You and I are going to have a date. The kind of date that everyone should have. I’m gonna give you all a nice, fun, normal evening if I have to kill every single person on the face of the Earth to do it.
This one character was so amazing because she was so closely linked to the iconic characters of BTVS (C’mon there’s none better than Buffy ‘and’ Willow), and TVD royally fucked up not using her better!
This just occurred to me and I seriously think TVD was biting hard off of BTVS, and I’m happy that they instilled such badassery in Bonnie :D
I’m doing my second vid in my SE 8x16 marathon and each time I watch the scene, there’s always something different I love about it because there are so many nuances in the physicality of their parting. Today, what I find endearing about the goodbye is this hug:
Because it’s after Stefan says this:
So this is Stefan saying “goodbye”, he’s ending their time together without actually saying the word because like Elena in 6x22, he’s unable to actually say “goodbye” to her like she was unable to say goodbye to him:
to which Stefan agreed, “I can’t do this, Elena, not now, not ever”, which is literally true because like I said, even in 8x16 Stefan cannot bring himself to actually say bye.
But back to the point, he’s saying farewell and Elena can’t handle it, her devastation is quiet and subtle but the moment Stefan takes his hand away from her face because he’s about to leave:
Elena reaches forward to hug him because she’s not ready to let go:
and back when theories were flying around about Damon erasing Elena and Stefan’s memories of each other, I told anons the only way I would be OK with it is if they did something like BTVS where Buffy was freaking out when she was losing her memory of a Human Angel and she goes, “it’s not enough time, it’s not enough time”:
and while the SE scene was a lot more subtle and less urgent than the Bangel scene, I think that they did their own unique version of “there’s not enough time, I’m not ready to let go” with that hug:
So the idea occurred to me that the idea of the penitent vampire is very popular but kind of fails, if the vampire is penitent because he is doomed to a life of sin and murder-to live he must sin- then all the penance in the world isn’t going to save him because he’s just going to keep sinning. Logically the only way for him to avoid sinning would be to kill himself. The popularity of this trope I think comes from the idea that we are all sinners and the vampire who murders to live is the greatest sinner of all, so to see him who’s sins are far greater than ours strive to change and atone is an outlet for us in a way, it’s an exaggerated version of our own misdeeds however on shows like Buffy it’s stated that vampires do not have free will and are drawn to do evil by their nature, Angel works tirelessly to make up for the evil things he’s done but if he did not have free will is he really guilty? The show says yes, Angel says yes and so on Buffy we have to accept that even without free will vampires are guilty of their actions, I think an argument could be made however that even if it was established someone like Angel would feel the need to atone anyway. On the vampire Diaries redemption and sin and all that aren’t given a lot of room, Stefan hates his vampiric nature and tries to live a morally good life but inevitably cracks and goes ripper. This is the kind of vampire who cannot atone, if he truly wanted to never hurt someone again he would have to die, now the only show I’ve ever seen address this was the UK Being Human which firmly stated that the only way Mitchelle could even come close (and even then it’s made very clear that he cannot atone, that his nature, wanted or not is to sin) was to die. He’s told point blank that his continued existence proves that he is not truly pennant. If we ignore weather or not a vampire is responsible and ignore the concept of free will we still have to address that vampires kill to survive and all the hope for self control and all of the animal blood won’t make up for what they’ve done and that they are taking the risk of it happening again just by living. By taking that risk he undermines his penance.
Out of all your OTPs what are your top10 (in order) ?
1. Kim Shin and Eun Tak, Goblin: The Lonely and Great God
I keep saying this but very rarely do couples from new shows become my OTP, I have them as number one because I haven’t had this kind of reaction to any other ship. I would cry days after the show’s finale when I would just hear a song from the show’s OST. There is so much earnest and sincere emotion between them and Gong Yoo and Kim Go-eun have great chemistry, their relationship was tragic in a really beautiful way and cute in the most heartbreaking way, their bickering was done with so much conviction and the pain at whenever they separated was felt deeply. Like I believed in this couple.
2. Stefan and Elena, The Vampire Diaries
I don’t think I really need to explain why SE is one of my top OTPs since so much of this blog is dedicated to going into detail as to why that is; in a nutshell, they have that soulful, passionate, transcendental love that is nuanced and complex and rarely seen.
