Small Witchy Challenges to Reconnect to Your Practice

Sometimes it can be hard to really feel connected to the actual magickal side of being a witch. Personally I’m involved with my deities or other spiritual/personal things 110% of the time but I don’t always feel connected to my actual witchcraft. So here are a few small magickal challenges I thought up to help anyone in a similar situation.

✨ – Set aside a time once a week to burn a candle. Make it a color that connects to whatever aspect of your life you would like insight or growth in and spend 10 minutes watching the flame and opening yourself to whatever it is you’re seeking.

✨ – If you have any books with pre written simple spells in them (most intro to witchcraft books have a section) flip through it and find a spell that calls to you and do it! As written, just to practice getting out of your head and going through the motions of spell work.

✨ – Send out blessings. To your crush. A new friend. Your best friend. Your mom. Whoever.

✨ – Call up your energy into your palms and then place them on your own heart to send yourself love and healing and to connect yourself to your energy.

✨ – Spend some time picturing the kind of witch you wish you were, your ideal witchsona if you will. Then tell yourself that’s exactly who you already are. Keep reminding yourself whenever you feel disconnected from your craft that you are already an unbelievable witch.

✨ – Go back through your old book of shadows/grimoire and reflect on what’s worked for you in the past.

✨ – Wake up and tell yourself first thing “I am a witch. I am magick. My life is full of magick. I see and feel all the magick around me. I am a witch.”

✨ – Pick out outfits or accessories that make you feel witchy. (Bonus points for intentionally planning a super witchy outfit on the full moon)

✨ – Do a spell for anything that’s coming up in your life that you want to work out a certain way, no matter how trivial it seems. Test this week? Do a spell. About to start a work out routine? Do a spell. First date? Spell. Gotta stay on budget grocery shopping? Spell. Your worth it, it’s good practice, and if it all ends up working even better!

✨ – Write down spell ideas as they come to you. Save them as notes in your phone and then come back and flesh them out in your BOS later.

✨ – Come up with your own challenges! If you’d like to share, tag me on your post or send them to me, I’d love to hear your ideas!

Got7 at the grocery store
  • Mark: The minimum effort shopper. Everything in his cart has easy microwave directions or the word "instant" somewhere on the packaging. Buys one bag of baby carrots so he can claim he's eating healthy when his mom asks.
  • Jaebum: The "cool" shopper. Writes a list but forgets it at home, then panics inwardly and buys way more than he needs just in case. That guy who tries to carry 20 bags at once just so he won't have to make two trips.
  • Jackson: The impulsive shopper. Buys a bunch of vegetables because they look good and he wants to eat healthy but doesn't know what to do with them once he gets home. Claims to have a sixth sense for picking the best produce. Buys a bunch of stuff he doesn't need because it was on sale and he can't pass up a deal.
  • Jinyoung: The smart shopper. Writes a list, clips coupons, brings reusable shopping bags. Budgets plenty of time so he can go slowly and be thorough. Counts his change after he gets it from the cashier.
  • Youngjae: The eccentric shopper. Doesn't write a list because he claims he'll remember everything. Spends the whole time walking back and forth across the store as he remembers things he'd forgotten. Sings while he shops, and pauses to say hello to every baby he sees.
  • Bambam: The "mission impossible" shopper. Writes a list, but you'll never see him use it, because he knows all his recipes by heart. In and out in twenty minutes flat. That guy who almost takes someone out with his cart because he turned a corner too quickly.
  • Yugyeom: The freeform shopper. List? Never heard of it. Goes to the store because his cupboards are bare, but won't know what he wants to buy until he sees it. Ends up taking a few hours to shop because he keeps stopping to help short people get things from high shelves.
Look SugarBaby Chic without Breaking Your Bank Account

So I’ve come across a lot of questions in the past on how to look good without compromising your bank balance. Sugaring is competitive, and as much as we love our sugar sisters… We’re all in the same bowl. There’s sugar babies who are stunting in red bottoms flaunting Rolex arm candy, and there’s sugar babies running around in denim and tops. (Totally not looking down on either.) We often forget that men are visual creatures, and most of them are attracted to a woman that knows how to dress well. If you want to be a rich man’s choicest arm candy, then you best start dressing the part. You can’t expect to have the Ritz Carlton experience with a Holiday Inn & Suites package. Money attracts money. Starting out not many of us have designer this and designer that. I certainly didn’t own anything designer starting out. Other than a few presents from family & vanilla men. So here’s how I started out… Firstly I got myself a vanilla job. Retail is great for this, plus one for those employee perks! I worked a few months to save some money for a decent wardrobe. I shopped at places like: Ross, TJ Maxx, Marshals, Nordstrom Rack, Plato’s Closet, Amiclubwear, HotMiamiStyles & Tradesy. This allowed me to purchase new, previously loved, and discounted clothing at a fraction of the MSRP (manufacturers suggested retail price). I purchased dresses, ankle pants, chiffon tops, blazers, accessories, & lingerie (new of course). The key is to avoid anything flashy for instance a black top with Boss B#%* or something like that written on it. The key is to dress professional, chic, & keep versatility in mind. When I say versatile, I mean a blazer that can be professional with a collared shirt but still look chill with a pink chiffon top when you roll up the sleeves. As a sugar baby you’ll be exposed to things women your age aren’t. Things like flying private or taking weekend/ day trips with your SD for pleasure or work. Each and every occasion needs to have an appropriate outfit. Think of all the scenarios you could possibly be in and purchase outfits accordingly. A sugar baby can never be over dressed. These men are willing to pay top dollar for women out there. Your first few sugar daddies are like your foundation pillars. Make sure you sift the salt daddies away! The first few ones need to be taking you shopping for items you cannot buy without breaking your bank account. For example, it’s Cocoa Cathy’s 22nd birthday, and her daddy asks her what she wants. Cocoa Cathy should be saying, “Well Daddy, for my birthday I’d like my allowance as usual, but I would absolutely love it if you’d be able to get me a handbag I’ve been eyeing for quite a while!” If Daddy is pure sugar he will say, “I’d be more than happy to buy you that handbag! Look it up & I’ll forward you my card details.” This is sugar! Cocoa Cathy knows that this daddy just went through a brutal divorce so she knows not to ask for a Celine. She instead opts for two handbags from the $800-1K range. She lets Daddy pick which one would look better, and of course daddy goes for the expensive one. This shows how much Daddy enjoys Cocoa Cathy’s company, and he knows that Cocoa Cathy has sophisticated taste. (just an example) You should utilize your allowance to purchase staple sugar clothing items like palazzo pants or cardigans. There’s no need for a sugar baby to be a brand ambassador wearing 20 different designer labels. Often, this gives your sugar daddy the vibe that you already have it all. Be smart when purchasing your initial sugar wardrobe. You don’t have to break your bank account doing so. We all know we’re sugaring to one day run into a Whale Daddy, but until then those 2-3K/ month daddies aren’t bad! Also make sure you still have personality! Your wardrobe can only sell you so much! Your personality really signs seals and delivers your arrangement. For my new babies, please do not wear your heart on your wrist. These men are brutal and will try to talk down to you. They will try to make you feel like you’re not worth that 2-3K allowance. That’s a huge red flag for you to move on! Never compromise your allowance range.

