Miracu-mom (I've decided that's what I'm calling you btw) I'm gonna be 17 in two days????? I'm so old?????????????? I can't handle it I wanna be 5 again
Haha, I’ll happily be your Miracu-mom, sweets. <3
Oh my dear precious, you’re not old. Seriously enjoy this time. I realize that’s the cliche saying, but every single new year is such a gift. So here’s the thing. I distinctly remember having a conversation with my dad when I was 16. We were riding around on a golf cart at the beach as one does in the South and I recall telling him how old I felt, and at the same time, I knew that I was so young relatively. He was 36 at the time and laughed and told me there were so many wonderful things ahead: good things, bad things, boring things, exciting things that I hadn’t experienced yet. I’m 32 now and I can’t stress how true that is. I felt like I had already experienced so much and I hadn’t even scratched the surface yet.
Have fun. Smile. Laugh. Cry. There are going to be hard times. There are going to be times when you want to be 5 again and not worry about anything, but keep going. I’ve found it’s so worth it.
I wish you only the best for your birthday! You’ll definitely have a Marichat drabble coming your way. <3
I'm wondering how do people even find out they're ace as teenagers (ace specifically btw, not aromantic). Because I'm 17 and naturally, I don't care about sex at all right now, so I don't know if I even am able to experience sexual attraction or not. I am 100% sure I experience romantic attraction though and I've never been in a relationship. So would this be a valid enough situation for me to question whether or not I'm ace? Or does this happen to most people?
I knew I was asexual when I was about twelve, though I didn’t necessarily have sophisticated language for it. I’ve talked about that a bit here, where I identified myself in what I would consider to be an age appropriate manner. Some believe it’s inappropriate for young people to identify as asexual. I don’t think that’s true.
All human beings go through sexual development, but what we are realizing now is that sexual development is not uniform. We expect certain things to happen at every stage in a person’s sexual development, but for aromantic and asexual people they may not go through the same stages.
In addition, aromantic and asexual may appear to go through the same stages as their peers but how they internalize everything might be very different. They might feel pressured to feel or act a certain way because of how sexuality is discussed in media and/or in education, but it feels wrong or foreign to them.
For me, I compared my experiences with sexuality to that of my peers and I felt different. Sometimes I would act like my peers, but it felt like a performance. It didn’t feel like a genuine part of myself. I felt the most authentic when I was identifying as asexual and aromantic, and I think that’s how I “knew.”
Now, there are definitely people – especially young people – who do not care about sex and/or who don’t want to think about sex. That doesn’t necessarily mean they’re asexual. It could mean that they are not ready, and it’s perfectly acceptable to not be ready.
Still, an interest in sex and emerging sexual attraction isn’t unnatural or uncommon in teenagers. It’s actually pretty normal for one’s sexual identity to emerge in teenage years, and for an interest in sex, sexual content, and a desire to participate in sex with a particular gender to increase during this time.
I also want to stress that it’s normal and natural for people to be uninterested and unable to experience attraction, and that being asexual and/or aromantic should be accepted as normal and natural too. Otherwise, we treat asexuality and aromanticism as conditions of childhood and not valid orientations.
By treating asexuality and aromanticism as transient identities that change once one reaches adulthood, we act as if sexuality is a sign of maturity and shame young people for their emerging sexualities. We punish young people for developing in ways that are actually quite normal and natural.
Being asexual and/or aromantic doesn’t mean lacking in identity, and it’s fairer to say that a young person’s identity is unknown rather than asexual and/or aromantic until they mature. It’s also fair to say that the only one capable of determining the identities of young people are young people themselves.
And, it’s important for adults to provide support and ensure a young person’s healthy sexual development through inclusive education, establishing boundaries, and teaching young people about safe practices, rather than determining for them what is and is not natural for them to feel.
I cannot give you a set-in-stone criteria for knowing you’re asexual, because our identities can emerge in a number of ways. What I can say is that comparing your experiences to peers can help. Thinking about what attraction means to you can help as well, because asexuality isn’t all about sex itself.