3. Jax and Tara, Sons of Anarchy
This is a ship that’s rooted in chemistry because their romance isn’t logical or rational, there is so much danger and pain and violence surrounding them, anyone in their right mind wouldn’t be involved with Jax and his mother and his club but the pull between him and Tara is undeniable, it’s a pull that’s existed even though they were apart for 10 years and their love is passionate and it takes them to dangerous, destructive places but it’s heartfelt and overwhelming and not many people can pull off that kind of dynamic.
4. Mickey and Ian, Shameless
Like I said last night, I thought the saying “I love you so much it hurts” was stupid until I was introduced to Gallavich because there is such a wholehearted affection for each other that it’s almost like neither of them can breathe yet at the same time their relationship acted as a breath of fresh air. It’s the one ship that I thought was redemptive and toxic at the same time and Noah and Cameron have such intense chemistry, the angst between them is insane and I think they manage to show the struggle Mickey has with being gay in a way that was heartbreaking to watch without it being sappy and cliched and that made you feel so bad for both him and Ian so that when he finally embraces who he is, it’s like the best thing in the world. And the way Mickey cares for Ian is so unique to Mickey like it’s softhearted and violent and it’s just, this ship is a study in contrasts and it works, which is very hard to do.
5. Noah and Rosalee, Underground
Noahlee is another ship that’s new but that I ship passionately because first of all Aldis and Jurnee have great chemistry, the minute they’re in a scene together in the pilot, those longing gazes were enough for me, second of all I always love seeing young black couples onscreen, third of all, within the context of their lives and of the show — which is a show about enslavement and about the various avenues taken to combat the institution of enslavement — the fact that they fell in love is revolutionary, the fact that white supremacy didn’t beat out their will to have affection for each other is a subversive act in it of itself. Related to that, Noah is a very passionate character, a very strong character who believed in Rosalee, believed she could and would do great things before even she realized she had the strength to do so and his drive inspired her while loving Rosalee provides Noah with a sense of peace and hope.
6. Crixus and Naevia, Spartacus and Sura, Agorn and Nasir, Spartacus
I have all three ships in the same number because I love them all equally but differently. The Spartacus series portrays such passionate ships.
Crixus and Naevia,
I really enjoyed them because they’re such a pure romance; when we’re introduced to Crixus he’s legit a dick and the only thing he cares about is glory and honour and being the best gladiator and he falls in love with Naevia and is given more complexity and he’s softer because of her.
Spartacus and Sura
are tragic and you don’t see much of their relationship and what you do see is mostly in flashbacks because they were separated, both sold into slavery, but Spartacus refuses to die because he wants to see Sura again and he starts a rebellion because of her, he loves her absolutely that he’s unable to love any other woman, like it’s intense.
Agorn and Nasir
were a ship I didn’t think I would pay much attention to because I didn’t really care for either character but Agorn and Nasir loved each other so fiercely, like I dare anyone to try and tear us apart and the devotion between them was extremely intense plus Dan and Pana had great chemistry.
7. Oz and Willow, Buffy The Vampire Slayer
Willow is the character I relate to the most in Buffy so my friends and I always joke about how I’m waiting for my Oz because Ozillow was unbelievably adorable, I love them so much. Alyson and Seth had a chemistry that surprised me, I didn’t think that it would be as natural and at times intense as it was but they’re just such a feel-good ship.
8. Jackie and Hyde, That 70s Show
I don’t think anyone expected the awesomeness that is Jackie and Hyde. Mila and Danny worked really well together and I think you really got the sense that they cared deeply for one another while at the same time having the capacity to really aggravate each other and just by nature of being polar opposites who happen to care about each other, they got each other to grow — Jackie became less vain and less domineering while Hyde actually became more vulnerable and less stubborn, they were actually perfect and the writers fucked it up and I will be forever salty about that.
9. Jane and Michael, Jane The Virgin and Jim and Pam, The Office
I have them both on the same number because I love them equally for the same reasons.
Jane and Michael
Pam and Jim
Jichael and Jam are both relationships in which the two people just click, they just get each other, they’re on this other plane that no one can reach and they have an intimacy and implicit knowledge of each other that isn’t the breathless intense, angst-ridden dynamic that I love but it’s as profound and significant.
10. Scott and Kira, Teen Wolf
I know Scallison is the favourite and I do love Scallison but I don’t know, Scira has a groundedness to them that I respond to more and they’re a very physical ship; a touch from Kira can still Scott’s hand or still him to calmness
that his eyes stop glowing; holding Kira allows her to decompress and be
comforted, she can close her eyes in relief and in security, and the
way Scott and Kira run towards each other, it’s almost magnetic,
like they’re being pulled together and have no choice to
connect. And of course their sexual chemistry is kind of insane. But
that’s the thing with Scira, there’s a gentle intensity to them because
it’s like they finally achieve calm from the crazy supernatural mess
when they’re touching each other or in one another’s arms or kissing
each other, which makes their relationship physically intimate.