Originally posted by evagutowskipoland

Summer Bucket List Ideas

• Go wind surfing
• Make a new friend
• Have fun alone
• Learn a new skill
• Be internet famous
• Pull an all nighter
• Kiss a guy
• Have a movie marathon
• Get a sun tattoo
• Redecorate your room
• Get a six pack
• Be tumblr
• Go on a road trip
• Have a water fight
• Throw an epic party
• Tie dye something
• Dip dye your hair
• Get a henna tattoo
• Have a budget less shopping trip
• Learn to cook/bake
• Jump off a pier
• Have a photo shoot
• Send a message in a bottle
• Build a treehouse
• Swing off a rope swing into the water
• Keep a journal
• Surprise someone with a random act of kindness
• Read a ton of books
• Go to a concert/music festival
• Face your fears
• Blog/vlog every day
• Go to a new country
• Perfect eyeliner
• Go zip lining
• Play truth or dare
• Write a book
• Take a selfie with a stranger
• Eat ice cream
• Watch fireworks
• Buy something from Victoria Secret
• Have a bonfire
• Breathe in helium
• Go bungee jumping
• Go thrift shopping
• DIY something
• Play hide and seek
• Have a paint fight
• Have a summer romance
• Watch the sun rise
• Meet your internet friends
• Stand in a busy area holding up a free hugs sign
• Get a penny board
• Sleep on the beach
• Do something illegal
• Go camping
• Sleep on a trampoline
• Get a piercing
• Have a signature scent
• Learn a new language
• Go paddle boarding
• Visit Hawaii
• Make friendship bracelets
• Have a bonfire
• Dance in the rain
• Leave a note in a library book
• Get a pedicure
• Make a difference
• Own a Polaroid camera
• Start a collection

Ok that’s it, I’ll probably post more later. Sorry if there are any duplicates!

sw33tiikecinnamon  asked:

Do you have a money plan/ a guide to what money goes where, for necessities, savings, etc? Also, do you keep a safe? What do you do exactly with all of the cash? I would love to hear a guideline of how to keep my money successfully and without taxes or spending too much. Thank you babes x

I do have a monthly budget as well as a safe. I think your budget solely depends on your necessities and priorities. Do you have student loan or credit card debt? Do you have any subscriptions/memberships? Pay rent? I think what you decide to do with your money will be quite different from me so it’s solely up to you to develop basic budgeting skills.

However, here is a little insight on what I do.

1. I ONLY use my credit card to build credit. When I purchase something with my CC, I make sure I have the money to deposit onto it immediately. Debt of any kind really holds you down in life. Every time I need to pay off debt, I always think to myself, “what else could I have done with this money?” It’s a good way to keep yourself focused. Think of the goals you have in life and how much closer to them you’d be if you didn’t make that trip to Sephora last week!

2. I keep 3K in my savings account at all times in case of immediate emergency, key word, *emergency*. I also keep in mind that the longer I don’t touch this money, the more it can build interest. This savings account is helpful if you ever need to pay an emergency medical bill, or some other crazy life event happens. Remember, “if something can go wrong, it will.” I do not touch this unless it’s a cost that can’t be covered by my monthly spending allowance.

3. Every month I deposit my monthly spending budget into my debt card. This includes money for groceries, shopping, bills, etc. This helps me stay organized and stops my temptation to reach for money elsewhere. I know once my debit hits 0, I’m done for the month. Keep in mind that my monthly budget is around 2K and under, depositing any more than that puts you at risk to be reported by your bank. Also, I do make sure to budget leisure money for shopping and fun activities. Don’t forget to enjoy your life! (Alternatively, you can deal with your monthly expenses all in cash if you don’t want a paper trail)

4. The money in my safe is solely for savings and large payments. Anything from savings for plastic surgery to a payment for an expensive rent is in my safe. I know never to touch the money in there unless I’m adding more into it or I’m specifically removing it to pay for one of the things on my list.

Dear Parents

Hi. How ya doing? Being a parent is weird and hard and rewarding, right? That’s been my experience anyhow. Most of us are trying to do the best we can. There’s a lot expected of us. There’s a lot of pressure in raising a tiny human without fucking up. And I hate to add to your growing list of duties and concerns and necessary steps in raising a happy, healthy person but there’s something really important you need to do.

Teach your children what abuse looks like.

Now, the hardest part about doing that is actually going to be learning yourself what abuse looks like.

“I know what abuse is!” you say.

Sorry. You probably don’t. Statistically speaking, I’m more likely addressing somebody on the other side of the screen that hasn’t been properly educated on the realities of abuse. We’re fed a lot of myths about abuse. You don’t have to be ashamed because society failed to teach you right. It’s not your fault, but it is your responsibility to correct that error now.