It’s also completely normal and natural to cycle through different identities as a young person or even as a full grown adult. If you don’t feel the need to label your experiences right now, there’s nothing wrong with that. If you don’t feel certain about your identity right now, it’s okay to wait.
I'm new to smoking weed and I feel so clueless sometimes like how do l learn more about it I don't wanna ask my friends and seem stupid. like for example I don't know what a bowl is edibles the best way to get really high I don't even have a weed man! I give my friends money to buy it for me Lol :( & the differences really between diffrent weed if it's good or whatever. how'd you learn?? (I'm 17 btw)
Sorry its taken me so long to reply. But really you learn from experience. When I first started smoking, i felt the same way. I didnt know much and i didnt want to look inexperienced in front of my friends.. but you live and you learn, there are some things today i come across of that I dont know what it means. You learn from experience.
Just make sure you trust the people you are giving your money to for bud, like know your prices and it helps if you have a scale. Thats like one of my favorite tools I have, its important because youll know for sure exactly how much youre getting and youll know if they shorted you or not. Just to give you an idea, street value price usually ranges from $20 for 1 gram. $60 for 3.5 grams (eighth) $100 for 7 grams (quarter) and so on.. It depends where you live and who youre getting your weed from, but just make sure you trust that person. A bowl is a smoking device, Theres different ways to smoke.. Theres bowls, blunts, joints, bongs, rigs, bubbles, etc. Edibles are fun, but they effect people differently. And it really just depends how they are made and how much weed people put in them.
The more you buy weed, the more youll be able to tell what the difference between good weed and shitty weed. Just google pictures of bud if you arent familiar with nugs. Theres midz which is cheapp and bad weed. And then theres bud like dro and its excellent. Theres 2 different kinds of weed. Sativa and Indica. Indica is usually more purple and very dense, smells skunky. It gives you more of a body high and make you wanna sit on the couch and eat chips and then sativa is more of a mind high and its light and fluffy and smells fruity mostly.
Always carry eye drops, they will save your life. Know your limit. Gum is helpful. Munchies are very good. remember also, that a lot of people lie, they will tell you this bud is fire but it may not always be true, just make sure you look at it.Think before you say things haha. if youre riding dirty, always carry an envelope with a stamp, address, and returning address and if you get pulled over put all your shit in there, because its illegal for them to go through mail. and most importantly, do what you feel comfortable with, dont give into peer pressure just because you dont wanna look dumb, make sure youre always feeling comfortable with yourself. :)
“Okay first, is that a wolf thing? Being super in tune with the sun’s alignment and all that? Second, I gotta say you and mama McCall being grocery buds is kind of awesome. Weird and totally unexpected, but awesome. Like those mugs that change color if you put hot or cold drinks in them— Ha! Hey, there’s a beetle on my shoe. Sup, beetle— like if you pour hot coffee into it and the mug turns orange— weird and unexpected, but awesome. Actually jk, the beetle’s actually just some dirt. Is that mint? I need Adderall.”
Derek chokes a little on his orange.
“I’ll bring a giant Cthulhu pillow and we’ll see who wins in a fight to the death.”
“Draw me like one of your French bread girls,” Stiles begs as he tries poking Derek with a baguette.
Because shopping with Lydia is a mall-crawl filled with winks and coy smiles. And if Lydia winks at you more than once within an hour, you should either assume she is winking at someone far superior and good-looking behind you, or be very worried that something terrible is about to happen to you. Stiles tried to tell her that it’s no big deal, no it’s not a date, that he and Derek hang out all the time, they literally live together, and her response had been to cup his cheeks and pin him down with her green gaze and say, “Stiles Stilinksi, for someone so intelligent you can be so incredibly stupid.” —He gets that now. He’ll have to call and tell her the good news later.
OH! Oh, ohhhh, oh my friggin’ holy Millennium Falcon on a toasted BUN, Derek—!”