share of ass kickings if you will..among other things ❜ 

his comment held a suggestive tone to it. 

             ❛ Oh I’m sure you do, but tell me how many of those people you help ever
           thanked you? How many would so easily turn on you given a chance.
              Mortals are such
fickle beings after all, no offence. ❜ 

That last statement caused a hearty laugh to escape his being as a reaction, him helping Mortals was a hilarity in itself 

             ❛ helping people is something you believe you need to do, not me.