I would suggest you sit down with a copy of Why Does He Do That? (my favorite book so far on the topic written by one of the world’s foremost experts). I know, I know. You’re busy. You’re stretched thin. You probably already lack time to read for pleasure as much as you did before you have kids and now some rando on the internet is assigning you fucking homework? But trust me, it’s worth it.

After that, teach your kids. Teach them what abuse looks like. Teach your sons especially what constitutes abuse and that there is no excuse to justify it and that they alone are responsible for their actions.


There’s lots of ways (and a lot depends on their age). But here’s a list of suggestions:

  • Don’t ever force your children to hug or kiss someone if they don’t want to, not even Grandma, not even YOU. This teaches them bodily autonomy and that not even loved ones are entitled to violate their boundaries.
  • Make comments or ask questions about media you consume together to get them to think critically about the ideas presented to them. This might mean saying “hmmm, I wonder why there are so few girls in this movie.” or asking “How do you think [character a] felt when [character b] wouldn’t take no for an answer?” This can be a hard step because you’ll need to train yourself to spot problematic content in the first place. And I’m not saying you can’t watch anything problematic (you might as well give up TV altogether). Just challenge your kids to think about what they see. i.e. If you’re watching Batman the Animated Series you could say “I really don’t like the way Joker treats Harley Quinn. Do you think she deserves that?”
  • Acquire (whether by purchasing or borrowing from a library) positive representation of women and relationships for your children including (and perhaps especially) your sons. The publishing and media industries only market girl-centric stories to female audiences which contributes to boys growing up learning that stories and the world revolve around them. They also tend to only push media that deals with interpersonal relations and emotions on girls, leaving boys with action and violence heavy stories. This can send the message that empathy and emotional labor is for girls.
  • Talk to them, especially older kids and teenagers, particularly when they reach dating age. Invite them to ask questions and talk about their opinions about abuse to get them engaged in the conversation rather than simply lecturing. Take advantage of a captive audience (riding in the car for example) and teach them little bits here and there on a regular basis.
  • Respect your children and allow them reasonable control over their own lives. I’m not saying you should let your kid decide, “nah, I hate shots. I’m skipping my vaccinations.” But you should definitely give them the power of choice as often as you can. Maybe that means letting them dropping soccer for theatre or picking between two options for dinner’s side veggie. The important thing is they are raised in an environment that doesn’t predispose them to accepting total control from someone else.
  • Model healthy relationship dynamics in your own romantic relationship if you have one. This is especially important for dads. Even if you’re not abusive, you may engage in behavior that is based on the same underlying attitudes and entitlement that fuels abuse because society has taught you that it’s all right. It’s on YOU and you alone to recognize and fix that. 
  • Set hard and fast rules in your home regarding respect of women. Don’t allow your kids, especially your sons, to use misogynist language (shut down anything that labels women as inherently crazy or inferior, don’t condone the use of words like bitch or cunt, etc.). And no matter how awkward you feel, make sure you talk to them about the unrealistic and misogynist aspects of most pornography (when age appropriate).
  • Learn and utilize appropriate parenting tools especially regarding punishment vs. consequence, assertive vs. authoritarian parenting, and similar issues to avoid falling into abusive parenting patterns. How To Talk So Kids Will Listen and Listen So Kids Will Talk, Siblings Without Rivalry, Unconditional Parenting, and many other wonderful books will help you raise emotionally healthy kids with strong self esteem. Remember, there is no shame in seeking education to learn to how parent. It’s a skill like any other and nobody is born knowing how to do it right. But the old joke about wishing there was a parenting manual handed out when you have a baby? It’s only half true. There’s plenty of quality manuals (and unfortunately some shit ones too, so watch out). But you have to go get them yourself.
  • Insist the men and boys in your household participate equally in housework. To do otherwise reinforces the idea that men are entitled to have women take care of even their most basics needs (like a clean home or clean laundry or food to eat). Teaching your daughters to do an oil change and use a power drill is wonderful and great and you should do that too. But it’s arguably even more important to make sure you teach your sons not only how to clean, cook, manage a budget, do the grocery shopping, care for babies, etc. but that is expected of them just as much as it is of any woman.
  • Insist upon comprehensive sex ed programs that cover topics of consent, bodily autonomy, respect, and partner abuse. If your local schools don’t provide them, check for community offerings (the O.W.L. program offered at many Unitarian Churches is one such program and don’t worry, it’s secular). If there’s nothing available, take it into your own hands. Talk to your kids about this stuff and provide them appropriate books and resources on the topic.

Do your best. You won’t be perfect. No parent ever is. But if you try and if you never give up, you’ll more than likely succeed in raising kids that not only aren’t abusive, but that will not be drawn into an abusive relationship.

That said…

If you have teen or adult children you may very well face a situation in which they have either been abused, or accused of abusing someone else. What do you do then? Well, that first book I mentioned (Why Does He Do That?) lays out in detail exactly what family members should and shouldn’t do in these situations. But I’ll give you a quick and dirty summary:

If your child is facing abuse:

  • Believe them. And don’t blame them.
  • Don’t pressure them. Don’t pressure them to give their abuser another chance NOR should you pressure them to leave their abuser.
  • Listen to their needs and offer your support.
  • Give them the respect that their abuser won’t.
  • Get yourself support so that you can vent your sorrows and concerns to somebody else instead of burdening the abuse victim with comforting you.
  • When possible, and only if the victim agrees, offer practical support (such as paying for her to go to therapy, driving her to appointments, etc.).

If you child has been accused of abuse:

  • Believe the victim. Chances are they are telling the truth. When your child makes excuses for their behavior or tries to downplay it, press them on it for details and to describe what they think is their partner’s point of view on the matter. This will often reveal that they are exaggerating and/or lying and that they have not been honestly listening to or empathizing with their partner. Then make sure to talk to the victim and get her side of the story.
  • Do not make excuses for your child. Do not ask the victim to forgive them or give them another chance. Make it clear to your child that you will not participate in talk in which their victim is blamed or dehumanized or otherwise insulted.
  • Make it clear that you expect your child to get into a reputable abuser program (Lundy Bancroft describes what to look for to make sure it’s a good program in his book). Do not tell them to go to therapy or couple’s therapy. Only a program designed to address abuse will do any good and even then, only if the abuser chooses to do the long, hard work of changing. Conventional therapy can often make the situation even worse.

