buck stops here

in a hundred lifetimes, i’d choose you

I have heard from a lot of survivors who are, understandably, confused about how responsible their parents are for the abuse because they were also abused by their parents. So let me clarify…

They are 100% responsible. Abuse is 100% wrong and it is 100% their responsibility that they are doing it. Just as it will be 100% wrong and your responsibility if you do it to your children.

It is the abusive parent’s duty to deal with their emotional wounds so that they do not abuse you. Repeatedly saying, “sorry, I was abused too,” is not good enough. They need to change their behavior and not abuse you anymore. That is the only thing that means anything. Bringing up past abuse instead of being accountable and changing their behavior is just another way of manipulating you into accepting the abuse. Maybe you are underage and cannot yet stop them from abusing you, but you can at least know in your mind that it is not acceptable behavior, that they are at fault and responsible for their abuse of you.

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The Buck Stops Here on WTJU, “Blaming You” [The fiddle player, Julie, is a family friend. Good to hear in such a tight band.]
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The Buck Stops Here – The phrase is closely connected with President Truman, but how?

Later today, President Barack Obama will visit the El Reno Federal Correctional Institution. His visit will make him the first sitting President to visit a federal prison.

President Harry S. Truman also has a connection to El Reno - his famous “Buck Stops Here” sign was made at the prison and was given to him by the prison warden. 

Discover the back story at our new Google Cultural Institute exhibit.

Concerning the DCEU...

So you guys may not know, but I am an avid comic book/cinematic universe fan. I have a lot of opinions that I’ve shared with my friends offline but never so much here, mostly because I’ve been afraid to start any discourse. But the buck stops here. I have a lot to say and I’m gonna say it. 

FAIR WARNING TO DIEHARD DCEU FANS!!! If you choose to read this, please bear with me. Like Batman v Superman, it’s a long, winding road to the end, but it may leave you with a strange twinge of optimism.

The reviews for Suicide Squad have begun to roll in, and they are NOT good. Like at all. This was the DCEU’s third attempt to strut their stuff as a cinematic universe, and it seems they’ve failed to accomplish that yet again. I’m gonna refrain from pulling the MCU card here; the fault lies solely on directors who won’t own up to their blunders.

What especially bothers me about the DCEU is the fans’ response to criticism. Granted, some critics are more bloodthirsty than others. But the more diehard fans seem willing to make every single excuse in the book to defend these movies without understanding what actually makes superhero media good.

  • “It’s for the fans.” Certainly the weapon of choice for the defenders.This has been said ad nauseum by people–not to mention the directors themselves–who want a quick response to fend off naysayers. Guess what? I’m a DC fan. I have been for as long as I can remember. I won’t claim to be the most knowledgeable, but I am a fan of comics, both Marvel and DC, and I know a crappy adaptation when I sees it. In my opinion, being a fan doesn’t mean blindly supporting a movie; it means appreciating the things a movie does well and understanding when there are flaws that need fixing.

    What’s more, did Zack Snyder and David Ayer seriously take on the daunting task of a cinematic universe so only the fans would enjoy it? There are so many people besides fans that are going to see these movies–friends that are bored and wanna see a blockbuster, couples looking for a good popcorn flick for date night, kids that are in it solely for the superpowered action and parents that want to share a good time with those kids–these people that may not be fans or have too much prior knowledge of the DC Universe. When you make a movie, you have to make it palatable for as many people as you can. When it’s a gotdang cinematic universe, you have to ease the audience into that world. You don’t throw them to the wolves for three hours with nothing but a jar of urine and a faded printout of the DC Wiki for them to peruse when the wolves aren’t eating them. A cinematic universe takes time and careful storytelling, and people have to accept that. You want a movie for the fans? Call up Bruce Timm and be done with it.
  • The public isn’t ready for dark superheroes.  This couldn’t be further from the truth. There have been tons of dark heroes in the past. Netflix’s Daredevil and Jessica Jones (sorry to mention Marvel) revel in the broodiness, and the audience eats it up. Chris Nolan’s Dark Knight trilogy is probably the deepest Batman’s ever been, and set the standard for Batman as an icon for modern heroes. All of these stories are about very broken people trying to fix a broken world around them. The mature themes prevalent in these shows are handled wonderfully and in a way that makes extremely deep and real people that just happen to be super. It’s exactly what BvS tried to do with the Caped Kryptonian, but they refused to give him any guidance in his quest to understand himself. Even if Snyder meant for Superman to find the answer on his own, the movie didn’t even get that right. Dark superheroes are possible. I know that because it’s been done. Zack Snyder just did a terrible job of it.
  • People hate that the cast for Suicide Squad is racially diverse. The fact that some people played the race card as soon as the film started getting bad reviews is just appalling to me. I know at this point it’s “whatever-it-takes-to-stop-the-haters” time but to accuse critics of being racist is kinda low; the critics are there to call out the racism and stereotyping. If anything, the diverse cast is one of the best things Suicide Squad has going for it. It’s incredibly refreshing to see such a unique cast of lesser-known with the likes of Will Smith and Margot Robbie kicking ass as a team. And lord knows that diversity is still a big problem in Hollywood. But it’s not their fault that their characters/screentime are bogged down by too much exposition at once. And even if the movie itself is bad, it’s almost never the actors’ fault; it’s the directors. I don’t have much else to say about this. I’m just incredibly grossed out that people went there that quickly.
  • People are jaded by the MCU. Okay, so I lied; I’m about to throw Marvel into the mix. But that’s only because it’s worth talking about. Don’t worry, I’m not going to say “Marvel did it first” or “better” or anything like that. But there’s no denying that this titan of cinema has unintentionally played a huge part of the current state of things.

