breakups and healings

I would never hurt you the way you did.
I would never leave on a plane with someone I barely met, like you did.
If you really didn’t love me, why did you tell me all these things to lead me on?
You fucked me up mentally and emotionally.
I won’t heal from this like you are.
I’m not happy like you are.
Because you left me, someone that would do anything and everything for you.
For a guy you only text while with me.
I hope he makes you happy and does everything I never did.
This is my goodbye.
I suddenly realized it. The way to get over you isn’t by hooking up with some random guy or pretending like we didn’t happen. You and I loved each other. And then you broke my heart. I’ve been doing everything possible not to face that fact… I’m gonna kiss somebody someday. And when I do, it’ll be for me.
—  Blair Waldorf
Moving on isn’t about forgetting them or not loving them anymore. It’s about admitting that although you may still love them, the relationship isn’t worth the pain, and you deserve better. And most important, it’s about learning to love yourself more than you love them. After this, you may stop loving them, and you may even forget them. But if you don’t, at least you won’t be sad anymore. Maybe just once in a while. You’ll be over them, because you’re in love with someone new — yourself.
— 

@i-am-strong-all-on-my-own

(Adapted from quote by @motivated-mindset )

-Breakup Advice-

treat yourself as that child that needs your help and protection.

1. let yourself cry and feel the pain
2. take hot showers
3. make sure you eat something

4. put on some clothes and go out for a walk. sit on a bench somewhere. look around and realise you are alive. you’ve got amazing experiences ahead, trust me.

5. distract yourself: read, redecorate your room, draw, write…

6. call your family or friends. if you are lucky to live near them hang out with them. they are the people who will always love you unconditionally.

7. set a goal: learn a new language, broaden your knowledge in a subject you are interested in, start a blog…

8. clean: your room, wardrobe, phone, bed sheets…


Keep the first days simple as you’ll probably feel very tired:
eat, take shower, talk to your family or friends and sleep.

After couple days force yourself to get out of the house. Even if it feels like you don’t have the strength. I promise you will feel better. Once you get out start the habit of going for a walk or any other kind of exercise everyday. It will be very therapeutic and you’ll realise you’re slowly but surely taking steps forward.

Try to follow a self care routine afterwards. Make sure you eat, sleep, clean yourself, go out and socialise. Your hobbies will make you feel accomplished and productive.

After the first week you will notice feeling better. It’s the time of loving yourself at the maximum. Go out on dates with yourself, shopping, to cafes, to the beach…

Everyday you will feel better.

If with that one person you experienced such great things imagine what life has for you. Much more people to come with much more incredible experiences.

Live your life and take care x

The truth is that I’m afraid to dive into someone new. How can I not be? I’m still emptying my lungs from the last time I fell into someone’s waters and explored the depths of them. It’ll be years before I’m done wringing the wetness out of my hair, before I stop smelling the salt of their oceans on my skin. Learning someone new is frightening now. It’s not the adventure it was before. I’m no longer bitter for my heartbreak. My reluctance isn’t a decision I made with a sour mouth. I’m just exhausted by the idea of feeling for someone new. Of treading water with small talk and stories about our childhoods. When I think of him, I am afraid of sinking so deeply into someone again that I am lost to them. In that, I realize I am most afraid that I won’t sink at all. That I’ll always be treading water with anyone that isn’t him. That anyone after him will only know how to meet me at the surface.
—  pardis alia.
One day someone will walk into your life and get it right where everyone else got it wrong. One day you won’t have to wait for a call or a text back. One day you won’t be the only one giving your all. One day you’ll finally meet someone who wants to help you grow in life. One day you’ll finally meet someone who isn’t afraid to give “love” another chance. One day you’ll finally meet someone you can trust with everything. One day you’ll have your best friend, your biggest supporter and your teammate all wrapped up into one person.
—  IG@woodtheinspiration
You weren’t ready to be loved the way I loved you. I learned the hard way that no amount of genuine love would have ever been enough to outweigh all the fear, doubt and self hate within you. I hope one day you’ll find the courage to stop planting and watering those toxic thoughts about yourself and others. I hope you’ll plant a garden filled with trust, hope, self love and compassion instead, and its gates will be open to everyone to eat from its nourishing fruits, to lay in the shade of its deeply rooted trees and feel safe.
I guess my forgiveness towards you was a lot like your love for me. Most days I don’t feel like giving you my forgiveness because my heart doesn’t feel it. The only thing I feel towards you now is anger. But that’s the thing about forgiveness and love, they’re not just a feeling, they’re a choice. So while you’re a slave to you ever-changing feelings, I make my decisions with my head. That’s why everyday I choose to forgive you, even though my heart tells me you don’t deserve it. But I guess that’s just the difference between you and me.
—  Forgiveness