And in either case, avoid provoking the abuser. Chances are the abuser will take it out on their victim in private rather than risk damage to their reputation with you by lashing out at you.

Vegan Grocery Shopping-Budget Style

This is my generic vegan grocery shopping template-it’s perfect if you live in a colder climate like myself and you’re wanting to eat cheaply as a vegan!🌱😊

1) Have a constant supply of starches, whole grains, beans and legumes at home. These are the fundamental base of my diet-they’re cheap, nutritious and widely available in most places. I stock up on oats, pasta, potatoes, dark wholemeal breads, noodles, sweet potatoes, brown rice and buy them in bulk/on sale. I’d recommend buying lentils/beans in bulk as well in dry weight as opposed to canned, try to vary the lentils, beans and pulses you use-aim to get beans and lentils in an array of shapes, sizes and colours for multifarious nutrition. I try to go for dark grains over white!

2) Buy frozen not fresh-frozen vegetables and fruits are just as nutritious but often significantly cheaper than buying them fresh-I like to get frozen berries, peas, corn, spinach, string beans, if you’re eating a lot of the surface area of your produce if you can afford it, go organic.

3) Fresh Produce Section: Here I try to switch up what I buy- I’ll often get apples, bananas, avocados, oranges, carrots, kiwi fruit, tomatoes, capsicum, cucumber, onions, eggplant, apricots, parsnips, whatever’s in season. I’ll also always get some dark leafy/collard/cruciferous greens (kale, broccoli, cabbage, brussel sprouts, cauliflower) to make sure I’m getting enough calcium and other important micronutrients and vitamins.

4) Nuts and nut butters/seeds/dried fruit-I’ll switch this up a bit also, normally buying these products in bulk/when they’re discounted. I’ll often get almonds, cashews, peanut butter, pumpkin seeds, chia seeds, tahini, flaxseeds, sesame seeds, walnuts and dried apricots, raisins, dried cranberries, dried figs, dates, dried prunes, sometimes dried mango. I don’t use margarine or olive oil in my cooking often because I’d rather eat foods in their whole food form and get the fats from there, (in saying this I’m definitely not against using oils/margarines that are palm oil free). 

4) Misc.other-I usually buy some tofu/tempeh, and if I’m too lazy to make my own haha I’ll buy soy/almond/coconut milks when they’re on sale. I’ll make sure to eat sushi nori/buy some seaweed to get some form of the DHA form of omega 3 fatty acids.

This is all I can really think of at the moment, sometimes I’ll buy some vegan junk food or vegan substitutes-like fake meats, yoghurts, ice cream etc but I don’t often crave foods like these :)

Some people were also asking if I take any supplements-apart from a vitamin D supplement in winter I don’t, I’m easily getting enough zinc, iron, calcium, omega 3 fatty acids etc. through the way I am eating but I get my blood tested every 6 months to make sure I’m on top of my nutrition and I’d recommend if you’re transitioning to veganism, you do too. For B12 I’ll either get that through nutritional yeast, marmite or I’ll buy plant milks that are fortified with it 👍

Budget Witch Crafts

Hey, I was the witch who had offered free enchanted bracelets. Well, now my etsy shop is finally up - its a budget witchcraft type shop, (only for US right now!). It’s in the beginning stages but I hope to sell some great items for people! :) If people check out @blurwitch - they can see the post about it!!

Practical Magic: Witchin’ on a Budget

Help! Josh, I’m looking at all of these witchy supplies, and I can’t afford them! What am I going to do? How can I afford an altar? I’m on a college budget, for Goddess’ sake!

Calm down, love! It’s all going to be alright!

Like hell, it’s alright! I have to pay tuition! I can’t do that if I’m paying for cauldrons and statues! Have you seen the prices on cauldrons lately?!

Breathe. Stop panicking. You don’t have to spend a lot of money to be a witch. In fact, most of us started off with nothing for our altars!

It’s sort of misleading when reading many books available for starting up in witchcraft state that an altar has such and such items on it, or when many spells call for gems, semiprecious and precious stones or metals, or even hard-to-find plants or spices - many of which tend to be exotic or unavailable depending upon the locale of the witch. I’ve read plenty of spells and books that have placed heavy emphasis on having a cauldron (which, I might add, many cast iron cauldrons can run between $10 (American) and $200 (American) depending upon size, quality, and style). And while I’ve been privileged enough to live near several gem and crystal shops, I still see crystals the size of my pinky finger selling for close to $500. It can be a bit disheartening for the new witch. I was there. We all have been.

But I’ve found that it can be a matter of perspective. Either one can perceive the situation as a hindrance, or one can approach it as an opportunity to get crafty! Thus, the crafty witch, the kitchen witch, and the newbie witch all have something in common: the ability to supply herself with all that she needs without spending to pretty a penny.

But how?! I’m not particularly artistic! I don’t even have time to weave a Brigid’s cross!

As a low-budget witch, you don’t even have to be very artistic. Just practical. And with that practicality comes the ability to save time, as well. To get you started, let’s take a look at some supplies that can be appropriated easily for cheap, and then at some other items that can be substituted for others, and of course, at some supplies that can be picked up in dime and dollar stores!

Herbs: Cheap and Easy to Get!

Something that, as a kitchen witch, often bothers me is that there are many books out there that state that you have to use herbs and spices that are fresh or wild, or have to be kept in glass or natural packaging, or have to be organically grown. To all of that, I say bullshit!