    This is yet another weapon in the DCEU Defender’s arsenal. These people are very quick to say that moviegoers these days only care about talking raccoons and fourth-wall dick jokes, obvious nods to certain Marvel properties. (Deadpool isn’t part of the MCU, but that’s a whole other thing.) These diehard DCEU fans may actually believe that people aren’t capable of enjoying a superhero story or consider it to be good unless it’s the aesthetic that Marvel has set for itself. But that’s not the case at all. Marvel’s onset was shaky at best. Iron Man could’ve easily been bad and the prospects of an MCU might’ve been stopped in its tracks 8 years ago. But it wasn’t. It was great. And over time, Marvel earned its current seat as one of the biggest franchises in the film industry, and what a seat it is.

    Marvel’s reputation would no doubt be intimidating to anyone trying to get into the game. But that’s where the fatal flaw in the DCEU lies, at least from a marketing standpoint. It’s trying to be Marvel. It’s trying to force its way to being a contender for the throne alongside the likes of Star Wars. It shouldn’t have had to do that. DC has so much content and potential for great movies. As the Screen Junkies’ Honest Trailer for BvS put it, they stuffed at least SIX movies’ worth of material into one, and they ended up having very little to show for it. Suicide Squad is obviously the response to Marvel’s Guardians of the Galaxy, but Marvel earned the right to take a chance on an obscure group from the comic archives. If anything, the DCEU is the one most jaded by Marvel in thinking there should be a competition in the first place. Again, a cinematic universe takes time and careful storytelling. There are no shortcuts and you sacrifice quality in trying to make them. You also sacrifice the opportunity to make a good name for yourself.

    Ironically, while copying the best parts of Marvel’s reputation, it tried so hard to be the counterpoint to Marvel’s fun and upbeat aesthetic with its failed attempts at being dark. David Ayer’s utterance of “Fuck Marvel!” at the premiere perfectly summarizes the sentiment behind the DCEU. It’s not being DC. It’s trying to be Marvel from a marketing standpoint, while subverting it cinematically. Just ignore Marvel. Stop acting like you have to be anything other than the DCEU that comic book fans know you’re capable of being. Drop these directors that don’t know what they’re doing and just have fun with it.

Welp, that took a while. I told you I have a lot to say. The DCEU is currently 0 for 3 and the future looks iffy. I can only hope that WB can get its act together and learn what it really means to make a cinematic universe. We have 10 months until Wonder Woman, the next film on the roster. We’ll see if they have it all figured out by then.

If anyone has any questions, I’ll gladly answer them.

okay the buck stops here, THANK YOU ALL FOR YOUR SUGGESTIONS and I look forward to seeing them! we’ll see how many I can get done… ;v;

do you think mayor dewey named his kid buck as a political move. like do you think hed hold up his son during speeches and be like “and here at mayor deweys office, the buck stops here” and then everyone claps politely but everyone looks at each other like “i feel weird for him using his baby’s name like this but i guess we have a kid literally named onion running around so who are we to judge”