Vince and Jess and Matt and Julie, Friday Night Lights
I just read this post about SE and I wanted to know your opinion: "Here’s the truth: Stefan and Elena were so good for one another. Their meeting was so timely that there’s no way some higher force, however you would like to call it, wasn’t involved. They didn’t only save each other, in more ways than one, they have healed one another as well. He was aware of his own flaws and tried his best to keep them away from her as far as possible. She was aware of her own weaknesses, yet she loved him for
I just read this post about SE and I wanted to know your opinion:
“Here’s the truth: Stefan and Elena were so good for one another. Their
meeting was so timely that there’s no way some higher force, however you
would like to call it, wasn’t involved. They didn’t only save each
other, in more ways than one, they have healed one another as well. He
was aware of his own flaws and tried his best to keep them away from her
as far as possible. She was aware of her own weaknesses, yet she loved
his. He knew her fears even before she admitted them to him. His demons
could fit into the palm of her hand. He disliked dancing, but loved
dancing with her. She hated lies, yet she had kept all of his. They knew
love means loving those who are dear to them as well. He knew that
keeping her safe doesn’t apply only to her own physical well being. She
knew that there are many things he’s ashamed of. There was so much
mutual respect, fighting for their love, fighting for, alongside and
other, there was so much love and happiness and trying the hardest and
the best they could for people who carried so much pain and bad luck in
them. So many moments and movements and kisses that were so natural that
sometimes they seemed shadowed. Here’s another truth: they never would
have made it.
Shitty writing isn’t why they’re not going to have their happy ending.
Shitty writing is why they ended the way they did. Shitty writing is the
reason why their story feels destroyed, disrupted and untold. Shitty
writing is why you can’t watch that show anymore without your heart
weeping. They were never meant to have a closure. Stefan and Elena were
never meant to end - they were meant to last forever and ever, the
possibility of them floating somewhere in the universe. They were meant
to be tragic. And looking at them was meant to hurt.
Stefan and Elena were made so you could point your finger at them and
say yes, that only for the world to wave its finger and yell back no.
They were made for you to understand the definition of tragedy.”
I think there are couples like this. Buffy and Angel for example would be this couple because the beautiful tragedy of Bangel is that as long as they’re in love with each other they can never be together or else Angel will lose his soul. Every time they’re around one another, nothing has changed, time hasn’t passed and that’s wonderful because the feelings are all still there and it’s awful because the hurt and the consequences are all still there too and they’re never finished and they never have closure because they’re not meant to, they’re always meant to be in love and they are always meant to be apart.
Jax and Tara are another couple like this where they represent happiness for each other and hope for each other in a cruel, hard, violent environment but they could never have their happy ending because if they had their happy ending the show would be done, Jax would be done, the club would fall apart, the fibre of the world Kurt Sutter created would diminish, Jax can’t leave Charming, he can’t leave Sons of Anarchy, he can’t leave his mother so the only way for Jax to not leave is for tragedy to ensue.
Sura and Spartacus are another couple like this because Spartacus loved her with such passion and heart that he refuses to die until he sees her again, his love for her is what keeps him alive, keeps him fighting, and gives him hope but that hope stood in the way of him becoming who he “needed” to be to become Spartacus, the gladiator, the rebel who freed slaves, tragedy had to ensue so he could become that legend.
There are many couples that are meant to be starcrossed or beautifully and poetically doomed to never to be together for longer than a certain amount of time but that is not Stelena.
It’s not Stelena because they don’t stand in the way of a greater (and by greater I don’t mean better, I mean bigger) path, if they were together it wouldn’t keep them from anything else, it wouldn’t keep them from going down a path that required no happiness or no love but complete focus and devotion to the task at hand. Their circumstances don’t pull them apart because every circumstance that has tried, they have overcome:
they fight compulsion for each other
They are the couple whose love conquers all, they are the couple whose connection threads through every phase of their life whether they realize it or not:
and they spend years apart, finding other people, going on different journeys without realizing that they’re carrying each other until they find their way back to one another and it just fits because it was always them.
Stefan and Elena are circular, not suspended in the briefest of times.