As it is, organic herbs are often marked up in price. Glass packaging is also a mark-up in price. Using fresh herbs and spices limits you to a certain time of the year for many of these plants, or renders you incapable of using them at all (shiitake mushrooms have many uses, but are practically impossible to find fresh in my area, so they always are bought dried). Using wild herbs places you in a somewhat dangerous predicament, as any herbalist or botanist would warn of similar yet poisonous or toxic plants that may be found (a great example is the wild fennel that grows on California’s central coast: the seeds are delicious and particularly useful for teas and cooking, but look nearly identical to hemlock seeds, which also grows wild in this area and is extremely toxic). Another risk to wild gathering is that some herbs have a particular period of time in which they’re safe to consume: elderberry is only safe when completely ripe, for instance, limiting harvest time to a few weeks out of the year.

Rather than forcing yourself to go to the nearest Whole Foods or organic market, I would instead say that what you have in your cabinet works just as well! Dried herbs in plastic packaging picked up for ninety cents at the dollar store? Use it! Can only find ground herbs? Use them instead of the whole herb!

If you’re a witch who leans toward gardening, dollar stores often have inexpensive seeds for herbs and veggies! The college witch who wishes to have fresh herbs and plants can easily have a small herb garden on a windowsill. For years, all of my needs for basil - culinary and witchy - were met by the one basil plant I’d been growing, and it always had more leaves to offer!

If you live in an area where a certain herb is difficult to obtain, research substitutions with herbs that have matching correspondences. There’s no way for me to acquire star anise inexpensively where I live. However, if I need to improve a social situation, I can replace anise with an herb like lavender or rose hips.

Rocks, Crystals, and Gems

Herbs and stones are extremely prevalent in magic. For every intent, it seems like there are two or three stones that correspond to it. But it’s not easy on the wallet, nor necessarily practical, to go to a gem shop and buy a chunk of lapis or citrine or amethyst. On top of that, many witches (myself included) will often provide a word of warning, as budget shopping for stones can be misleading. Some stones, such as turquoise, amethyst, citrine, rose quartz, and lepidolite tend to be swapped out with similar stones that have been dyed to match the colors of the real deal, then sold under the different name. Instead of lepidolite, for instance, you may find  yourself buying dyed mica. Instead of amethyst, you could be buying clear or smokey quartz that’s been dyed purple. And more common is finding that your inexpensive turquoise is actually epoxy!

For the sake of budget, I’m the kind of witch who recommends using herbs and spices instead, and building your collection of stones slowly. Many of the stones I use have been gifted to me, and the ones I’ve bought were done so on special occasions. If you’re set on using stones, gear yourself toward clear quartz, which is generally fairly inexpensive and is the jack of all trades in witchcraft.

In addition, there is absolutely nothing wrong with using stones found in your local environment! Work with the stones as intuition guides you. Sometimes, the most powerful magic is derived from local stones. A great example is chert. While common, it is a very hard stone capable of forming sharp edges. It’s rarely seen or used in witchcraft, but can make for a powerful stone for protection, well-being, hexes, and grounding. If you’re a flint knapper, you could even craft an athame from chert!

Cauldrons, Chalices, Athames, And Offering Dishes

I have a beautiful chalice and offering dish that I use in my rites. I’ve also got a cute little cast iron cauldron. But I’d acquired these after a year of saving up. Going out and buying these may be impractical for the newbie budget witch.

Cauldrons are ancient and synonymous with witchcraft, but when you get to the bare bones of what a cauldron is, it’s simply a metal pot. For centuries, if you didn’t have a cauldron, you were in trouble because it was your go-to cooking implement used for everything from boiling water to making soups and stews to even slow roasting meats. Many kitchen witches are aware of the power their pots and pans have. If you have a rite that calls for using a cauldron, you can use a pot or other fire-safe container!

Similarly, a chalice, when bare-bones, is no more than a cup. A glass or cup from your kitchen would work just as well as any brass goblet!

Athames are somewhat tricky depending upon the tradition. For a kitchen witch, your athame could by synonymous with your chefs knife, but for many other traditions, an athame is never used to cut material substances. Your finger works just as well, but if you feel the need to use a knife solely for magical properties, simple knives can be acquired at dollar stores, or you can set aside a knife from your flatware and use it only for magical purposes.

Offering dishes are entirely optional, and not every witch uses them. These can be any simple plate or bowl.

All of these dishes can be bought at dollar stores, thrift stores, or discount markets.

Jars, Bottles, Vials Galore!

This is a fun one! It allows you to get crafty and thrifty at the same time! Jars, bottles, and vials are easily purchased inexpensively at dollar stores and thrift stores, and Amazon has a lot of options for small bottles and vials in bulk for less than $10 (American). But say you want to avoid buying such bottles and jars. Reuse what you gain from grocery shopping!

As someone who likes to spend a lot of time in the kitchen, I come across plenty of herbs in glass jars and bottles. Jellies and preserves are almost always sold in glass jars. Soy sauce and sometimes ketchup are sold in glass bottles. Wine, beer, and some vinegars are available in glass. And keep an eye out for other, less conventional options that might appear in your kitchen! I occasionally buy caviar if it’s on sale and I feel particularly indulgent (and living on the coast, it is easier to obtain inexpensively depending upon the grade). Since the flavor of caviar is best preserved in glass, it’s almost always sold in little glass jars which I then reuse.

Even some condiments are useful! As I work in a restaurant, tabasco sauce bottles are thrown out all the time. I will occasionally “rescue” the little bottles, clean them out and remove the labels, and use them for my witchy projects. If you find yourself at a restaurant and finish off such a bottle, be sure to ask if it is alright for you to take the bottle home with you!

Thrifty and Frugal

Thrift stores, dollar stores, swap meets, and dime stores are your best friend if you’re a budget witch. Much of what I have today is a result of browsing through such stores on days when I’ve been able to set aside fifteen dollars. Candles can always be found in dollar stores, and if you enjoy using spirit candles, saint candles, or seven day candles, you’re guaranteed a good supply of them at dollar stores. Same thing with tea lights, tapers, and even emergency light candles and matches!

