brotp: partners

Communication IS Key

Communication is important in any relationship, whether it be platonic, romantic, sexual, or anywhere in between. When you have non-platonic relationships with multiple people, it’s even more important.

Many arguments stem from misunderstanding. Think about it: how many times have you gotten upset over something that turned out to be a miscommunication? It’s much easier just to avoid that by communicating honestly and effectively.

In a nonmonogamous relationship, it may be easy to talk about the positives with your partners – that new person you flirted with, or an upcoming date. It’s the negatives that get swept under the rug, and those are the most important things to talk about. When you feel jealous or insecure or nervous about the poly aspects of a relationship, it’s important to talk about those feelings with your partners.

When a partner does come to you expressing those negative feelings, it’s important not to react with anger. The other person just opened up to you, and responding angrily will only weaken your relationship. Negative feelings occur in any relationship, and they’re valid, just like the positive ones. Help your partner work through whatever they’re feeling by reassuring them and supporting them. By doing this, you avoid arguments and strengthen your relationship. It’s a win-win for everyone.

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Margaret and Mary Tudor, princesses and later Dowager Queens, the daughters of Henry VII and Elizabeth of York, the sisters of Henry VIII. Born nearly a decade apart, the two knew little of each other after Margaret departed to Scotland, yet shared the same passionate and self-possessed nature, choosing their own mates to the scandal and scorn of others.

for the lovely @margarettudor

It really hurts when a partner suddenly starts ignoring you without telling you why. At first you won’t even realize it. But slowly you’ll notice they haven’t answered your last ask in along time. You’ll wonder did my message send? You’ll send one just to check and not hear anything back. Slowly as you continue to hear nothing you’ll begin to realize something is wrong. You’ll ask but be met by silence. It’s the worst feeling because you weren’t even worth them communicating what was wrong.
I hate it when you have a wonderful thread going, one you love to pieces, and your partner stops replying; and yes, you send them reminders, tell them that it is fine to take their time, and they reply that they are going to work on it, but days go by, and then weeks and then months and you realize your once rp partner is now too busy with new partners to remember they once used to enjoy roleplaying with you.