Thrift stores are ideal for anything ranging from crystals to small tables for altars, and are perfect for getting that wine glass or set of jars!

Swap meets are a little more pricey, but give you the opportunity to haggle if need be, or to find what you would least expect at a steal (my boyfriend has a Marseilles tarot deck that I was able to get for about $3 - a deck like that could easily go for five times that price).

Just be sure to cleanse anything  you get from thrift stores and swap meets, as you never know what kinds of energy may be attached!

In Conclusion

It’s easy to be overwhelmed at the sheer cost of getting started in witchcraft, but if you know where to look and what to look for, you can cut that cost down significantly and make it easier to supply yourself. And there’s never anything wrong with building up your altar over time. My own altar is the result of nearly a decade of collecting and buying in very small amounts, and much of what’s present on it had been gifted to me by friends and fellow witches.

I even know several witches to delight in creating their own supplies from scratch, carefully crafting the pentacle on their altar or whittling their own god and goddess statues from the wood they had left over from various projects.

Keep an eye out, and you’ll see opportunities left and right! Have fun, and remember that it’s not the quality or origin that matter. It’s the magic within yourself that makes for the most powerful spells!

Blessed Be! )O(

hanamayhem  asked:

the rfa goes grocery shopping with their s/o.

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 bless u.  


  • tBH yoosung goes shopping WAY more when mc moves in/when they start dating 
  • he likes to make the impression that he’s NOT a slob and ACTUALLY keeps his fridge stocked appropriately (mc knows the truth tho)
  • and he also wants to make sure mc eats their meals 
  • ofc when LOLOL becomes more of a hobby rather than an addiction he gets better at regularly going out- he actually enjoys browsing the store!
  • ofc sometimes he gets lazy…  but THATS JUST HOW THE COOKIE CRUMBLES ROLF
  • he typically goes once a week with mc- he enjoys their company and wants to know what they’d like to eat for the next week/what they might be interested in cooking with him!!!  (unless they r dangerous in the kitchen which means yoosung casually avoids the topic of co-cooking all together)
  • he also just doesn’t like going alone/doesn’t want mc to go alone (he’s so protective)
  •  he typically gets distracted easily!! at first he starts out pretty strong!  knows exactly what he needs and what not 
  • but then he gets side tracked by other foods that he’s never tried out- he’s a little more adventurous when it comes to cooking so there’ll be times where mc has had to walk away with the list as he stares long and hard at this ONE ingredient wondering if he really really really wants it or if it’s because it just LOOKS like it’s interesting (sometimes he wins the fight, sometimes he loses)
  • mc and yoosung typically try to budget their spending- they do decently when they go together!  sometimes they’ll by snack foods/treats but they pretty much stay on track on what they need.  the most they get is the basics on the list and maybe one or two interesting items that yoosung just simply couldn’t pass up
  • he loVES sales but hates how busy it gets- he’s just not able to ever get exactly what he wants and it makes him so sad T-T
  • all and all the shopping trip is pretty fun!  they enjoy each others company 


  • man even yoosung is way better at going out then zen is
  • it’s not that zen is bad at cooking or anything/hates going grocery shopping- he can make decent things 
  • but he just . .. . doesn’t 
  • he’s always been the type of guy to prioritize work over food- like he tends to focus too hard on something and forget everything else in the process
  • similar to yoosung, he only gets better when he’s dating/living with mc.  he wants to make sure his apartment is always stocked with food for them to eat!!!  he fusses over mc all the time if they admit to skipping meals
  • when mc states that zen is no better than them (if mc is bad at remembering to eat proper meals as well) it definitely motivates him to eat regularly 
  • not to mention meals with The Bae?  how could he pass THAT up?!
  • they go once a week- and although he finds the task kind of.. boring he’s happy to have mc by his side!!! 
  • they don’t really get distracted- they stay pretty close to whats on the list
  • the only time they get sidetracked is when zen is near the cosmetic aisle and finds a new cream to try out
  • all and all a relatively normal trip with zen holding the basket/pushing the cart for mc and chit chatting- typically has them stick by his side so he can watch over them


  • after opening the cafe she definitely tries to find time to cook more- there are days where her and mc will be a little lazy when it comes to cooking and order in, but she does try to be a little more proactive with meals 
  • therefore she spends a little more time shopping
  • when her and mc go shopping they budget VERY well and pretty much stay on task the entire time
  • sure maybe there’s some light flirting here and there but they get the job done relatively quickly.  
  • nothing is ever really forgotten at the store and there are little to no distractions 
  • the only times jaehee gets distracted is when she wants to test out different types of coffee beans 
  • also let me tell you she is the BEST on sales days- she hates the crowds but always finds a way of getting exactly what she needs 
  • i love jaehee


  • mc i can hire someone to do that 
  • we can have our groceries delivered 
  • why do we have to go out 
  • it’s definitely by mc’s request that they and jumin go shopping 
  • usually they just have people restock for them since they have their own chef- but there are some days where mc thinks it would be nice to do it themselves!!  and jumin…  doesn’t really get it but complies nonetheless
  • because of this they don’t really go out to the store regularly 
  • jumin is like a little fucking kid at a store- especially if it isn’t some posh over priced store 
  • ngl this guy immediately wanders off sometimes if mc isn’t paying attention (no shame mc has gone to the front and called for their husband) 
  • and if he isn’t wandering off he’s dragging mc along with him 
  • he just sees all these things he’s never had before!!!  he looks so stoic but theres this child like glimmer in his eye 
  • they never stay on task good lord- jumin keeps adding interesting things into the cart and they end up leaving with a long ass bill and way too much food 
  • i suppose he has a little fun tho- and after the first time he tries to go shopping with mc more often.  he really just wants to spend time with his lover 


  • he’s the biggest fucking kid ever 
  • the WORST at restocking his own fridge with healthy foods 
  • and since mc has only seen 707 eat fucking chips and soda- seeming to have no real preference for anything else (or at least not explicitly saying anything) they have to drag his ass to the store
  • they tend to buy in bulk- save on trips to the store because 707 doesn’t like going at ALL…  he just doesn’t really like being out in public…  makes him a little nervous/he frankly finds the task boring 
  • but ofc goes since mc wants to (mc dragging him out is usually 80% him trying to be a little shit and 20% him not wanting to go)
  • he always loads up the cart with chips, sodas, and candies.  nothing nutritional what so ever and you have not LIVED to see the day to watch two full grown ass adults arguing about the nutritional values in junk food 
  • in the end mc gives in and compromises with 707 on the snacks
  • they never stay true to the list- mc really does try but they always end up with more than they need…  and since they get so distracted something is ALWAYS left forgotten at the store and the struggle is real 
  • 707 has hacked the stores overhead system before and let me tell you they are banned from a few places because of that 
  • (mc found it really funny tho ngl)
  • sometimes 707 pushes mc around in the cart, sometimes it’s the other way around 
  • since money isn’t really an issue for 707, he doesn’t worry about the price- but he always fails to tell mc that because he thinks it’s cute how they try to compare and contrast different brands of the same food that are different prices 
  • even though he puts up the biGGEST fight sometimes- they always end up enjoying themselves 


  • he’s pretty decent at keeping his fridge stocked- the only time it gets low is when he knows he’s going to be traveling and doesn’t want to go out and buy foods that will end up going to waste 
  • tho after mc moves in he makes sure to always keep it full of foods that mc enjoys!!!  and loves going out with mc to shop
  • if they’re not holding hands as he holds the basket for mc with his other open one, he’s pushing the cart for mc (if he only has his left eye he tries his best to not bump into things- and mc gives him credit he does a pretty good job…  but sometimes mc has to take over which makes him feel sO BAD)
  • they stay true to the list and get what they need to get and leave.  it’s a pretty chill trip- neither party straying from the list.
  • tho sometimes their trips are a little longer than necessary because he and mc will end up chatting and walking around rather than actually look for what they need to get!!
  • all and all pretty normal 
  • 10/10 would go shopping with again


  • but then if mc is like “FINE” he immediately changes his mind like no why do u wanna go with him am i not good enough fuck that guy 
  • saeran please mc is already tired and they haven’t left the house 
  • he’s is so damn grumpy/pouty and clearly hates life and everyone around him 
  • like yeah sure he looks so cute with his read hair and adorable sweater but do not be fooled the look on his face screams murder
  • just like 707 stores make him very nervous- especially if they’re really crowded 
  • if it’s a really busy day and he refuses mc’s offer to drive him back home, he tends to get really clingy and won’t let mc get too far away from him
  • if mc does kinda stray he ends up having a panic attack :’’)
  • mc tries to take him at times/day where it’s not going to be too crowded…  they want him to get used to people/small crowds and even if it’s something as simple occasionally getting him out of the house to go to the store then thats good enough
  • over time he does get better though he still fucking hates going because it’s bORING
  • tends to fill the cart up with sweets and ice cream….  mc has to compromise with him because he always wants to buy WAY more than necessary 
  • he still tries to sneak things into the cart 
  • very unhelpful when it comes to shopping- mc is the one who does the majority of the work searching 
  • however he always is the one to push the cart/hold the basket 
  • somehow they don’t forget things on the list, but tend to buy all the little things they didn’t need whatsoever
  • and this happens every time they go shopping 


  • another one who doesn’t like shopping either 
  • mostly because it’s boring and tedious and people annoy them way too easily 
  • mc makes sure they keep the fucking stun gun at home
  • despite disliking the shopping process, they don’t mind going with mc….  they like to watch them fuss over prices and carefully examine the nutritional values..  they lowkey think it’s cute 
  • and if it’s crowded they make sure to guard mc- but in a really lowkey way
  • nothing much to say for them!!  they don’t get distracted and get the job done relatively easily.  since vanderwood doesn’t like shopping they just want to get it done as quickly and as efficiently as possible 
  • sometimes one thing is left behind but vanderwood…  begrudgingly volunteers to go back and grab it 
  • vanderwood also offers to push the cart/carry the basket 
Let's talk BUDGETING

Ah yes, the least glamorous part of being a sugar baby, the fiscal responsibility. When many of us get into this lifestyle, we picture living fancy, spending without a care, and getting everything we want. Well, welcome to the real world. My allowance is $5000 a month, and if I bought all of the shoes and bags and clothes my heart desired, I could spend all that money easily. But that would be silly, because as nice as shoes and bags and clothes are, they aren’t the main reason I got into this lifestyle and they certainly won’t pay the bills if I ever get desperate.

The thing is, I suck at budgeting and spending money. I tend to use it up to quickly and then I’m desperate for money around the end of the month. But a SD can drop you on a dime, so this is obviously not ideal. So I’m implementing a strict budget for myself for the year and here’s what I’m doing so you can too.

  1. Set aside half of your allowances- I know, not fun at all. But it’s important to try to save at least half of your allowances. Buy a safe and stash half in there every month. For me, this is my “travel-car-life after college-rainy day” fund. I’m saving towards specific goals, but I also know that money is there should I ever need it.
  2. Give yourself a “weekly allowance”- Take your monthly allowance and break it up into weekly increments, but not just for the month. Try to break it up into 4 months worth of weeks. For example, when I get my $5000, $3000 will go into savings. Then, I’m breaking up the money into 13 envelopes with $125 dollars in each of them, which will last me from now until May. This is my money I can use for groceries, booze, going out with friends, basically anything I need for the week. Is $125 a week glamorous? Not really, but I can comfortably live on it and it gives me 13 weeks to find a new SD if my currant one decides to dump me for whatever reason. I will then add to each weekly folder. So next month, I’ll put another $125 in each of the remaining envelopes, and I’ll have $250 to spend every week. My weekly “goal” is $300, so the month after that I’ll add another $50 to each remaining envelope, then I’ll put $100 in 15 new envelopes to save for summer and repeat.
  3. Budget for Shopping and Big Purchases- If you were paying attention above, you may have realized that 3000+(13x125)=4625, not $5000. That’s because I budgeted $375 to go shopping for the month. Look, shopping is obviously super fun, but walking into a store with your full allowance in hand is just stupid and irresponsible. Bring the amount you budgeted with you and stick to it. Shopping is way more fun when you don’t have “oh no, I shouldn’t have bought all this stuff I wasted so much money” regret. I think ahead to any big purchases I need to make and plan for them. For example, I know I want to get my hair done in March, which is going to be expensive. So I budgeted extra money into March’s “spending” category for that expense.
  4. Roll Your Weekly Money Over- So odds are I won’t be spending my entire weekly budget every single week. What shall one do with this left over money? I’m putting into my “roll-over” envelope, which I will let accumulate. I can do whatever I want with this money. I can add it to the shopping budget for the month, use it to save up for a big purchase, or draw from it (not my savings) if I need a little extra one week.
  5. Get a “bonus” Sugar Daddy for Big Things- Well, technically I already have one, so this is more of a suggestion. To me, a bonus SD is a SD who you see very infrequently, generally due to travel or work. Mine gives me $1500 every time we see each other, which is rare, due to his travel for work, about every 2 months. I view this as “bonus money” and I would use it on a single, large purchase that my monthly budget doesn’t account for, such as a new laptop, phone, expensive bag, etc.
  6. Get you SD to Pay for as Much as Possible- Fucking duh.

A Recap, Part 1

Lillian: “All right, my angels! Let’s do a brief recap of where we last were with Big Brother before we start again! The week before the break was pretty eventful, after all! (but I’m sure most of you remember it pretty clearly!)

“We had the week of Truth and Lies, and during that, Big Brother got the housemates to sing as a challenge. There was a reward for that; but Jayme made it seem like one of the two lies when she destroyed the plant box reward and hid the seeds by her bed.

“For the shopping challenge, Ash and Ada had to listen to the housemates tell stories and determine if they were truthful or lying. Fortunately the only person whose judgement mattered was Ash’s and he pulled a blinder, syncing the luxury shopping budget based on his acumen alone.

“The day after that, Big Brother lifted the punishment about makeup and Lacey took it upon herself to give all the housemates that wanted a new makeover!

“The two actual lies Big Brother told the housemates were the following: That the housemates did not have to nominate that week, The second lie Big Brother told was to Tyler and Choi when they asked if Jayme had received any special treatment during the previous week’s vote. (She had. She had earned immunity for herself.)

“Only Lacey, Jayme and Ash decided to nominate despite Big Brother’s seeming generousity and so they were the only ones that did not go on the block for the last vote. All those who failed to nominate put themselves up on the block, so the public voted to evict either Ada, Choi, Kaliko, Marie, or Tyler.”


“But being vegan is so expensive!” is one of the most “popular” arguments against veganism I hear when talking about it with people. And when, sure, it can be, it really doesn’t have to. I’ve been a college student for over five months now, I live in a dorm and my only money comes from my social scholarship. And I have no problem with maintaining my lifestyle.

I decided to make this post to show people in similar situations that it is possible to go and stay vegan and healthy on a budget :)

I shop for groceries once a week and spend around 15, max 20 (on special occasions) dollars. And this is what I usually buy:

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4 Tips for the Bedroom:

(No, not like that, we’re talking decor.) Your bedroom is one of the most important rooms in your house. With my obsession with redecorating, I can’t even count how many times I’ve changed my bedroom around. (Yes I can…I’ve had green walls, multi-colored walls, beige, purple, pink and now white. Along with many bedding changes.) I’ve decided to finally keep my bedroom the way it is now for a while. Which means my parents have gotten me to redo their bedroom (yes!) So here I am in my jammies sipping a cup of coffee about to give you some tips on how you can love your bedroom again, and what I’ve learned so far:

1. ᴋᴇᴇᴘ ɪᴛ ᴄʟᴇᴀɴ 

This is so important! A messy and cluttered bedroom leads to cluttered thoughts in the morning, at night and NO one wants to look at dirty clothes, empty shopping bags or bills when they are about to ‘get it on’ … so make it your mission this week. Do a complete purge and declutter of your bedroom. Your bedroom should have very little ‘things’ in it. (ex. A bed, headboard, two matching side tables, two matching lamps. MINIMAL decorative accessories on either side, an extra small piece of furniture like a chair in the corner depending on the size of your room, a dresser, and two pieces of art. Less is more. 

2. ɪɴᴠᴇsᴛ ᴡɪsᴇʟʏ 

You spend about 25% of your life in bed. That’s CRAY CRAY. But this is where you want to put your investment: Your mattress and your bedding. Since we spend so much time in bed (whether you’re spending your days off there, ‘gettin busy’ or just using it to sleep, you don’t want to be getting a sore back or not having a good nights sleep. Once you’ve invested in the most important things in the bedroom, then you can splurge on the throw pillows. ;) 

3. ᴅᴏɴᴛ sʜᴇᴇᴛ ᴛʜᴇ ʙᴇᴅ 

Let’s talk sheets. Specifically white sheets. I know you must be thinking “What?! White sheets?! But they’ll get so dirty!” Well guess what? So does black, brown, blue and green sheets. You just don’t see it as well. Which is even worse! Sorry, but I want the place I sleep to be CLEAN and if it’s not, I want to see it! You should be washing your sheets once a week. I know lot’s of you don’t. Make Sundays your cleaning day. Strip those sheets and toss em in the wash. Sadly, white sheets only stay ‘white’ for about 1-2 years. Which means your going to be replacing them. So for a good budget, I recommend shopping for sheets at Ikea. They are surprisingly VERY comfortable for a LOW price. 

4. ɴᴇᴜᴛʀᴀʟ ɪs ʙᴇᴛᴛᴇʀ

In my opinion, lots of colour doesn’t belong in the bedroom. Palettes of white, grey and light blue are best. If you must have colour, dark colours can work. Dark brown, green and grey. Studies say red can make you feel tense so stay away from red.